Re: How I answer posts

[Guest guest]

Aha! That explains it! Seems just did the same thing. Others do it

too.

I have a different system. I get all my mails in my inbox, sorted in forums

and there; in threads. I often read one thread at a time. Sometimes I save a

whole thread until it has many posts on it and then I read all of it at

once. Sometimes I reply to something without reading the whole thread, only

to find that someone else have already said the same thing in the next post.

:-(

Often I read and reply to the shortest and easiest posts first and save the

long or deep posts for later (and may forget them). Some are too long,

densely written or uninteresting to me personally to ever get read (though I

have a hard time ever deleting anything I haven't first read).

Sometimes I read and reply to the last first.

Some posts may end up on threads that are so far back in my inbox that I

fail to see them.

So, clearly, it's a bit of a hit or miss which posts I happen to read and

when. :-)

Inger

How I answer posts

When I come back online and sign in to the forum, I go to the last

message I read and continue in the order posts are made. When I

respond, it's to the post I am reading at the time. Sometimes it

takes a while to get to the posts that others assume I have already

read when, in fact, I haven't read them at all as I haven't gotten to

those posts yet.

Raven

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[Guest guest]

Yep that is how I do it mostly - but I am training myself to

sometimes skip ahead, but still I have to go back and read in order -

I have to have some order :-)

It is better for me on website as what I have read changes colour and

I am able to keep track easily - if I had the posts sent via email I

would freak and be overwhelmed - has happened before - I cannot

handle too many emails - if I wake up to find a load of emails I am

overwhelmed.

I think I may have caught up on the posts now :-) although I have had

to skim over some fairly rapidly - brains not quite with it - I am

shattered.

I am sad to see Lwaxy has left though :-(

>

> Aha! That explains it! Seems just did the same thing. Others

do it

> too.

>

> I have a different system. I get all my mails in my inbox, sorted

in forums

> and there; in threads. I often read one thread at a time. Sometimes

I save a

> whole thread until it has many posts on it and then I read all of

it at

> once. Sometimes I reply to something without reading the whole

thread, only

> to find that someone else have already said the same thing in the

next post.

> :-(

>

> Often I read and reply to the shortest and easiest posts first and

save the

> long or deep posts for later (and may forget them). Some are too

long,

> densely written or uninteresting to me personally to ever get read

(though I

> have a hard time ever deleting anything I haven't first read).

>

> Sometimes I read and reply to the last first.

>

> Some posts may end up on threads that are so far back in my inbox

that I

> fail to see them.

>

> So, clearly, it's a bit of a hit or miss which posts I happen to

read and

> when. :-)

>

> Inger

>

>

>

>

> How I answer posts

>

>

> When I come back online and sign in to the forum, I go to the last

> message I read and continue in the order posts are made. When I

> respond, it's to the post I am reading at the time. Sometimes it

> takes a while to get to the posts that others assume I have already

> read when, in fact, I haven't read them at all as I haven't gotten

to

> those posts yet.

>

> Raven

>

>

>

>

>

>

> FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship,

support and

> acceptance. Everyone is valued.

>

> Check the Links section for more FAM forums.

>

[Guest guest]

--- >It is better for me on website as what I have read changes

colour and

I am able to keep track easily Toni> Yes, thank goodness for the

color changes on the forum or I would be totally lost. By shattered

do you mean sad? Not that its any of my business. I feel bad that

Lwaxy left too. What she said in her last post was really sad about

not fitting in anywhere.

, " greebohere "

<julie.stevenson16@...> wrote:

>

> Yep that is how I do it mostly - but I am training myself to

> sometimes skip ahead, but still I have to go back and read in

order -

> I have to have some order :-)

>

> It is better for me on website as what I have read changes colour

and

> I am able to keep track easily - if I had the posts sent via email

I

> would freak and be overwhelmed - has happened before - I cannot

> handle too many emails - if I wake up to find a load of emails I

am

> overwhelmed.

>

> I think I may have caught up on the posts now :-) although I have

had

> to skim over some fairly rapidly - brains not quite with it - I am

> shattered.

>

> I am sad to see Lwaxy has left though :-(

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Aha! That explains it! Seems just did the same thing.

Others

> do it

> > too.

> >

> > I have a different system. I get all my mails in my inbox,

sorted

> in forums

> > and there; in threads. I often read one thread at a time.

Sometimes

> I save a

> > whole thread until it has many posts on it and then I read all

of

> it at

> > once. Sometimes I reply to something without reading the whole

> thread, only

> > to find that someone else have already said the same thing in

the

> next post.

