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Marilyn,

I know its so sad because they are so passionate about their interests and they cannot even imagine that someone else could not find it as fascinating as they do.Too bad all these kids who have so much in common live so far apart across the country.

Candy

From: marilyn <onebusytwinmom@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 6:49:43 PMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...

I have a 9 year old just like that. He perseverates on what he is interested in and just cannot grasp that other people don't find it as deeply fascinating (in his case, Pokemon). So he turns off his peers, never gets playdates, etc. It breaks my heart.

Marilyn

From: Candy Crouch <dclecrouch@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 7:43:01 PMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...

Hi, my son also wants desperately to find a real friend who will understand him, and be a true friend. He has kids he hangs out with that tolerate him at school, but there is no weekend stuff and just hanging out like teenagers do. He is almost 16. He tries to be friendly and make friends to people but he usually ends up dominating a conversation about something only he is interested him, and they could care less about what he is saying, or saying something so totally inapropriate that they think he is weird. I feel really sorrry for him because he tries so hard, but just cant make it happen.

Candy

From: Seeley <mmseeley@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 9:53:10 AMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...

Good point->> >>>> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the>> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be>> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth it!>> ------------------------------>>>> >

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Need advice...my son is five and funny and smart. When other children on the playground at school try to talk to him he usually avoids them. It breaks my heart as we have a long road ahead, and I remember being a kid, and kids aren't always so nice. We are trying to get a para to help him with introductions, conversations, etc. When I am there to drop off in the am, a lot of kids come up to us but I feel more like a translator, going between my son and his peers. Does anyone have advice on how to make this go more smoothly, so my son can try harder on his own to make connections? Or what I can do to make the connections easier?Thanks much!Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: marilyn <onebusytwinmom@...>Sender: Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Fri, 7 Jan 2011 18:49:43 -0800 (PST)<Autism and Aspergers Treatment >Reply Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new... I have a 9 year old just like that. He perseverates on what he is interested in and just cannot grasp that other people don't find it as deeply fascinating (in his case, Pokemon). So he turns off his peers, never gets playdates, etc. It breaks my heart. MarilynFrom: CandyCrouch <dclecrouch@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 7:43:01 PMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new... Hi, my son also wants desperately to find a real friend who will understand him, and be a true friend. He has kids he hangs out with that tolerate him at school, but there is no weekend stuff and just hanging out like teenagers do. He is almost 16. He tries to be friendly and make friends to people but he usually ends up dominating a conversation about something only he is interested him, and they could care less about what he is saying, or saying something so totally inapropriate that they think he is weird. I feel really sorrry for him because he tries so hard, but just cant make it happen.CandyFrom: Seeley <mmseeley@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 9:53:10 AMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new... Good point->> >>>> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the>> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be>> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth it!>> ------------------------------>>>> >

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Marilyn we should get our kids together if we were closer my is the same way with pokemon he also does it with runescape tooI love my Kids, Special needs and all!From: marilyn <onebusytwinmom@...>Sender: Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Fri, 7 Jan 2011 18:49:43 -0800 (PST)<Autism and Aspergers Treatment >Reply Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...I have a 9 year old just like that. He perseverates on what he is interested in and just cannot grasp that other people don't find it as deeply fascinating (in his case, Pokemon). So he turns off his peers, never gets playdates, etc. It breaks my heart. MarilynFrom: CandyCrouch <dclecrouch@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 7:43:01 PMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new... Hi, my son also wants desperately to find a real friend who will understand him, and be a true friend. He has kids he hangs out with that tolerate him at school, but there is no weekend stuff and just hanging out like teenagers do. He is almost 16. He tries to be friendly and make friends to people but he usually ends up dominating a conversation about something only he is interested him, and they could care less about what he is saying, or saying something so totally inapropriate that they think he is weird. I feel really sorrry for him because he tries so hard, but just cant make it happen.CandyFrom: Seeley <mmseeley@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 9:53:10 AMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new... Good point->> >>>> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the>> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be>> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth it!>> ------------------------------>>>> >

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Sounds like he needs an object to do the work for him if he can't find the words. Have you tried allowing him to take a little toy or something that he could have in common with the other kids? That's always a great conversation starter. Like a little match box car or Bakugan? Things like that that are really popular among the other boys - they'll gravitate towards him real fast when they see that and start talking. ???

My son started first grade this year and he learned real quick that he can fit it and get attention with stuff like that - even though the truth is he doesn't even like those things. So I know he's doing it to try to make friends and to be accepted.

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Good point->> >>>> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the>> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be>> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth it!>> ------------------------------>>>> >

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I forgot to ask what are his interests? As an aspie does he have an obsession? That would be the best to start with that even though eventually we want them to broaden their interests in order to fit in better but if you start with something HE is most comfortable with he will be more motivated by it too.

Also have you tried social stories? Or better yet just sitting down together and making it a fun activity you could write a story together about "a boy" (not him specifically) and his day at school. A story about him would be too much pressure but a story about another boy who may or may not have the same challenges could be very curious for him and you could learn a lot depending on how he wants the story to go.

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Good point->> >>>> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the>> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be>> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth it!>> ------------------------------>>>> >

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I do! My son goes every summer we love it! They spend time learning then they do

real world experience

I love my Kids, Special needs and all!

