Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 In a message dated 3/30/00 6:07:06 PM Eastern Standard Time, Honeybear3899@... writes: << who is crying her eyes out right now... >> (((((((HEATHER))))))) I am so sorry. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. If you need to talk please email me. Take care! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 In a message dated 3/30/00 6:07:06 PM Eastern Standard Time, Honeybear3899@... writes: << who is crying her eyes out right now... >> (((((((HEATHER))))))) I am so sorry. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. If you need to talk please email me. Take care! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 In a message dated 03/30/2000 6:07:04 PM Eastern Standard Time, Honeybear3899@... writes: << who is crying her eyes out right now... >> , being a mom, I know there is no way I can comfort you it is the most unselfish act a woman can do Barb who cannot imagine your pain Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 , I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Is there anyway that you can see him more than twice a year? Or are finances really tight?? Check into military flight benefits...I think they are especially helpful when you need to visit family. Where is your son going to live if you don't mind me asking? Is there a base near there? I'm not saying yu have to transfer right now, but maybe a little down the road you might consider it. You are in my prayers, Hello all. I haven't posted in a long time. I am going througha really rough time right now. Many of you know that I am sending my son back to the mainland (I live in Hawaii) to live with his father, which in essence means I wills ee him twice a year for the next three and a half years. This has been the hardest decision of my life. Now, today, the movers are coming to pick my son's stuff up, and on Saturday, I am moving in to my new, one bedroom, lonely apartment. My heart is breaking ino a thousand pieces. The movers just got here, so I am off to pack away my little baby's stuff. He just turned one a few weeks ago on the 8th of March...Thanks for listening all. who is crying her eyes out right now... >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 To answer all questions, my son is going to be living in Ohio, there is no way for me to see him more than twice a year, cuz I don't get enough leave. I cannot transfer due to my field and they will not let me cross-train. My son's father and I are not married, and he is not in the military...in fact the reason that he is moving is because I cannot live with him anymore. I have thought of all other ways to do this, and nothing else will work....so I have to make this sacrifice. whose heart is going to break more for every day until next Thursday when my baby leaves me for the next three and a half years... In a message dated 3/30/00 7:40:58 PM Hawaiian Standard Time, cbmueller@... writes: << YIKES! why didn't I think of that! Is the father of your baby in the military? Can you apply for joint domocile? When I was in the Army, my husband was promoted to Warrant Officer and transfered immediately from Germany to Arizona. I still had about a year left on my tour. I applied for and received joint domocile (military program to help keep families together). If he is in the military and at a base where they have a need for your specialty, then it's almost a slam dunk. Or maybe a compasionate reassignment??? Oops, my husband (retired first sergeant) just told me to think about enlisted/reenlistment bonuses. If you enlisted/reenlisted for that duty assignment, they might not want to transfer you. I'd recommend you talk to someone you are comfortable with and can trust (chaplin, your supervisor, your commander, your IG, or maybe an agency like Army Emergency Relief (I'm sorry, but I forgot what branch you're in)). There may be a way where you can live closer to your baby. I'll keep thinking about it and see if I can come up with anything else. Love, LV, who's wracking her brains and knocking the dust off (it's been 14 years since I got out of the service) SSS and STYA Where is your son going to live if you don't mind me asking? Is there a base near there? I'm not saying yu have to transfer right now, but maybe a little down the road you might consider it. You are in my prayers, >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 Dear Honeybear, I can't even begin to imagine the pain you must be feeling right now. You've been through so many changes already this year, and now this on top of everything else. My heart goes out to you and your little sweet baby. Please know that when everything seems to be the darkest, that you have the love and support of everyone on this list. We'll be here to listen and provide e-hugs. Remember to continue to take care of yourself. You've got to dig down deep for the strength to get both of you through this. Love, LV, who wishes she could think of something to say to help Honeybear feel better SSS and STYA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 Honeybear3899@... wrote: > > Hello all. I haven't posted in a long time. I am going througha really > > rough time right now. Many of you know that I am sending my son back > to the > mainland (I live in Hawaii) to live with his father, which in essence > means I > wills ee him