Guest guest Posted November 16, 2008 Report Share Posted November 16, 2008 Hi everyone , I just wanted to catch everyone up. Lucas is inpatient right now at the Childrens Hospital here in Tulsa. There is not a Psych bed in the state. He became very aggressive, and violent and suicidal on Friday afternoon because of his Gamma globulin infusion. It went on for hours and then my daughter call the police. They came and transported him to the hospital for me. We spent the night sitting up in the ER. ( did not even give us a cot) And then admitted us. There is NO Pschiatrist on the weekends. ( Appalling to me) Oh yeah, He was angry and a little wierd in the ER but NOT violent at all. and we had been there for hours. They came in and tried to give him a shot of HALDOL and Benadryl> WHAT????? I refused. One we went there because a needle phobia and then he he 14 med allergies and why they would give him this is beyond me. BUT..... at about 8am the next morning after I witnessed them code a man who died next to us. I get a call from my daughter ( shes 18 and lives with her baby 3mo and bf) and she is screaming!!!! MOM MOM our apartment is on fire. HELP!!! They got out with their lives and it burned to the ground. There were 75 firefighters 16 engines and they had to call the National guard to bring in oxygen tanks. The news is showing their apartment over and over burning. 12 units burned. It was awful. But they are safe but lost everything. I feel so blessed that they are fine. But the people of Tulsa are just pouring out support. So they are at my home I am in the hospital with my son. We are suppose to leave on Thursday to fly to Seattle and so they are keeping him here until atleast Monday to start the process of finding him placement in a facility up there. I am more than a bit overwhelmed and worried about him but feel that we are probably doing the right thing for now. I know that he needs more help than I can provide for him. I will keep you posted as things transpire. I appreciate the support I have received and hope all is better with your families at this time. Bless and love your kids. I realize how easily I could have lost them. They were asleep when it started. BARBIE ________________________________ From: " elizabethrose1@... " <elizabethrose1@...> BipolarParentsT Sent: Saturday, November 15, 2008 12:10:26 PM Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up Kat, Glad to hear your sleeping better and feeling rested! A good nights sleep can do miracles can't it? I am truly enjoying the idea of the baby being here soon, i'd like to deliver NOW! Getting excited as is hubby, extended family and our 4 yo dtr can't wait to be a big sister....not sure how Devon's feeling.... I'll post about her and all in a min.... sigh... Glad your back on here , I missed you! Beth in NJ ____________ _________ _________ __ From: Purple Kat <purplecow1992> BipolarParentsT Sent: Wednesday, November 12, 2008 3:05:08 PM Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up I'm so glad to hear that you are getting excited about the baby and preparing and being happy. I miss that, and would have had ten more babies had I not had to deal with some of the things I did, plus complicated pregnancies and deliveries. But I am always so wistful around babies and toddlers - I had both of mine so young I completely did not savor the joy in them. And with Sam she was such a difficult baby that I enjoyed it even less. I had a meeting at Sam's school yesterday and she is doing very well overall in school. She's settling into her special classes, and now doesn't want to go back to " regular " classes. So - that's good news. Now we have to work on the " littler " things that are the ones that make me so tired. In other good news, my new sleeping pill has me feeling a million times better since I'm getting a decent nights sleep almost every day. It feels like a miracle! Kat From: elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net> Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up BipolarParentsT Date: Wednesday, November 12, 2008, 11:38 AM Boy Marina, You sure have had quite a full plate! I'm so sorry to hear about the breast cancer, I too am your age and a nurse and it is very rare. God bless you. I'm glad you recovered from it but so sorry about the diagnosis and all it entailed. That isn't easy for anyone. Hugs to you! As for the stuff going on with Ka and Hunter, sounds like typical teen stuff. I'm guessing the weight gain is factoring in to Ka not wanting to take her meds. maybe they can change the meds to others that don't cause wt gain. Devon had gainied a ton of wt on Risperdal and they were about to switch her to seroquel and abilify and she lost all of it. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out with her license. She has no other record right? Perhaps they will not take her license. I think your on track with all that. Sorry about the leg sprain your dealing with too. Its tough, sometimes its like that one thing after anouther. I know. I'm due in late december to have the baby and have been dealing with bad seasonal allergies that have me coughing and drain my energy, not much I can take being pregnant, my mother who is in her late 50's and wworks at a school for autistic and other challenged/ troubled teens has been hurt and is going to have rotator cuff repair surgery soon, Dec 4th, that will be tough its a long recovery... I worry because of her active alcoholism but will be ther to help anyway I can. I'm hoping she can get a referal to the home nursing agency I work for, I know she'll get excellent care and in home PT if needed. Devon has been much more co-operative and so far staying out of trouble these last few weeks. I think she is motivated to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas home with us. She knows it depends on her and so far seems to actually care and that alone is a huge step for her. I just worry about her reputation being in the toilet right now at the new school after all the sexual escapades, and the lack of her planning for her future but I guess that will come slowly too. I just worry about the transition to adulthood so much. All else is going well and we are getting excited for the new baby. Got the crib together and ready and most of the Christmas shopping is done. Hubby has been wonderful and so atentive and loving. Glad to hear from you. Hang in there. beth in NJ ____________ _________ _________ __ From: Marina G <marinadelrey73> BipolarParentsT Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:49:36 PM Subject: [bPT] Catching up Well I have about a billion post to cath up on..and I will try to get that done.. As I stated in my reply to Beth, we have had a crazy three mths. In Sept I had a " tumor " removed from my right breast, we really ALL(drs and all) thought it was nothing as I am SOO young(35, but dangit that is young for any kind of breast cancer) The results came back as a rare kind of tumor, and tthe area around the tumor had the cancerous cells.. So I had to go back in and have a partial mysectomy.. I was suppose ot go back on the 23 of Sept, and had bronchitis that turned into pneumonia, So my surgery was delayed until middle of Oct..Got back to work from all that..and ended up with a bad sprain to knee, and ankle..So am off work again and have to go thru PT..It is my right leg and I am on crutches, cant even drive myself..ughhh As for Ka with all that is going on..she is handling amazingly well. Mostly just accuses me of being excessively grumpy..But she is refusing to take her meds..any of them, even her depression meds.. Has stated she also will not get her BC shot when it is due again. She has gained like 40 lbs, since about MayI do beleive most of it is the Depokote, and the shot may play a part in it. But it is also she ahsnt been having the digestive problems since we got her gallbladder removed. Up until about the beginning of October, it wasnt too big a deal, though she didnt like gaining the weight, she needed to add some from the year she was SOO sick. But nowhere near what she has gained, she is in the overweight catergory now..Then last week I allowed her to drive two houses down to get a friends arts and craft bucket(large bucket FILLED with cupplies for a & c's) My dear Ka who is not licensed decided she need to make the block to turn around, well her block ended up being three blocks away ..She got stopped, and my incurance had expired..