Re: Advice needed for son entering college - please help

[Guest guest]

Please go on and tell the universities, more than likely you will have to

eventually let them know. I tried not telling my daughter's school this year.

She had just entered middle school. After about 2 wks, I had to discuss the

situation in order for them to " accomadate her needs " . I believe that there is

a law that protects people that have mental illnesses from being discrimated

against. I believe it is called 501 or something to that effect. When my

daughter was in elementary school, they derived a plan for her under this law.

Please forgive me it is late, and I am very tired. It helps to go on and let

the faculty know early instead of " throwing " it at them later when school is in

full swing. I am speaking from experience. Good luck to your son, I know this

is hard. We have lived w/OCD for 6 yrs, and sometimes I think it takes over the

whole family.

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[Guest guest]

Thanks so much for the advice! Just to help clarify the situation, we

are definitely planning to tell the university once he is accepted and

enrolled.

But we're hesitant to do so right now, when the knowledge that he has

OCD might make university officials less inclined to grant him the

same exceptions for students with " physical " medical situations.

Evidently " special exceptions " allowing students to make up courses

over summer are made on a case-by-case basis, which can get

subjective. A few staff members we have sounded out are eager to

accommodate students who have had car accidents or physical

breakdowns, but seem to back off on psychiatric disorders. In this

situation, do we tell the administrators now? Or do we wait?

- Ix Behemoth

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> Please go on and tell the universities, more than likely you will

have to eventually let them know. I tried not telling my daughter's

school this year. She had just entered middle school. After about 2

wks, I had to discuss the situation in order for them to " accomadate

her needs " . I believe that there is a law that protects people that

have mental illnesses from being discrimated against. I believe it is

called 501 or something to that effect. When my daughter was in

elementary school, they derived a plan for her under this law. Please

forgive me it is late, and I am very tired. It helps to go on and let

the faculty know early instead of " throwing " it at them later when

school is in full swing. I am speaking from experience. Good luck to

your son, I know this is hard. We have lived w/OCD for 6 yrs, and

sometimes I think it takes over the whole family.

>

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> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Autos.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, I'm about to go thru this. My OCD son starts college next

fall. My understanding is to, at time of enrollment, notify their

disability dept of his diagnosis (some type proof is required,

figure I'll have to get something from his former psychiatrist) so

that the " paperwork " can be started. I think the students pretty

much have to talk on their own to their instructors, sort of

advocate for themselves about what accommodations/modifications are

needed, tho I hope they each get the " paperwork " from the office

too. Look on the college's website for their disability

dept/office, it usually shows what is required.

Mental illness is a disability (OCD is a mental illness), and OCD

may be new to the school personnel (hard to understand why,

considering how many of us are in this group, LOL), I just figure

it's more people for us parents and kids to educate about OCD and

how it can affect people/students.

Since our kids are 18, they do have to sign a paper from the college

that will allow us parents and the college to talk about it.

Gotta run, but let me know what you find out. is going to

our community college first so we don't have to apply right now.

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> > Please go on and tell the universities, more than likely you will

> have to eventually let them know. I tried not telling my

daughter's

> school this year. She had just entered middle school. After about

2

> wks, I had to discuss the situation in order for them

to " accomadate

> her needs " . I believe that there is a law that protects people

that

> have mental illnesses from being discrimated against. I believe

it is

> called 501 or something to that effect. When my daughter was in

> elementary school, they derived a plan for her under this law.

Please

> forgive me it is late, and I am very tired. It helps to go on and

let

> the faculty know early instead of " throwing " it at them later when

> school is in full swing. I am speaking from experience. Good

luck to

> your son, I know this is hard. We have lived w/OCD for 6 yrs, and

> sometimes I think it takes over the whole family.

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> > Check outnew cars at Autos.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi, Chris. I'm wondering, do you think is ready for college?