twice a year for the next three and a half years. This > has been > the hardest decision of my life. Now, today, the movers are coming to > pick > my son's stuff up, and on Saturday, I am moving in to my new, one > bedroom, > lonely apartment. My heart is breaking ino a thousand pieces. The > movers > just got here, so I am off to pack away my little baby's stuff. He > just > turned one a few weeks ago on the 8th of March...Thanks for listening > all. > > , I wish I could give you a big hug right now or a shoulder to cry on. Please, please turn to us this weekend and whenever you need some support. You are such a strong person and a good, good mother. We will be here for you. Elena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 {{{{{}}}}} I wish I could give you a real hug! Hang in there, and know we're here for you. ;-[ F honeybear389-@... wrote: original article:tae-bo_on/?start=16443 > Hello all. I haven't posted in a long time. I am going througha really > rough time right now. Many of you know that I am sending my son back to the > mainland (I live in Hawaii) to live with his father, which in essence means I > wills ee him twice a year for the next three and a half years. This has been > the hardest decision of my life. Now, today, the movers are coming to pick > my son's stuff up, and on Saturday, I am moving in to my new, one bedroom, > lonely apartment. My heart is breaking ino a thousand pieces. The movers > just got here, so I am off to pack away my little baby's stuff. He just > turned one a few weeks ago on the 8th of March...Thanks for listening all. > > > who is crying her eyes out right now... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2000 Report Share Posted March 30, 2000 YIKES! why didn't I think of that! Is the father of your baby in the military? Can you apply for joint domocile? When I was in the Army, my husband was promoted to Warrant Officer and transfered immediately from Germany to Arizona. I still had about a year left on my tour. I applied for and received joint domocile (military program to help keep families together). If he is in the military and at a base where they have a need for your specialty, then it's almost a slam dunk. Or maybe a compasionate reassignment??? Oops, my husband (retired first sergeant) just told me to think about enlisted/reenlistment bonuses. If you enlisted/reenlisted for that duty assignment, they might not want to transfer you. I'd recommend you talk to someone you are comfortable with and can trust (chaplin, your supervisor, your commander, your IG, or maybe an agency like Army Emergency Relief (I'm sorry, but I forgot what branch you're in)). There may be a way where you can live closer to your baby. I'll keep thinking about it and see if I can come up with anything else. Love, LV, who's wracking her brains and knocking the dust off (it's been 14 years since I got out of the service) SSS and STYA Where is your son going to live if you don't mind me asking? Is there a base near there? I'm not saying yu have to transfer right now, but maybe a little down the road you might consider it. You are in my prayers, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 In a message dated 3/30/00 6:06:44 PM Eastern Standard Time, Honeybear3899@... writes: << Hello all. I haven't posted in a long time. I am going througha really rough time right now. Many of you know that I am sending my son back to the mainland (I live in Hawaii) to live with his father, which in essence means I wills ee him twice a year for the next three and a half years. This has been the hardest decision of my life. Now, today, the movers are coming to pick my son's stuff up, and on Saturday, I am moving in to my new, one bedroom, lonely apartment. My heart is breaking ino a thousand pieces. The movers just got here, so I am off to pack away my little baby's stuff. He just turned one a few weeks ago on the 8th of March...Thanks for listening all. who is crying her eyes out right now... ----- >> Hi . My thoughts are with you during this tough time. I " m so sorry you have to go thru all this - you are so unselfish and brave - you are a great mother. We are always here to listen. Take Care Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 Also, if the military gives you any problems with transfer, flights etc. Let me know. I will get you in touch with your Senator. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 , What is you MOS and how long have you been in the military? When are you for re-enlistment? Is Hawaii the only base that utilizes your MOS? Let us know the details. Some of us are in Gov't some are former military and we might be able to help you with some loop holes. Maybe even if its just one more trip a year. Also, you and your sons fathers financial circumstances might change for the better over the next year or two and maybe he can visit you a couple of times a year also. No matter what the outcome, this is a terriblyhard situation for you. We all care about you and will be thinking of you! << To answer all questions, my son is going to be living in Ohio, there is no way for me to see him more than twice a year, cuz I don't get enough leave. I cannot transfer due to my field and they will not let me cross-train. My son's father and I are not married, and he is not in the military...in fact the reason that he is moving is