(becasue I have been unable ot work, and couldnt drive anywya, I had to choose something ot give up and chose ins until I can get back on my feet) We were actually lucky the cop let her bring the car home, and and only gave her three tickets(no license, no insurance and no seat belt) We are lucky cause here they could have taken both me and K to jail.... I really dont think it would have been a problem had she been where she shoulda have been.. Ka is having to pay out the fine (582) dollars, I will have insurance again on thursday.. but man it scared me.When she first walked thru the door, I could tell she was shook up and something was wrong.. Then she said " mom I need my social security card, they are taking me to jail " I just knew she had hit someone and the thought of her possible injuring someone entered my mind..So I was honestly relieved when it was only what it was..AND they did not take her to jail!!! I surely have learned a lesson. I never thought it would be a big deal since we live near a golf course and kids are driving from their house to the course all the time..I know better NOW!! I have some friends working on it..All I want is for them NOT to say she cant get her license until she is 21, becasue then it will effect her getting to start college, I cant very well send her to a city and she NOT be able ot drive herself for school!! I am trying to work out with the city judge if maybe she can do community service...instead of loosing when she can get her license..I also have a lawyer saying he will help for free if needed..I dont want to take too many of the consquences from her, that she wont learn, but also dont want her college effected.. Had she NOT gone that far from the house I would take care of it as I as in the wrong for letting her.. dang when in life do we quit having to live and learn..ughhh Hunter is also having a tuff time, he just broke up with a girl (whose family we have been friends with since they and I were little) We are fighting depression with him, and of course it isnt helping his mood disorder as he stays poed now.. but his grades are SOOO good, and so far they ahvent slipped. He is trying so hard at school, now if I can convince him it is just as important to stay out of trouble, He of course(I guess it is a boy thing) wants to beat up any boy that talks to his Em, and she ahs a line of wanting to tlak ot her.. I have told him he must discuss this with his counselor, and he is embaressed to,(guess maybe guys are afraid to admit the can hurt like this??? to other guys) Other then that things are great LOL.. Hugs to one and all.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2008 Report Share Posted November 16, 2008 Dear Barbara, I'm so sorry for all you've been through -- I'll be praying for you, for Lucas and for your daughter and grandbaby. In His service, dale Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2008 Report Share Posted November 16, 2008 Thanks Dale, We are fine and God is blessing the kids greatly through an outpouring of love through the community. BARBIE ________________________________ From: Dale Weatherford <daleweath@...> Sent: Sunday, November 16, 2008 11:44:50 AM Subject: Re: Re: [bPT] Catching up Dear Barbara, I'm so sorry for all you've been through -- I'll be praying for you, for Lucas and for your daughter and grandbaby. In His service, dale Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2008 Report Share Posted November 16, 2008 Barbie! I am so sorry. Sounds like when it rains, it pours. I am praying. Keep us posted. BipolarParentsT ; Bpparent4@...; ; ourbpkids@...: mother5590@...: Sun, 16 Nov 2008 09:29:16 -0800Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up Hi everyone , I just wanted to catch everyone up. Lucas is inpatient right now at the Childrens Hospital here in Tulsa. There is not a Psych bed in the state. He became very aggressive, and violent and suicidal on Friday afternoon because of his Gamma globulin infusion. It went on for hours and then my daughter call the police. They came and transported him to the hospital for me. We spent the night sitting up in the ER. ( did not even give us a cot) And then admitted us. There is NO Pschiatrist on the weekends. ( Appalling to me) Oh yeah, He was angry and a little wierd in the ER but NOT violent at all. and we had been there for hours. They came in and tried to give him a shot of HALDOL and Benadryl> WHAT????? I refused. One we went there because a needle phobia and then he he 14 med allergies and why they would give him this is beyond me. BUT..... at about 8am the next morning after I witnessed them code a man who died next to us. I get a call from mydaughter ( shes 18 and lives with her baby 3mo and bf) and she is screaming!!!! MOM MOM our apartment is on fire. HELP!!! They got out with their lives and it burned to the ground. There were 75 firefighters 16 engines and they had to call the National guard to bring in oxygen tanks. The news is showing their apartment over and over burning. 12 units burned. It was awful. But they are safe but lost everything. I feel so blessed that they are fine. But the people of Tulsa are just pouring out support. So they are at my home I am in the hospital with my son. We are suppose to leave on Thursday to fly to Seattle and so they are keeping him here until atleast Monday to start the process of finding him placement in a facility up there. I am more than a bit overwhelmed and worried about him but feel that we are probably doing the right thing for now. I know that he needs more help than I can provide for him. I will keep you posted as things transpire. Iappreciate the support I have received and hope all is better with your families at this time. Bless and love your kids. I realize how easily I could have lost them. They were asleep when it started. BARBIE ________________________________From: " elizabethrose1@... " <elizabethrose1@...>BipolarParentsT@...: Saturday, November 15, 2008 12:10:26 PMSubject: Re: [bPT] Catching upKat,Glad to hear your sleeping better and feeling rested! A good nights sleep can do miracles can't it? I am truly enjoying the idea of the baby being here soon, i'd like to deliver NOW! Getting excited as is hubby, extended family and our 4 yo dtr can't wait to be a big sister....not sure how Devon's feeling.... I'll post about her and all in a min.... sigh... Glad your back on here , I missed you! Beth in NJ____________ _________ _________ __From: Purple Kat <purplecow1992@ >BipolarParentsTSent: Wednesday, November 12, 2008 3:05:08 PMSubject: Re: [bPT] Catching upI'm so glad to hear that you are getting excited about the baby and preparing and being happy. I miss that, and would have had ten more babies had I not had to deal with some of the things I did, plus complicated pregnancies and deliveries. But I am always so wistful around babies and toddlers - I had both of mine so young I completely did not savor the joy in them. And with Sam she was such a difficult baby that I enjoyed it even less.I had a meeting at Sam's school yesterday and she is doing very well overall in school. She's settling into her special classes, and now doesn't want to go back to " regular " classes.So - that's good news. Now we have to work on the " littler " things that are the ones that make me so tired.In other good news, my new sleeping pill has me feeling a million times better since I'm getting a decent nights sleep almost every day. It feels like a miracle!Kat--- On Wed, 11/12/08, elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net> wrote:From: elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net>Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching upBipolarParentsTDate: Wednesday, November 12, 2008, 11:38 AMBoy Marina,You sure have had quite a full plate! I'm so sorry to hear about the breast cancer, I too am your age and a nurse and it is very rare. God bless you. I'm glad you recovered from it but so sorry about the diagnosis and all it entailed. That isn't easy for anyone. Hugs to you! As for the stuff going on with Ka and Hunter, sounds like typical teen stuff. I'm guessing the weight gain is factoring in to Ka not wanting to take her meds. maybe they can change the meds to others that don't cause wt gain. Devon had gainied a ton of wt on Risperdal and they were about to switch her to seroquel and abilify and she lost all of it. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out with her license. She has no other record right? Perhaps they will not take her license. I think your on track with all that. Sorry about the leg sprain your dealing with too. Its tough, sometimes its like that one thing after anouther. I know. I'm due in late december to have the baby and have been dealing with bad seasonal allergies that have me coughing and drain my energy, not much I can take being pregnant, my mother who is in her late 50's and wworks at a school for autistic and other challenged/ troubled teens has been hurt and is going to have rotator cuff repair surgery soon, Dec 4th, that will be tough its a long recovery... I worry because of her active alcoholism but will be ther to help anyway I can. I'm hoping she can get a referal to the home nursing agency I work for, I know she'll get excellent care and in home PT if needed. Devon has been much more co-operative and so far staying out of trouble these last few weeks. I think she is motivated to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas home with us. She knows it depends on her and so far seems to actually care and that alone is a huge step for her. I just worry about her reputation being in the toilet right now at the new school after all the sexual escapades, and the lack of her planning for her future but I guess that will come slowly too. I just worry about the transition to adulthood so much. All else is going well and we are getting excited for the new baby. Got the crib together and ready and most of the Christmas shopping is done. Hubby has been wonderful and so atentive and loving. Glad to hear from you. Hang in there. beth in NJ____________ _________ _________ __From: Marina G <marinadelrey73>BipolarParentsT@ groups. comSent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:49:36 PMSubject: [bPT] Catching upWell I have about a billion post to cath up on..and I will try to get that done.. As I stated in my reply to Beth, we have had a crazy three mths. In Sept I had a " tumor " removed from my right