Re: Should i tell him now or later

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I would hope that if this man loves you he would be supportive, and if not then maybe he isnt the one for you. I have been with my husband since 92, and he does not have HEP. Can you find some panphlets on HEPc and sit down and talk to him about it..and how it is spread, etc?? I would do it before..he does have a right to know..geri

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Don't wait till you are married. You want to start building trust from the beginning. Although you wouldn't be lying to him, the fact is he would be considering it a dishonesty by you not telling him. And what better way to find out if your guy is in it for the long haul. First off Hep C is not a easy disease to live with once the symptoms start appearing. The fatigue, etc...... Will he be able to support you during treatment? And I am talking about emotionally because being on treatment is a commitment on both spouses and families. These are things that he and you have to consider before treatment. Again I stress the trust issue. If you don't have trust in a marriage then hon, it is just not going to make the long run. Approach this armed for discussion, get the facts. Let him know that many spouses and loved ones are helping their mates through this. We

have several wives and husbands in this group that can tell you from their point of view of what it is like. I am sure that they will give you some advice from their point of view. Ask him to join the group if he has any questions. You know us we like to educate and support. Love Janet norah2386 <norah2386@...> wrote: Hey peoplesSorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... i was

going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking peeps that knows where I am coming from... I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering should I tell him now or later on when we are married. He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the rest of my life.Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that you have the illness before you two said I doHit me back!!Take the ordinary things

of life, and make them your own. Do the impossible with a smile

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Norah,

I got divorced after 17 years of marriage (my ex and I are the best of

friends, and he is negative for hep c), and got engaged last year to

a wonderful, caring guy. My fiance lost his first wife at the age of

32 to severe asthma, so he is no stranger to medical issues. When he

and I got together,he thought he was engaged to the healthiest gal in

the world!

Well , 3 months ago I got the dx of hep c,and his loyalty has not

wavered. He has been wonderful and supportive. He doesn't treat me

like a leper by any means. It is rare (though possible), I have heard,

for hep c to be sexually transmitted, and in 17 years of marriage, my

ex never got it.

(But of course, you want to take every precaution to prevent your

loved ones. Goes without saying, but there it is anyway.)

As for him " calling everything off " because of your dx, I see " good

riddance " ! You are better off knowing NOW if he will stand by you

through thick and thin, and if this makes him run, think about what

will happen in the future.

Norah, you sound like a wonderful person, and you deserve a great guy.

Better to find out now if he's the guy so you can move on and let THE

right one come along. If this guy turns out to be wonderful and

supportive when you tell him (and I suspect he will)then you know you

have a " keeper " . If you just choose not to tell him, he will certainly

find out anyway, and then your dishonesty will really damage the

relationship. He will feel betrayed.

Just my opinion, hope it helps!

>

> Hey peoples

>

>

> Sorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things...

>

> i was going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking

> peeps that knows where I am coming from...

>

>

> I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting

> married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it...

>

> But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering

> should I tell him now or later on when we are married.

>

> He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends

> said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell...

> I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I

> did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me

> feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the

> rest of my life.

>

> Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that

> you have the illness before you two said I do

>

>

> Hit me back!!

>

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Put the shoe on the other foot. Imagine if it was him hiding an illness from you. How would you feel? Wouldn't you feel that he'd been dishonest with you? Wouldn't you want every opportunity to help and support him? Why not give him that opportunity?

Luv

anne

Re: Should i tell him now or later

Don't wait till you are married. You want to start building trust from the beginning. Although you wouldn't be lying to him, the fact is he would be considering it a dishonesty by you not telling him.

And what better way to find out if your guy is in it for the long haul. First off Hep C is not a easy disease to live with once the symptoms start appearing. The fatigue, etc......

Will he be able to support you during treatment? And I am talking about emotionally because being on treatment is a commitment on both spouses and families. These are things that he and you have to consider before treatment. Again I stress the trust issue. If you don't have trust in a marriage then hon, it is just not going to make the long run.

Approach this armed for discussion, get the facts. Let him know that many spouses and loved ones are helping their mates through this. We have several wives and husbands in this group that can tell you from their point of view of what it is like. I am sure that they will give you some advice from their point of view. Ask him to join the group if he has any questions. You know us we like to educate and support.