because I cannot live with him anymore. I have thought of all other ways to do this, and nothing else will work....so I have to make this sacrifice. whose heart is going to break more for every day until next Thursday when my baby leaves me for the next three and a half years... >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 honeybear389-@... wrote: original article:tae-bo_on/?start=16443 > Hello all. I haven't posted in a long time. I am going througha really > rough time right now. Many of you know that I am sending my son back to the > mainland (I live in Hawaii) to live with his father, which in essence means I > wills ee him twice a year for the next three and a half years. This has been > the hardest decision of my life. Now, today, the movers are coming to pick > my son's stuff up, and on Saturday, I am moving in to my new, one bedroom, > lonely apartment. My heart is breaking ino a thousand pieces. The movers > just got here, so I am off to pack away my little baby's stuff. He just > turned one a few weeks ago on the 8th of March...Thanks for listening all. > > > who is crying her eyes out right now... ((((((())))))) As a mother I can only begin to imagine the pain you are feeling right now. I know there is really nothing I can say that will make things any better for you right now, but please know that I am thinking about you and praying that you find the strength to get through this difficult time. You are making the ultimate sacrifice for your child and you are an incredible mom. I hope you can find peace in knowing that you are doing what is best for your son It doesn't lessen the pain that you are feeling, but it helps to know that you are doing something positive for your son! Please know that we are all thinking about you and if you need someone to vent to, or cry to, or just someone to listen....we are all here! You are incredibly strong and brave and you will get through this....just lean on us when you need to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 Oh , my heart is aching right along with you. I honestly don't have the right words for you in this situation, but please remember, you do have people that really care for you............................. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 Oh , my heart is aching right along with you. I honestly don't have the right words for you in this situation, but please remember, you do have people that really care for you............................. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 In a message dated 3/30/00 5:07:01 PM Central Standard Time, Honeybear3899@... writes: << Hello all. I haven't posted in a long time. I am going througha really rough time right now. Many of you know that I am sending my son back to the mainland (I live in Hawaii) to live with his father, which in essence means I wills ee him twice a year for the next three and a half years. This has been the hardest decision of my life. Now, today, the movers are coming to pick my son's stuff up, and on Saturday, I am moving in to my new, one bedroom, lonely apartment. My heart is breaking ino a thousand pieces. The movers just got here, so I am off to pack away my little baby's stuff. He just turned one a few weeks ago on the 8th of March...Thanks for listening all. who is crying her eyes out right now... >> HEATHER I AM CRYING WITH YOU ILL PRAY FOR YOU TO GET THROUGH THIS I IMAGINE IT MUST BE HARD {{{{{{{{{{{HEATHER}}}}}}}}}}}} ROMIE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 I am a Tagalog linguist, and yes this is the only place I can be stationed. I would get out of the Navy, but I can't afford to...I know that sounds bad, but I really can't...so I have to make a few sacrifices...My parents think I am doing this so that I can " capture the youth that having a child has taken " ...which is BS...I could care less about " being young " ...I am 21 going on 35...I appreciate everyone's support. I am just going to have to fight through this, and hope for the best. I appreciate everyone's prayers. Thanks all. ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 In a message dated 04/01/2000 1:40:32 AM Eastern Standard Time, Honeybear3899@... writes: << .My parents think I am doing this so that I can " capture the youth that having a child has taken " ...which is BS...I could care less about " being young " ...I am 21 going on 35.. >> sounds more like your folks are trying to keep you from growing up by not supporting your own difficult decisions and being travel agents for guilt trips. Barb who at 51 still has a mom who tries to be a travel agent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2000 Report Share Posted April 1, 2000 In a message dated 4/1/00 12:40:37 AM Central Standard Time, Honeybear3899@... writes: << I am a Tagalog linguist, and yes this is the only place I can be stationed. I would get out of the Navy, but I can't afford to...I know that sounds bad, but I really can't...so I have to make a few sacrifices...My parents think I am doing this so that I can " capture the youth that having a child has taken " ...which is BS...I could care less about " being young " ...I am 21 going on 35...I appreciate everyone's support. I am just going to have to fight through this, and hope for the best. I appreciate everyone's prayers. Thanks all. >> , my Dad and his buddy (Navy vet