breast, we really ALL(drs and all) thought it was nothing as I am SOO young(35, but dangit that is young for any kind of breast cancer) The results came back as a rare kind of tumor, and tthe area around the tumor had the cancerous cells.. So I had to go back in and have a partial mysectomy.. I was suppose ot go back on the 23 of Sept, and had bronchitis that turned into pneumonia, So my surgery was delayed until middle of Oct..Got back to work from all that..and ended up with a bad sprain to knee, and ankle..So am off work again and have to go thru PT..It is my right leg and I am on crutches, cant even drive myself..ughhhAs for Ka with all that is going on..she is handling amazingly well. Mostly just accuses me of being excessively grumpy..But she is refusing to take her meds..any of them, even her depression meds.. Has stated she also will not get her BC shot when it is due again. She has gained like 40 lbs, since about MayI do beleive most of it is the Depokote, and the shot may play a part in it. But it is also she ahsnt been having the digestive problems since we got her gallbladder removed. Up until about the beginning of October, it wasnt too big a deal, though she didnt like gaining the weight, she needed to add some from the year she was SOO sick. But nowhere near what she has gained, she is in the overweight catergory now..Then last week I allowed her to drive two houses down to get a friends arts and craft bucket(large bucket FILLED with cupplies for a & c's) My dear Ka who is not licensed decided she need to make the block to turn around, well her block ended up being three blocks away ..She got stopped, and my incurance had expired..(becasue I have been unable ot work, and couldnt drive anywya, I had to choose something ot give up and chose ins until I can get back on my feet) We were actually lucky the cop let her bring the car home, and and only gave her three tickets(no license, no insurance and no seat belt) We are lucky cause here they could have taken both me and K to jail.... I really dont think it would have been a problem had she been where she shoulda have been.. Ka is having to pay out the fine (582) dollars, I will have insurance again on thursday.. but man it scared me.When she first walked thru the door, I could tell she was shook up and something was wrong.. Then she said " mom I need my social security card, they are taking me to jail " I just knew she had hit someone and the thought of her possible injuring someone entered my mind..So I was honestly relieved when it was only what it was..AND they did not take her to jail!!! I surely have learned a lesson. I never thought it would be a big deal since we live near a golf course and kids are driving from their house to the course all the time..I know better NOW!! I have some friends working on it..All I want is for them NOT to say she cant get her license until she is 21, becasue then it will effect her getting to start college, I cant very well send her to a city and she NOT be able ot drive herself for school!! I am trying to work out with the city judge if maybe she can do community service...instead of loosing when she can get her license..I also have a lawyer saying he will help for free if needed..I dont want to take too many of the consquences from her, that she wont learn, but also dont want her college effected.. Had she NOT gone that far from the house I would take care of it as I as in the wrong for letting her.. dang when in life do we quit having to live and learn..ughhhHunter is also having a tuff time, he just broke up with a girl(whose family we have been friends with since they and I were little) We are fighting depression with him, and of course it isnt helping his mood disorder as he stays poed now.. but his grades are SOOO good, and so far they ahvent slipped. He is trying so hard at school, now if I can convince him it is just as important to stay out of trouble, He of course(I guess it is a boy thing) wants to beat up any boy that talks to his Em, and she ahs a line of wanting to tlak ot her.. I have told him he must discuss this with his counselor, and he is embaressed to,(guess maybe guys are afraid to admit the can hurt like this??? to other guys)Other then that things are great LOL.. Hugs to one and all.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2008 Report Share Posted November 16, 2008 Barb I am so sorry to hear of these overwhelming events. I hope your son can find someone sympathetic to him who can help him overcome his fear, and not just offer yet more medications. And I'm glad to hear your daughter and granddaughter are okay, what a scary, scary thing. Best wishes, mom to Mark 7 CVID > > From: elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net> > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > BipolarParentsT > Date: Wednesday, November 12, 2008, 11:38 AM > > Boy Marina, > You sure have had quite a full plate! I'm so sorry to hear about the breast cancer, I too am your age and a nurse and it is very rare. God bless you. I'm glad you recovered from it but so sorry about the diagnosis and all it entailed. That isn't easy for anyone. Hugs to you! As for the stuff going on with Ka and Hunter, sounds like typical teen stuff. I'm guessing the weight gain is factoring in to Ka not wanting to take her meds. maybe they can change the meds to others that don't cause wt gain. Devon had gainied a ton of wt on Risperdal and they were about to switch her to seroquel and abilify and she lost all of it. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out with her license. She has no other record right? Perhaps they will not take her license. I think your on track with all that. Sorry about the leg sprain your dealing with too. Its tough, sometimes its like that one thing after anouther. I know. > I'm due in late december to have the baby and have been dealing with bad seasonal allergies that have me coughing and drain my energy, not much I can take being pregnant, my mother who is in her late 50's and wworks at a school for autistic and other challenged/ troubled teens has been hurt and is going to have rotator cuff repair surgery soon, Dec 4th, that will be tough its a long recovery... I worry because of her active alcoholism but will be ther to help anyway I can. I'm hoping she can get a referal to the home nursing agency I work for, I know she'll get excellent care and in home PT if needed. > Devon has been much more co-operative and so far staying out of trouble these last few weeks. I think she is motivated to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas home with us. She knows it depends on her and so far seems to actually care and that alone is a huge step for her. I just worry about her reputation being in the toilet right now at the new school after all the sexual escapades, and the lack of her planning for her future but I guess that will come slowly too. I just worry about the transition to adulthood so much. > All else is going well and we are getting excited for the new baby. Got the crib together and ready and most of the Christmas shopping is done. Hubby has been wonderful and so atentive and loving. Glad to hear from you. Hang in there. beth in NJ > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > From: Marina G <marinadelrey73> > BipolarParentsT > Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:49:36 PM > Subject: [bPT] Catching up > > Well I have about a billion post to cath up on..and I will try to > get that done.. > > As I stated in my reply to Beth, we have had a crazy three mths. In > Sept I had a " tumor " removed from my right breast, we really ALL (drs > and all) thought it was nothing as I am SOO young(35, but dangit that > is young for any kind of breast cancer) The results came back as a > rare kind of tumor, and tthe area around the tumor had the cancerous > cells.. So I had to go back in and have a partial mysectomy.. I was > suppose ot go back on the 23 of Sept, and had bronchitis that turned > into pneumonia, So my surgery was delayed until middle of Oct..Got > back to work from all that..and ended up with a bad sprain to knee, > and ankle..So am off work again and have to go thru PT..It is my > right leg and I am on crutches, cant even drive myself..ughhh > > As for Ka with all that is going on..she is handling amazingly well. > Mostly just accuses me of being excessively grumpy..But she is > refusing to take her meds..any of them, even her depression meds.. > Has stated she also will not get her BC shot when it is due again. > She has gained like 40 lbs, since about MayI do beleive most of it is > the Depokote, and the shot may play a part in it. But it is also she > ahsnt been having the digestive problems since we got her gallbladder > removed. Up until about the beginning of October, it wasnt too big a > deal, though she didnt like gaining the weight, she needed to add > some from the year she was SOO sick. But nowhere near what she has > gained, she is in the overweight catergory now..Then last week I > allowed her to drive two houses down to get a friends arts and craft > bucket(large bucket FILLED with cupplies for a & c's) My dear Ka who is > not licensed decided she need to make the block to turn around, well > her block ended up being three blocks away ..She got stopped, and my > incurance had expired..