stressful times, but little waxing!

[Guest guest]

I just wanted to share some positive news about my 11yo dd (she of the OCD and

NLD). The past few weeks have been extremely stressful in our family.

1) My father-in-law fell in early December -- the day after his 80th birthday

-- and went into a rapid decline afterwards, to the point where we were afraid

it was the end.

2) In light of #1, we made a rather last minute decision to drive to Florida

(from NJ) to spend Christmas with him (as well as to give my sister-in-law some

respite). So this meant a sudden change of plan, seeing Grandpa very sick and

not spending Christmas at home.

3) On our way home last week, we were involved in a car accident. Fortunately,

nobody in either vehicle was hurt but our car was totalled. Again, unexpected

change of plans as well as the traumatic experience.

I am pleased to report that we have only seen minimal increase in symptoms in

L, even after having to deal with all of this. Mostly she is asking questions

about death and told me last night that she doesn't want me to die. Considering

everything, I don't think it's inappropriate for her to be facing these

questions, and she doesn't seem to be obsessing excessively about it. We are

keeping a close eye on her, of course, and she has a previously scheduled appt

with the psychiatrist this week. But when I think about how much stress we have

all been dealing with, I am unspeakably grateful that she seems to be handling

it all so well.

Anyway, just wanted to share that and hope that someone might find hope and

encouragement in it. (And the good news is that my FIL is now doing well, and

getting stronger all the time.)

P.

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[Guest guest]

Sounds like she handled it all better than an OCD-Free kid! That is

wonderful news. So sorry you had to go through all of that at Christmas

time though.

Kim M

[Guest guest]

That is great. Have you let her know how proud of her you are? I am glad no

one was hurt in the accident and that your FIL is doing well. Sorry about yoour

car, though! I hope your dd continues to do well.

Sharon

stressful times, but little waxing!

I just wanted to share some positive news about my 11yo dd (she of the OCD and

NLD). The past few weeks have been extremely stressful in our family.

1) My father-in-law fell in early December -- the day after his 80th birthday

-- and went into a rapid decline afterwards, to the point where we were afraid

it was the end.

2) In light of #1, we made a rather last minute decision to drive to Florida

(from NJ) to spend Christmas with him (as well as to give my sister-in-law some

respite). So this meant a sudden change of plan, seeing Grandpa very sick and

not spending Christmas at home.

3) On our way home last week, we were involved in a car accident. Fortunately,

nobody in either vehicle was hurt but our car was totalled. Again, unexpected

change of plans as well as the traumatic experience.

I am pleased to report that we have only seen minimal increase in symptoms in

L, even after having to deal with all of this. Mostly she is asking questions

about death and told me last night that she doesn't want me to die. Considering

everything, I don't think it's inappropriate for her to be facing these

questions, and she doesn't seem to be obsessing excessively about it. We are

keeping a close eye on her, of course, and she has a previously scheduled appt

with the psychiatrist this week. But when I think about how much stress we have

all been dealing with, I am unspeakably grateful that she seems to be handling

it all so well.

Anyway, just wanted to share that and hope that someone might find hope and

encouragement in it. (And the good news is that my FIL is now doing well, and

getting stronger all the time.)

P.

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[Guest guest]

Yes, we talked about it last night and I told her how proud I was of her. I got

her to acknowledge that her worries about death were/are at least partly " The

Frustrator " but also told her that it's normal to think about it when so many

scary things have been happening. The hard part is to keep The Frustrator from

taking over and being the boss, and I told her what a great job of that I think

she is doing. I also made a point of telling my husband (her dad) about our

conversation, in front of her.

P.

kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...> wrote:

That is great. Have you let her know how proud of her you are? I am

glad no one was hurt in the accident and that your FIL is doing well. Sorry

about yoour car, though! I hope your dd continues to do well.

Sharon

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[Guest guest]

, WAY back in high school I had 2 close friends die my senior

year. For quite a while my thoughts focused on death. I don't think

it was an obsession, really, but this went on quite a while. I'm the

type that thinks about things anyway, LOL, too much sometimes,

however, I hope your daughter works her way through this without it

becoming an OCD-thing.

>

> Yes, we talked about it last night and I told her how proud I was

of her. I got her to acknowledge that her worries about death

were/are at least partly " The Frustrator " but also told her that it's

normal to think about it when so many scary things have been

happening. The hard part is to keep The Frustrator from taking over

and being the boss, and I told her what a great job of that I think

she is doing. I also made a point of telling my husband (her dad)

about our conversation, in front of her.

[Guest guest]

Thanks. I think she is going to be OK, especially since her Grandpa seems to be

improving quite a bit. She also told the psychiatrist today (who discussed it

with us in her presence) that she doesn't feel terribly affected by our car

accident. She was, we think, asleep in the back seat until either when I yelled

just before impact or when we were actually hit. So she had no chance to

anticipate, whether positively or negatively. She said she's kind of sad about

our car, but is not otherwise very upset about it. I guess that's a good thing.

P.

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, WAY back in high school I had 2 close friends die my senior

year. For quite a while my thoughts focused on death. I don't think

it was an obsession, really, but this went on quite a while. I'm the

type that thinks about things anyway, LOL, too much sometimes,

however, I hope your daughter works her way through this without it

becoming an OCD-thing.

>

> Yes, we talked about it last night and I told her how proud I was

of her. I got her to acknowledge that her worries about death

were/are at least partly " The Frustrator " but also told her that it's

normal to think about it when so many scary things have been

happening. The hard part is to keep The Frustrator from taking over

and being the boss, and I told her what a great job of that I think

she is doing. I also made a point of telling my husband (her dad)

about our conversation, in front of her.

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