Being Bullied ... Again!!@

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My son, , age 11, is being bullied yet again! This summer he

had a horrible time with a 15 yr old in our neighborhood. Well we

got that over with and things are good ... then basketball started.

He made the team and was so excited. At the beginning of the

season, he was having problems with two other 6th graders. One

would come up and say " he's going to beat you up, you better watch

out " and then the other one would say the exact same thing, so

though no one actually ever did anything, he would have to listen to

that all the time. is so timid and it takes alot for him to

say anything back. Anyway, I called the principal and asked him

what could he do with these boys, as in did he have any suggestions

as to how to handle it. He said, let me talk to them. I'll have it

come across like I heard this from some other boys on the team and

he said, it will stop. he told me, you have to deal with it because

really no matter what does, it will just escalate. Well we

opted instead to talk to the coach, who handled it and things have

been pretty good. Today, he told us that the principal's son, who

is also on the team but in 8th grade, has been coming up to him and

rubbing his privates onto 's back and making kind of sexual

type kind of moany noises. This happens in the locker room and the

boys have to stay in there for 15 minutes or something like that

with no supervision. He said this has been going on for a couple of

weeks and now he does it every day. He also makes alot of comments

like " isn't it great when boys kiss boys " and " oh, michael, I saw

you kissing , " etc. He seems to be handling it pretty well,

but of course, I was a wreck (not in front of him). This is just

the type of thing that could trigger alot of bad thoughts and start

something new. He has been doing so well. So off to talk to the

principal tomorrow. He actually told me the last time I spoke with

him that he had talked to his kids about getting bullied and told

them people would say things to them just because they are the

principal's children, but he said he told them watch out if I ever

find out you've bullied someone else. Actually, I think this goes

more along with sexual harrassment in a bullying sort of way.

My husband thinks I should address 's ocd with the principal

and explain what this could cause (he can't go in with me tomorrow

due to work schedule and I want to talk to him tomorrow) (Dana, if

you are reading, I remember something like this happened with your

son at a sleepover that came out 2 yrs later), but I don't think I

should. I think that kind of makes it seem like what he is doing

isn't so bad, but it's only because of the ocd that it is a

problem. I am appalled that he should have to deal with this in the

6th grade and that there is not monitoring in the locker rooms if

they are going to make them stay there. PLUS, I don't want them

thinking (even subconsciously) that his " special circumstances " (of

not being bullied!) are too much for him to be on the team, though I

don't know if I want him on it again, anyway - but that is our

decision, not the school's.

By the way, he will be back in karate this spring. He's a kid who

really needs it.

Would you bring up the ocd or just leave it out? I am going in

tomorrow.

Thanks!