and a Commander in the Navy)suggested you talk with the Chaplain regarding your situation. The Chaplain often has more pull than you might think. Not only will it help you vent, but he/she may be able to help you brainstorm on how you can see your son more, even if they can arrange more paid family leave for you. In the very least you can talk to someone in the military who will give you a sympathetic ear and soem warm word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2000 Report Share Posted April 1, 2000 In a message dated 4/1/00 7:53:15 PM Hawaiian Standard Time, GalofGOP@... writes: << , my Dad and his buddy (Navy vet and a Commander in the Navy)suggested you talk with the Chaplain regarding your situation. The Chaplain often has more pull than you might think. Not only will it help you vent, but he/she may be able to help you brainstorm on how you can see your son more, even if they can arrange more paid family leave for you. In the very least you can talk to someone in the military who will give you a sympathetic ear and soem warm word. >> I appreciate your advic, but I already talked to the chaplain, and he is unable to help me. He does not have enough pull to get me out of here. I am just going to rough it out here, becuas, trust me, there is no way that I am getting out of here early. I appreciate all of your advice, but I have exhausted all of my options. crying more and more every day that the 6th comes closer.........only 5 more days ::sob:: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2000 Report Share Posted April 2, 2000 In a message dated 4/1/00 6:36:53 AM Central Daylight Time, Horsemom2@... writes: << << .My parents think I am doing this so that I can " capture the youth that having a child has taken " ...which is BS...I could care less about " being young " ...I am 21 going on 35.. >> sounds more like your folks are trying to keep you from growing up by not supporting your own difficult decisions and being travel agents for guilt trips. Barb who at 51 still has a mom who tries to be a travel agent >> HEAHER IM SORRY THAT YOUR PARENTS DONT SEE YOU ARE TRYING TO MAKE A BETTER FUTURE FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY ..IMO THEY SHOULD SUPPORT YOU IF MY DAUGHTER WAS IN YOUR SITUATION I WOULD GO TO HER AND HELP HER OUT SO SHE WOULDNT HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE SUFFERING YOU ARE GOING THROUGH MY KIDS ARE FIRST IN MY BOOK AND I WOULD GO TO ANY EXTEND TO MAKE THEM COMFORTABLE WITHOUT MAKING THEM SPOILED BRATS.... YOU HABG IN THERE YOU ARE TRYING TO BETTER YOURSELF AND YOUR SON MIGHT NOT UNDERSTAND THAT TILL HE IS OLDER BUT HE WILL HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR YOU WHEN HE RELIZES HOW MUCH YOU WENT THROUGH FOR HIM ..... YOUR IN MY PRAYERS ROMIE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2000 Report Share Posted April 3, 2000 , No matter what reason or reasons your baby has to go to the states it would be terribly painful and heartbreaking. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} Our prayers are with you and we're here for you with broad shoulders for anything. I believe God made a mother's love strong and more nurturing than any other love. We as mothers do whatever is best for our child no matter what that means. , trust in God at this time and He will give you strength and guidance to get through this. Like, I said we're all here for you. Sherry /Email me if you need to tinkerdove@... > I am a Tagalog linguist, and yes this is the only place I can be stationed. > I would get out of the Navy, but I can't afford to...I know that sounds bad, > but I really can't...so I have to make a few sacrifices...My parents think I > am doing this so that I can " capture the youth that having a child has > taken " ...which is BS...I could care less about " being young " ...I am 21 going > on 35...I appreciate everyone's support. I am just going to have to fight > through this, and hope for the best. I appreciate everyone's prayers. > Thanks all. > > ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2000 Report Share Posted April 3, 2000 , No matter what reason or reasons your baby has to go to the states it would be terribly painful and heartbreaking. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} Our prayers are with you and we're here for you with broad shoulders for anything. I believe God made a mother's love strong and more nurturing than any other love. We as mothers do whatever is best for our child no matter what that means. , trust in God at this time and He will give you strength and guidance to get through this. Like, I said we're all here for you. Sherry /Email me if you need to tinkerdove@... > I am a Tagalog linguist, and yes this is the only place I can be stationed. > I would get out of the Navy, but I can't afford to...I know that sounds bad, > but I really can't...so I have to make a few sacrifices...My parents think I > am doing this so that I can " capture the youth that having a child has > taken " ...which is BS...I could care less about " being young " ...I am 21 going > on 35...I appreciate everyone's support. I am just going to have to fight > through this, and hope for the best. I appreciate everyone's prayers. > Thanks all. > > ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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