(becasue I have been unable ot work, and > couldnt drive anywya, I had to choose something ot give up and chose > ins until I can get back on my feet) We were actually lucky the cop > let her bring the car home, and and only gave her three tickets(no > license, no insurance and no seat belt) We are lucky cause here they > could have taken both me and K to jail.... I really dont think it > would have been a problem had she been where she shoulda have been.. > Ka is having to pay out the fine (582) dollars, I will have insurance > again on thursday.. but man it scared me.When she first walked thru > the door, I could tell she was shook up and something was wrong.. > Then she said " mom I need my social security card, they are taking me > to jail " I just knew she had hit someone and the thought of her > possible injuring someone entered my mind..So I was honestly relieved > when it was only what it was..AND they did not take her to jail!!! I > surely have learned a lesson. I never thought it would be a big deal > since we live near a golf course and kids are driving from their > house to the course all the time..I know better NOW!! I have some > friends working on it..All I want is for them NOT to say she cant get > her license until she is 21, becasue then it will effect her getting > to start college, I cant very well send her to a city and she NOT be > able ot drive herself for school!! I am trying to work out with the > city judge if maybe she can do community service...instead of loosing > when she can get her license..I also have a lawyer saying he will > help for free if needed..I dont want to take too many of the > consquences from her, that she wont learn, but also dont want her > college effected.. Had she NOT gone that far from the house I would > take care of it as I as in the wrong for letting her.. dang when in > life do we quit having to live and learn..ughhh > > Hunter is also having a tuff time, he just broke up with a girl > (whose family we have been friends with since they and I were little) > We are fighting depression with him, and of course it isnt helping > his mood disorder as he stays poed now.. but his grades are SOOO > good, and so far they ahvent slipped. He is trying so hard at school, > now if I can convince him it is just as important to stay out of > trouble, He of course(I guess it is a boy thing) wants to beat up any > boy that talks to his Em, and she ahs a line of wanting to tlak ot > her.. I have told him he must discuss this with his counselor, and he > is embaressed to,(guess maybe guys are afraid to admit the can hurt > like this??? to other guys) > > Other then that things are great LOL.. Hugs to one and all.. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2008 Report Share Posted November 17, 2008 --- Oh Barbie....what a hard time!! Im so sorry. I know Lucas has been having a tough time with his subq for a little while now......maybe you can figure out something to help him during this time.....maybe it would be better to go back to IVIG once a month for a while...so he only has to deal with it once a month instead of every week...let him calm down a little bit? I'll be praying for you that you find the best way to help him. I, too, am appalled that there is no psych on the weekends.....what, are mental emergencies only supposed to happen during office hours? thats ridiculous. Im so sorry about her daughter and her family. About 6 weeks ago, the same thing happened to my nephew. My sisters son, lived in an apartment complex straight across from my sister, and someone set it on fire in the night. There were no sprinklers, and no alarms....its amazing that no one died. They were woken and dragged out by a firefighter and a friend less than ten minutes before the whole building collapsed. They lost everything but a little tin of money they were saving for a car, and they grabbed their cats on the way out. But, I will tell you the same thing I said to them at the time..and I know you know this.....EVERYTHING else.......everything else....can be bought again. It can all be replaced. They can start again, even though it will be hard. Im so grateful they all made it out ok!! Its horrible to keep thinking how close to death they could be. But its a good reminder to not take our families for granted, right? valarie In , Barbara Jimenez <mother5590@...> wrote: > > Hi everyone , I just wanted to catch everyone up. Lucas is inpatient right now at the Childrens Hospital here in Tulsa. There is not a Psych bed in the state. He became very aggressive, and violent and suicidal on Friday afternoon because of his Gamma globulin infusion. It went on for hours and then my daughter call the police. They came and transported him to the hospital for me. We spent the night sitting up in the ER. ( did not even give us a cot) And then admitted us. There is NO Pschiatrist on the weekends. ( Appalling to me) Oh yeah, He was angry and a little wierd in the ER but NOT violent at all. and we had been there for hours. They came in and tried to give him a shot of HALDOL and Benadryl> WHAT????? I refused. One we went there because a needle phobia and then he he 14 med allergies and why they would give him this is beyond me. BUT..... at about 8am the next morning after I witnessed them code a man who died next to us. I get a call from my > daughter ( shes 18 and lives with her baby 3mo and bf) and she is screaming!!!! MOM MOM our apartment is on fire. HELP!!! They got out with their lives and it burned to the ground. There were 75 firefighters 16 engines and they had to call the National guard to bring in oxygen tanks. The news is showing their apartment over and over burning. 12 units burned. It was awful. But they are safe but lost everything. I feel so blessed that they are fine. But the people of Tulsa are just pouring out support. So they are at my home I am in the hospital with my son. We are suppose to leave on Thursday to fly to Seattle and so they are keeping him here until atleast Monday to start the process of finding him placement in a facility up there. I am more than a bit overwhelmed and worried about him but feel that we are probably doing the right thing for now. I know that he needs more help than I can provide for him. I will keep you posted as things transpire. I > appreciate the support I have received and hope all is better with your families at this time. Bless and love your kids. I realize how easily I could have lost them. They were asleep when it started. > > BARBIE > > > > > ________________________________ > From: " elizabethrose1@... " <elizabethrose1@...> > BipolarParentsT > Sent: Saturday, November 15, 2008 12:10:26 PM > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > > > Kat, > Glad to hear your sleeping better and feeling rested! A good nights sleep can do miracles can't it? I am truly enjoying the idea of the baby being here soon, i'd like to deliver NOW! Getting excited as is hubby, extended family and our 4 yo dtr can't wait to be a big sister....not sure how Devon's feeling.... I'll post about her and all in a min.... sigh... Glad your back on here , I missed you! Beth in NJ > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > From: Purple Kat <purplecow1992> > BipolarParentsT > Sent: Wednesday, November 12, 2008 3:05:08 PM > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > > I'm so glad to hear that you are getting excited about the baby and preparing and being happy. I miss that, and would have had ten more babies had I not had to deal with some of the things I did, plus complicated pregnancies and deliveries. But I am always so wistful around babies and toddlers - I had both of mine so young I completely did not savor the joy in them. And with Sam she was such a difficult baby that I enjoyed it even less. > > I had a meeting at Sam's school yesterday and she is doing very well overall in school. She's settling into her special classes, and now doesn't want to go back to " regular " classes. > > So - that's good news. Now we have to work on the " littler " things that are the ones that make me so tired. > > In other good news, my new sleeping pill has me feeling a million times better since I'm getting a decent nights sleep almost every day. It feels like a miracle! > > Kat > > > > From: elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net> > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > BipolarParentsT > Date: Wednesday, November 12, 2008, 11:38 AM > > Boy Marina, > You sure have had quite a full plate! I'm so sorry to hear about the breast cancer, I too am your age and a nurse and it is very rare. God bless you. I'm glad you recovered from it but so sorry about the diagnosis and all it entailed. That isn't easy for anyone. Hugs to you! As for the stuff going on with Ka and Hunter, sounds like typical teen stuff. I'm guessing the weight gain is factoring in to Ka not wanting to take her meds. maybe they can change the meds to others that don't cause wt gain. Devon had gainied a ton of wt on Risperdal and they were about to switch her to seroquel and abilify and she lost all of it. