Re: new to group, about my son mis diganose?

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Find a specialist who knows about autism and have him checked out. 

It sounds like autism to me - but I'm not an expert

On 2/12/2010 1:33 PM, Puddin wrote:

 

Hey.....Well heres my situation. We knew at 18 months

there was something wrong.....We took him to childrens

hospital because we thought Autisim. Nope na hes

fine....we went on years dealing with hitting bitting, not

alot of verbal......Preschool a dr says Oh hes

ODD....ok....then it goes on and hes gets very upset at

things a ton of crying...Preschool was a nightmare. I

pulled him when they called me because they were holding

him on the ground when I got there. Enrolled him in

another school fine rest of the year.....Then K happened 3

weeks fine then he started showing anger when he wasnt

helped right away things were not goin in the order he

thought they should. A teacher did a hug hold thinking it

would calm him, well he head butted her and sent her to

the hospital. He was 5 at the time. I pulled him out home

schooled him for 3 months. Same aggression at home when it

was work he thought he didnt understand right away. We

went back to another Dr and he said Oh Adh! d/ADD usually

goes with ODD, ok we medicate him....goes back to school

rest of K was fine...some aggression nothing

violent....1st grade was ok no violence...Alot of

arguring, with how things should be his way...small

stuff....2nd grade...2 weeks fine...hes now 7. Then I get

called. hes trashed the entire class because he was upset

about doing ABC order. not a little trashed. We are

talking desks tipped over...I couldnt believe what I

walked into...he wouldnt respond me to. hit me, bite

me...they then called the police. He could have cared

less. Finally he ended up walking out and going to my van.

Went home played with legos like nothing happened. He get

very frustred with noise around him. We moved him to

another class that was bigger, his class was very small

not alot of room to move around and NO carpet. 1 week

fine. Then he told a kid he would kill them.

Suspended....then he hit someone and was caught in a lie

and then he trashed the speical ed class. Monday he goes

bac! k after the break and was given a timmed

test....freaked....layed on his desk after throwing his

chair and a trash can and was physically removed by 2

adults....So now he cannot be in his 2nd grade class and

has to be in the behavoir class. Theres only 8 kids in

there. I think it will help him alot. But what hes doing

just dosent seem to fit into the add/adhd role? At home

you touch a toy of his or its been moved he freaks....if

we go somewhere and he knows the plans and plans change he

gets upset. He wants to make all the rules, and wants to

make sure everyone is following those rules. hes very

compitive, but if he looses then its the end of the world.

BUT he takes piano lessons does great. Does a karate class

does great. I think he may have aspergers....does any of

this sound like it to you? hes very bright. Tested his IQ

at school hes like 114 I guess normal range for 7 year

olds is 100-109. He loves to know anything about history.

He will take History shows, and HOW ITS MADE shows over

cartoons any day. Any thoughts? we are going to his Ph!

ysc on friday to discuss. But I wanted to hear from some

people that have been around this. Am I crazy? I love his

boy to death and will continue to be his advocate till the

day I die. I think someone was to quick to lable this

kido. I DO NOT CARE what he has, I will embrace it and

help him, love him. I just need to know how to help him in

order to do that I need to know what I'm dealing with,

make sense?

Janelle

[Guest guest]

