Re:Long Week (vent)(kinda long)

May 17, 2009

Hi

I know where you're coming from, some days I just despair too. My AS

boys are 15 & 5 & some days I swear they are the same age!

I don't have much advice for you, I do agree on looking at diet if you

haven't already.We are dairy free & doing our best to become gluten free

& we see the price we pay every time we slip up. Not to mention sugar,

preservatives, colourings & the big nasty in our house, artificial

flavourings. Even too much fruit in one day means hell for a couple of

days following. It is hard wrk but SO worth it. You have to be very

tough & become very good at saying NO to the food they often want!

The other thing that struck me was your comment on your husband not

pushing his authority. You may find that this is precisely what your son

is asking for with his onslaught on his dad. Boys need their dads to

guide their behaviour & if they don't know where their boundaries lie

with their dad they will keep puhing until they find them. It's human

nature. maybe he needs to start playing a bigger role in the parenting &

dicipline when he is home.

The only thing that I find that improves my 5yo HFA behaviour when it's

a repetative problem is to deny him the things he likes having or

doing. We give 3 warnings & then take a toy away, turn the TV off or

whatever it takes. The behaviour never improves instantly, that day, or

even that week but over time he slowly gets it & has started showing

some self control. We have to put up with the meltdown of course, it's

all hard especially when the results are slow coming. We were doing time

out but that has prooved pointless for us, I know it works for some.

I just decided that if nothing is working we have to try something new.

Good luck!

Toni

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