[re: ] DH=DN DeNial

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UUUUURRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!!

Oh brother. So is on day 4-ish of the flu, and DH has the bright idea

of taking (and Kate) to a park and flying a kite. I am unable to talk him

out of it (he's drunk with the idea of fresh air), so I go along to make sure

does not run around too much.

Now, normally, I am all over letting the kid tailor their activity level to

whatever they feel like doing. But the FLU is something where I thought you

were supposed to rest even if you didn't want to?

So we're out there and I'm sort of seething... my thought is, if you asked

100 people if an immune-deficient 7 year old with the flu and diarrhea should be

outside playing in 45 degree weather -- what would they say??? Right???!!! I

mean, any energy her body is expending to keep warm, isn't that energy

diverted from fighting the infection? Sigh.

So last night she was HYPER, like nutty hyper. Fever seemed nearly gone. But

she had low fever yesterday morning, so no school today (24 hour rule). This

morning, she got up to pee at like 7am, then went back to bed. Stayed there.

DH, leaving for work at 8am, was saying " should really go to school

tomorrow. I mean, she's missed a week already. " I'm like, HUH? It's so annoying,

how

they can't keep this stuff straight. I said, " TWO DAYS. She missed Thursday

and Friday. "

See, he has this OBSESSION with missing too much school. EVERY SINGLE TIME

misses a day, he waxes spasmodic about how he was allowed to miss school

all the time as a kid and he doesn't want to do that. UM, excuse me, did

you have a PID? Did you have 8 - 10 viruses and 8 bacterial infections per

year? Pulease. misses when she HAS to miss. Until this flu, she had missed

less than five days this year!!! Drives me NUTS. Consider that I hear that

stupid speech EVERY time she misses school. Urgh.

Besides which, she is learning almost nothing at school. She basically sits

there and does busy work, as she is pretty advanced on most of the stuff. She

is missing NOTHING, I'm telling you!!!

I guess it drives me nuts because I feel like he's telling me how to do " my

job " . I mean, the house and the kids are pretty much my job, right? But of

course he naturally feels he has a right to have input on what happens in his

house with his kids, but I just hate the bossiness thing. I really feel like

especially with illness matters, he should defer to me. After all, I have

mommy's

instinct going for me and a track record of very accurate assessments of her

illness. Plus I read up on every illness she gets, so I KNOW what the flu virus

is doing to her insides right now, and what secondary infections she's being

set up for. She has fluid behind both eardrums and the flu has set her up for

pneumonia... so can you see why I'm not RUSHING to send her back to

germ-infested school when she doesn't have the energy for it yet? Can you see

why I don't

think she should be playing outside when the temp is in the 40s??? She can't

even concentrate long enough to do more than a couple pages of math in her

jammies at the dining room table, how can I send her for a whole school day?

He has NO qualms about her missing next Mon, Tues, Wed so we can go to a

waterpark hotel during HIS vacation. But she can't miss three days for

INFLUENZA???? I'm really annoyed right now!! Can you

tell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So I'm sitting here waiting for the ear infections (seems likely at this

point) and watching for pneumonia (seems UNlikely at this point), and her fever

is

higher today than it was yesterday (still only 99.6 though). And I have to

deal with his input on whether or not she should go to school, like I can't

figure that out??? Give me a break!!!!

Sorry to rant and rave. I'm really aggravated at the spouse right now. Really

aggravated.

(mom to , age 7, dairy intolerant-related GERD -- currently has

polysaccharide antibody def, previously had transient IgG, IgA, t-cell & other

defs... and also to Kate, age 3!, more dairy intolerant but very healthy!)