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out with her license. She has no other record right? Perhaps they will not take her license. I think your on track with all that. Sorry about the leg sprain your dealing with too. Its tough, sometimes its like that one thing after anouther. I know. > I'm due in late december to have the baby and have been dealing with bad seasonal allergies that have me coughing and drain my energy, not much I can take being pregnant, my mother who is in her late 50's and wworks at a school for autistic and other challenged/ troubled teens has been hurt and is going to have rotator cuff repair surgery soon, Dec 4th, that will be tough its a long recovery... I worry because of her active alcoholism but will be ther to help anyway I can. I'm hoping she can get a referal to the home nursing agency I work for, I know she'll get excellent care and in home PT if needed. > Devon has been much more co-operative and so far staying out of trouble these last few weeks. I think she is motivated to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas home with us. She knows it depends on her and so far seems to actually care and that alone is a huge step for her. I just worry about her reputation being in the toilet right now at the new school after all the sexual escapades, and the lack of her planning for her future but I guess that will come slowly too. I just worry about the transition to adulthood so much. > All else is going well and we are getting excited for the new baby. Got the crib together and ready and most of the Christmas shopping is done. Hubby has been wonderful and so atentive and loving. Glad to hear from you. Hang in there. beth in NJ > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > From: Marina G <marinadelrey73> > BipolarParentsT > Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:49:36 PM > Subject: [bPT] Catching up > > Well I have about a billion post to cath up on..and I will try to > get that done.. > > As I stated in my reply to Beth, we have had a crazy three mths. In > Sept I had a " tumor " removed from my right breast, we really ALL(drs > and all) thought it was nothing as I am SOO young(35, but dangit that > is young for any kind of breast cancer) The results came back as a > rare kind of tumor, and tthe area around the tumor had the cancerous > cells.. So I had to go back in and have a partial mysectomy.. I was > suppose ot go back on the 23 of Sept, and had bronchitis that turned > into pneumonia, So my surgery was delayed until middle of Oct..Got > back to work from all that..and ended up with a bad sprain to knee, > and ankle..So am off work again and have to go thru PT..It is my > right leg and I am on crutches, cant even drive myself..ughhh > > As for Ka with all that is going on..she is handling amazingly well. > Mostly just accuses me of being excessively grumpy..But she is > refusing to take her meds..any of them, even her depression meds.. > Has stated she also will not get her BC shot when it is due again. > She has gained like 40 lbs, since about MayI do beleive most of it is > the Depokote, and the shot may play a part in it. But it is also she > ahsnt been having the digestive problems since we got her gallbladder > removed. Up until about the beginning of October, it wasnt too big a > deal, though she didnt like gaining the weight, she needed to add > some from the year she was SOO sick. But nowhere near what she has > gained, she is in the overweight catergory now..Then last week I > allowed her to drive two houses down to get a friends arts and craft > bucket(large bucket FILLED with cupplies for a & c's) My dear Ka who is > not licensed decided she need to make the block to turn around, well > her block ended up being three blocks away ..She got stopped, and my > incurance had expired..(becasue I have been unable ot work, and > couldnt drive anywya, I had to choose something ot give up and chose > ins until I can get back on my feet) We were actually lucky the cop > let her bring the car home, and and only gave her three tickets(no > license, no insurance and no seat belt) We are lucky cause here they > could have taken both me and K to jail.... I really dont think it > would have been a problem had she been where she shoulda have been.. > Ka is having to pay out the fine (582) dollars, I will have insurance > again on thursday.. but man it scared me.When she first walked thru > the door, I could tell she was shook up and something was wrong.. > Then she said " mom I need my social security card, they are taking me > to jail " I just knew she had hit someone and the thought of her > possible injuring someone entered my mind..So I was honestly relieved > when it was only what it was..AND they did not take her to jail!!! I > surely have learned a lesson. I never thought it would be a big deal > since we live near a golf course and kids are driving from their > house to the course all the time..I know better NOW!! I have some > friends working on it..All I want is for them NOT to say she cant get > her license until she is 21, becasue then it will effect her getting > to start college, I cant very well send her to a city and she NOT be > able ot drive herself for school!! I am trying to work out with the > city judge if maybe she can do community service...instead of loosing > when she can get her license..I also have a lawyer saying he will > help for free if needed..I dont want to take too many of the > consquences from her, that she wont learn, but also dont want her > college effected.. Had she NOT gone that far from the house I would > take care of it as I as in the wrong for letting her.. dang when in > life do we quit having to live and learn..ughhh > > Hunter is also having a tuff time, he just broke up with a girl > (whose family we have been friends with since they and I were little) > We are fighting depression with him, and of course it isnt helping > his mood disorder as he stays poed now.. but his grades are SOOO > good, and so far they ahvent slipped. He is trying so hard at school, > now if I can convince him it is just as important to stay out of > trouble, He of course(I guess it is a boy thing) wants to beat up any > boy that talks to his Em, and she ahs a line of wanting to tlak ot > her.. I have told him he must discuss this with his counselor, and he > is embaressed to,(guess maybe guys are afraid to admit the can hurt > like this??? to other guys) > > Other then that things are great LOL.. 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Guest guest Posted November 17, 2008 Report Share Posted November 17, 2008 THANKS for all the sweet posts. YES, I am SO THANKFUL!!! I think I finally found a couple of people here that GET IT but they too are saying there are few helps available. But I had Child Life talk to us together about pain etc as well as Finally a good PED Attending came in and talked to us about the complexity of Lucas' issues and how import it is to look at this in a broader sense. DUH!!! I have been trying to get someone to understand what is going on. It takes a doctor with experience to take it all in and see all the parts as a whole. TULSA, OK is NOT the place to get healthcare!!! especially for this kind of complexity. We will be moving back to Seattle in the next couple of months in hopes of finding him appropriate care there. I have to sell my house find some homes for some animals and then pack up and move. It is overwhelming!!! We still do not really have a plan right now with the infusions. So I am trying to figure out what to do with the next one coming up . We already had tickets to go to Seattle on Thursday so we are just get on the plane and get there for now. The kids will just buy as they go I guess. I told them to just not worry about it and enjoy the fun of having a few outfits that they could choose to buy. I am so sorry to hear about your nephew!!! YES we do have lots of STUFF but it is LIFE that matters. God has been so good to provide us with safety and love and caring from so many loving people. The amount of stuff coming in from staff is amazing here at the hospital. They are being incredible. BARBIE ________________________________ From: osdbmom <osdbmom@...> Sent: Monday, November 17, 2008 10:10:06 AM Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up --- Oh Barbie....what a hard time!! Im so sorry. I know Lucas has been having a tough time with his subq for a little while now......maybe you can figure out something to help him during this time.....maybe it would be better to go back to IVIG once a month for a while...so he only has to deal with it once a month instead of every week...let him calm down a little bit? I'll be praying for you that you find the best way to help him. I, too, am appalled that there is no psych on the weekends.... .what, are mental emergencies only supposed to happen during office hours? thats ridiculous. Im so sorry about her daughter and her family. About 6 weeks ago, the same thing happened to my nephew. My sisters son, lived in an apartment complex straight across from my sister, and someone set it on fire in the night. There were no sprinklers, and no alarms....its amazing that no one died. They were woken and dragged out by a firefighter and a friend less than ten minutes before the whole building collapsed. They lost everything but a little tin of money they were saving for a car, and they grabbed their cats on the way out. But, I will tell you the same thing I said to them at the time..and I know you know this.....EVERYTHING else.......everythi ng else....can be bought again. It can all be replaced. They can start again, even though it will be hard. Im so grateful they all made it out ok!! Its horrible to keep thinking how close to death they could be. But its a good reminder to not take our families for granted, right? valarie In groups (DOT) com, Barbara Jimenez <mother5590@ ...