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Dear ,

That's not true in my experience with kids. Here's one example with a 10-month old that blew even my mind about this.

I was watching V for friends, every day. She was 10 months at the time, and I decided to teach her to read, if she could. The youngest I'd done it previously was at 18 months, with my son.

So, in the Doman-Delacato manner, I made two large index cards, one saying Mommy and the other saying Daddy. First I showed Mommy for a few days, then I added Daddy, saying the words as I flashed the cards.

Then, one day, I put both cards before her, and asked her to give me the card that said Mommy. She picked it right up (and here comes the really exciting part!) -- she kissed the card.

I just stood there stunned: a ten-month old baby making the shift from the word to the reality. She smiled.

Love,

Francine

In a message dated 9/4/2007 1:12:47 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, rainysnana@... writes:

Some child psychology facts here:Children before the age of 2 have no cognitiveabilties to understand words. They are functioning asneeds based only. Food when hungry, sleep when tired,cranky when over tired or stressed, etc. Even thoughthey may say NO, they do not yet have the ability tounderstand the full meaning of that word.Consequences begin teaching them, so that when theyreach the developmental stage of cognition, have set apattern they do understand. All childrens essentialdevelopment happens by the age of 3 or 4. The neuronetin the brain is formed and does not change the rest oftheir lives.Spanking is a consequence when they have donesomething dangerous or seriously wrong. We as parentsknow the other consequence is not something we wantthem to experience. Such as getting hit by a car whencrossing a busy street or putting their hand on a hotburner on the stove. Consequences for other situationsneed to be firm and done without anger. You get angryand you've already undone what you set out to do. Thechild learns the consequence is you get angry. Wedon't want out children fearing us because we getangry.Children have the ability to decern right from wrongby the age of 8. By the age of 8 consequences shouldbe firmly understood. Many parents take the road ofnot taking control and then freak out when theirchildren don't listen. I experienced this on a dailybasis when I ran a large day care many years ago.Parents couldn't understand why their children wouldnot mind or listen to them.I strongly suggest Love and Logic parenting skillclasses. This allows the children their autonomy andparents still retain the control in a very subtle buteffective way. It instills consquence thinking anddesicion making. Children will learn for example thatto go outside in the freezing cold winter without acoat will get them very cold and uncomfortable. Theparent is freed from nagging the child to wear a coat.Now to add to this for children with DevelopmentalDisorders there is a parenting book out that is basedon Love and Logic principles but written for childrenwith AS, PDD'S etc. It's called " When Love Is NotEnough: A guide to parenting children withRAD-reactive attachement disorder" by L .ISBN: 0-9703525-0-6This woman took in children under foster care who wereungovernable, had mental and emotional issues, PDD's,etc, the worst of the cases. Those that wereunplaceable, and turned these kids around. Her methodsare effective. Our therapist calls it Love and Logicwith teeth. And yes kids that have AS or autism canlearn from these techniques. Our therapist has a lot of experience with Autism. Shehas several children she had adopted that arehandicapped and runs a preschool for autisticchildren, supervising the primary education classesalso offered there. She recommends this book for allparents even those without AS children at home. KernanQuantum Biofeedback Therapist

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