Re: New and uncomfortable thought...

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry I don't have any experience with this one. My dd does have the knives

one. I just wanted to say that my dd's pdoc recommended that she start wearing

panty liners about the time she started to mature so that if she started her

period she'd be coverd. She got it at age 11.5...and the OCD symptoms

skyrocketted after that.

Laurie

cathydeg <acandk@...> wrote:

Hi all! I don't usually post very often...I mainly read and gain

great insight from many of the posts here. But today I do have a

question and I'm in search of answers and advice.

I have an 11-yr. old daughter Becca. She was diagnosed with OCD in

Sept. 2006. At first her obsessions were about knives and thoughts of

touching them and cutting. Through therapy, she seems to have battled

them out. She does have other obsessions, however, it seems that we

have a new, very sensitve thought/obsession. (Sorry...this may get a

bit graphic)

Becca tells me she feels like she's peed in her pants. She goes to

the bathroom a dozen times or more because she feels she needs to

check that she didn't. I have let her wear panty liners so it would

give her more confidence that she's nice and dry. (She's 11 and

hasn't gotten her period yet, so I know that she may be a little

worried about that as well.) I also don't want her to do any physical

harm to herself by wiping too much.

I guess what makes this so frustrating is that she just saw her

therapist TODAY, and they talked about bullying back the OCD by doing

something other than what the " pain in the butt " tells you to do.

She invited a friend over but went to the bathroom 5 times since she

got here, almost two hours ago.

Please, any advice or help would be greatly appreciated!!!

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[Guest guest]

Hi, I know this has often come up in this group over the years. And,

sadly, LOL, I can't think right now of what all parents have tried.

I guess it's just something that has to be worked on the " usual " way

by trying *not* to go check so often, put up with the feeling/thought

that she might be wet/damp there, try to " hold out " before checking,

set a goal of only " so many " checks a day or something.

But let her know that other girls with OCD have gone through this

too!

single mom, 3 *sons*!

, 18, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers

>

> Hi all! I don't usually post very often...I mainly read and gain

> great insight from many of the posts here. But today I do have a

> question and I'm in search of answers and advice.

>

> I have an 11-yr. old daughter Becca. She was diagnosed with OCD in

> Sept. 2006. At first her obsessions were about knives and thoughts

of

[Guest guest]

What would happen if you set a timer for an hour and told her she can only go in

the bathroom and check when the timer rings? If that works, then keep setting

the time for longer and longer periods. If an hour is too long, then do

whatever time would work. She is old enough to get her imput on how long she

thinks she could go with out having to go check. Maybe have a reward for doing

this?

Sharon

New and uncomfortable thought...

Hi all! I don't usually post very often...I mainly read and gain

great insight from many of the posts here. But today I do have a

question and I'm in search of answers and advice.

I have an 11-yr. old daughter Becca. She was diagnosed with OCD in

Sept. 2006. At first her obsessions were about knives and thoughts of

touching them and cutting. Through therapy, she seems to have battled

them out. She does have other obsessions, however, it seems that we

have a new, very sensitve thought/obsession. (Sorry...this may get a

bit graphic)

Becca tells me she feels like she's peed in her pants. She goes to

the bathroom a dozen times or more because she feels she needs to

check that she didn't. I have let her wear panty liners so it would

give her more confidence that she's nice and dry. (She's 11 and

hasn't gotten her period yet, so I know that she may be a little

worried about that as well.) I also don't want her to do any physical

harm to herself by wiping too much.

I guess what makes this so frustrating is that she just saw her

therapist TODAY, and they talked about bullying back the OCD by doing

something other than what the " pain in the butt " tells you to do.

She invited a friend over but went to the bathroom 5 times since she

got here, almost two hours ago.

Please, any advice or help would be greatly appreciated!!!

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

My son and daughter used to do this. What I ended up doing was limiting their

times going to the bathroom. My dd used to change her underwear every hour,

telling me they were " wet " .My son used to come up to me every 15 minutes and say "

I think I peed in my pants " " Did I? " Are my pants wet? "

Is your dd on any medication? I found the meds helped my kids . There is also

CBT therapy and ERP.Is she getting that with her therapist?

I had to limit answering my son also. I told him I was going to ignore him

everytime he asked if he was wet, because he knew it was the OCD MONSTER, and

that it was the ocd telling him he was wet.

Hope this helps some! On a positive note, neither of my kids do that anymore.

(Thank God!!!!)

Hugs

Judy

[Guest guest]

My daughter has this from time to time but it doesn't last long anymore. KH

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[Guest guest]

hi cathy

funny we have something similar here right now - but it's seems to be

both dd's - and I'm on the fence of younger one being copycat

beahavior or OCD - or a urinary infection??? - anyway - I actually

decided to ERP it and figured that will help me see if it's truly

medical

they both have been feeling like they have to go right after going and

I'm actually telling them, it's just a feeling - you just went - you

know you're empty, you know you're not going to pee etc and then

trying to distract even if for a while and then let them go if it's

THAT bad a while later- it will let her see she's not going to have an

accident and gain confidence - hope this does something

actually the OCD one woke the other a.m. telling me she was wet and

had an accident and my guess is discharge??? because pee wouldn't dry

in I told her and the bedding wasn't wet and didn't smell - I had to

prove to her that she didn't have one - I don't think she totally

believes me but I'm hearing it a bit less (I think )- we'll continue -

don't know if this helps

good luck

eileen

Quoting cathydeg <acandk@...>:

> Hi all! I don't usually post very often...I mainly read and gain

> great insight from many of the posts here. But today I do have a

> question and I'm in search of answers and advice.

