Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 Hi Everyone ~ THANK YOU so much for all your responses! You guys are great and I'm so glad you're out there. Everyone had great ideas and I used them all. I talked to ds about it sunday night and at first he was pretty apprehensive, but by monday morning he said he thought it was a good idea. We went into school early and met with the school psychologist. I told her ds wanted to know exactly what she would say and that I planned to be present in the room during the chat. She talked to him about what she would and wouldn't say and asked for his input. He felt much more relieved after that! I took him home and came back to school. She started the talk by reminding them that it was a " class meeting " and that class meetings are strictly confidential. Then she explained we'd talk about what was going on with ds, because she knew they must all be worried and wondering. She started by asking if any of them had ever had a really bad headache. Of course they all raised their hands. She asked what kinds of things caused a headache - they all said things like stress, being too hot, etc. then she asked if any of them ever had a really bad headache but didn't know why? they all said yes. Then she went thru the same scenario with a tummy ache. These are 3rd graders (8 and 9yr olds) so they ALL had some sort of story to share Then she asked if any of them ever felt worried... one girl said she felt worried when she couldn't get to sleep at night that she would fall asleep in class the next day, a few more kids volunteered their worries and one little boy said he worried that his mom would get in a car accident! And of course I immediately start thinking " omg! he has OCD too!! " and tried to check out his hands to see if they were red and chapped - LOL! anyway, she asked if they had ever felt nervous, and they all gave examples. she asked how their bodies felt when that happened and they said shaky, headache, stomach ache, etc. Then she explained that just like you can have a headache or tummy ache and not know why you have them, some people feel worried or nervous without really knowing why and that's what ds is going thru. she told them he has a lot of people helping him try to figure it out and help the worrying go away and that's why he has been missing some school. not exactly true to an ocd explaination, but totally appropriate for 3rd graders. She also talked about how to treat him when he was at school (no different than they ever had) and about being respectful and caring and letting him know they were glad to see him. I think it went very well! the kids had a few questions that I was able to personally answer, but mostly they just wanted to share their own experiences, illnesses, injuries, pet stories, what they had for breakfast and everything else under the sun DS was relieved to finally not have to worry about what to say to his friends and also VERY relieved to know that his peers all have worries to some degree. Sheeeeww! Glad that's over! Now, if I could just get him back to school without me... baby steps right? le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 Congratulations, le!!! Great news! > > Hi Everyone ~ > > THANK YOU so much for all your responses! You guys are great and > I'm so glad you're out there. Everyone had great ideas and I used > them all. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 I'm so glad it went well! Sounds like the right thing to do. Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2007 Report Share Posted February 14, 2007 It's great that the class meeting went so well. What your son's classmates learned may just stick with them throughout their lives. Very cool! P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2007 Report Share Posted February 14, 2007 GREAT story - so glad to hear it was handled so very well. Good for you and for the psychologist! > > Hi Everyone ~ > > THANK YOU so much for all your responses! You guys are great and > I'm so glad you're out there. Everyone had great ideas and I used > them all. > I talked to ds about it sunday night and at first he was pretty > apprehensive, but by monday morning he said he thought it was a good > idea. We went into school early and met with the school > psychologist. I told her ds wanted to know exactly what she would > say and that I planned to be present in the room during the chat. > She talked to him about what she would and wouldn't say and asked > for his input. He felt much more relieved after that! I took him > home and came back to school. She started the talk by reminding > them that it was a " class meeting " and that class meetings are > strictly confidential. Then she explained we'd talk about what was > going on with ds, because she knew they must all be worried and > wondering. She started by asking if any of them had ever had a > really bad headache. Of course they all raised their hands. She > asked what kinds of things caused a headache - they all said things > like stress, being too hot, etc. then she asked if any of them ever > had a really bad headache but didn't know why? they all said yes. > Then she went thru the same scenario with a tummy ache. These are > 3rd graders (8 and 9yr olds) so they ALL had some sort of story to > share Then she asked if any of them ever felt worried... one > girl said she felt worried when she couldn't get to sleep at night > that she would fall asleep in class the next day, a few more kids > volunteered their worries and one little boy said he worried that > his mom would get in a car accident! And of course I immediately > start thinking " omg! he has OCD too!! " and tried to check out his > hands to see if they were red and chapped - LOL! anyway, she asked > if they had ever felt nervous, and they all gave examples. she asked > how their bodies felt when that happened and they said shaky, > headache, stomach ache, etc. Then she explained that just like you > can have a headache or tummy ache and not know why you have them, > some people feel worried or nervous without really knowing why and > that's what ds is going thru. she told them he has a lot of people > helping him try to figure it out and help the worrying go away and > that's why he has been missing some school. not exactly true to an > ocd explaination, but totally appropriate for 3rd graders. She also > talked about how to treat him when he was at school (no different > than they ever had) and about being respectful and caring and > letting him know they were glad to see him. I think it went very > well! the kids had a few questions that I was able to personally > answer, but mostly they just wanted to share their own experiences, > illnesses, injuries, pet stories, what they had for breakfast and > everything else under the sun > DS was relieved to finally not have to worry about what to say to > his friends and also VERY relieved to know that his peers all have > worries to some degree. Sheeeeww! Glad that's over! Now, if I > could just get him back to school without me... baby steps right? > > le > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2007 Report Share Posted February 14, 2007 What a wonderful story le, it warmed my heart. Kim M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2007 Report Share Posted February 14, 2007 What a wonderful story le, it warmed my heart. Kim