Love

Janet

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i tell all up front.why waste time with someone to end it .im always up front.Janet <doc_jade@...> wrote: Don't wait till you are married. You want to start building trust from the beginning. Although you wouldn't be lying to him, the fact is he would be considering it a dishonesty by you not telling him. And what better way to find out if your guy is in it for the long haul. First off Hep C is not a easy disease to live with once the symptoms start appearing. The

fatigue, etc...... Will he be able to support you during treatment? And I am talking about emotionally because being on treatment is a commitment on both spouses and families. These are things that he and you have to consider before treatment. Again I stress the trust issue. If you don't have trust in a marriage then hon, it is just not going to make the long run. Approach this armed for discussion, get the facts. Let him know that many spouses and loved ones are helping their mates through this. We have several wives and husbands in this group that can tell you from their point of view of what it is like. I am sure that they will give you some advice from their point of view. Ask him to join the group if he has any questions. You know us we like to educate and support. Love Janet norah2386 <norah2386 > wrote: Hey peoplesSorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... i was going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking peeps that knows where I am coming from... I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering should I tell him now or later on when we are married. He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me feels if I don't tell him and

it comes up he would hate me for the rest of my life.Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that you have the illness before you two said I doHit me back!!Take the ordinary things of life, and make them your own. Do the impossible with a smile Tim Parsons knoxville,tn 37931 865-588-2465 x107 work

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I agree WITH BOTH of you,, NO ONE SHOULD KEEP this info from the one you plan to spend your life with. Tell him about it and EDUCATE him on the RISK FACTORS so that he doesnt have to be worried about it.... education IS the key!anne <kanga2@...> wrote: Put the shoe on the other foot. Imagine if it was him hiding an illness from you. How would you feel? Wouldn't you feel that he'd been dishonest with you? Wouldn't you want every opportunity to help and

support him? Why not give him that opportunity? Luv anne Re: Should i tell him now or later Don't wait till you are married. You want to start building trust from the

beginning. Although you wouldn't be lying to him, the fact is he would be considering it a dishonesty by you not telling him. And what better way to find out if your guy is in it for the long haul. First off Hep C is not a easy disease to live with once the symptoms start appearing. The fatigue, etc...... Will he be able to support you during treatment? And I am talking about emotionally because being on treatment is a commitment on both spouses and families. These are things that he and you have to consider before treatment. Again I stress the trust issue. If you don't have trust in a marriage then hon, it is just not going to make the long run. Approach this armed for discussion, get the facts. Let him know that many spouses and loved ones are helping their mates through this. We have several wives and husbands in this group that can tell you from their point of view of

what it is like. I am sure that they will give you some advice from their point of view. Ask him to join the group if he has any questions. You know us we like to educate and support. Love Janet Jackie

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, you are lucky like me,, I found out on our first anniversary that I had hep and my husband just cried and said he wished it were him instead of me,, and he has NEVER wavered from loving me ,,, not for a second! We have been married 6 years this last aug and he is negative as is my former husband after 15 years of being together,, <marvindamartian05@...> wrote: Norah,I got divorced after 17 years of marriage (my ex and I are the best offriends, and he is negative for hep c), and got engaged

last year toa wonderful, caring guy. My fiance lost his first wife at the age of32 to severe asthma, so he is no stranger to medical issues. When heand I got together,he thought he was engaged to the healthiest gal inthe world!Well , 3 months ago I got the dx of hep c,and his loyalty has notwavered. He has been wonderful and supportive. He doesn't treat melike a leper by any means. It is rare (though possible), I have heard,for hep c to be sexually transmitted, and in 17 years of marriage, myex never got it.(But of course, you want to take every precaution to prevent yourloved ones. Goes without saying, but there it is anyway.)As for him "calling everything off" because of your dx, I see "goodriddance"! You are better off knowing NOW if he will stand by youthrough thick and thin, and if this makes him run, think about whatwill happen in the future.Norah, you sound like a wonderful person, and

you deserve a great guy.Better to find out now if he's the guy so you can move on and let THEright one come along. If this guy turns out to be wonderful andsupportive when you tell him (and I suspect he will)then you know youhave a "keeper". If you just choose not to tell him, he will certainlyfind out anyway, and then your dishonesty will really damage therelationship. He will feel betrayed.Just my opinion, hope it helps!>> Hey peoples> > > Sorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... > > i was going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking > peeps that knows where I am coming from... > > > I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting

