Word correction (was: Nick & Kate)

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I too have had to learn to curb my natural tendency to correct others. With my closest friends I still do it because I think they really do appreciate it and don't take it the wrong way.

I myself always appreciate if someone corrects me - if they do it in a friendly manner - and have therefore been surprised to learn that not everyone appreciates such linguistic helpfulness.

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Re: Re: Nick & Kate (was: Alpha Chain scramble - query needed on "D" word)

LOL! I guess that would be upsetting but, it's funny nevertheless. mikecarrie01 <mikecarrie01@...> wrote: When I was young I walked around correcting everyone and everything. I thought I was being helpful. It was finally when a girl from France screamed and yelled at me and never talked to me again because I was always correcting her English (I thought I was really helping her by doing that) that I was shocked into stopping it.> > > >> > > > Re:> > > > > > > > > It appeared to me that Nick was not asking anything overly > > > personal -> > > > > just your likes dislikes concerning architecture. Maybe you > > > consider> > > > > this personal?> > > > > > > > I don't consider artistic taste (in architecture or anything > > else)> > > > "personal" - note that I replied, in some detail, to Nick's > > > question> > > > about my tastes in architecture.> > > > It seemed to me, though, that Nick asked for personal> > > > information specifically because I had *not* chosen to provide > > such> > > > information. It semed to me that he considered it somehow > wrong > > of > > > me> > > > not to provide information like that. (In my experience, very > > often> > > > when someone asks "Why don't you do __________ ?", this > > means "You> > > > should already have done it, without waiting for me to ask > you, > > and> > > > you are very wrong because you did not do this already. For > > > instance,> > > > if a mother asks a child "Why don't you clean up your room?" > > > or "Why> > > > don't you write a letter to your grandmother to thank her for > > your > > > new> > > > ice-skates?" typically this does NOT mean what it literally > > sounds> > > > like - it does not mean " "Now is a good time to start doing > > this, > > > so> > > > perhaps you can get started on it" it means "You habitually > avoid> > > > doing this thing - you should already have done this thing a > > long,> > > > long time ago - and you should have done it on your own > > initiative,> > > > without anyone having to suggest that you should do it - so > you > > > have> > > > made a big mistake by letting this thing go undone for so long > > that> > > > now I have to actually suggest you should do it - what is > wrong > > > with> > > > you, that you do not independently make up your mind to do > these > > > very> > > > important and obvious things instead of waiting for a> > > > command/suggestion/reminder from a person like me who has so > much> > > > better sense than you seem to have?!"> > > > > > > > > > > > Yours for better letters,> > > > Kate Gladstone> > > > Handwriting Repair and the World Handwriting Contest> > > > handwritingrepair@> > > > http://learn.to/handwrite, > > > http://www.global2000.net/handwritingrepair> > > > 325 South Manning Boulevard> > > > Albany, New York 12208-1731 USA> > > > telephone 518/482-6763> > > > AND REMEMBER ...> > > > you can order books through my site!> > > > (Amazon.com link -> > > > I get a 5% - 15% commission on each book sold)> > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship, > > support and acceptance. Everyone is valued. > > > > > > Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links > page > > in the folder marked "Other FAM Sites." > > > > > > > > > > > >