Guest guest Posted July 22, 2007 Report Share Posted July 22, 2007 I'm very frustrated at this point! We just found out my stepson has aspergers. We only have joint custody, he is 10yrs old. He has been through way more emotionally then any child should have to go through. Hopefully when DH gets back from Iraq, he will get to live with us full time. We'll see.. In the meantime, i cannot keep him organized. It is like if it isn't what he wants, he flakes out on it. He looses his shoes and Sunday clothes ALL THE TIME! I can't continue to let myself get stressed over this. This only happens when DH is away, go figure. However he doesn't seem to comprehend that fact. He is HIGHLY intelligent! He hung up his pants last Sunday and this Saturday not only can he not find them, I looked and they aren't there. He is now missing both prs of Sunday pants as well as 8prs of brandnew black socks for church. he enjoys going to church, or he is a good faker! I want to yell and scream and just don't know what to do! We have alot of other stressors right now, including my DH being injured in Iraq the other day. Loosing clothes is just not acceptable at this age. Ok occassionally is fine, we all do that. but this is daily! HELP... I need books to read and information so I can learn what to do for him. This will help him and keep me sane! thanks Sorry if some of this is a vent.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2007 Report Share Posted July 25, 2007 Hi and ;Have you guys considered contacting your local ARC or similar organization for a social skills group or personal care group? It is harder to get really intelligent kids in for these things, but they can be really helpful.I went through this with Molly who has AS for YEARS! I have finally gotten her to where this stuff isn't as much of an issue - this is one case in which her father and stepmother were crucial! I was exhausted from raising 4 special needs kids - and when Molly started to get violent again I sent her to her fathers house for a year, and she came back MUCH better.JenLaha1960@... wrote: HI MEgan My son just turned 18, and just graduated high school in May this year.He is starting college locally in one month. My son is an honor student. He is very bright. However, even though he has over a 4. 3, on a 4.0 scale, and took honor classes and is intelligent, his Aspergers has given him an issue with his self care skills and also his personal care skills, and his sometimes seemingly not responsible for things like his peers. Remember that peers our child's age, that do NOT have Aspergers, are going to be a step ahead in maturity. My son looks tall and has always been taller than me for a few years now ( Phoooey on that phoney post abotu Ritalin and it stunting growth. My son has taken Ritalin and similiar medications since he was three. He is now 18, taller than I am, doing well, and I can say that because of his medications, he has been able to control the ADHD and Aspergers, has been able to do well in school and in no way has the medication hurt him. In fact taking medications elliminates those who self medicate with non- prescribed drugs and alcohol. My son just had a classmate since kindergarten, from his class of 2007, just at the end of June, days prior to his 18th birthday, the kid died of Alcohol poisoning in one night of drinking. So, sad. I said all of those things to respond to some earlier post on this list about medications. MEDICATIONS are not poison and the medications do help many, and RITALIN does not stunt growth. Those are fallacies. Also, to SAY ADHD is fictional is FALSE! What is fictional is that email, whoever sent it with no knowledge of the facts about ADHD.) Anyway, I wish you the best and wanted to tell you that my son STILL has need of some assistance with his clothes, hanging them up, putting away his laundry, making sure things are in order and neat and that his room remains neat. IF you can help your step son, this would be wonderful. If you have another sibling in your home that can help the child, that would be great also. Do not give up, and do not expect that the child with Aspergers can do everything that a peer his age can do. Work with him, it takes patience and time. hugs in IL AOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at AOL.com. Life may not be the party we asked for - but while we're here, let's dance! Pinpoint customers who are looking for what you sell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2007 Report Share Posted July 26, 2007 Use visual schedule or visual check list. He needs support. This is most likely part of his disability, not emotionally based, but neurologically based. He may also be more stressed due to Dad not there, etc. Anyway, use of visual supports is both humane and smart. Good luck, Priscilla in Kansas Be a better Heartthrob. Get better relationship answers from someone who knows. Answers - Check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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