Update on grandson

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Hello everybody, I read all you write even though I don't respond too

often.. Anyway as to my grandson Lucas, the school requested my daughter

take him to his doctor for a complete physical, she didn't even know

that is what they wanted though till she got him there. Anyway he was

examined head to toe and the dr thinks his eyes might be a little off so

take him to an eye dr., he has a bit of a heart palpitation so take him

to a child cardiologist just to be sure it is nothing serious which is

what he thought. Otherwise he is very strong and healthy guy the dr

said, tall and big for his age.

My daughter said the school is suspicious of autism and the dr said that

everybody wanted on that bandwagon now, autism was very popular. Hmm.

Anyway he said he didn't see any symptoms in Lucas to indicate autism

but he doesn't see him very much. I went to the school Jog a Thon on

Fri. and talked to his teacher a bit, and she seemed kind of guarded

talking to me, simply said, " I don't want to see him fall between the

cracks. " Hmm. So next Fri. we are going to the school psychologist and

see what she suggests for him. My grandson's doctor did specify very

clearly that the schools cannot diagnose so keep that in mind.

His problems at school are he doesn't want to do his 1st grade school

work. He wants to do things like draw telephone poles, like the other he

drew a whole sheet of telephone poles all different. He is drawing them

from memory of the ones he has seen here in town when we drive by them,

etc. He works very hard on them. So I asked him to count them and he got

to 67 and then got frustrated because he thought he'd made a mistake and

wanted to start over but I wouldn't let him and told him to write 67,

also his name and date which he wrote perfectly like a word processor,

that is how he writes.

We found he could do his school work because one day his older brother

helped him with his homework and he did it all in a hurry.He knows the

material just doesn't see the point in showing the teacher that he knows

it. I have told him if he wants to go to 2nd grade next year he simply

has to do it so he is thinking about that, he said he did want to go

to 2nd grade. I think he is a lot like me, all my life I wanted to be

told WHY I have to do something, if I don't know I don't want to do

it...if I do and it makes sense I will.

He is liking school better now and I told his teacher he said he did,

and that made her relieved as he really hated it at first. She said they

even got him to use the bathroom there, so that is progress, as he has

been extremely afraid of bathrooms and toilets, etc., would hold it all

day long and then pee a gallon when he got over here, I was worried he

would burst his bladder or something!

When he is upset he still says he wants to kill you, that is disturbing.

I have told him not to use the word kill so much. He gets real

frustrated if he makes a mistake and that is when he says it. Well that

is the update for now, will know more after we talk to the school

psychologist next week, she has interviewed my daughter and asked her a

lot of questions already and she had to fill out a written questionair

on his behavior and she has observed him in the classroom, etc.

OH yes he ran 9 laps in the Jog a Thon but kept forgetting to let the

lady mark his ticket, kind of didn't want her to. The last lap he went

backwards back to her quite a ways and she thought he had done another

lap around and almost marked his ticket, but then he confess and told

her the truth...that he didn't.

Of course I was standing right there too..

Carolyn Grandma in Oregon ;o)