Raising Children WAS: Space Invaders

[Guest guest]

wrote: " ... <snip> ... I'm not sure I understand you well ,

but if you are saying that children will learn better behaviour by

being regimented I am alarmed. If they do learn better behaviour in

this way, what is likely to happen is that they will internalize all

the anger and frustration. They will lead very unhappy lives. "

mimi, Beth, myself and other parents understand that all children --

AS and non-AS -- need rules by which to live. They are not born

with a natural knowledge of the rules by which society expects

people to abide nor are they born with an understanding of the

consequences of their actions. These have to be taught to children.

However, because people with AS are naturally more inclined to seek

out rules of engagement in any setting, it makes sense to provide

these children with the rules as consistently and as lovingly as

possible.

While a non-AS child may not understand the reasons for the rules

but will follow them out of a fear of disappointing the parent or

parents, an AS child not only wants to understand the reasons for

the rules, but will be much more willing to abide by them because

they make sense and have been properly explained to the child.

Children learn better behaviour when they are raised with clearly

defined parameters and consequences for poor choices, neither of

which leads to internalizing " all the anger and frustration " and

forcing them to " lead very unhappy lives. "

A child with no guidance, with no rules, with no attentive parent to

guide and mentor him or her is the one that grows to become angry

and frustrated thereby leading a very unhappy life. It is always

comforting to know where the limits are in life and then to act

accordingly.

Why would you think otherwise?

Raven