Guest guest Posted May 28, 2010 Report Share Posted May 28, 2010 My son-almost 16 years old-has always had an imaginary world that is very important for him to lower stress & anxiety. I believe it also lets him work things out-sort of mentally process new thoughts & information verbally. Instead of seeing it as a negative behavior and trying to change what seems so natural for him I have found a theatre class for him starting this fall. Are their any other parents with aspies in 'imaginary worlds' out there? I would also love to here about your experiences! Diane~mom to Cory From: bettynewcome@... Sent: Thursday, May 27, 2010 10:27 PM Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Imaginary World ? My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F.=======Email scanned by PC Tools - No viruses or spyware found.(Email Guard: 7.0.0.18, Virus/Spyware Database: 6.15090)http://free.pctools.com======= =======Email scanned by PC Tools - No viruses or spyware found.(Email Guard: 7.0.0.18, Virus/Spyware Database: 6.15100)http://free.pctools.com======= Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2010 Report Share Posted May 29, 2010 My son is 18yrs old.He sometimes goes into another world when he starts hand flapping.He will pace back and forth for about 10 mins. and then stop.He has done this starting at age 3.He only does this in a From: Diane <dimar13@...>Subject: Re: Imaginary World ?Autism and Aspergers Treatment Received: Friday, May 28, 2010, 9:03 AM My son-almost 16 years old-has always had an imaginary world that is very important for him to lower stress & anxiety. I believe it also lets him work things out-sort of mentally process new thoughts & information verbally. Instead of seeing it as a negative behavior and trying to change what seems so natural for him I have found a theatre class for him starting this fall. Are their any other parents with aspies in 'imaginary worlds' out there? I would also love to here about your experiences! Diane~mom to Cory From: bettynewcome@ att.net Sent: Thursday, May 27, 2010 10:27 PM Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Imaginary World ? My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F.=======Email scanned by PC Tools - No viruses or spyware found.(Email Guard: 7.0.0.18, Virus/Spyware Database: 6.15090)http://free. pctools.com======= =======Email scanned by PC Tools - No viruses or spyware found.(Email Guard: 7.0.0.18, Virus/Spyware Database: 6.15100)http://free. pctools.com======= Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2010 Report Share Posted May 29, 2010 My son goes into the hand flapping imaginary world.He is in in for about 10 mins at a time.He paces during this time.He has been doing this since age 3..He is now 18.He only performs this in a comfort area with people he is familiar with.Comment on your situation please..... From: bettynewcome@... <bettynewcome@...>Subject: Imaginary World ?Autism and Aspergers Treatment Received: Thursday, May 27, 2010, 10:27 PM My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2010 Report Share Posted May 29, 2010 My daughter used Barnie and barbies to process about the outside world, scenes loaded with all the feelings she perceives in others.. I think other kids would have talks with their moms or girlfriends. We watched a fascinting show on a CNN medical show where a woman was nonverbal, untreated. In CT got a computer keyboard that when she typed it would talk for her. And she was SOOO intelligent. They showed her in a window at a social event for mentally challenged flapping her hands. And the MD interviewing her asked her later about this behavior. And she said she was excited to meet them (but she was looking away). When he asked her what she'd do next time, to let someone know she was happy to meet them, she said " I'd flap my arms. " It's likely some area of the brain that is used to process interaction-- and he might just be thinking it thru later, trying to figure out what was going on-- short circuits or responds in a different way. I know anything to do with feeling for them is hard to express, though they feel us all w/o filters. Also, double messages by people can send my daughter into fits. Nina On Fri, 28 May 2010 17:57 -0700, " Hodgson " <rmistral29@...> wrote: My son goes into the hand flapping imaginary world.He is in in for about 10 mins at a time.He paces during this time.He has been doing this since age 3..He is now 18.He only performs this in a comfort area with people he is familiar with.Comment on your situation please..... From: bettynewcomeatt (DOT) net <bettynewcomeatt (DOT) net> Subject: Imaginary World ? Autism and Aspergers Treatment Received: Thursday, May 27, 2010, 10:27 PM My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F. -- Nina Forest autismlearning@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2010 Report Share Posted May 30, 2010 As a clinician, I think individuals on the spectrum develop fantasy worlds and friends because they are safe, understandable and predictable. The real world can be very difficult to regulate for children on the spectrum, so an imaginary world gives them a predictable world to process what is going on in their real world, as well as try out different social skills in a safe world. It provides a world for which they can feel " safe, accepted, and competent. " It is important to allow them their safe havens, as long as it doesn't become a preoccupation, isolating themselves for extended periods of time. I would even encouraging using the imaginary world as a way of trying out new