Guest guest Posted June 22, 2006 Report Share Posted June 22, 2006 or what your mind can make you do.....don't underestimate the power of the mind. The big dogs have to stay up with me. Dick At 08:41 PM 6/22/2006, you wrote: I just know after tx I changed & didnt like being around alot of people, I avoid parties and people get togethers now...Id rather be home..all the rat racey crap is too stressful for me, so I stay pretty much in my own space & am much happier that way, although I still feel Im missing something..I think the social drinking of my past was a big part of who I thought I was...I have more time to think of what is really important. Im more unsociable now than I ever was. also I think, for me anyway is because I have no one, a partner to share going out with & I dont know anyone really that I would want to do these things with...So ...I think tx & serious health problems tend to do this to us...We are not like others that are healthy, we cant hang with the Big Dogs..we can only do as much as our bodies will let us.. Love ya...Pat Loners Earlier the subject came up of CROWDS........ Is this just an issue due to the hep stigma or is this part of the hep related chemical imbalance? What do you think? Love and Hugs d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2006 Report Share Posted June 22, 2006 Without social phobias I think it has a lot to do with our decreased quality of life and living and dealing with a chronic illness like HCV. If we feel like hell the majority of the time we are not as social or in the same social circles anymore. With fatigue being a major symptom of chronic HCV we may simply not have the stamina or energy to devote to the same type of social life anymore. My social life has been null and void for years. I concentrate and devote my energy and time to my family and closest friends and need to plan ahead as to not overdo it. I can only do so much activity in 1 day. If I do to much than I'm out of it for days. Our lives and priorities in life also changes. I was always a people person belonged to many organizations with many large functions but in late stages it was not as social. It was not a type of social phobia - fear or type of panic attacks I would become overwhelmed mentally and physically. My brain couldn't focus on to much at 1 time or from many people and even with my own family getting together and all talking at once. My brain would try to compensate would go on overload and shut down. I would actually zone out - semiconscious of my surroundings and all the input. It got to a point only a couple of people taking and I would get lost. That's when duhhhhhh and what came in a lot. My family could actually see it on my face with a blank stare - blank face - no emotions - lost look to the eyes - dull flat monotone to my voice and by my mannerisms. Out of it - dumb as a stump and a hard time remembering things. But that's just me abby normal as usual. Love and Hugs. Deb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2006 Report Share Posted June 23, 2006 I think it’s an age thing for me. It was more like a phobia during tx, but I had been avoiding crowds for a long time before that, too. Before tx and now, its more of a comfort level thing. I tend to like everything simpler now. I don’t like the mall and will only go there during off peak times. I don’t like to drive downtown in the crowded traffic. Things like that, but I don’t have near panic attacks like when I was on tx. Loners Earlier the subject came up of CROWDS........ Is this just an issue due to the hep stigma or is this part of the hep related chemical imbalance? What do you think? Love and Hugs d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2006 Report Share Posted June 23, 2006 Pat makes a good point. We only have a certain allotment of energy each day, so we have to be more selective of how we use it. More people cause more stress which uses more energy. It’s like the story I ready about the spoons. A woman with an invisible illness like ours was trying to explain to a friend what it is like. She says she only has a certain number of spoons (energy) each day. She asked her friend what she first did in the mornings & the friend said she got up & dressed. For the healthy one, that was no big deal, but the woman said for her that was a many-step activity & it took one spoon to get out of the bed, another to walk to the bathroom, another to pick clothes, etc. The she had to make choices all day about how many spoons she could afford to use. Cooking a nice lunch might be nice, but making a sandwich would use less spoons and she’d have more for later. Plus she always had to be careful to have a spoon in reserve, for just in case. And of course, juggling spoons uses more spoons. And so it goes for us. De Re: Loners I just know after tx I changed & didnt like being around alot of people, I avoid parties and people get togethers now...Id rather be home..all the rat racey crap is too stressful for me, so I stay pretty much in my own space & am much happier that way, although I still feel Im missing something..I think the social drinking of my past was a big part of who I thought I was...I have more time to think of what is really important. Im more unsociable now than I ever was. also I think, for me anyway is because I have no one, a partner to share going out with & I dont know anyone really that I would want to do these things with...So ...I think tx & serious health problems tend to do this to us...We are not like others that are healthy, we cant hang with the Big Dogs..we can only do as much as our bodies will let us.. Love ya...Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2006 Report Share Posted June 23, 2006 Hey Dick, my dear, You are a Breed of a different knd love...hugs, Pat Loners Earlier the subject came up of CROWDS........ Is this just an issue due to the hep stigma or is this part of the hep related chemical imbalance? What do you think? Love and Hugs d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2006 Report Share Posted June 23, 2006 That's what they all say, but you do it much kinder. Dick At 05:51 AM 6/23/2006, you wrote: Hey Dick, my dear, You are a Breed of a different knd love...hugs, Pat Re: Loners or what your mind can make you do.....don't underestimate the power of the mind. The big dogs have to stay up with me. Dick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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