Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 dang i wish i could write as great as that well done and well said.anne <kanga2@...> wrote: Tims' post has encouraged me to bring up the subject of anger and self-pity. He's right, negative emotions like anger really doesn't do anyone any good, but neither does bottling them up and not releasing them in a healthy way. Pent up negative emotions can really make a person physically ill. But I truely believe the only useless emotion is guilt. I believe there is a good reason for most emotions and it's what we do with those emotions that matters. Perhaps Dave could turn his anger into determination to be approved for Disability. Imagine how satisfied he's going to feel when he wins! ( Go Dave!!!! ) Dave has every right to feel angry, and fed up. I'm sure I would feel the same way in the same circumstance. "Self Pity" is another very interesting phrase that many people use to describe the feeling of sadness for self. Where is it wrong to feel sad for ourselves? Don't we have a right to? And wouldn't you feel sad for someone else in our situation? Why can't we be kind to ourselves in the same manner? I think what people refer to when they say "self-pity" is the situation where a person seems to get 'stuck' in an emotion along the way. To me, this is a person who feels that they're not being heard, not being validated for what they feel. Quite often all this person needs is to be listened to and not dismissed as a whiner. Dave, the advice about seeking out legal representation is very good advice. I understand that you probably feel ticked-off at having to go that extra step for something that you shouldn't need to. You're probably feeling so tired of fighting this disease, you may not feel that you have the energy to fight the system too. But I can honestly say that this extra fight, whilst completely unfair, is a fight worth tackling. Get a specialist lawyer who understand that you are not in any state to do this on your own. One that will take up the fight on your behalf, then you can sit back and concentrate on the most important part of this whole deal - you. Luv anne hey bro,listin anger and self pitty aint gonna do you any good.... Tim Parsons knoxville,tn 37931 865-588-2465 x107 work www.knoxville1.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 Thank you Tim! I just write from the heart with a healthy dose of diplomacy thrown in. Hehehee Luv anne Re: Negative Emotions. dang i wish i could write as great as that well done and well said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 Oh anne, I couldn't have said it better myself. Thank you for these very considerate thoughts. I hope that Dave gets his SSD, It might take some doing. Love Janetanne <kanga2@...> wrote: Tims' post has encouraged me to bring up the subject of anger and self-pity. He's right, negative emotions like anger really doesn't do anyone any good, but neither does bottling them up and not releasing them in a healthy way. Pent up negative emotions can really make a person physically ill. But I truely believe the only useless emotion is guilt. I believe there is a good reason for most emotions and it's what we do with those emotions that matters. Perhaps Dave could turn his anger into determination to be approved for Disability. Imagine how satisfied he's going to feel when he wins! ( Go Dave!!!! ) Dave has every right to feel angry, and fed up. I'm sure I would feel the same way in the same circumstance. "Self Pity" is another very interesting phrase that many people use to describe the feeling of sadness for self. Where is it wrong to feel sad for ourselves? Don't we have a right to? And wouldn't you feel sad for someone else in our situation? Why can't we be kind to ourselves in the same manner? I think what people refer to when they say "self-pity" is the situation where a person seems to get 'stuck' in an emotion along the way. To me, this is a person who feels that they're not being heard, not being validated for what they feel. Quite often all this person needs is to be listened to and not dismissed as a whiner. Dave, the advice about seeking out legal representation is very good advice. I understand that you probably feel ticked-off at having to go that extra step for something that you shouldn't need to. You're probably feeling so tired of fighting this disease, you may not feel that you have the energy to fight the system too. But I can honestly say that this extra fight, whilst completely unfair, is a fight worth tackling. Get a specialist lawyer who understand that you are not in any state to do this on your own. One that will take up the fight on your behalf, then you can sit back and concentrate on the most important part of this whole deal - you. Luv anne hey bro,listin anger and self pitty aint gonna do you any good.... Take the ordinary things of life, and make them your own. Do the impossible with a smile Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 You are very welcome sister of my heart. No, I don't have Hep C but I can surely empathise with those who do and can completely understand all the conflicting emotions that this awful disease brings forth! luv ya! anne Re: Negative Emotions. Oh anne, I couldn't have said it better myself. Thank you for these very considerate thoughts. I hope that Dave gets his SSD, It might take some doing. Love Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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