Re: Cutting Dangerously Close

[Guest guest]

I agree that a man imposing his will upon a woman because he may

think he knows what she wants because of the clothes she wears, the

way she acts, etc.. is wrong, no ifs, ands, or buts about it.

I've been in a situation where I was very, very close to

being " taken advantage of " by a guy that I had just met through

friends. It had nothing to do with what I was wearing (blue geans

and a t-shirt)and I did not try to give him any reason to think I

was interested in him as anything more than a friend. I believe this

happened because:

1. My bad judgement to go for a ride on his new motorcycle when I

barely knew him.(Yes, I do think I put myself at risk and was

responsible for putting myself in danger)

2. His lust and intention to use me. I may have missed hints or

clues to what he had in mind.

I was very lucky that day, my quick thinking and persuasive lie

(don't know how I was able to) are all that saved me. Even if I had

been dressed " slutty " it wouldn't excuse his actions. After that

experience though, I will never dress to arouse knowing what some

men can be capable of. I was never much for fashion anyway, comfort

is my style.

That is all I'll say about this subject.

Kim

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> I would like to mention that I feel this discussion is getting

> dangerously close to providing an excuse for men to have their way

> with women regardless of what women may be saying to the men. In

> other words, the discussion is headed towards the idea that if a

> woman is sexually harassed or attacked, she " asked for it. "

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> Regardless of how someone dresses, it is never a good enough

excuse to overstep another person's boundaries.

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> Raven

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