Re: Hello, We are new...

My 13-year old son is in the same boat...wants more friends, but can't seem to

make it happen. His emotional maturity seems to be a couple years behind most

of the other boys. And to make matters worse...his twin sister is very popular,

so he always compares the number of friends she has to his.

There is some sort of " social training " school around here that meets once a

week over the summer. They focus on teaching kids social skills & appropriate

behavior. Does anyone have experience with anything like this for boys around

his age?

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Hi there,

My son's doctor just recommened and we are planning on attending. My son will talk with others (parents and peers), just has a hard time with the anxiety. I noticed he always looks my way instead of the person he is speaking too. I will let you know how the classes go.

Smiles,Cheryl Have a great day!

The Murray's

From: WH <WHart@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Sat, January 8, 2011 1:07:30 PMSubject: Re: Hello, We are new...

My 13-year old son is in the same boat...wants more friends, but can't seem to make it happen. His emotional maturity seems to be a couple years behind most of the other boys. And to make matters worse...his twin sister is very popular, so he always compares the number of friends she has to his.There is some sort of "social training" school around here that meets once a week over the summer. They focus on teaching kids social skills & appropriate behavior. Does anyone have experience with anything like this for boys around his age?> >> > > >>> >> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the> >> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be> >> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth

it!> >> ------------------------------> >>> >> > >>

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Hi there,

My son's doctor just recommened and we are planning on attending. My son will talk with others (parents and peers), just has a hard time with the anxiety. I noticed he always looks my way instead of the person he is speaking too. I will let you know how the classes go.

Smiles,Cheryl Have a great day!

The Murray's

From: WH <WHart@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Sat, January 8, 2011 1:07:30 PMSubject: Re: Hello, We are new...

My 13-year old son is in the same boat...wants more friends, but can't seem to make it happen. His emotional maturity seems to be a couple years behind most of the other boys. And to make matters worse...his twin sister is very popular, so he always compares the number of friends she has to his.There is some sort of "social training" school around here that meets once a week over the summer. They focus on teaching kids social skills & appropriate behavior. Does anyone have experience with anything like this for boys around his age?> >> > > >>> >> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the> >> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be> >> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth

it!> >> ------------------------------> >>> >> > >>

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I wish i did live closer to some of the folks on this list, because I'm having no luck in finding him a friend here. If someone around here had a kid who had memorized the Pokedex, I'd be thrilled to find them! Marilynwww.marilynsattic.net, your source for books, music and moreFrom: "crazymisskitty@..." <crazymisskitty@...>Autism-aspergers <Autism and Aspergers Treatment >Sent: Sat, January 8, 2011 12:47:26 AMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...

Marilyn we should get our kids together if we were closer my is the same way with pokemon he also does it with runescape tooI love my Kids, Special needs and all!From: marilyn <onebusytwinmom@...>

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Date: Fri, 7 Jan 2011 18:49:43 -0800 (PST)<Autism and Aspergers Treatment >Reply Autism and Aspergers Treatment

Subject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...

I have a 9 year old just like that. He perseverates on what he is interested in and just cannot grasp that other people don't find it as deeply fascinating (in his case, Pokemon). So he turns off his peers, never gets playdates, etc. It breaks my heart. MarilynFrom: Candy

Crouch <dclecrouch@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 7:43:01 PMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...

Hi, my son also wants desperately to find a real friend who will understand him, and be a true friend. He has kids he hangs out with that tolerate him at school, but there is no weekend stuff and just hanging out like teenagers do. He is almost 16. He tries to be friendly and make friends to people but he usually ends up dominating a conversation about something only he is interested him, and they could care less about what he is saying, or saying something so totally inapropriate that they think he is weird. I feel really sorrry for him because he tries so hard, but just cant make it happen.

Candy

From: Seeley <mmseeley@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, January 7, 2011 9:53:10 AMSubject: Re: Re: Hello, We are new...

Good point->> >>>> Sorry..lost connection. I believe being social as hard as it may be, is the>> best. No man is an island, and our children will need to learn how to be>> with others and communicate. Trying and practice is worth it!>> ------------------------------>>>> >

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I never had this experience since my son was home-schooled until 8th

grade. But I heard of a Mom who spoke to her son's class at school (he

was not in the room at the time) and gave them a little talk about

Asperger's and

what it means . She compared having Asperger's to being in a room full

of people who spoke a language you didn't understand, and asked them to

think of how they would feel in that situation.

I don't know what else she said, but apparently it really eased her

son's way in that school.

On 1/7/2011 6:57 PM, amandaakp@... wrote:

> Need advice...my son is five and funny and smart. When other children on the

playground at school try to talk to him he usually avoids them. It breaks my

heart as we have a long road ahead, and I remember being a kid, and kids aren't

always so nice. We are trying to get a para to help him with introductions,

conversations, etc. When I am there to drop off in the am, a lot of kids come up

to us but I feel more like a translator, going between my son and his peers.

Does anyone have advice on how to make this go more smoothly, so my son can try

harder on his own to make connections? Or what I can do to make the connections

easier?

> Thanks much!

> Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

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