Re:Advice needed for son entering college - please help

[Guest guest]

Hey:

My daughter is a Senior in HS right now. Her OCD is getting intensified

with the normal developmental stuff of anticipating college and leaving

home, and Senioritis is kicking in big time. She is blowing off homework

and such, and we are really having to push her hard to just get to school in

the morning.

She was accepted at all her college choices. I thought getting into a

competitive school would motivate her to really put it together the last

semester, but she seems to be in denial about the connection between her

homework and graduation and college entrance. She's just acting the same.

In helping choose a college we have spoken to the schools she has chosen and

asked them about living in a single room. Part of daughter's OCD is the

inability to take a shower. She thinks she hears someone banging on the

door and she will miss a dire emergency. THis has been going on so long

that the anxiety has looped on itself and just the THOUGHT of showering

makes her anxious. She has to call her boyfriend to talk her down from the

anxiety while she's in the bathroom with the water running, sometimes for as

long as an hour, until she can actually step in the shower. It's stressful

on us all, especially her.

Another facet of her OCD is the inabililty to maintain friendships. SHe's

great at superficial stuff, but she has dropped all her friends over the

years, keeping just a boyfriend. She finds something wrong with friends and

just won't make an effort to see them. Of course they find it really hard

to understand and won't reciprocate anymore.

We realized that to be living away from home she would absolutely need a

single room. BOth of her top pick schools were very understanding and

indicated they would be very willing to help out and make allowances, as

well as helping to arrange regular counseling and med evaluations and

helping find support groups. I couldn't imagine trying to get her into

school without several people there already knowing about her OCD.

We've got our fingers crossed. I really feel for those of you who are

trying to launch an OCD kid into independence. It's really hard!

[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing that . Yeah, " senioritis " kicking in this

last month or so!

That's good to hear from you about the colleges being understanding

and working with you on your dd's needs. Hope we have the same good

fortune in a year or two when it's time for to transfer to

one!

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> Hey:

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> My daughter is a Senior in HS right now. Her OCD is getting

intensified

> with the normal developmental stuff of anticipating college and

leaving

> home, and Senioritis is kicking in big time. She is blowing off