> married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... > > But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering > should I tell him now or later on when we are married. > > He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends > said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... > I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I > did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me > feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the > rest of my life.> > Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that > you have the illness before you two said I do> > > Hit me back!!>Jackie

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Tell him BEFORE you have sex,, and educate him so that he learns that he has nothing to be afraid of,, IF he breaks this off, then he wasnt for you to begin with,, and if you dont tell him until after you are married, he WILL FEEL TRAPPED,, so please dont do that,, just educate him,, HE COULD be one of your best helps if you should decide to do tx!norah2386 <norah2386@...> wrote: Hey peoplesSorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... i was going to ask my sister this question but decided

on asking peeps that knows where I am coming from... I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering should I tell him now or later on when we are married. He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the rest of my life.Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that you have the illness before you two said I doHit me back!!Jackie

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Tell him BEFORE you have sex,, and educate him so that he learns that he has nothing to be afraid of,, IF he breaks this off, then he wasnt for you to begin with,, and if you dont tell him until after you are married, he WILL FEEL TRAPPED,, so please dont do that,, just educate him,, HE COULD be one of your best helps if you should decide to do tx!norah2386 <norah2386@...> wrote: Hey peoplesSorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... i was going to ask my sister this question but decided

on asking peeps that knows where I am coming from... I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering should I tell him now or later on when we are married. He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the rest of my life.Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that you have the illness before you two said I doHit me back!!Jackie

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Jackie and , You're lucky to have the man you have.. Not everyone has a mate as loyal and caring as yours are. I know you know that, just had to add my bit. SharonJackie on <redjaxjm@...> wrote: , you are lucky like me,, I found out on our first anniversary that I had hep and my husband just cried and said he wished it were him instead of me,, and he has NEVER wavered from loving me ,,, not for a second! We have been married 6 years this last aug and he is negative as is my former husband after 15 years of being together,, <marvindamartian05@...> wrote: Norah,I got

divorced after 17 years of marriage (my ex and I are the best offriends, and he is negative for hep c), and got engaged last year toa wonderful, caring guy. My fiance lost his first wife at the age of32 to severe asthma, so he is no stranger to medical issues. When heand I got together,he thought he was engaged to the healthiest gal inthe world!Well , 3 months ago I got the dx of hep c,and his loyalty has notwavered. He has been wonderful and supportive. He doesn't treat melike a leper by any means. It is rare (though possible), I have heard,for hep c to be sexually transmitted, and in 17 years of marriage, myex never got it.(But of course, you want to take every precaution to prevent yourloved ones. Goes without saying, but there it is anyway.)As for him "calling everything off" because of your dx, I see "goodriddance"! You are better off knowing NOW if he will stand by youthrough thick and thin, and

if this makes him run, think about whatwill happen in the future.Norah, you sound like a wonderful person, and you deserve a great guy.Better to find out now if he's the guy so you can move on and let THEright one come along. If this guy turns out to be wonderful andsupportive when you tell him (and I suspect he will)then you know youhave a "keeper". If you just choose not to tell him, he will certainlyfind out anyway, and then your dishonesty will really damage therelationship. He will feel betrayed.Just my opinion, hope it helps!>> Hey peoples> > > Sorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... > > i was going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking > peeps that

knows where I am coming from... > > > I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting > married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... > > But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering > should I tell him now or later on when we are married. > > He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends > said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... > I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I > did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me > feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the > rest of my life.> > Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that > you have the illness before you two said I do> > > Hit me back!!>Jackie