Sounds like autism. Get a good psychiatrist who specializes in autism. I know you are going through a lot, but they can help you with a behavior plan that works best for your child. I just started a new behavior plan and was met with resistance at first and it was a bit hard, but now the plan is paying off. Hold tight! You will be ok. Just a bumpy ride. Best to you.Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: "Puddin" <puddins77@...>Sender: Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Thu, 02 Dec 2010 02:33:52 -0000<Autism and Aspergers Treatment >Reply Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: new to group, about my son mis diganose? Hey.....Well heres my situation. We knew at 18 months there was something wrong.....We took him to childrens hospital because we thought Autisim. Nope na hes fine....we went on years dealing with hitting bitting, not alot of verbal......Preschool a dr says Oh hes ODD....ok....then it goes on and hes gets very upset at things a ton of crying...Preschool was a nightmare. I pulled him when they called me because they were holding him on the ground when I got there. Enrolled him in another school fine rest of the year.....Then K happened 3 weeks fine then he started showing anger when he wasnt helped right away things were not goin in the order he thought they should. A teacher did a hug hold thinking it would calm him, well he head butted her and sent her to the hospital. He was 5 at the time. I pulled him out home schooled him for 3 months. Same aggression at home when it was work he thought he didnt understand right away. We went back to another Dr and he said Oh Adhd/ADD usually goes with ODD, ok we medicate him....goes back to school rest of K was fine...some aggression nothing violent....1st grade was ok no violence...Alot of arguring, with how things should be his way...small stuff....2nd grade...2 weeks fine...hes now 7. Then I get called. hes trashed the entire class because he was upset about doing ABC order. not a little trashed. We are talking desks tipped over...I couldnt believe what I walked into...he wouldnt respond me to. hit me, bite me...they then called the police. He could have cared less. Finally he ended up walking out and going to my van. Went home played with legos like nothing happened. He get very frustred with noise around him. We moved him to another class that was bigger, his class was very small not alot of room to move around and NO carpet. 1 week fine. Then he told a kid he would kill them. Suspended....then he hit someone and was caught in a lie and then he trashed the speical ed class. Monday he goes back after the break and was given a timmed test....freaked....layed on his desk after throwing his chair and a trash can and was physically removed by 2 adults....So now he cannot be in his 2nd grade class and has to be in the behavoir class. Theres only 8 kids in there. I think it will help him alot. But what hes doing just dosent seem to fit into the add/adhd role? At home you touch a toy of his or its been moved he freaks....if we go somewhere and he knows the plans and plans change he gets upset. He wants to make all the rules, and wants to make sure everyone is following those rules. hes very compitive, but if he looses then its the end of the world. BUT he takes piano lessons does great. Does a karate class does great. I think he may have aspergers....does any of this sound like it to you? hes very bright. Tested his IQ at school hes like 114 I guess normal range for 7 year olds is 100-109. He loves to know anything about history. He will take History shows, and HOW ITS MADE shows over cartoons any day. Any thoughts? we are going to his Physc on friday to discuss. But I wanted to hear from some people that have been around this. Am I crazy? I love his boy to death and will continue to be his advocate till the day I die. I think someone was to quick to lable this kido. I DO NOT CARE what he has, I will embrace it and help him, love him. I just need to know how to help him in order to do that I need to know what I'm dealing with, make sense?Janelle

[Guest guest]

I agree with they others. Sounds like autism. I'm not an expert but it does sound to me like your DS got a rushed dx. Although the ODD and ADHD/ADD could very well be present there may very well be other things that are going undx and that is the first step. Your last few lines remind me of myself. YOU are the best advociate your son will ever have untill he gains his own voice! Fight, don't be aftaid to go above your dr's head and get what you think is best for your son. That's what I did and proved my DS's pedi that I was RIGHT when I told him there were serious problems. Now the Dr is more apt to listen to me when it comes to my son outside of his "normal" medical needs. In the last few months he's been more of an assest then somebody else to fight with. What ever you do DON'T

BACK DOWN.

From: "amandaakp@..." <amandaakp@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 10:31:09 PMSubject: Re: new to group, about my son mis diganose?

Sounds like autism. Get a good psychiatrist who specializes in autism. I know you are going through a lot, but they can help you with a behavior plan that works best for your child. I just started a new behavior plan and was met with resistance at first and it was a bit hard, but now the plan is paying off. Hold tight! You will be ok. Just a bumpy ride. Best to you. Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

From: "Puddin" <puddins77@...>

Sender: Autism and Aspergers Treatment

Date: Thu, 02 Dec 2010 02:33:52 -0000

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ReplyAutism and Aspergers Treatment

Subject: new to group, about my son mis diganose?

Hey.....Well heres my situation. We knew at 18 months there was something wrong.....We took him to childrens hospital because we thought Autisim. Nope na hes fine....we went on years dealing with hitting bitting, not alot of verbal......Preschool a dr says Oh hes ODD....ok....then it goes on and hes gets very upset at things a ton of crying...Preschool was a nightmare. I pulled him when they called me because they were holding him on the ground when I got there. Enrolled him in another school fine rest of the year.....Then K happened 3 weeks fine then he started showing anger when he wasnt helped right away things were not goin in the order he thought they should. A teacher did a hug hold thinking it would calm him, well he head butted her and sent her to the hospital. He was 5 at the time. I pulled him out home schooled him for 3 months. Same aggression at home when it was work he thought he didnt understand right away. We went back to another Dr and

he said Oh Adhd/ADD usually goes with ODD, ok we medicate him....goes back to school rest of K was fine...some aggression nothing violent....1st grade was ok no violence...Alot of arguring, with how things should be his way...small stuff....2nd grade...2 weeks fine...hes now 7. Then I get called. hes trashed the entire class because he was upset about doing ABC order. not a little trashed. We are talking desks tipped over...I couldnt believe what I walked into...he wouldnt respond me to. hit me, bite me...they then called the police. He could have cared less. Finally he ended up walking out and going to my van. Went home played with legos like nothing happened. He get very frustred with noise around him. We moved him to another class that was bigger, his class was very small not alot of room to move around and NO carpet. 1 week fine. Then he told a kid he would kill them. Suspended....then he hit someone and was caught in a lie and then he trashed the