>

> I have an 11-yr. old daughter Becca. She was diagnosed with OCD in

> Sept. 2006. At first her obsessions were about knives and thoughts of

> touching them and cutting. Through therapy, she seems to have battled

> them out. She does have other obsessions, however, it seems that we

> have a new, very sensitve thought/obsession. (Sorry...this may get a

> bit graphic)

>

> Becca tells me she feels like she's peed in her pants. She goes to

> the bathroom a dozen times or more because she feels she needs to

> check that she didn't. I have let her wear panty liners so it would

> give her more confidence that she's nice and dry. (She's 11 and

> hasn't gotten her period yet, so I know that she may be a little

> worried about that as well.) I also don't want her to do any physical

> harm to herself by wiping too much.

>

> I guess what makes this so frustrating is that she just saw her

> therapist TODAY, and they talked about bullying back the OCD by doing

> something other than what the " pain in the butt " tells you to do.

> She invited a friend over but went to the bathroom 5 times since she

> got here, almost two hours ago.

>

> Please, any advice or help would be greatly appreciated!!!

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

My son just started doing this a few weeks ago. It started after he

had flu. I'm sure it wasn't strep, but his problem went from minor to

big very quickly. We started him on Lexapro 2 weeks ago, so far

things are getting worse, but they started him on a low dose. They've

been having trouble getting him out of the bathroom at school too. He

spent an hour in there one day. I had to get the counselor to get him

out another day so I could take him to a doctor appointment. The

worst part is his screeching when I refuse to answer him. I swear

I've had a headache for a month now.

>

> Hi ,

> My son and daughter used to do this. What I ended up doing was

limiting their times going to the bathroom. My dd used to change her

underwear every hour, telling me they were " wet " .My son used to come

up to me every 15 minutes and say " I think I peed in my pants " " Did

I? " Are my pants wet? "

> Is your dd on any medication? I found the meds helped my kids .

There is also CBT therapy and ERP.Is she getting that with her

therapist?

> I had to limit answering my son also. I told him I was going to

ignore him everytime he asked if he was wet, because he knew it was

the OCD MONSTER, and that it was the ocd telling him he was wet.

> Hope this helps some! On a positive note, neither of my kids do

that anymore. (Thank God!!!!)

> Hugs

> Judy

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

We've been through similar bathroom problems. My nephew and son both

went through the thing where they thought there was a drop of pee in

their underwear, so kept changing them. My son took it to a whole new

level though. Not knowing he had OCD then, did not help. He kept

telling us he couldn't get all of his pee out. We took him to

specialist after specialist. They told us he needed invasive tests,

which we weren't sure he would handle well, so opted not to. We were

also told he had a condition called meatal stenosis (sp?), which

basically means the hole at the end of the penis is not large enough.

They wanted to do surgery and enlarge it. Once again, we decided to

wait. I'm glad we did, because it turned out to be OCD related. We

had no idea that OCD could cause problems like that in the bathroom.

Our son got so bad (after years of this) that he couldn't come out of

the bathroom. He spent hours in there, crying because his legs would

hurt from standing. He would then sit instead, but his legs would go

numb from sitting so long. That is when we started wondering if it

was somehow related to his OCD. He went on meds and his bathroom

problems he'd had for years, disappeared. It was a huge relief. Just

knowing there was not anything structural going on that we were

ignoring was a big relief too.

BJ

>

> Hi all! I don't usually post very often...I mainly read and gain

> great insight from many of the posts here. But today I do have a

> question and I'm in search of answers and advice.

>

> I have an 11-yr. old daughter Becca. She was diagnosed with OCD in

> Sept. 2006. At first her obsessions were about knives and thoughts of

> touching them and cutting. Through therapy, she seems to have battled

> them out. She does have other obsessions, however, it seems that we

> have a new, very sensitve thought/obsession. (Sorry...this may get a

> bit graphic)

>

> Becca tells me she feels like she's peed in her pants. She goes to

> the bathroom a dozen times or more because she feels she needs to

> check that she didn't. I have let her wear panty liners so it would

> give her more confidence that she's nice and dry. (She's 11 and

> hasn't gotten her period yet, so I know that she may be a little

> worried about that as well.) I also don't want her to do any physical

> harm to herself by wiping too much.

>

> I guess what makes this so frustrating is that she just saw her

> therapist TODAY, and they talked about bullying back the OCD by doing

> something other than what the " pain in the butt " tells you to do.

> She invited a friend over but went to the bathroom 5 times since she

> got here, almost two hours ago.

>

> Please, any advice or help would be greatly appreciated!!!

>

>

>