Guest guest Posted December 10, 2006 Report Share Posted December 10, 2006 that is true -we do that too -I will remind one they got one thing and others get to do different things -as long as everyone's getting something -it's the best you can do eileen Quoting Mc <mrsjdmcd@...>: > This is a biggie in our house. The boys' therapist taught them that > " fair doesn't mean equal " . Mine were around 8 when we started > using this method, they're almost 10 now and I'm finally starting > to see progress. > > What we did was this: Every time someone complained " It's not > fair! " we said " Fair doesn't mean equal " and then find an example of > a time when they got something someone else didn't get. I had > gotten so paranoid about things being equal that I had to purposely > start making it not equal to come up with examples! > > For instance, if Austin complained that I played a game with > , I'd point out to Austin that he had gotten to go to > Walgreens with me while stayed home. They each had gotten 20 > minutes or so of " mommy time " but not at the same time or in the > same way. > > Hope this helps. > > , mom to > (12) bipolar disorder, ocd, add, Asperger's > (9) bipolar, pdd-nos > Aly (9) the red headed princess > Austin (9) bipolar disorder, adhd, ocd, pdd-nos > Ashleigh (9) probable add > > > --------------------------------- > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > your question on Answers. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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