M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2007 Report Share Posted February 15, 2007 That is wonderful for your son! I am so happy you shared what how the conversation went that I copied it so that I can have my 3rd grade daughters teacher read it to help explain OCD and the difference in Kaley to her class. She is at a small Christian school and they do not have a school psychologist so your post helped not only your son but my daughter too! So thank you! Robin > > Hi Everyone ~ > > THANK YOU so much for all your responses! You guys are great and > I'm so glad you're out there. Everyone had great ideas and I used > them all. > I talked to ds about it sunday night and at first he was pretty > apprehensive, but by monday morning he said he thought it was a good > idea. We went into school early and met with the school > psychologist. I told her ds wanted to know exactly what she would > say and that I planned to be present in the room during the chat. > She talked to him about what she would and wouldn't say and asked > for his input. He felt much more relieved after that! I took him > home and came back to school. She started the talk by reminding > them that it was a " class meeting " and that class meetings are > strictly confidential. Then she explained we'd talk about what was > going on with ds, because she knew they must all be worried and > wondering. She started by asking if any of them had ever had a > really bad headache. Of course they all raised their hands. She > asked what kinds of things caused a headache - they all said things > like stress, being too hot, etc. then she asked if any of them ever > had a really bad headache but didn't know why? they all said yes. > Then she went thru the same scenario with a tummy ache. These are > 3rd graders (8 and 9yr olds) so they ALL had some sort of story to > share Then she asked if any of them ever felt worried... one > girl said she felt worried when she couldn't get to sleep at night > that she would fall asleep in class the next day, a few more kids > volunteered their worries and one little boy said he worried that > his mom would get in a car accident! And of course I immediately > start thinking " omg! he has OCD too!! " and tried to check out his > hands to see if they were red and chapped - LOL! anyway, she asked > if they had ever felt nervous, and they all gave examples. she asked > how their bodies felt when that happened and they said shaky, > headache, stomach ache, etc. Then she explained that just like you > can have a headache or tummy ache and not know why you have them, > some people feel worried or nervous without really knowing why and > that's what ds is going thru. she told them he has a lot of people > helping him try to figure it out and help the worrying go away and > that's why he has been missing some school. not exactly true to an > ocd explaination, but totally appropriate for 3rd graders. She also > talked about how to treat him when he was at school (no different > than they ever had) and about being respectful and caring and > letting him know they were glad to see him. I think it went very > well! the kids had a few questions that I was able to personally > answer, but mostly they just wanted to share their own experiences, > illnesses, injuries, pet stories, what they had for breakfast and > everything else under the sun > DS was relieved to finally not have to worry about what to say to > his friends and also VERY relieved to know that his peers all have > worries to some degree. Sheeeeww! Glad that's over! Now, if I > could just get him back to school without me... baby steps right? > > le > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2007 Report Share Posted February 15, 2007 That is wonderful for your son! I am so happy you shared what how the conversation went that I copied it so that I can have my 3rd grade daughters teacher read it to help explain OCD and the difference in Kaley to her class. She is at a small Christian school and they do not have a school psychologist so your post helped not only your son but my daughter too! So thank you! Robin > > Hi Everyone ~ > > THANK YOU so much for all your responses! You guys are great and > I'm so glad you're out there. Everyone had great ideas and I used > them all. > I talked to ds about it sunday night and at first he was pretty > apprehensive, but by monday morning he said he thought it was a good > idea. We went into school early and met with the school > psychologist. I told her ds wanted to know exactly what she would > say and that I planned to be present in the room during the chat. > She talked to him about what she would and wouldn't say and asked > for his input. He felt much more relieved after that! I took him > home and came back to school. She started the talk by reminding > them that it was a " class meeting " and that class meetings are > strictly confidential. Then she explained we'd talk about what was > going on with ds, because she knew they must all be worried and > wondering. She started by asking if any of them had ever had a > really bad headache. Of course they all raised their hands. She > asked what kinds of things caused a headache - they all said things > like stress, being too hot, etc. then she asked if any of them ever > had a really bad headache but didn't know why? they all said yes. > Then she went thru the same scenario with a tummy ache. These are > 3rd graders (8 and 9yr olds) so they ALL had some sort of story to > share Then she asked if any of them ever felt worried... one > girl said she felt worried when she couldn't get to sleep at night > that she would fall asleep in class the next day, a few more kids > volunteered their worries and one little boy said he worried that > his mom would get in a car accident! And of course I immediately > start thinking " omg! he has OCD too!! " and tried to check out his > hands to see if they were red and chapped - LOL! anyway, she asked > if they had ever felt nervous, and they all gave examples. she asked > how their bodies felt when that happened and they said shaky, > headache, stomach ache, etc. Then she explained that just like you > can have a headache or tummy ache and not know why you have them, > some people feel worried or nervous without really knowing why and > that's what ds is going thru. she told them he has a lot of people > helping him try to figure it out and help the worrying go away and > that's why he has been missing some school. not exactly true to an > ocd explaination, but totally appropriate for 3rd graders. She also > talked about how to treat him when he was at school (no different > than they ever had) and about being respectful and caring and > letting him know they were glad to see him. I think it went very > well! the kids had a few questions that I was able to personally > answer, but mostly they just wanted to share their own experiences, > illnesses, injuries, pet stories, what they had for breakfast and > everything else under the sun > DS was relieved to finally not have to worry about what to say to > his friends and also VERY relieved to know that his peers all have > worries to some degree. Sheeeeww! Glad that's over! Now, if I > could just get him back to school without me... baby steps right? > > le > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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