> > :-(

> >

> > Often I read and reply to the shortest and easiest posts first

and

> save the

> > long or deep posts for later (and may forget them). Some are too

> long,

> > densely written or uninteresting to me personally to ever get

read

> (though I

> > have a hard time ever deleting anything I haven't first read).

> >

> > Sometimes I read and reply to the last first.

> >

> > Some posts may end up on threads that are so far back in my

inbox

> that I

> > fail to see them.

> >

> > So, clearly, it's a bit of a hit or miss which posts I happen to

> read and

> > when. :-)

> >

> > Inger

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > How I answer posts

> >

> >

> > When I come back online and sign in to the forum, I go to the

last

> > message I read and continue in the order posts are made. When I

> > respond, it's to the post I am reading at the time. Sometimes it

> > takes a while to get to the posts that others assume I have

already

> > read when, in fact, I haven't read them at all as I haven't

gotten

> to

> > those posts yet.

> >

> > Raven

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship,

> support and

> > acceptance. Everyone is valued.

> >

> > Check the Links section for more FAM forums.

> >

[Guest guest]

I just read them in the order they come up in the emails. Usually they are in order, but sometimes they get shuffled.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/23/2006 2:27:28 AM Eastern Standard Time, julie.stevenson16@... writes:

By shattered I meant tired - I have ear infection - it seems to be a bad one - I've woke up feeling very lousy today and I've run out of pain killers :-(

I well remember such things. When I was a child I had them more often than I did not. I still get minor ones from time to time, now and then a worse. No real suggestions though on how to handle them. You might try WebMD though.

[Guest guest]

n,

Hi. Welcome to the forum. Sorry you had to arrive when we were all

suffering a bit of turmoil.

My hope is that all of us have gotten everything out of our system, and

that we can move on.

We may be able to get Lwaxy to come back after a while.

In the meantime, I really would appreciate it if you stuck around and

got to know us better.

Tom

Administrator

--- >It is better for me on website as what I have read changes

colour and I am able to keep track easily Toni> Yes, thank goodness

for the color changes on the forum or I would be totally lost. By

shattered do you mean sad? Not that its any of my business. I feel bad

that Lwaxy left too. What she said in her last post was really sad about

not fitting in anywhere.

[Guest guest]

By shattered I meant tired - I have ear infection - it seems to be a

bad one - I've woke up feeling very lousy today and I've run out of

pain killers :-(

>

> --- >It is better for me on website as what I have read changes

> colour and

> I am able to keep track easily Toni> Yes, thank goodness for the

> color changes on the forum or I would be totally lost. By shattered

> do you mean sad? Not that its any of my business. I feel bad that

> Lwaxy left too. What she said in her last post was really sad about

> not fitting in anywhere.

[Guest guest]

Hi,

welcome.

[Guest guest]

Oooooops forgot to say name - welcom n. Sorry I'm well tired this

morning.

>

> Hi,

>

> welcome.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/23/2006 6:52:15 AM Eastern Standard Time, julie.stevenson16@... writes:

Dr's given me anti sickness and antibiotics - didn't really want the antibiotics just anti sickness, but it seems to be getting worse - keep getting a tempreture today too - I can't even go out I feel so yuck.

If you take the antibiotics, you will probably want to eat some yogurt while you are taking them. That will help put back the good bacteria in your intestines that the medicine will kill. Also read an article last week that said eating yogurt regularly has been shown to help protect against the common cold, so it probably helps boost the immune system.

[Guest guest]

Dr's given me anti sickness and antibiotics - didn't really want the

antibiotics just anti sickness, but it seems to be getting worse -

keep getting a tempreture today too - I can't even go out I feel so

yuck.

Fortunately my mum has brought me some pain killers and done a bit of

shopping and housework for me, of which I am very gratefull for given

the way I feel.

>

>

> In a message dated 3/23/2006 2:27:28 AM Eastern Standard Time,

> julie.stevenson16@... writes:

>

> By shattered I meant tired - I have ear infection - it seems to be

a

> bad one - I've woke up feeling very lousy today and I've run out

of

> pain killers :-(

>

>

>

>

>

> I well remember such things. When I was a child I had them more

often than I

> did not. I still get minor ones from time to time, now and then a

worse. No

> real suggestions though on how to handle them. You might try WebMD

though.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

--- Toni> So sorry to hear you have an earache. They are so painful!

By the way, thanks to all for welcoming n (my son) he had been

looking at the forum and I didn't log him out and *I* replied.