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I KNOW,, I COUNT my blessings EVERY day! I WAS married to the most vile, abusive fireman for many years who would have left me if I'd gotten breast cancer,, and he was a cheat because with my liver being so sick, I gained some weight,, but we didnt know I was sick then,, but he couldnt stop hammering me about the weight even tho I was only eating ONE meal every OTHER DAY... so I KNOW just how lucky and blessed I am and I NEVER forget to tell my husband how much I love him! I feel very sad for those people who do NOT have a supportive spouse but there are many like that,, many ppl are very selfish and do not know what the marriage vows of "for better or worse, in sickness and in health" really mean..Sharon Crosby <blubirdxoxo@...> wrote: Jackie and , You're lucky to have the man you have.. Not everyone has a mate as loyal and caring as yours are. I know you know that, just had to add my bit. SharonJackie on <redjaxjm > wrote: , you are lucky like me,, I found out on our first anniversary that I had hep and my husband just cried and said he wished it were him instead of me,, and he has NEVER wavered from loving me ,,, not for a second! We have been married 6 years this last aug and he is negative as is my former husband after 15 years of being together,,

<marvindamartian05 > wrote: Norah,I got divorced after 17 years of marriage (my ex and I are the best offriends, and he is negative for hep c), and got engaged last year toa wonderful, caring guy. My fiance lost his first wife at the age of32 to severe asthma, so he is no stranger to medical issues. When heand I got together,he thought he was engaged to the healthiest gal inthe world!Well , 3 months ago I got the dx of hep c,and his loyalty has notwavered. He has been wonderful and supportive. He doesn't treat melike a leper by any means. It is rare (though possible), I have heard,for hep c to be sexually transmitted, and in 17 years of marriage, myex never got it.(But of course, you want to take every precaution to prevent yourloved ones. Goes

without saying, but there it is anyway.)As for him "calling everything off" because of your dx, I see "goodriddance"! You are better off knowing NOW if he will stand by youthrough thick and thin, and if this makes him run, think about whatwill happen in the future.Norah, you sound like a wonderful person, and you deserve a great guy.Better to find out now if he's the guy so you can move on and let THEright one come along. If this guy turns out to be wonderful andsupportive when you tell him (and I suspect he will)then you know youhave a "keeper". If you just choose not to tell him, he will certainlyfind out anyway, and then your dishonesty will really damage therelationship. He will feel betrayed.Just my opinion, hope it helps!>> Hey peoples> > > Sorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... > > i was going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking > peeps that knows where I am coming from... > > > I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting > married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... > > But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering > should I tell him now or later on when we are married. > > He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends > said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... > I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I > did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me > feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the > rest of my life.> > Has

any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that > you have the illness before you two said I do> > > Hit me back!!>Jackie Everyone is raving about the all-new . Jackie

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Don't I know it! He is an answer to prayer and I thank the Lord every

day for my MANY blessings...including this group!

....

> >

> > Hey peoples

> >

> >

> > Sorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things...

> >

> > i was going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking

> > peeps that knows where I am coming from...

> >

> >

> > I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting

> > married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it...

> >

> > But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering

> > should I tell him now or later on when we are married.

> >

> > He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends

> > said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell...

> > I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I

> > did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me

> > feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for

the

> > rest of my life.

> >

> > Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend

that

> > you have the illness before you two said I do

> >

> >

> > Hit me back!!

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Jackie

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Everyone is raving about the all-new .

>

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I need to step in here and add my two cents worth,

I think as the rest do that you should tell your

fiance.

My husband and I are married 31 years this November

15th and I have continued to test negative. He was

diagnosed in 1998, and they just discovered that he

got the Hep C from an operation that he had in 1968,

from a blood transfusion.

If your fiance is truly in love with you he will

understand.

Good Luck

NoeLani

--- Jackie on <redjaxjm@...> wrote:

> I KNOW,, I COUNT my blessings EVERY day! I WAS

> married to the most vile, abusive fireman for many

> years who would have left me if I'd gotten breast

> cancer,, and he was a cheat because with my liver

> being so sick, I gained some weight,, but we didnt

> know I was sick then,, but he couldnt stop hammering

> me about the weight even tho I was only eating ONE

> meal every OTHER DAY... so I KNOW just how lucky and

> blessed I am and I NEVER forget to tell my husband

> how much I love him!

