Re: what to say to kids who say mean things???

December 21, 2007

Sorry she is going through this. Yes, it does suck. Remember the Disney movie "Bambie", that's how I raised my kids....."if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" You should make that her slogan. How old is your daughter and what is her dx? I know how you are feeling....my son gets teased and bullied. He didn't wear a diaper but has soiling problems. Hope your holidays are happy kelly dawson <kelly_dawson75@...> wrote: What do you say to a child who is poking fun at your child? I know this is the beginning for Paisley, but does she know they are poking fun at her? I have had two kids in the last week come up and tell her she is gross for wearing a diaper...because it is poking out of the top of her pants...or I am picking her up and it shows...or they are trying to play with her but she is running around or hitting the toy or you know not playing with the toy in the style it was fashioned for...so they get aggravated..or that she can't carry on a conversation...of course these aren't kids in her PPCD classroom, one was in a dr's office and one was at my older twin daughter's school...but, I see the beginning...and I see that the comments from children are coming at her...and it is already making my heart ache because I don't know how to

handle this situation...do you think she is aware of what they are saying? I know she can hear them, but does she know they are being mean? I don't want her to hurt...it sucks...I want to protect her from the mean world...how???? Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. Keep informed, Keep posting, Keep trying.

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December 21, 2007

, That is a tough one. We went through that for years. It is really hard when they are very young because you know the kids dont really know any better. Its when they get a little older like 8 or 9 when you know that they should have been taught that they should not make fun of people. I know I taught my children that. So I assume every parent must but I know that cannot be the case. When I have caught older kids being deliberately nasty I have said something to them if there are no parents around. I have told them things like "Everyone is different and you should not make fun of someone for being different". It can be a delicate situation. My son did understand what they were doing. Not so much when he was younger but when he got older and was ostracised for being the way he was. If the parents are present, explain the situation to them as calmly as you can. Most parents will correct thier child and explain things to them. Some kids will continue.

Some will understand the situation and seek to help. There are good kids. And nasty kids. My son as he got older ended up having alot of problems in school because of being bullied and made fun of. We eventually had to pull him out of school. But the situation turned to our advantage and we were able to have him placed in a private school that specializes in Aspergers/ ASD. So he is happy in school for the first time. I know it breaks your heart when you see your child not being included and being made fun of. I know the urge to shake these nasty children is almost uncontrollable. I know how you suffer for your child. I know. There are childrens books that you can take to your childs teacher and have her read to the class. The teacher does not have to point out your child after reading the book. I did that when my son was younger and it was very helpful. The book explained Aspergers and how people might behave who have it. But it is very easy to understand so children can

"get it". Good Luck to you. I know what you are going through. Take Care!! kelly dawson <kelly_dawson75@...> wrote: What do you say to a child who is poking fun at your child? I know this is the beginning for Paisley, but does she know they are poking fun at her? I have had two kids in the last week come up and tell her she is gross for wearing a diaper...because it is poking out of the top of her pants...or I am picking her up and it shows...or they are trying to play with her

but she is running around or hitting the toy or you know not playing with the toy in the style it was fashioned for...so they get aggravated..or that she can't carry on a conversation...of course these aren't kids in her PPCD classroom, one was in a dr's office and one was at my older twin daughter's school...but, I see the beginning...and I see that the comments from children are coming at her...and it is already making my heart ache because I don't know how to handle this situation...do you think she is aware of what they are saying? I know she can hear them, but does she know they are being mean? I don't want her to hurt...it sucks...I want to protect her from the mean world...how???? Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now.

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December 21, 2007

aww , I dont' have the answer sweetie, wish I did...the world can be a cruel place for our kids.

hugs , hugs and prayers for Paisley and you

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autism_in_girls ; Autism and Aspergers Treatment ; texas-autism-advocacy From: kelly_dawson75@...Date: Thu, 20 Dec 2007 19:58:18 -0800Subject: what to say to kids who say mean things???

What do you say to a child who is poking fun at your child? I know this is the beginning for Paisley, but does she know they are poking fun at her? I have had two kids in the last week come up and tell her she is gross for wearing a diaper...because it is poking out of the top of her pants...or I am picking her up and it shows...or they are trying to play with her but she is running around or hitting the toy or you know not playing with the toy in the style it was fashioned for...so they get aggravated..or that she can't carry on a conversation...of course these aren't kids in her PPCD classroom, one was in a dr's office and one was at my older twin daughter's school...but, I see the beginning...and I see that the comments from children are coming at her...and it is already making my heart ache because I don't know how to handle this situation...do you think she is aware of what they are saying? I know she can hear them, but does she know they are being mean? I don't want her to hurt...it sucks...I want to protect her from the mean world...how????

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December 30, 2007

I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. I don't know what to do. Hunter has been bullied by the kids in the surrounding houses since he was 2. (when we moved here). and it is horrivle. I tried to keep him away from them, but he thinks that they are his friends, and he doesn't understand. Last year, he finally understood, and took a bat and hit a kid on the head, then did $2000.00 worth of damage to a house. I had to put him in the psych unit at the local hospital, since he wanted to punish the kids for always being mean to him. Now he is back on thinking everyone is his friend. It is so hard. I did speak with some of the parents and to the principal who helped with the specific kids, but if the parents feel that their kids are perfect, then what am I to do. It is a tough battle, and I do understand.