An Update, sorta, was: Re: When you can't afford travel expenses

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Im trying to remember.......but, before you moved, didnt your older

girl have a school she really liked? can she go back to that one?

Maybe that could be another positive(if Im remembering right, which

isnt always the case).

I have four kids, all with asthma, the oldest has issued we're still

trying to address, the younger three all have CVID and other issues, I

have an IGG def that Im not addressing bc I dont have time for appts

for myself......, youre not alone in this. I havent been able

to work in five yrs. I keep thinking its going to get better......but

it doesnt. who wants to hire someone, when to be honest, I have to

say, " HEY, Id love a job here, just so you know, I'll probably need at

least three days off a week for appts/sick kids, I might not show up

sometimes if theres a medical crisis, I might need extra time off for

admissions, and of course, I keep my kids home from school if

something major is going around school, so I'll need to stay home

then, too. Other than that......my job will really be a priority! " lol

The last job I applied for, was AT my kids school. Yeah.......it just

really didnt go over well. And even after I applied....I realized I

would have had to decline it even if I had been chosen. Its just not

realistic for us right now. And I have a husband who works......I cant

imagine being a single mom.

I hope this move works out for you.

valarie

mom to three w/cvid

In , " " <taelon@...> wrote:

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> I feel like I am admitting defeat here even though its just being

realistic.

> When we moved here I figured it would be great, wonderful children's

> hospital 15 minutes away so instead of it being an over night trip

at the

> very least I could take an hour off work instead of 2 days or more. I

> assumed I would be able to work and that hasn't happened, every time

I turn

> around we have another appt is seems. Its killing us staying here

and hasn't

> worked out like I had hoped. We stayed the night with my parents

last night

> and I told my mom I would need to be exploring public transportation

options

> because as of today the car payment is now 2 months late and Mr.

Repo will

> probably show up soon. They freaked and gave me the lecture about

having 2

> medically fragile kids and a million Dr appts with public

transportation is

> not going to work. So they wrote us a check (after lecturing me

about having

> to save our butts) but we have to move back home but the good news

is it

> means we'll get our old insurance back and they will cover 's

formula

> which means she will gain weight! I just feel like I've failed here

> though, so many opportunities in the city but when you can't work to

pay the

> higher costs of living here... There's also not much in the way of

support

> systems there:( Anyway, on the positive side rent is a lot cheaper,

we'll

> get our pedi back who is awesome, and my parents kindly pointed out

when

> they insisted on going over every expense with me on the cost of

living here

> vs. there that I actually MAKE MONEY in mileage reimbursement from

Regional

> Center living there. Not a whole lot but it usually made my car

payment and

> when we moved here we lost that. So, our lease ends at the end of

the month

> and goes to a month to month so I'm giving my 30 day notice on the

first (I

> don't want to have to deal with packing/moving during finals at

school in

> mid May) and that gives me about 6 weeks to sell as much as I can

and do

> what ever I can to come up with money to move (rental truck) and

> first/last/security and finding a place that will rent to someone who

> doesn't even make 2x the rent. How welfare expects people to pay

all there

> bills on $689 a month is beyond me. At least where were going the

average

> rent for a 2 bedroom is $550-$650 which is cheaper then here and

utilities

> are a lot cheaper too:) So there is hope, I just dread moving where

there is

> basically no social support networks (living near my parents is some

what of

> a negative to be honest, there far right wing conservatives and I'm

a single

> mother with not 1 but 2! children with different fathers no less and no

> intention of finding a husband anytime soon far left wing liberal.

We butt

> heads a lot:( Anyway, this will put us 110 miles from UCLA for

infusing and

> 170 miles from the children's hospital where everything else is but

we know

> the drill, we've done it for years. Just sucks to have to go back to

it:(

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