Introduction and behavioral problem

[Guest guest]

Good Morning Everyone. I'm happy to be part of the group and to interact with

people who know what I am going through, parenting a child on the ASD spectrum.

I have 3 children, ages 25,24 and 8.5, and three wonderful grand children ages

6,6,7.

My son is in 3rd grade, and was recently identified on the spectrum as PDD-ONS

and is very high functioning, yet not considered to have Asperger's. He is a

good kid, has nice manners mostly, and really tries to do his best. The

conflict comes in when what he thinks is best, doesn't match the rules or other

people's ideas of what's best.

He is on two days of suspension for his behavior at school. It has been a

progressing problem, and one that happened in 2nd grade, as well. He " loves " a

certain girl, tells her constantly, tells everyone that he is going to marry

her, embarrasses her in class and at recess, hugs her and doesn't let go no

matter how much she yells at him to let go, and now it is completely out of

hand, with her parents going to the principal at school about it.

We don't seem to be able to get through that ASD wiring, to get him to see that

he is mistreating this girl and that he is in danger of some serious

consequences, if he keeps this up. Has anyone else had this trouble or have any

thoughts on how we might reach him, to change this behavior?

Thank you for allowing me to join your group. I appreciate any thoughts anyone

has to share.

D.

[Guest guest]

Have you tried a social story? There have been undesirable behaviors with my 9

year old son that couldn't be affectively addressed by just reprimands or

punishments. However, in some cases a well worded social story can get the

message across. It will be necessary to include pictures, of course.

It's difficult for children on the spectrum to understand that other people may

have a different perspective on a shared experience, but a social story is a

tool that has worked pretty well with my son in similar situations.

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> Good Morning Everyone. I'm happy to be part of the group and to interact with

people who know what I am going through, parenting a child on the ASD spectrum.

I have 3 children, ages 25,24 and 8.5, and three wonderful grand children ages

6,6,7.

>

> My son is in 3rd grade, and was recently identified on the spectrum as PDD-ONS

and is very high functioning, yet not considered to have Asperger's. He is a

good kid, has nice manners mostly, and really tries to do his best. The

conflict comes in when what he thinks is best, doesn't match the rules or other

people's ideas of what's best.

>

> He is on two days of suspension for his behavior at school. It has been a

progressing problem, and one that happened in 2nd grade, as well. He " loves " a

certain girl, tells her constantly, tells everyone that he is going to marry

her, embarrasses her in class and at recess, hugs her and doesn't let go no

matter how much she yells at him to let go, and now it is completely out of

hand, with her parents going to the principal at school about it.

>

> We don't seem to be able to get through that ASD wiring, to get him to see

that he is mistreating this girl and that he is in danger of some serious

consequences, if he keeps this up. Has anyone else had this trouble or have any

thoughts on how we might reach him, to change this behavior?

>

> Thank you for allowing me to join your group. I appreciate any thoughts

anyone has to share.

>

> D.

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