> wrote: > > Hi everyone , I just wanted to catch everyone up. Lucas is inpatient right now at the Childrens Hospital here in Tulsa. There is not a Psych bed in the state. He became very aggressive, and violent and suicidal on Friday afternoon because of his Gamma globulin infusion. It went on for hours and then my daughter call the police. They came and transported him to the hospital for me. We spent the night sitting up in the ER. ( did not even give us a cot) And then admitted us. There is NO Pschiatrist on the weekends. ( Appalling to me) Oh yeah, He was angry and a little wierd in the ER but NOT violent at all. and we had been there for hours. They came in and tried to give him a shot of HALDOL and Benadryl> WHAT????? I refused. One we went there because a needle phobia and then he he 14 med allergies and why they would give him this is beyond me. BUT..... at about 8am the next morning after I witnessed them code a man who died next to us. I get a call from my > daughter ( shes 18 and lives with her baby 3mo and bf) and she is screaming!!! ! MOM MOM our apartment is on fire. HELP!!! They got out with their lives and it burned to the ground. There were 75 firefighters 16 engines and they had to call the National guard to bring in oxygen tanks. The news is showing their apartment over and over burning. 12 units burned. It was awful. But they are safe but lost everything. I feel so blessed that they are fine. But the people of Tulsa are just pouring out support. So they are at my home I am in the hospital with my son. We are suppose to leave on Thursday to fly to Seattle and so they are keeping him here until atleast Monday to start the process of finding him placement in a facility up there. I am more than a bit overwhelmed and worried about him but feel that we are probably doing the right thing for now. I know that he needs more help than I can provide for him. I will keep you posted as things transpire. I > appreciate the support I have received and hope all is better with your families at this time. Bless and love your kids. I realize how easily I could have lost them. They were asleep when it started. > > BARBIE > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > From: " elizabethrose1@ ... " <elizabethrose1@ ...> > BipolarParentsT > Sent: Saturday, November 15, 2008 12:10:26 PM > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > > > Kat, > Glad to hear your sleeping better and feeling rested! A good nights sleep can do miracles can't it? I am truly enjoying the idea of the baby being here soon, i'd like to deliver NOW! Getting excited as is hubby, extended family and our 4 yo dtr can't wait to be a big sister....not sure how Devon's feeling.... I'll post about her and all in a min.... sigh... Glad your back on here , I missed you! Beth in NJ > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > From: Purple Kat <purplecow1992> > BipolarParentsT > Sent: Wednesday, November 12, 2008 3:05:08 PM > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > > I'm so glad to hear that you are getting excited about the baby and preparing and being happy. I miss that, and would have had ten more babies had I not had to deal with some of the things I did, plus complicated pregnancies and deliveries. But I am always so wistful around babies and toddlers - I had both of mine so young I completely did not savor the joy in them. And with Sam she was such a difficult baby that I enjoyed it even less. > > I had a meeting at Sam's school yesterday and she is doing very well overall in school. She's settling into her special classes, and now doesn't want to go back to " regular " classes. > > So - that's good news. Now we have to work on the " littler " things that are the ones that make me so tired. > > In other good news, my new sleeping pill has me feeling a million times better since I'm getting a decent nights sleep almost every day. It feels like a miracle! > > Kat > > > > From: elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net> > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > BipolarParentsT > Date: Wednesday, November 12, 2008, 11:38 AM > > Boy Marina, > You sure have had quite a full plate! I'm so sorry to hear about the breast cancer, I too am your age and a nurse and it is very rare. God bless you. I'm glad you recovered from it but so sorry about the diagnosis and all it entailed. That isn't easy for anyone. Hugs to you! As for the stuff going on with Ka and Hunter, sounds like typical teen stuff. I'm guessing the weight gain is factoring in to Ka not wanting to take her meds. maybe they can change the meds to others that don't cause wt gain. Devon had gainied a ton of wt on Risperdal and they were about to switch her to seroquel and abilify and she lost all of it. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out with her license. She has no other record right? Perhaps they will not take her license. I think your on track with all that. Sorry about the leg sprain your dealing with too. Its tough, sometimes its like that one thing after anouther. I know. > I'm due in late december to have the baby and have been dealing with bad seasonal allergies that have me coughing and drain my energy, not much I can take being pregnant, my mother who is in her late 50's and wworks at a school for autistic and other challenged/ troubled teens has been hurt and is going to have rotator cuff repair surgery soon, Dec 4th, that will be tough its a long recovery... I worry because of her active alcoholism but will be ther to help anyway I can. I'm hoping she can get a referal to the home nursing agency I work for, I know she'll get excellent care and in home PT if needed. > Devon has been much more co-operative and so far staying out of trouble these last few weeks. I think she is motivated to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas home with us. She knows it depends on her and so far seems to actually care and that alone is a huge step for her. I just worry about her reputation being in the toilet right now at the new school after all the sexual escapades, and the lack of her planning for her future but I guess that will come slowly too. I just worry about the transition to adulthood so much. > All else is going well and we are getting excited for the new baby. Got the crib together and ready and most of the Christmas shopping is done. Hubby has been wonderful and so atentive and loving. Glad to hear from you. Hang in there. beth in NJ > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > From: Marina G <marinadelrey73> > BipolarParentsT > Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:49:36 PM > Subject: [bPT] Catching up > > Well I have about a billion post to cath up on..and I will try to > get that done.. > > As I stated in my reply to Beth, we have had a crazy three mths. In > Sept I had a " tumor " removed from my right breast, we really ALL(drs > and all) thought it was nothing as I am SOO young(35, but dangit that > is young for any kind of breast cancer) The results came back as a > rare kind of tumor, and tthe area around the tumor had the cancerous > cells.. So I had to go back in and have a partial mysectomy.. I was > suppose ot go back on the 23 of Sept, and had bronchitis that turned > into pneumonia, So my surgery was delayed until middle of Oct..Got > back to work from all that..and ended up with a bad sprain to knee, > and ankle..So am off work again and have to go thru PT..It is my > right leg and I am on crutches, cant even drive myself..ughhh > > As for Ka with all that is going on..she is handling amazingly well. > Mostly just accuses me of being excessively grumpy..But she is > refusing to take her meds..any of them, even her depression meds.. > Has stated she also will not get her BC shot when it is due again. > She has gained like 40 lbs, since about MayI do beleive most of it is > the Depokote, and the shot may play a part in it. But it is also she > ahsnt been having the digestive problems since we got her gallbladder > removed. Up until about the beginning of October, it wasnt too big a > deal, though she didnt like gaining the weight, she needed to add > some from the year she was SOO sick. But nowhere near what she has > gained, she is in the overweight catergory now..Then last week I > allowed her to drive two houses down to get a friends arts and craft > bucket(large bucket FILLED with cupplies for a & c's) My dear Ka who is > not licensed decided she need to make the block to turn around, well > her block ended up being three blocks away ..She got stopped, and my > incurance had expired..