Guest guest Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 > You aren't done yet. The only thing I would say to you is that > losing the last 35 lbs isn't a dream. It still could happen. I > remember reading on the main list about someone who lost 30 lbs in > year THREE. :::Ihavent given up totally, I am upping my exercise and lowering my carb intake and upping my fluids. I WILL make the 180s by my 2 yr anniversary....iwill i will i will... > All that said though, I am validating what you are feeling. I would be upset too. I know that I still feel " fat " even with the plastics and needing to lose another 20 lbs. I am a size 14/16. I'll never see the single digits. And, I probably wont see the illusive size 12 which is my " dream number " . :::I dont really think that I am upset and didnt mean to come off that way. I just dont think that I could stand up in front of someone and have them say...YES, I want the DS, look what it did for her! Hopefully they would want to do better. By the way 12 is my dream number too. But I have been this 16 (some 14s) since June and dont see any 12s looming in my near future. That doesnt mean I cant DIET and exercize the rest off. It is possible if I could get my head going in that direction. But I am working really hard on trying to get my " head right " with how I am defining success. I am beautiful and I am no longer FAT. (I say that over and over again as affirmations!) Fatness or thiness is not some arbitrary dress size or a number on a scale. And I can show countless former MO people who are now a normal size by your definition who still think and feel fat. Is there pain less justified because they have hit the " number " that defines them as " ideal " ? :::I do feel like a success. Just not an example of what others would want to be. I feel great, look better than I have in 30 years, weigh less than I have in 30 years and am beautiful in my own way. That said, we all have our own demons to deal with, fat or thin. they are our demons and we have to deal with them. I am not discounting the way anyone else feels about themselves, they are their feelings and therefore valid. I have always said (living with a sister and mom who are 12s and below) that the 10-20 lbs they want to loose is just as hard for them as the 180 lbs I want to loose. It is all relevant. > > Is this too philisophical a conversation before Ive had breakfast? > <grin> ::It depends....lol > > I think your beautiful. > ::: Well I think you are beautiful too, and very very brave to go out of country to get your plastics done. I have been and am praying for your healing. take good care, Sharon in Onyx who drove down to B-town to go to Costco and ended up having lunch with my sweetheart instead...now he will have to go to Costco before he comes home. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 I WILL make the 180s by my 2 yr > anniversary....iwill i will i will... Good luck > > > > All that said though, I am validating what you are feeling. I > would be upset too. I know that I still feel " fat " even with the > plastics and needing to lose another 20 lbs. I am a size 14/16. > I'll never see the single digits. And, I probably wont see the > illusive size 12 which is my " dream number " . > > :::I dont really think that I am upset and didnt mean to come off > that way. I didn't think you were upset... I didn't mean to make it sound that way. Bad choice of words on my part I guess. I just dont think that I could stand up in front of > someone and have them say...YES, I want the DS, look what it did for > her! Hmmmm. I understand. But I still think that " we " (as in the general population, not just you and me) have a screwed up version of the ideal as it is set by some number or unrealistic " looks " expectations. I mean... maybe your normal is where you are at? I dunno. Hopefully they would want to do better. > By the way 12 is my dream number too. But I have been this 16 (some > 14s) since June and dont see any 12s looming in my near future. > That doesnt mean I cant DIET and exercize the rest off. It is > possible if I could get my head going in that direction. > > > But I am working really hard on trying to get my " head right " with > how I am defining success. I am beautiful and I am no longer FAT. > (I say that over and over again as affirmations!) Fatness or thiness > is not some arbitrary dress size or a number on a scale. And I can > show countless former MO people who are now a normal size by your > definition who still think and feel fat. Is there pain less > justified because they have hit the " number " that defines them > as " ideal " ? > > > > :::I do feel like a success. Just not an example of what others > would want to be. Funny. I consider you a great example of what I want to be. I look at your pic and I see a normal sized person. Granted, I haven't seen you in person since my surgery.... but in your pics, I would call you average sized. ::: Well I think you are beautiful too, and very very brave to go out > of country to get your plastics done. I have been and am praying for > your healing. Thank you. Brave? I dunno. I think the word i would pick is " stupid " but I like your euphasim better <grin> > > who drove down to B-town to go to Costco and ended up having lunch > with my sweetheart instead...now he will have to go to Costco before > he comes home. lol I'm still amazed that going to Costco doesn't tire me out anymore..... Hugs, --Kym Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2003 Report Share Posted October 24, 2003 > ::Yep , you are probably right. I will always have big hips and > legs. But the goo dnews is according to Entertainment Tonite, I am > what the fashion is right now. Yep, small chest, big butts! > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ What is that song " I love big butts " ,,,,see we are in tune,I will always have a big butt,but