Re: Tomboys....

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I probably am over concerned. Other people have mentioned to me, or I wouldn't

be AS concerned. Meaning they have noticed it and find it odd. I've even had

family members want to bet me that she'll turn out lesbian! (no, I didn't take

the bet and told them to shut up!)

I wouldn't be AS concerned if she didn't so adamently say she wanted to be a

boy so many times.

But you're probably right. I, personally don't label her, but I get worried

when others do.

Laurie

jtlt@... wrote:

I just again wanted to throw my opinion out there. The behavior you're

describing is NOT 'weird' and certainly not something you need to read so much

into. If the details you've talked about on the board so far describe the full

story with what's going on, it's FAR too early to even be concerned in the

slightest. You are describing my daughter exactly just a few years ago. It

screams " tomboy " and that's about it.

My daughter was also disgusted by the thought of getting her period (what

young girl isn't???) like yours, she adjusted when it happened (like all girls

do). When I had " the sex talk " with her, her only comment to me was " STOP

MOM - YOU'RE KILLING ME WITH EVIL AND GROSSNESS " (her exact words... we still

laugh about that to this day & I'm sure we'll be laughing about it in years

to come.)

There were a few girls in our neighborhood who were the same way. On the

last day of 6th grade, this poor little girl across the street was forced to

wear a dress & a ribbon in her hair - her mother drug her out to the bus stop

in front of all the kids on the street - she was crying her eyes out, she was

horribly embarrassed. She didn't want to wear a dress, but was forced to. I

could never understand why that mother thought it was SO important for her

daughter to be in a dress that day. The child was mortified.

All these kids are fine, young ladies now... interested in boys, wearing

girly clothes, etc. Unless your dd is exhibiting some truly disturbingly

unusual behavior (not just dressing like a boy or playing with action figures

instead of Barbies), honestly, it really isn't anything to worry about. I don't

know that I've caught all your posts about this, but have you spoken to her

pediatrician or therapist about it? That might help calm your fears a little.

I even remember my dd saying she wished she was a boy - it was only that she

was more comfortable in boys clothes, doing boy things.... it didn't mean

she wanted a sex change or to become a lesbian. Try not to 'label' your

daughter at such a young age. She has SO much changing to go through yet,

physically and emotionally. If you looked at a picture of my dd in 6th grade &

now... I don't know that you would think it was the same person. Give her some

time.

LT

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