(becasue I have been unable ot work, and > couldnt drive anywya, I had to choose something ot give up and chose > ins until I can get back on my feet) We were actually lucky the cop > let her bring the car home, and and only gave her three tickets(no > license, no insurance and no seat belt) We are lucky cause here they > could have taken both me and K to jail.... I really dont think it > would have been a problem had she been where she shoulda have been.. > Ka is having to pay out the fine (582) dollars, I will have insurance > again on thursday.. but man it scared me.When she first walked thru > the door, I could tell she was shook up and something was wrong.. > Then she said " mom I need my social security card, they are taking me > to jail " I just knew she had hit someone and the thought of her > possible injuring someone entered my mind..So I was honestly relieved > when it was only what it was..AND they did not take her to jail!!! I > surely have learned a lesson. I never thought it would be a big deal > since we live near a golf course and kids are driving from their > house to the course all the time..I know better NOW!! I have some > friends working on it..All I want is for them NOT to say she cant get > her license until she is 21, becasue then it will effect her getting > to start college, I cant very well send her to a city and she NOT be > able ot drive herself for school!! I am trying to work out with the > city judge if maybe she can do community service...instead of loosing > when she can get her license..I also have a lawyer saying he will > help for free if needed..I dont want to take too many of the > consquences from her, that she wont learn, but also dont want her > college effected.. Had she NOT gone that far from the house I would > take care of it as I as in the wrong for letting her.. dang when in > life do we quit having to live and learn..ughhh > > Hunter is also having a tuff time, he just broke up with a girl > (whose family we have been friends with since they and I were little) > We are fighting depression with him, and of course it isnt helping > his mood disorder as he stays poed now.. but his grades are SOOO > good, and so far they ahvent slipped. He is trying so hard at school, > now if I can convince him it is just as important to stay out of > trouble, He of course(I guess it is a boy thing) wants to beat up any > boy that talks to his Em, and she ahs a line of wanting to tlak ot > her.. I have told him he must discuss this with his counselor, and he > is embaressed to,(guess maybe guys are afraid to admit the can hurt > like this??? to other guys) > > Other then that things are great LOL.. 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Guest guest Posted November 17, 2008 Report Share Posted November 17, 2008 Barbie Some extra prayers are coming your way from my family. I lived through a house fire when I was in High School and can only imagine how your daughter is feeling with a little one. I would be more than happy to send along some baby clothes, toys, etc if you would like. I have a bunch of things that I was planning on donating, but wouldn't mind at all sending them your daughters way. Just let me know...feel free to email me directly if you would like. Also for your son, I am so happy to hear that finally someone is getting it. I hope you find a plan that will keep him healthy and safe in mind and body in which you all can agree on. Have a safe trip later this week. A > > > > From: elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net> > > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > > BipolarParentsT > > Date: Wednesday, November 12, 2008, 11:38 AM > > > > Boy Marina, > > You sure have had quite a full plate! I'm so sorry to hear about > the breast cancer, I too am your age and a nurse and it is very rare. > God bless you. I'm glad you recovered from it but so sorry about the > diagnosis and all it entailed. That isn't easy for anyone. Hugs to > you! As for the stuff going on with Ka and Hunter, sounds like typical > teen stuff. I'm guessing the weight gain is factoring in to Ka not > wanting to take her meds. maybe they can change the meds to others > that don't cause wt gain. Devon had gainied a ton of wt on Risperdal > and they were about to switch her to seroquel and abilify and she lost > all of it. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out with her license. > She has no other record right? Perhaps they will not take her license. > I think your on track with all that. Sorry about the leg sprain your > dealing with too. Its tough, sometimes its like that one thing after > anouther. I know. > > I'm due in late december to have the baby and have been dealing > with bad seasonal allergies that have me coughing and drain my energy, > not much I can take being pregnant, my mother who is in her late 50's > and wworks at a school for autistic and other challenged/ troubled > teens has been hurt and is going to have rotator cuff repair surgery > soon, Dec 4th, that will be tough its a long recovery... I worry > because of her active alcoholism but will be ther to help anyway I > can. I'm hoping she can get a referal to the home nursing agency I > work for, I know she'll get excellent care and in home PT if needed. > > Devon has been much more co-operative and so far staying out of > trouble these last few weeks. I think she is motivated to spend > Thanksgiving and Christmas home with us. She knows it depends on her > and so far seems to actually care and that alone is a huge step for > her. I just worry about her reputation being in the toilet right now > at the new school after all the sexual escapades, and the lack of her > planning for her future but I guess that will come slowly too. I just > worry about the transition to adulthood so much. > > All else is going well and we are getting excited for the new > baby. Got the crib together and ready and most of the Christmas > shopping is done. Hubby has been wonderful and so atentive and loving. > Glad to hear from you. Hang in there. beth in NJ > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > > From: Marina G <marinadelrey73> > > BipolarParentsT > > Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:49:36 PM > > Subject: [bPT] Catching up > > > > Well I have about a billion post to cath up on..and I will try to > > get that done.. > > > > As I stated in my reply to Beth, we have had a crazy three mths. In > > Sept I had a " tumor " removed from my right breast, we really ALL (drs > > and all) thought it was nothing as I am SOO young(35, but dangit that > > is young for any kind of breast cancer) The results came back as a > > rare kind of tumor, and tthe area around the tumor had the cancerous > > cells.. So I had to go back in and have a partial mysectomy.. I was > > suppose ot go back on the 23 of Sept, and had bronchitis that turned > > into pneumonia, So my surgery was delayed until middle of Oct..Got > > back to work from all that..and ended up with a bad sprain to knee, > > and ankle..So am off work again and have to go thru PT..It is my > > right leg and I am on crutches, cant even drive myself..ughhh > > > > As for Ka with all that is going on..she is handling amazingly well. > > Mostly just accuses me of being excessively grumpy..But she is > > refusing to take her meds..any of them, even her depression meds.. > > Has stated she also will not get her BC shot when it is due again. > > She has gained like 40 lbs, since about MayI do beleive most of it is > > the Depokote, and the shot may play a part in it. But it is also she > > ahsnt been having the digestive problems since we got her gallbladder > > removed. Up until about the beginning of October, it wasnt too big a > > deal, though she didnt like gaining the weight, she needed to add > > some from the year she was SOO sick. But nowhere near what she has > > gained, she is in the overweight catergory now..Then last week I > > allowed her to drive two houses down to get a friends arts and craft > > bucket(large bucket FILLED with cupplies for a & c's) My dear Ka who is > > not licensed decided she need to make the block to turn around, well > > her block ended up being three blocks away ..She got stopped, and my > > incurance had expired..(becasue I have been unable ot work, and > > couldnt drive anywya, I had to choose something ot give up and chose > > ins until I can get back on my feet) We were actually lucky the cop > > let her bring the car home, and and only gave her three tickets (no > > license, no insurance and no seat belt) We are lucky cause here they > > could have taken both me and K to jail.... I really dont think it > > would have been a problem had she been where she shoulda have been.. > > Ka is having to pay out the fine (582) dollars, I will have insurance > > again on thursday.. but man it scared me.When she first walked thru > > the door, I could tell she was shook up and something was wrong.. > > Then she said " mom I need my social security card, they are taking me > > to jail " I just knew she had hit someone and the thought of her > > possible injuring someone entered my mind..So I was honestly relieved > > when it was only what it was..AND they did not take her to jail!!! I > > surely have learned a lesson. I never thought it would be a big deal > > since we live near a golf course and kids are driving from their > > house to the course all the time..I know better NOW!! I have some > > friends working on it..All I want is for them NOT to say she cant get > > her license until she is 21, becasue then it will effect her getting > > to start college, I cant very well send her to a city and she NOT be > > able ot drive herself for school!! I am trying to work out with the > > city judge if maybe she can do community service...instead of loosing > > when she can get her license..I also have a lawyer saying he will > > help for free if needed..I dont want to take too many of the > > consquences from her, that she wont learn, but also dont want her > > college effected.. Had she NOT gone that far from the house I would > > take care of it as I as in the wrong for letting her.. dang when in > > life do we quit having to live and learn..ughhh > > > > Hunter is also having a tuff time, he just broke up with a girl > > (whose family we have been friends with since they and I were little) > > We are fighting depression with him, and of course it isnt helping > > his mood disorder as he stays poed now.. but his grades are SOOO > > good, and so far they ahvent slipped. He is trying so hard at school, > > now if I can convince him it is just as important to stay out of > > trouble, He of course(I guess it is a boy thing) wants to beat up any > > boy that talks to his Em, and she ahs a line of wanting to tlak ot > > her.. I have told him he must discuss this with his counselor, and he > > is embaressed to,(guess maybe guys are afraid to admit the can hurt > > like this??? to other guys) > > > > Other then that things are great LOL.. 