7:1-5KJV WASRe: To Tom, with Love

[Guest guest]

I think sometimes some aspies slip into third person when writing - I

know I sometimes can.

The parent thing - yeah I know that one.

When people have met both my birth parents they look at me and say

things like 'now I see why you are how you are', never sure whether

that's an insult or compliment; but I've got to the point I couldn't

care less.

I always thought my family was normal, unfortunately others didn't

and me and my family have always been considered weird and lots of

other labels. I used to wonder why we were different and then when my

son was diagnosed it all started to make a lot of sense. I still

think my family is fine and the rest of the world is crazy though :-)

Okay so maybe we are a bit crazy (me and my family), but in a sane

and mostly logical way :-)

>

> Re:

>

> > Aspies have two

> > strikes against them roughly since birth: 1) They are socially

inept,

> > and 2) They have ways of thinking which cause people to shun them.

>

> I find it a bit odd and disconcerting that an Aspie, talking to

other Aspies,

> call Aspies " them " instead of " us. "

>

> But, leaving that aside ...

>

> besides what Tom listed, many of us have a third strike

against us, too:

>

> /3/

> Many (possibly *most*) Aspies have a mother and/or father with

> (probably undiagnosed) Asperger's or at least a hefty " dash of

autism "

> -

> these parents themselves may have enough " social ineptness " and

> " ways of thinking which cause people to shun them " to give these

> parents a very hard time with:

> /a/ dealing in the neurotypical world in behalf of their

children

> /b/ teaching their own children (especially as the

children

> grow into teens and adults) how to deal in the neurotypical world.

>

> For example:

> My father has, it would appear, Asperger's. (He never got

> diagnosed, but he definitely " has what it takes " to get diagnosed if

> he would consider this - imagine a male, almost-75-year-old version

of

> me, and you've imagined my dad.)

>

> When I complained at home about some problem (with school, friends,

> etc.) which I can now recognize as Asperger's-related (e.g., " the

> teacher pushed a desk into my legs and told the other kids to help

her

> make fun of me because I pointed out the spelling-errors she had

made

> that day in the spelling-lesson she gave us " ),

> Dad would tell me things like: " Well, they didn't understand,

so

> you have to talk about it more and more until they DO undersatnd -

if

> you just show them that you are right, then the teacher and the kids

> may eventually learn and stop hurting you " (or some similarly

> " Asperger-ish " response: something I'd want to do, anyway, that I

> considered right but that wouldn't work: that probably, by this

time,

> I KNEW wouldn't work, but that Dad figured I should do because it

made

> sense to him - as well as to me - that the errors needed

correction.)

> Or, if he decided to talk to the teacher/the principal/the

> bullying kids' parents about one of these situattions, he would do

> this in a very typically " Aspie " way that would not get results in

> these situations: e.g., when the above kinds of incidents happened

he

> would often go to the teacher (perhaps in front of the other

children,

> when he came to pick me up from school) and say

> not-particularly-useful things like " Since my daughter knows the

> subject and you do not know it, then logically she should teach this

> class and you should be a student. "

>

> The predictable results (for me in that classroom), after

such " help "

> from my Dad, suggest that " having an Aspie parent " may mean " strike

> three " for many an Aspie child.

>

>

>

> Yours for better letters,

> Kate Gladstone

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