[re: ] Rally or Fake?

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Well, I just don't know how to assess . All yesterday she was lying

down, well maybe not all, but quite a bit. Kids aren't lazy like that, you know?

So I figure it's legit. She's surly as all get-out, that I am SURE about.

Then she slept from 3p - 5:15p (!), only waking because I made her, thinking

she'd never sleep that night if she didn't get up. I was a little concerned, I

mean, she did not want to get up!

But she ate a normal dinner (if you call Mc's " normal " ... but it was a

bribe to get her out of bed), did a ton of school make-up work with me, then

when Daddy got home, she was a ball of fire. I mean, totally NORMAL. Energy,

playfulness, etc. So in Daddy's defense (thinking she doesn't need to rest or

stay home), when she's around him you would not think she's sick. Unless you

look at the bags under her eyes or her jeans hanging off her, which men can't

see.

So my question is, is she just rallying out of excitement to see Daddy, and

the daytime fatigue is really what it seems? Or is she just laying low during

mommy time because she's used to that, is really feeling better than it seems?

See, we have this rule that I instituted to discourage playing hookey. If she

stays home from school, she has to be lying down the entire time school is in

session. This rule is more enforced if I think an illness might be being

exaggerated. Meaning, if she's really not able to go to school (vomiting,

diarrhea, fever), I actually don't enforce that. But if it's just a " not feeling

well "

thing, I would make her lie down the whole time. I've actually only had to do

that a couple times in the last two years, usually the illnesses are totally

legit.

So I'm wondering if it's just a " habit " to be lying down resting when Mommy

is around.

Part of this is also jealousy -- the kids are really getting into the Daddy

thing. See, DH is a fun daddy, plays rough, wrestles, all that. I don't do the

rough stuff, it hurts me! Plus, there is no way I can sustain that level of

play for the 12 hours I'm with them. So we do crafts and games and school work

and cuddles and all that. Plus some work time for mommy -- they play on their

own when I do housework and bills, etc. So they are coming to realize that

mommy is a mixed bag, but daddy is A-1 fun all the time (the whole hour or so

they

see him per day). So I'm feeling left out and rejected.

It's so sad -- I mean, I have given my all for years to them, blood sweat and

tears, and yesterday Kate in a terse moment said, " I don't like you. I like

Daddy. " I know she's just little and I shouldn't take it personally, but I

can't help it, it hurts me. And having two girls, I know it's natural at some

point they reject mommy during the growing-up process, but I have no boys to

cling

to me then! Guess we'll have to get that stupid dog after all, just so I have

someone who will love me when the girls hate me!

WHAT A CRAPPY WEEK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(mom to , age 7, dairy intolerant-related GERD -- currently has

polysaccharide antibody def, previously had transient IgG, IgA, t-cell & other

defs... and also to Kate, age 3!, more dairy intolerant but very healthy!)