Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Re: > 1) Kate, logically, it seems that you can successfully communicate on > a personal level if it pertains to business, so it is not a stretch > to imagine that you can do that here. What happens in logic, imagination, or theory does not necessarily get to happen in real life. Re: >2) Surely some of your clients are not quite as articulate as you >are? And surely some of them cannot spell as well as you? When I don't understand something that my clients say or write, I ask them about it — just as I ask people here. When I ask clients about something I don't understand, they explain it — case closed. When I have to ask clients about something I don't understand, the clients explain what they meant, and we go on to the next thing. No client has told me that (e.g.) if I just became a nicer person, used my intelligence, sounded out the words, and/or appropriately perceived context cues, I would really understand. Naturally, this leaves me feeling a lot more comfortable with my clients than I often feel here. I would like to feel at least as comfortable here as I feel at work. So ... what do I have to do in order to get talked to here (not just at work) in a way that would feel more comfortable? I don't " delight " in the discomfort — I find it painful. Re your welcome clarification that: > 9) The forum ,,, is an " As is " forum ... if the administrator(s), moderator(s), > members, or the verbiage, diction, spelling and punctuation used by > the aforementioned people does not meet with your level of > expectancy, you are free to leave. I'll act accordingly. Does this mean that, if I don't understand something, I shouldn't ask? (In other words, does asking about something not understood indicate the wrong " level of expectancy " ?) Kate Gladstone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Do as you please, my concience is untroubled. But common courtesy is definitely not your thing : ) > > P.S. Motto for the day: Common courtesy is not just an NT construct. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 yarahui wrote: " Do as you please, my concience is untroubled. But common courtesy is definitely not your thing : ) " Personal attacks are not tolerated, yarahui. Please post accordingly. Thank you. Raven Co-Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2007 Report Share Posted January 31, 2007 " I would like to feel at least as comfortable here as I feel at work. So ... what do I have to do in order to get talked to here (not just at work) in a way that would feel more comfortable? " Sometimes when people post here I don't understand quite what they are saying, even though I know they are expresing themselves as best they can. But I know from experience that asking for them to clarify would not accomplish anything except to frustrate them. In these instances, I elect to let it go. I don't like to frustrate people. " Does this mean that, if I don't understand something, I shouldn't ask? " It's a judgement call. Sometimes I do not understand everything everyone says, but I value their companionship and friendship so much that I do not wish to jeopardize it by nit-picking. " (In other words, does asking about something not understood indicate the wrong " level of expectancy " ?) " I think asking someone to clarify what they meant is okay. But spelling errors happen. And some people use vocabulary that we've never heard before. In the first instance, we can guess at meaning. In the second instance, we can look up the word. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2007 Report Share Posted January 31, 2007 Thanks, Tom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2007 Report Share Posted January 31, 2007 " Do as you please, my concience is untroubled. " " But common courtesy is definitely not your thing : ) " In reply to what I said: " P.S. Motto for the day: Common courtesy is not just an NT construct. " My answer to this: Common courtesy wasn't her thing either. She left the forum without giving me time to reply to her statement. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2007 Report Share Posted January 31, 2007 Re: > Common courtesy wasn't her thing either. She left the forum without > giving me time to reply to her statement. Who did, Tom? Kate Gladstone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2007 Report Share Posted January 31, 2007 > Common courtesy wasn't her thing either. She left the forum without > giving me time to reply to her statement. " Who did, Tom? " Yarahui left. Which is fine. Members can come and go as they please. Although I am hard pressed to know why I should accept her back if she re-applied to the forums given her hypocrisy. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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