speical ed class. Monday he goes back after the break and was given a timmed test....freaked....layed on his desk after throwing his chair and a trash can and was physically removed by 2 adults....So now he cannot be in his 2nd grade class and has to be in the behavoir class. Theres only 8 kids in there. I think it will help him alot. But what hes doing just dosent seem to fit into the add/adhd role? At home you touch a toy of his or its been moved he freaks....if we go somewhere and he knows the plans and plans change he gets upset. He wants to make all the rules, and wants to make sure everyone is following those rules. hes very compitive, but if he looses then its the end of the world. BUT he takes piano lessons does great. Does a karate class does great. I think he may have aspergers....does any of this sound like it to you? hes very bright. Tested his IQ at school hes like 114 I guess normal range for 7 year olds is 100-109. He loves to know

anything about history. He will take History shows, and HOW ITS MADE shows over cartoons any day. Any thoughts? we are going to his Physc on friday to discuss. But I wanted to hear from some people that have been around this. Am I crazy? I love his boy to death and will continue to be his advocate till the day I die. I think someone was to quick to lable this kido. I DO NOT CARE what he has, I will embrace it and help him, love him. I just need to know how to help him in order to do that I need to know what I'm dealing with, make sense?Janelle

[Guest guest]

I agree with the others, find a specialist who deals with autism. For nine years my son was diagnosed with ADHD. Last year we found out that he had Aspergers also. I sat here and read your story and I was thinking to myself that parts of it were just like my son when he was that age, so why didn't I see it then. The new councilor that my son is going to told us that sometimes the ADHD can hide the other. Most of the problems he was having we just thought that they were ADHD. Littlepage"The past is the same, but the present has no boundary." From: Puddin <puddins77@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Cc: Sent: Wednesday, December 1, 2010 8:33:52 PMSubject: new to group, about my son mis diganose?

Hey.....Well heres my situation. We knew at 18 months there was something wrong.....We took him to childrens hospital because we thought Autisim. Nope na hes fine....we went on years dealing with hitting bitting, not alot of verbal......Preschool a dr says Oh hes ODD....ok....then it goes on and hes gets very upset at things a ton of crying...Preschool was a nightmare. I pulled him when they called me because they were holding him on the ground when I got there. Enrolled him in another school fine rest of the year.....Then K happened 3 weeks fine then he started showing anger when he wasnt helped right away things were not goin in the order he thought they should. A teacher did a hug hold thinking it would calm him, well he head butted her and sent her to the hospital. He was 5 at the time. I pulled him out home schooled him for 3 months. Same aggression at home when it was work he thought he didnt understand right away. We went back to

another Dr and he said Oh Adhd/ADD usually goes with ODD, ok we medicate him....goes back to school rest of K was fine...some aggression nothing violent....1st grade was ok no violence...Alot of arguring, with how things should be his way...small stuff....2nd grade...2 weeks fine...hes now 7. Then I get called. hes trashed the entire class because he was upset about doing ABC order. not a little trashed. We are talking desks tipped over...I couldnt believe what I walked into...he wouldnt respond me to. hit me, bite me...they then called the police. He could have cared less. Finally he ended up walking out and going to my van. Went home played with legos like nothing happened. He get very frustred with noise around him. We moved him to another class that was bigger, his class was very small not alot of room to move around and NO carpet. 1 week fine. Then he told a kid he would kill them. Suspended....then he hit someone and was caught in a lie and then

he trashed the speical ed class. Monday he goes back after the break and was given a timmed test....freaked....layed on his desk after throwing his chair and a trash can and was physically removed by 2 adults....So now he cannot be in his 2nd grade class and has to be in the behavoir class. Theres only 8 kids in there. I think it will help him alot. But what hes doing just dosent seem to fit into the add/adhd role? At home you touch a toy of his or its been moved he freaks....if we go somewhere and he knows the plans and plans change he gets upset. He wants to make all the rules, and wants to make sure everyone is following those rules. hes very compitive, but if he looses then its the end of the world. BUT he takes piano lessons does great. Does a karate class does great. I think he may have aspergers....does any of this sound like it to you? hes very bright. Tested his IQ at school hes like 114 I guess normal range for 7 year olds is 100-109. He loves

to know anything about history. He will take History shows, and HOW ITS MADE shows over cartoons any day. Any thoughts? we are going to his Physc on friday to discuss. But I wanted to hear from some people that have been around this. Am I crazy? I love his boy to death and will continue to be his advocate till the day I die. I think someone was to quick to lable this kido. I DO NOT CARE what he has, I will embrace it and help him, love him. I just need to know how to help him in order to do that I need to know what I'm dealing with, make sense?