I ask because our plan is that Josh will do Running Start and take

classes at a community college, which thankfully is a year and a half

away yet. Right now he can't even do school work at home because the

intrusive thoughts won't let him concentrate. And I know that

also suffers from that type of OCD. You've shared that he is having a

rough time of it lately too, so I was wondering what his

fears/concerns are concerning college. . And yours too. Because,

lately, I have a lot of concern that Josh might now be able to handle

the stress of college. My thoughts are, if we get his OCD under

control now, then put him in college, the stress might make it all

come back. I don't know if that is true, but it concerns me a lot.

BJ

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> > > Please go on and tell the universities, more than likely you will

> > have to eventually let them know. I tried not telling my

> daughter's

> > school this year. She had just entered middle school. After about

> 2

> > wks, I had to discuss the situation in order for them

> to " accomadate

> > her needs " . I believe that there is a law that protects people

> that

> > have mental illnesses from being discrimated against. I believe

> it is

> > called 501 or something to that effect. When my daughter was in

> > elementary school, they derived a plan for her under this law.

> Please

> > forgive me it is late, and I am very tired. It helps to go on and

> let

> > the faculty know early instead of " throwing " it at them later when

> > school is in full swing. I am speaking from experience. Good

> luck to

> > your son, I know this is hard. We have lived w/OCD for 6 yrs, and

> > sometimes I think it takes over the whole family.

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> > > Check outnew cars at Autos.

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

My oldest is 12, but I think I would wait until he was accepted at the

university and then tell them about the OCD when enrolling. I would

like to think that they would be objective about the OCD, but if they

are looking at lots of equal applications, they may go with another

child that would be " easier " . If they asked specifically why he needed

to make up the classes in the summer, then I would say something, but I

wouldn't volunteer it up front.

This said, I have been very open with my daughter's teachers. Her

friends know, her friend's families, church families, etc. and it's all

been fine. But, for something as important as a favorite college, I

wouldn't give more information than was necessary. Just my opinion, of

course!

Dina

[Guest guest]

BJ, plans are now for to go to the community college. And

I'm soooo glad we had already planned this before his OCD kicked in

so bad.

He's still doing OK at school, straight A's, but he does have a hard

time with work on nights when thoughts are bad. But the workload for

this semester is probably nothing like he may face that first

semester at college, so am glad he'll be home! I will be interested

to see how he handles the workload of college. You're right, stress

can bring on OCD.

The Aspergers part is the reason I don't think he's ready for living

away from home with a whole new campus of people! And having to be

on his own, he lacks in skills (that I really should be working on

with him!).

But if didn't have Aspergers and wanted to go to college,

right now I would still want him local/comm college because of his

OCD being so bad right now.

As to the Aspie part - you know that affects kids socially and

has no friends (i.e., kids are nice to him but no social

life, friends to hang out with...). Well there is a senior " capping

ceremony " and each senior has to pick someone to " cap " him/her. Well

has no one to ask. Sad! Any peers he is comfortable with

are also seniors! So I called the school today to ask about the

ceremony, exactly what was it, etc. She said many parents do the

capping so if I did it for , I definitely wouldn't be the only

parent out on the floor. Relief! I told if he doesn't

choose anyone soon to let me know and I'll schedule time off from

work. (his twin) asked my oldest son Randall. And

surprisingly Randall will do it!! THIS from the older brother who

would die before being seen with his younger brothers years ago!

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> Hi, Chris. I'm wondering, do you think is ready for

college?

> I ask because our plan is that Josh will do Running Start and take

> classes at a community college, which thankfully is a year and a

half

> away yet. Right now he can't even do school work at home because

the

>

[Guest guest]

> >

> > Hi, Chris. I'm wondering, do you think is ready for

> college?

> > I ask because our plan is that Josh will do Running Start and take

> > classes at a community college, which thankfully is a year and a

> half

> > away yet. Right now he can't even do school work at home because

> the

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Wow Sue, like you I thought that was great until I got down to the

cost!!

>

> There is a program I found for kids with different issues..OCD,

depression,

> Aspergers, ADHD, etc. called the college living experience(CLL and

it is a