7:1-5KJV WASRe: To Tom, with Love

April 21, 2006

>

> " One thing I noticed about her was that she seemed to be willing

enough

> to hear what we had to say, but then there was this " I associate

with

> Aspies so I understand Aspies " attitude, which was crap. She wasn't

> actually really willing to apply much of what we told her here or

in

> the FF toward raising her sons. "

Sadly, non-Aspergers feel that something is wrong with us and so

they're going to work from this premise and filter everything through

this. Even if they try to respect and understand us they will always

go back to this premise. I can't say for sure if Toni felt this way

but at the very least she noticed the differences between us and her.

>

> " She was nice, and I liked her personality, but her son coming in

here

> and bashing Kate1 and calling her with derision a " lesbian " and

> a " feminist " among other things does not in anyway endear Toni to

me

> as a parent, because her son is surely NOT a well-developed Aspie

who

> knows the meaning of restraint. "

I thought she was nice and liked her but this situation with her

son's post bothered me because while she posted 'sorry' and that her

son said sorry, it seemed too meager. I wondered if she didn't think

it was that big a deal what her son did, if she thought, 'well, he's

Aspergers and they are messed up' or if she didn't respect us enough

to be embarrassed and sorry. It could just be that she is like many

parents today who don't think what their children do is that bad,

they're just being teenagers, etc.

I did notice that Toni got a little upset during that time we were

arguing and talking about controversial topics. She said it disturbed

her. It disturbed me too, but I see where it may have been more

disturbing for a non-Aspie. I get more disturbed about things non-

Aspies say or post when they're controversial or when they argue than

other non-Aspies do. I've also noticed that I feel I belong with a

group of Aspies even if they are different than me or believe

different things than I do, whereas I don't usually feel that way

with a group of non-Aspies. Maybe she was feeling this.

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