What HE wants to do....

[Guest guest]

Anybody EVER have any success in getting your son/ daughter to understand that

SOMEtimes you have to do things that someone aka adult wants you to do vs. what

HE/SHE wants to do? He tells me regularly, " But I don't want to. " and it gets

me so frustrated and the frustration is leading itself to anger at this point.

I know I shouldn't be angry, but I'm human too. I know he's not going to do

everything that I want, but when it's school related there are just some

subjects he's not going to appreciate, but he has to engage in them anyway.

We've tried rewards. I've even bought him gift certs to game stop, etc. If you

finish A, B, or C....you can have a $2 gift card to Game Stop, 30 mins of

computer time, watch a movie he wants to watch, go ride his bike, play the Wii,

eat a fav. snack. It doesn't matter. He HATES handwriting. He HATES Math. He

HATES phonics/spelling. If he's not in the mood, he lets you know and you have

to coax him to do it. He's getting to an age where talking back is his new

norm. And I know when he's talking back he doesn't realize how it sounds to us.

He's being brutally honest, no filter, very literal. " I don't like this. I

hate this. I'm not doing it and Mrs. ______(blank) cannot make me! " Well, no

we cannot make you, but....we can take stuff away. It doesn't seem to bother

him ENOUGH (the stuff we take away) to get him to do what we are

asking/begging/coaxing him to do.

I am a Mom at her limit this week!!

Thanks for listening!