social skills. I think acting/theater classes are also good. They allow the child to practice scripted social skills, perspective taking, and co-regulating interaction with others. Any tools that the person with autism/aspergers can use to process daily information, and cope with daily stress and anxiety are good. Bill > > > > > >>>> From: bettynewcome@ att.net <bettynewcome@ att.net> > >>>> Subject: Imaginary World ? > >>>> Autism and Aspergers Treatment > >>>> Received: Thursday, May 27, 2010, 10:27 PM > >> > >> > >> > >>My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F. > >> > >>>> > >> > -- > Nina Forest > autismlearning@ fastmail. fm > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2010 Report Share Posted May 30, 2010 Thanks BillFrom: Bill Nason <nasonbill@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Sun, May 30, 2010 7:24:31 AMSubject: Re: Imaginary World ? Imaginary friends help bridge the gaps between our often confusing, chaotic world and their world. It helps provide for the need for companionship, understanding, human connectiveness, and social learning so the child can explore his social world in a way that he/she feels safe, accepted, and competent. With imaginary friends there is no reading nonverbal communication, understanding hidden agendas, misinterpreting intent and perspective, and the judgement and teasing that comes along with real relating. It is a nice tool that the kids have to bridge the gaps that make real life so hard. It helps them learn in a safe way how to nagivate in our complex social life. > > > > > > > > >>>> From: bettynewcome@ att.net <bettynewcome@ att.net> > > >>>> Subject: Imaginary World ? > > >>>> Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > >>>> Received: Thursday, May 27, 2010, 10:27 PM > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >>My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F. > > >> > > >>>> > > >> > > -- > > Nina Forest > > autismlearning@ fastmail. fm > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2010 Report Share Posted May 30, 2010 You know Rhonda, the world of the aspie can be very beautiful when it is safe, and free of conflict. Our world can be such a struggle for these children, filled with constant barriers and irritations. Trying to regulate in a world that is not suited to the way your brain thinks is so exhausting. It is filled with insecurity, fears, and anxieties. When they get a chance to create a safe world of their own to escape to, to feel safe, accepted and competent, it can be a beautiful thing. They often times can let their true creativity shine. We need to meet these children half way, allow their true nature to shine, while teaching them how to adjust to our world. Bill > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> From: bettynewcome@ att.net <bettynewcome@ att.net> > > > >>>> Subject: Imaginary World ? > > > >>>> Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > > >>>> Received: Thursday, May 27, 2010, 10:27 PM > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >>My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F. > > > >> > > > >>>> > > > >> > > > -- > > > Nina Forest > > > autismlearning@ fastmail. fm > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2010 Report Share Posted May 30, 2010 My son, 12.5, has developed an imaginary person, named Ben Beanne. He is evil. So he told the physicians, who have now labeled him bipolar as well. I have explained to them that this is a way for my son to deal with society's expectations and misjudgements on him. That is why I have developed The Asperger Child Inc, to educate the community and schools, and to give guidance and services to the Asperger individual and their families. Awareness is key for these children. Society doesnt know what is going on and will place huge burdens on these kids. As long as they have a safe place to go, they can decompress and start to feel safe again.... then they have to start all over again. TheAspergerChild.org is my website. I am offering any information that I have to all of you. From: Bill Nason <nasonbill@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Sun, May 30, 2010 7:44:50 AMSubject: Re: Imaginary World ? You know Rhonda, the world of the aspie can be very beautiful when it is safe, and free of conflict. Our world can be such a struggle for these children, filled with constant barriers and irritations. Trying to regulate in a world that is not suited to the way your brain thinks is so exhausting. It is filled with insecurity, fears, and anxieties. When they get a chance to create a safe world of their own to escape to, to feel safe, accepted and competent, it can be a beautiful thing. They often times can let their true creativity shine.We need to meet these children half way, allow their true nature to shine, while teaching them how to adjust to our world.Bill> > > >> > > >> > > >>>> From: bettynewcome@ att.net <bettynewcome@ att.net>> > > >>>> Subject: Imaginary World ?> > > >>>> To: Autism and Aspergers Treatment> > > >>>> Received: Thursday, May 27, 2010, 10:27 PM> > > >>> > > >>> > > >> > > > >>My husband and I are frustrated with our daughter's imaginary world. We would like to hear other parents comment about their experiences with their children with ASD and their imaginary world! Betty (Our daughter is almost 14 years old. She has Autism, H-F.> > > >>> > > >>>> > > > >> > > > -- > > > Nina Forest> > > autismlearning@ fastmail. fm> > >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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