> I feel very sad for those people who do NOT have a

> supportive spouse but there are many like that,,

> many ppl are very selfish and do not know what the

> marriage vows of " for better or worse, in sickness

> and in health " really mean..

>

> Sharon Crosby <blubirdxoxo@...> wrote:

> Jackie and , You're lucky to have

> the man you have.. Not everyone has a mate as loyal

> and caring as yours are. I know you know that, just

> had to add my bit.

>

> Sharon

>

> Jackie on <redjaxjm@...> wrote:

> , you are lucky like me,, I found out on our

> first anniversary that I had hep and my husband just

> cried and said he wished it were him instead of me,,

> and he has NEVER wavered from loving me ,,, not for

> a second! We have been married 6 years this last

> aug and he is negative as is my former husband after

> 15 years of being together,,

>

> <marvindamartian05@...> wrote:

> Norah,

>

> I got divorced after 17 years of marriage (my ex and

> I are the best of

> friends, and he is negative for hep c), and got

> engaged last year to

> a wonderful, caring guy. My fiance lost his first

> wife at the age of

> 32 to severe asthma, so he is no stranger to medical

> issues. When he

> and I got together,he thought he was engaged to the

> healthiest gal in

> the world!

>

> Well , 3 months ago I got the dx of hep c,and his

> loyalty has not

> wavered. He has been wonderful and supportive. He

> doesn't treat me

> like a leper by any means. It is rare (though

> possible), I have heard,

> for hep c to be sexually transmitted, and in 17

> years of marriage, my

> ex never got it.

>

> (But of course, you want to take every precaution to

> prevent your

> loved ones. Goes without saying, but there it is

> anyway.)

>

> As for him " calling everything off " because of your

> dx, I see " good

> riddance " ! You are better off knowing NOW if he will

> stand by you

> through thick and thin, and if this makes him run,

> think about what

> will happen in the future.

>

> Norah, you sound like a wonderful person, and you

> deserve a great guy.

> Better to find out now if he's the guy so you can

> move on and let THE

> right one come along. If this guy turns out to be

> wonderful and

> supportive when you tell him (and I suspect he

> will)then you know you

> have a " keeper " . If you just choose not to tell him,

> he will certainly

> find out anyway, and then your dishonesty will

> really damage the

> relationship. He will feel betrayed.

>

> Just my opinion, hope it helps!

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey peoples

> >

> >

> > Sorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a

> few things...

> >

> > i was going to ask my sister this question but

> decided on asking

> > peeps that knows where I am coming from...

> >

> >

> > I am seriously involved with a guy and we're

> planning on getting

> > married soon... We never had sex or anything close

> to it...

> >

> > But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I

> was wondering

> > should I tell him now or later on when we are

> married.

> >

> > He has never asked about my health conditions- one

> of my friends

> > said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to

> tell...

> > I would like to tell him eventually but part of me

> feel like if I

> > did tell him he would call everything off but

> another part of me

> > feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would

> hate me for the

> > rest of my life.

> >

> > Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/

> wife/ girlfriend that

> > you have the illness before you two said I do

> >

> >

> > Hit me back!!

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Jackie

>

> ---------------------------------

> Everyone is raving about the all-new .

>

>

>

>

>

> Jackie

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Honesty is the best policy especially when it comes to a relationship . Be upfront and honest about having it , also tell him the chances of his getting it from you are low to nothing .

Should i tell him now or later

Hey peoplesSorry I've been away.. kinda got caught up in a few things... i was going to ask my sister this question but decided on asking peeps that knows where I am coming from... I am seriously involved with a guy and we're planning on getting married soon... We never had sex or anything close to it... But he doesn't know of my illness... Sooooooooo I was wondering should I tell him now or later on when we are married. He has never asked about my health conditions- one of my friends said if he his doesn't ask then don't volunteer to tell... I would like to tell him eventually but part of me feel like if I did tell him he would call everything off but another part of me feels if I don't tell him and it comes up he would hate me for the rest of my life.Has any of had to tell your husband boyfriend/ wife/ girlfriend that you have the illness before you two said I doHit me back!!