that is the shape that my family is, so reckon I will live with that... WoW!!!! I never thought I would be in fashion!!!LOL Have a great day!!!! God bless Pat > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2003 Report Share Posted October 24, 2003 > ::Yep , you are probably right. I will always have big hips and > legs. But the goo dnews is according to Entertainment Tonite, I am > what the fashion is right now. Yep, small chest, big butts! > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ What is that song " I love big butts " ,,,,see we are in tune,I will always have a big butt,but that is the shape that my family is, so reckon I will live with that... WoW!!!! I never thought I would be in fashion!!!LOL Have a great day!!!! God bless Pat > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2003 Report Share Posted October 26, 2003 In a message dated 10/22/2003 3:49:03 PM Pacific Standard Time, roseofsharon_ps121@... writes: > I just dont think that I could stand up in front of > someone and have them say...YES, I want the DS, look what it did for > her! Hi Sharon, I'm sorry I am so late with this response, but I would beg to differ with your above comment! LOL I think you have to look at the real reason for losing weight -- quality of life. I would look at you as a complete success and know that I would want the same improvement in my quality of life! But, I will also add that some days I think I look great and I am happy where I am, and other days I see myself as hopelessly out of control and that I will be fat forever in my head, so I completely understand where your feeling come from. Ahhh, were it only so easy to conquer our brains! Hugs and blessings, Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2003 Report Share Posted October 26, 2003 In a message dated 10/22/2003 3:49:03 PM Pacific Standard Time, roseofsharon_ps121@... writes: > I just dont think that I could stand up in front of > someone and have them say...YES, I want the DS, look what it did for > her! Hi Sharon, I'm sorry I am so late with this response, but I would beg to differ with your above comment! LOL I think you have to look at the real reason for losing weight -- quality of life. I would look at you as a complete success and know that I would want the same improvement in my quality of life! But, I will also add that some days I think I look great and I am happy where I am, and other days I see myself as hopelessly out of control and that I will be fat forever in my head, so I completely understand where your feeling come from. Ahhh, were it only so easy to conquer our brains! Hugs and blessings, Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2003 Report Share Posted October 27, 2003 In a message dated 10/27/2003 4:27:21 PM Pacific Standard Time, roseofsharon_ps121@... writes: > *Some are unbelievably having implants in there butts to make them > bigger!!! Cant imagine that one! Yes, Sharon, I can imagine that because I am the buttless wonder! We all have our problem spots or lack thereof, and my family keeps telling me they'd kick my butt...if I had one! LOL Hugs and blessings, Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2003 Report Share Posted October 27, 2003 In a message dated 10/27/2003 5:15:22 PM Pacific Standard Time, roseofsharon_ps121@... writes: > Well tell then to come kick mine, cause I have enough for both of > us. lol > SinO Hey -- maybe you'd like to share with me? LOL (Not the kicking -- the abundance!) Hmmm...now I KNOW I've gone off the deep end! LOL Hugs and blessings, Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2003 Report Share Posted October 27, 2003 > > > ::Yep , you are probably right. I will always have big hips and > > legs. But the goo dnews is according to Entertainment Tonite, I > am > > what the fashion is right now. Yep, small chest, big butts! > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > What is that song " I love big butts " ,,,,see we are in tune,I will > always have a big butt,but that is the shape that my family is, > so reckon I will live with that... > WoW!!!! I never thought I would be in fashion!!!LOL > Have a great day!!!! > God bless > Pat > > > > ****Some are unbelievably having implants in there butts to make them bigger!!! Cant imagine that one! No implants for me... Sharon in Onyx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2003 Report Share Posted October 27, 2003 > But, I will also add that some days I think I look great and I am happy where I am, and other days I see myself as hopelessly out of control and that I will be fat forever in my head, so I completely understand where your feeling come > from. Ahhh, were it only so easy to conquer our brains! Hugs and blessings, > Ann Yep these head trips are amazing things arent they Sharon in Onyx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2003 Report Share Posted October 27, 2003 > Yes, Sharon, I can imagine that because I am the buttless wonder! We all > have our problem spots or lack thereof, and my family keeps telling me they'd > kick my butt...if I had one! LOL Hugs and blessings, Ann Well tell then to come kick mine, cause I have enough for both of us. lol SinO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2003 Report Share Posted October 27, 2003 > In a message dated 10/27/2003 5:15:22 PM Pacific Standard Time, > roseofsharon_ps121@y... writes: > > Well tell then to come kick mine, cause I have enough for both of > > us. lol > > SinO > > Hey -- maybe you'd like to share with me? LOL (Not the kicking -- the > abundance!) Hmmm...now I KNOW I've gone off the deep end! LOL > > Hugs and blessings, Ann *******************************************************> No doubt about it, you are a gonner...lol Sharon in Onyx who tried to talk Jim into sharing his boobs.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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