Janelle

[Guest guest]

Hi, just wanted to let you know I am exactly where you are. My son sounds just

like yours while I was reading your post just sounded like a night at my house.

The drs just always said ADHD/ODD no matter what I was trying to explain

everyone blamed it on the ADHD/ODD. Then last year in one of our monthly

appointments his psychiatrist said something about Aspergers and I said WHAT he

said yeah he has it but we don't treat it in differently. I said well that

would have been nice to know since it would atleast explain some of the behavior

problems. Well anyways that was all that was ever said other than sending him

to the mental hospital for a few weeks then to residential facility several

states away. Which didn't last for long since they were for behavior issues and

he has other issues that they were not willing to work with. My son is

incontinent for bowel movements. He has always been I have been trying since

before he was two and now he is 12 1/2 and still in pull ups full time. I can

not get any help with that med docs say it's mental and mental docs say it's

medical so we are just stuck here. He started middle school this year and has

to change for PE class with all the other boys, which I am sure it torture for

him but I have tried and tried and can't find any help. Didn't mean to turn

this into a rant just wanted to let you know I completely understand. The

night you described sounds like my house everynight for the last month. I am

not sure what is different but his attitude has been awful and the littlest

things seem to set him off, sometimes you never even know what the trigger was.

He seems to think that he should make all the rules and be able to enforce all

his rules and when he does something with you standing there watching him of

course it's always " I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING YOU ALWAYS BLAME ME " I don't think

things will ever get better I can't find any service for autism around me, My

son deserves help but I can't find any.

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> Hey.....Well heres my situation. We knew at 18 months there was something

wrong.....We took him to childrens hospital because we thought Autisim. Nope na

hes fine....we went on years dealing with hitting bitting, not alot of

verbal......Preschool a dr says Oh hes ODD....ok....then it goes on and hes gets

very upset at things a ton of crying...Preschool was a nightmare. I pulled him

when they called me because they were holding him on the ground when I got

there. Enrolled him in another school fine rest of the year.....Then K happened

3 weeks fine then he started showing anger when he wasnt helped right away

things were not goin in the order he thought they should. A teacher did a hug

hold thinking it would calm him, well he head butted her and sent her to the

hospital. He was 5 at the time. I pulled him out home schooled him for 3 months.

Same aggression at home when it was work he thought he didnt understand right

away. We went back to another Dr and he said Oh Adhd/ADD usually goes with ODD,

ok we medicate him....goes back to school rest of K was fine...some aggression

nothing violent....1st grade was ok no violence...Alot of arguring, with how

things should be his way...small stuff....2nd grade...2 weeks fine...hes now 7.

Then I get called. hes trashed the entire class because he was upset about doing

ABC order. not a little trashed. We are talking desks tipped over...I couldnt

believe what I walked into...he wouldnt respond me to. hit me, bite me...they

then called the police. He could have cared less. Finally he ended up walking

out and going to my van. Went home played with legos like nothing happened. He

get very frustred with noise around him. We moved him to another class that was

bigger, his class was very small not alot of room to move around and NO carpet.

1 week fine. Then he told a kid he would kill them. Suspended....then he hit

someone and was caught in a lie and then he trashed the speical ed class. Monday

he goes back after the break and was given a timmed test....freaked....layed on

his desk after throwing his chair and a trash can and was physically removed by

2 adults....So now he cannot be in his 2nd grade class and has to be in the

behavoir class. Theres only 8 kids in there. I think it will help him alot. But

what hes doing just dosent seem to fit into the add/adhd role? At home you touch

a toy of his or its been moved he freaks....if we go somewhere and he knows the

plans and plans change he gets upset. He wants to make all the rules, and wants

to make sure everyone is following those rules. hes very compitive, but if he

looses then its the end of the world. BUT he takes piano lessons does great.

Does a karate class does great. I think he may have aspergers....does any of

this sound like it to you? hes very bright. Tested his IQ at school hes like 114

I guess normal range for 7 year olds is 100-109. He loves to know anything about

history. He will take History shows, and HOW ITS MADE shows over cartoons any

day. Any thoughts? we are going to his Physc on friday to discuss. But I wanted

to hear from some people that have been around this. Am I crazy? I love his boy

to death and will continue to be his advocate till the day I die. I think

someone was to quick to lable this kido. I DO NOT CARE what he has, I will

embrace it and help him, love him. I just need to know how to help him in order

to do that I need to know what I'm dealing with, make sense?

> Janelle

>