Hopefully since he is interested he may participate soon. I think it

would be very good for him to 'know' other aspies besides his twin

brother. , I hope your earache gets better soon.(I just said a

prayer for you, I hope you don't mind )Toni In

, " greebohere "

<julie.stevenson16@...> wrote:

>

> By shattered I meant tired - I have ear infection - it seems to be

a

> bad one - I've woke up feeling very lousy today and I've run out

of

> pain killers :-(

>

>

>

>

>

> >

> > --- >It is better for me on website as what I have read

changes

> > colour and

> > I am able to keep track easily Toni> Yes, thank goodness for

the

> > color changes on the forum or I would be totally lost. By

shattered

> > do you mean sad? Not that its any of my business. I feel bad

that

> > Lwaxy left too. What she said in her last post was really sad

about

> > not fitting in anywhere.

>

[Guest guest]

--- see my other reply, . Thanks though... Toni

, " greebohere "

<julie.stevenson16@...> wrote:

>

> Oooooops forgot to say name - welcom n. Sorry I'm well tired

this

> morning.

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Hi,

> >

> > welcome.

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Re:

> If you take the antibiotics, you will probably want to eat some yogurt while

> you are taking them. That will help put back the good bacteria in your

> intestines that the medicine will kill. Also read an article last week that

> said eating yogurt regularly has been shown to help protect against the

> common cold, so it probably helps boost the immune system.

The above works only if you eat the kind of yogurt that has live

cultures (read the label). Many yogurts don't have live cultures in

them, and amount basically to flavored and sugared milk solids.

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[Guest guest]

--- Thanks, yes, things seemed to have calmed down. Thank

Goodness, but it's early in the day. Welcome, Jill!

Toni

environmental1st2003 <no_reply@...> wrote:

>

> I'm going to see if I can keep the forums calmer for a while. It

seems

> that most of the recent debates have settled themselves, so

perhaps we

> can return to " discussions " now.

>

> This will create a better atmosphere for n and everyone else

who

> regularly posts here.

>

> Tom

> Administrator

>

>

>

> By the way, thanks to all for welcoming n (my son) he had

been

> looking at the forum and I didn't log him out and *I* replied.

> Hopefully since he is interested he may participate soon. I think

it

> would be very good for him to 'know' other aspies besides his twin

> brother.

>

[Guest guest]

I think after prolonged debate, Aspies tend to need to go back and

gather their energies before resuming normal conversation.

It's sort of like waking up and thinking: " Hey! What happened? Where

the heck am I? We're not in Kansas anymore Toto! Boy do I need to go

back to sleep! "

Tom

Administrator

Thanks, yes, things seemed to have calmed down. Thank Goodness, but

it's early in the day.

[Guest guest]

Tom>I think after prolonged debate, Aspies tend to need to go back

and

gather their energies before resuming normal conversation. Toni>

Which kinda reminds me of a question I wanted to ask... Do alot of

aspies have to have 'down time'/recharge after being in social

situations? n comes home from school and goes to bed *most*

days for an hour or so then he's ready to go again.Noah on the other

hand does not go to bed except every once in a while. OR do you

think it has more to do with depression than aspergers?

environmental1st2003 wrote:

>

> I think after prolonged debate, Aspies tend to need to go back and

> gather their energies before resuming normal conversation.

>

> It's sort of like waking up and thinking: " Hey! What happened?

Where

> the heck am I? We're not in Kansas anymore Toto! Boy do I need to

go

> back to sleep! "

>

> Tom

> Administrator

>

>

>

> Thanks, yes, things seemed to have calmed down. Thank Goodness,

but

> it's early in the day.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Toni -

I can't speak for anyone else, but I absolutely have to have downtime

after social interaction. It's simply too much stimulation, too much

stress, too much to think about. If I were a character in a video

game, you would be able to see my energy stores being depleted by

each interaction and then being replenished by downtime. Of course,

teenagers are so busy just dealing with their own

biology it's amazing how much they get accomplished, isn't it? I'm so

glad not to be at the mercy of my teenage hormones anymore! Now, I'm

just hoping my female hormones don't make their exit as

dramatic as their entrance... ;-)

Jill

>

[Guest guest]

Each year I go to the Smokies to hibernate for 16 days after a year of

stress. I also take weekend getaways for the same reason. I also do

need the downtime that n needs after a regular workday.

What do the rest of you all have to say?

Tom

Administrator

Which kinda reminds me of a question I wanted to ask... Do alot of

aspies have to have 'down time'/recharge after being in social

situations? n comes home from school and goes to bed *most*

days for an hour or so then he's ready to go again.Noah on the other

hand does not go to bed except every once in a while. OR do you

think it has more to do with depression than aspergers?

