Re: Child Care for my Son - Help!@colbys_mom02

March 10, 2008

Hello,

My aspie son is now 13 and has grown out of alot of that madness, so

trust and belive it can get better. Hit me up offline so I can offer

some words of encourgement and a possible resource.

Kim,

>

> Hi. I'm new to the group but I'm hoping that by posting this someone

> out there has a suggestion for me. My son is 5, and has been diagnosed

> with Asperbergers and severe ADHD. He currently attends school /

> therapy at Delacey Family Education Center in Carpentersville, IL. He

> started going there full day in January. I feel like all the programs

> out there and all the things my son is eligible for is geared at moms

> that stay at home due to the " hours of operation. " My problem is that

> I am a single mother and not working...well is not an option. I have

> to work or we don't eat. My son's school is only until 2:30 so he has

> been with babysitters after school gets out until I can pick him up

> after my work day ends around 5. He gets bused from school to the

> sitters. My problem is that since January he has been with 4 different

> babysitters - 4!!! These babysitters all have good intentions but

> just can't handle my son - even the ones that claim they have

> experience with his specific needs can't handle him. He's not a bad

> kid and I don't want him to " hide " behind his diagnosed issues or

> excuse his behavior but he is tough to handle at times (I'm his mom,

> believe me I know this). The problem is that now his most recent

> (and most promising) babysitter just told me she will allow my son to

> stay for the month of March but after that I have to find other care

> for him. I want to rip my hair out!!! Routine is something that is

> very important for him. How can we get into routine if he is

> constantly changing babysitters? Nothing is longer than a few weeks,

> sometimes days at a time. He has been kicked out of all the

> traditional daycare places also as they couldn't handle hime either

> so that is not an option. I have contacted 4-C of McHenry County

> several times and have worked with their list of providers - those

> were the ones that kicked him out faster than anyone. I have placed

> ads in the paper, on craigs list but I am having a very difficult

> time finding stability and a sitter that can handle him. I am so

> frustrated I want to cry. HELP! Any suggestions????

>

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