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This was for Bill, and not that ther is fortunately anything of too personal nature here. BUt surprised to see it on the loop; my mistake.

Nina

On Mon, 28 Jun 2010 21:21 -0400, " Nina Forest " <autismlearning@...> wrote:

I asked your work & background, thinking you might be a behavioralist or psychologist or something. I have a book about the 67 differences in the autism brain, almost done. Based on scanning research. But I haven't read exactly about " stress hormone " triggered. . .and it makes sense. I'm hiring a team for the book, to finish and have in medical school bookstores and then classes, if funded by investors being pitched to on Wall Street, for the book. And I'd look for a capacity for you if you're interested. I have a whole chapter on traits, coded with what areas of the brain create the behaviors. Then also accomodations.

Nina

On Tue, 29 Jun 2010 01:12 +0000, " Bill Nason " <nasonbill > wrote:

Yes, trying to hold off meltdowns is better then dealing with them once they occur. For most children with Asperger's, changes in routine, unexpected turn of events, or any uncertainty can lead to overload. They strive for predictability and control. They are fearful in the face of uncertainty. I often have great success with a procedure I call " clarify, verify, preview and review " to help prepare for all upcoming activity.

1. Clarify: Do not assume that the child " knows " . Clarify what is coming up and what is expected of the child in concrete, literal terms.

2. Verify: Don't assume they understood you. Ask them to verify they understand. You be surprised how often they misinterpret what you explain.

3. Preview: Preview all new situations ahead of time. Talk about what is going to happen, how long it will last, what is expected of him, and what will occur next. Prepare the child by giving them as much information as possible.

4. Review: Review the information just before entering the situation so it is fresh in the child's mind. In addition, you might want to add what the child should do if he starts to feel overwhelmed. Discuss proactive strategies to keep the child calm, and how to escape the situation if it becomes overwhelming.

This seems like a lot to remember, but the more you use it the more natural it becomes to prepare the child for events in his day. As the child gets older he can also learn to use these techniques on his own as self empowerment skills.

Wives! These techniques often work well with husbands as well...lol. We often have difficulty with unexpected changes and unprepared expectations.

Bill

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> > My 8 year old son has Aspergers and is prone to severe melt downs when things don't happen the way he planned or expected. Trying to explain things or reason with him are totally useless.

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> > My question is for both parents of children with Aspergers and also for people who have it. How do you get your child, or yourself, to calm down during a meltdown? Is there anything I can do or say, or anything that I should NOT do or say?

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> > I would love any advice you can share.

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> > Thank You - Lesa, a very frustrated mom

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