[Guest guest]

Thank you for answering that, Jill.It seems like when the boys hit

puberty is when things really started getting more difficult for them.

Socially, depression OCD etc. I wonder if any studies have been done

regarding hormones and the worsening of aspergers and all the issues

that go with it? I hope your hormones don't exit like mine. I had a

hysterectomy because I had migraines 15-20 times a month and BOY oh BOY

those hotflashes are something else! But, I'll take them over being in

bed half a month anytime. Toni

jillipep wrote:

> Hi Toni -

>

> I can't speak for anyone else, but I absolutely have to have downtime

> after social interaction. It's simply too much stimulation, too much

> stress, too much to think about. If I were a character in a video

> game, you would be able to see my energy stores being depleted by

> each interaction and then being replenished by downtime. Of course,

> teenagers are so busy just dealing with their own

> biology it's amazing how much they get accomplished, isn't it? I'm so

> glad not to be at the mercy of my teenage hormones anymore! Now, I'm

> just hoping my female hormones don't make their exit as

> dramatic as their entrance... ;-)

>

> Jill

>

>

> >

>

>

>

>

>

> FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship,

> support and acceptance. Everyone is valued.

>

> Check the Links section for more FAM forums.

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, Toni, how awful for you! Are you done with all that, now? And to

be raising twins, too...yikes...I don't know about hormones and

Aspergers but I do know that my epilepsy didn't kick in until I hit

puberty. Definitely a stress-filled time that I would never want to

live through again. Childhood, yes. Puberty, never.

Jill

>

> Thank you for answering that, Jill.It seems like when the boys hit

> puberty is when things really started getting more difficult for

them.

> Socially, depression OCD etc. I wonder if any studies have been

done

> regarding hormones and the worsening of aspergers and all the

issues

> that go with it? I hope your hormones don't exit like mine. I had a

> hysterectomy because I had migraines 15-20 times a month and BOY oh

BOY

> those hotflashes are something else! But, I'll take them over being

in

> bed half a month anytime. Toni

>

[Guest guest]

Eerrrrrrrrrr speaking for myself definitely. I see same in my son too.

Even if I enjoy the socialising it still whacks me out - it does seem

easier with aspies though - well most of the time :-)

> >

> > Thanks, yes, things seemed to have calmed down. Thank Goodness,

> but

> > it's early in the day.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

" Do alot of aspies have to have 'down time'/recharge

after being in social situations? n comes home from school and

goes to bed *most* days for an hour or so then he's ready to go

again.Noah on the other hand does not go to bed except every once in a

while. OR do you think it has more to do with depression than

aspergers? "

I can only speak for myself and my 10-year-old son. We both need to

get away from all sensory input after many hours of social interaction.

When I was a touring as a musician and musical director, once the gig

was done, I would hide out in my room (which was MY room and I never

shared with anyone else) while everyone else went out socializing some

more (whether it was a house party, hanging out at the local coffee

shop or something else).

After powering down, I would work on arrangements or new songs or

something along those lines, working easily until 6 AM before going to

bed (back up at the crack of Flintstones for rehearsals and such).

Cub is very much this way, needing a nap when he comes home from any

social activity that drains his resources, so he can recharge his

batteries.

Raven

[Guest guest]

I have to be alone after each work day and have to take all day

Saturday to do nothing, go nowhere, see noone. Sunday I feel my best

of all the days because of this rest day. I also have to take a few

vacations. Being with nature helps me relax and unwind the most,

followed by reading.

>

> Which kinda reminds me of a question I wanted to ask... Do alot of

> aspies have to have 'down time'/recharge after being in social

> situations? n comes home from school and goes to bed *most*

> days for an hour or so then he's ready to go again.Noah on the other

> hand does not go to bed except every once in a while. OR do you

> think it has more to do with depression than aspergers?

>

[Guest guest]

I have to be alone after each work day and have to take all day

Saturday to do nothing, go nowhere, see noone. Sunday I feel my best

of all the days because of this rest day. I also have to take a few

vacations. Being with nature helps me relax and unwind the most,

followed by reading.

>

> Which kinda reminds me of a question I wanted to ask... Do alot of

> aspies have to have 'down time'/recharge after being in social

> situations? n comes home from school and goes to bed *most*

> days for an hour or so then he's ready to go again.Noah on the other

> hand does not go to bed except every once in a while. OR do you

> think it has more to do with depression than aspergers?

>