Guest guest Posted December 10, 2006 Report Share Posted December 10, 2006 This is a biggie in our house. The boys' therapist taught them that " fair doesn't mean equal " . Mine were around 8 when we started using this method, they're almost 10 now and I'm finally starting to see progress. What we did was this: Every time someone complained " It's not fair! " we said " Fair doesn't mean equal " and then find an example of a time when they got something someone else didn't get. I had gotten so paranoid about things being equal that I had to purposely start making it not equal to come up with examples! For instance, if Austin complained that I played a game with , I'd point out to Austin that he had gotten to go to Walgreens with me while stayed home. They each had gotten 20 minutes or so of " mommy time " but not at the same time or in the same way. Hope this helps. , mom to (12) bipolar disorder, ocd, add, Asperger's (9) bipolar, pdd-nos Aly (9) the red headed princess Austin (9) bipolar disorder, adhd, ocd, pdd-nos Ashleigh (9) probable add --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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