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Guest guest Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 Thanks so much Chris. We are in Seattle for vacation for now. I will keep your email and let you know when we get back if they are needing anything. BARBIE ________________________________ From: A <stina5997@...> Sent: Monday, November 17, 2008 4:23:39 PM Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up Barbie Some extra prayers are coming your way from my family. I lived through a house fire when I was in High School and can only imagine how your daughter is feeling with a little one. I would be more than happy to send along some baby clothes, toys, etc if you would like. I have a bunch of things that I was planning on donating, but wouldn't mind at all sending them your daughters way. Just let me know...feel free to email me directly if you would like. Also for your son, I am so happy to hear that finally someone is getting it. I hope you find a plan that will keep him healthy and safe in mind and body in which you all can agree on. Have a safe trip later this week. A > > > > From: elizabethrose1@ verizon.net <elizabethrose1@ verizon.net> > > Subject: Re: [bPT] Catching up > > BipolarParentsT > > Date: Wednesday, November 12, 2008, 11:38 AM > > > > Boy Marina, > > You sure have had quite a full plate! I'm so sorry to hear about > the breast cancer, I too am your age and a nurse and it is very rare. > God bless you. I'm glad you recovered from it but so sorry about the > diagnosis and all it entailed. That isn't easy for anyone. Hugs to > you! As for the stuff going on with Ka and Hunter, sounds like typical > teen stuff. I'm guessing the weight gain is factoring in to Ka not > wanting to take her meds. maybe they can change the meds to others > that don't cause wt gain. Devon had gainied a ton of wt on Risperdal > and they were about to switch her to seroquel and abilify and she lost > all of it. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out with her license. > She has no other record right? Perhaps they will not take her license. > I think your on track with all that. Sorry about the leg sprain your > dealing with too. Its tough, sometimes its like that one thing after > anouther. I know. > > I'm due in late december to have the baby and have been dealing > with bad seasonal allergies that have me coughing and drain my energy, > not much I can take being pregnant, my mother who is in her late 50's > and wworks at a school for autistic and other challenged/ troubled > teens has been hurt and is going to have rotator cuff repair surgery > soon, Dec 4th, that will be tough its a long recovery... I worry > because of her active alcoholism but will be ther to help anyway I > can. I'm hoping she can get a referal to the home nursing agency I > work for, I know she'll get excellent care and in home PT if needed. > > Devon has been much more co-operative and so far staying out of > trouble these last few weeks. I think she is motivated to spend > Thanksgiving and Christmas home with us. She knows it depends on her > and so far seems to actually care and that alone is a huge step for > her. I just worry about her reputation being in the toilet right now > at the new school after all the sexual escapades, and the lack of her > planning for her future but I guess that will come slowly too. I just > worry about the transition to adulthood so much. > > All else is going well and we are getting excited for the new > baby. Got the crib together and ready and most of the Christmas > shopping is done. Hubby has been wonderful and so atentive and loving. > Glad to hear from you. Hang in there. beth in NJ > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > > From: Marina G <marinadelrey73> > > BipolarParentsT > > Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:49:36 PM > > Subject: [bPT] Catching up > > > > Well I have about a billion post to cath up on..and I will try to > > get that done.. > > > > As I stated in my reply to Beth, we have had a crazy three mths. In > > Sept I had a " tumor " removed from my right breast, we really ALL (drs > > and all) thought it was nothing as I am SOO young(35, but dangit that > > is young for any kind of breast cancer) The results came back as a > > rare kind of tumor, and tthe area around the tumor had the cancerous > > cells.. So I had to go back in and have a partial mysectomy.. I was > > suppose ot go back on the 23 of Sept, and had bronchitis that turned > > into pneumonia, So my surgery was delayed until middle of Oct..Got > > back to work from all that..and ended up with a bad sprain to knee, > > and ankle..So am off work again and have to go thru PT..It is my > > right leg and I am on crutches, cant even drive myself..ughhh > > > > As for Ka with all that is going on..she is handling amazingly well. > > Mostly just accuses me of being excessively grumpy..But she is > > refusing to take her meds..any of them, even her depression meds.. > > Has stated she also will not get her BC shot when it is due again. > > She has gained like 40 lbs, since about MayI do beleive most of it is > > the Depokote, and the shot may play a part in it. But it is also she > > ahsnt been having the digestive problems since we got her gallbladder > > removed. Up until about the beginning of October, it wasnt too big a > > deal, though she didnt like gaining the weight, she needed to add > > some from the year she was SOO sick. But nowhere near what she has > > gained, she is in the overweight catergory now..Then last week I > > allowed her to drive two houses down to get a friends arts and craft > > bucket(large bucket FILLED with cupplies for a & c's) My dear Ka who is > > not licensed decided she need to make the block to turn around, well > > her block ended up being three blocks away ..She got stopped, and my > > incurance had expired..(becasue I have been unable ot work, and > > couldnt drive anywya, I had to choose something ot give up and chose > > ins until I can get back on my feet) We were actually lucky the cop > > let her bring the car home, and and only gave her three tickets (no > > license, no insurance and no seat belt) We are lucky cause here they > > could have taken both me and K to jail.... I really dont think it > > would have been a problem had she been where she shoulda have been.. > > Ka is having to pay out the fine (582) dollars, I will have insurance > > again on thursday.. but man it scared me.When she first walked thru > > the door, I could tell she was shook up and something was wrong.. > > Then she said " mom I need my social security card, they are taking me > > to jail " I just knew she had hit someone and the thought of her > > possible injuring someone entered my mind..So I was honestly relieved > > when it was only what it was..AND they did not take her to jail!!! I > > surely have learned a lesson. I never thought it would be a big deal > > since we live near a golf course and kids are driving from their > > house to the course all the time..I know better NOW!! I have some > > friends working on it..All I want is for them NOT to say she cant get > > her license until she is 21, becasue then it will effect her getting > > to start college, I cant very well send her to a city and she NOT be > > able ot drive herself for school!! I am trying to work out with the > > city judge if maybe she can do community service...instead of loosing > > when she can get her license..I also have a lawyer saying he will > > help for free if needed..I dont want to take too many of the > > consquences from her, that she wont learn, but also dont want her > > college effected.. Had she NOT gone that far from the house I would > > take care of it as I as in the wrong for letting her.. dang when in > > life do we quit having to live and learn..ughhh > > > > Hunter is also having a tuff time, he just broke up with a girl > > (whose family we have been friends with since they and I were little) > > We are fighting depression with him, and of course it isnt helping > > his mood disorder as he stays poed now.. but his grades are SOOO > > good, and so far they ahvent slipped. He is trying so hard at school, > > now if I can convince him it is just as important to stay out of > > trouble, He of course(I guess it is a boy thing) wants to beat up any > > boy that talks to his Em, and she ahs a line of wanting to tlak ot > > her.. I have told him he must discuss this with his counselor, and he > > is embaressed to,(guess maybe guys are afraid to admit the can hurt > > like this??? to other guys) > > > > Other then that things are great LOL.. Hugs to one and all.. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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