Guest guest Posted June 10, 2007 Report Share Posted June 10, 2007 Never blame yourself. Our Aspies are here to teach the world! Questioning... Before my son was diagnosed I had never even heard of Aspergers. If I knew anyone with the diagnosis I didn't recognize it. I was watching Boston Legal last night and there is a man nick-named Hands with Aspergers. Is this an accurate depiction of an Asperers adult? I realize there is a broad range of characteristics and won't be exactly like him.Also, I had at age 39. I have it in the back of my head that my age contributed to this. I realize that feeling guilty isn't productive and I am forgiven and God planned to the second. He isn't a mistake! I don't regret having so late in life because before this age I wasn't mentally, spiritually or emotionally capable of being a good Mom. But I still think on it every so often and wonder. And then we tried to have another and lost her to a molar pregnancy and I wonder about that too.Any insight would be appreciated. Thank you. Jodi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2007 Report Share Posted June 11, 2007 Hi Jodi. I think it's natural for any parent to wonder "why" it happened. Why anything happened. I know I've wondered. We've wondered if it's the vaccines. Or the shots we both had to take while in the military. The fact that he was induced with pitocin. The fact that they had to pull him out with tongs. We wondered if it was because we treated him like a "person" and not a baby......always educational toys.......we wondered if we made him "unable" to fit with others. Ugh. I think your age probably did do something.......it gave you the years of wisdom and morepatience to love your child the best way you could. I didn't see that show you mentioned. Now I want to. You're right - the characteristics are so varied, that there is probably no to kids with aspergers who are the same. Give yourself a break.........we all need to do that, I think, at times. Hugs. Robin Jeff and Jodi <jjkgardenier@...> wrote: Before my son was diagnosed I had never even heard of Aspergers. If I knew anyone with the diagnosis I didn't recognize it. I was watching Boston Legal last night and there is a man nick-named Hands with Aspergers. Is this an accurate depiction of an Asperers adult? I realize there is a broad range of characteristics and won't be exactly like him.Also, I had at age 39. I have it in the back of my head that my age contributed to this. I realize that feeling guilty isn't productive and I am forgiven and God planned to the second. He isn't a mistake! I don't regret having so late in life because before this age I wasn't mentally, spiritually or emotionally capable of being a good Mom. But I still think on it every so often and wonder. And then we tried to have another and lost her to a molar pregnancy and I wonder about that too.Any insight would be appreciated. Thank you. Jodi Boardwalk for $500? In 2007? Ha! Play Monopoly Here and Now (it's updated for today's economy) at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2007 Report Share Posted June 13, 2007 I was 24! Remeber the Hindu's think special folks Autistic & any other thing that might be wrong is to teach us how to be humble! I thank god for and no more blame him for Autism then his brown eyes! He has ten toes & fingers and even if he didn't he is my Angel the one person that holds my heart in his hands. Never think of what could have been just love the child you have. My sister inlaw has a child with downs she was told she would never have a baby she is so happy with Tesa that the downs is the last thing on her mind. She is 9 in second grade and is the most loved child ever! > > Never blame yourself. Our Aspies are here to teach the world! > Questioning... > > > Before my son was diagnosed I had never even heard of Aspergers. If I > knew anyone with the diagnosis I didn't recognize it. I was watching > Boston Legal last night and there is a man nick-named Hands with > Aspergers. Is this an accurate depiction of an Asperers adult? I > realize there is a broad range of characteristics and won't be > exactly like him. > > Also, I had at age 39. I have it in the back of my head that my > age contributed to this. I realize that feeling guilty isn't > productive and I am forgiven and God planned to the second. He > isn't a mistake! I don't regret having so late in life because > before this age I wasn't mentally, spiritually or emotionally capable > of being a good Mom. But I still think on it every so often and > wonder. And then we tried to have another and lost her to a molar > pregnancy and I wonder about that too. > > Any insight would be appreciated. Thank you. Jodi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2007 Report Share Posted June 13, 2007 It is so awesome to hear someone with an attitude like yours. It seems that we are taught continuously that, if we have a child that's different, that's bad! But all those kinds of beliefs only bring us pain unnecessarily. You are an example of that. I am the mother of a once-severely-autistic boy. I am sooooo grateful that I could make the journey with him a joyful one, free of fear, regret and doubt. IT CAN BE THAT WAY. If you'd like to go to a FREE lecture full of hope and answers, there's one Thurs., June 14th in Eugene at the Hilton Eugene & Conference Center ... 7 PM - 9:30 or Saturday, June 16th in Portland at the Oregon Convention Center ... 9AM - 11:30 AM or Tuesday, June 19th in Bellevue, WASHINGTON, at the Meydenbauer Center ... 7 PM - 9:30 PM or Wed., June 20th in Portland at the Rose Garden ... 7 PM - 9:30PM This should be really exciting for those who want to really help their children without suffering, but with creating a beautiful experience out of the process these amazing children have brought into our lives. I have been so blessed with having been my son's mom, and then ... my daughter adopted a child who was on the autism spectrum and she, her husband, and all of us also did the same kind of program with her. She is no longer autistic. LOTS of energy--- but what else would be more fascinating and fun to spend our energy on? So thank you for the inspiration of your words. I hope many others benefitted by them. In Autism and Aspergers Treatment , " valet_4u " <valet_4u@...> wrote: > > I was 24! Remeber the Hindu's think special folks Autistic & any > other thing that might be wrong is to teach us how to be humble! I > thank god for and no more blame him for Autism then his brown > eyes! He has ten toes & fingers and even if he didn't he is my Angel > the one person that holds my heart in his hands. Never think of what > could have been just love the child you have. My sister inlaw has a > child with downs she was told she would never have a baby she is so > happy with Tesa that the downs is the last thing on her mind. She is > 9 in second grade and is the most loved child ever! > > > > > > > > > > > > > Never blame yourself. Our Aspies are here to teach the world! > > Questioning... > > > > > > Before my son was diagnosed I had never even heard of Aspergers. > If I > > knew anyone with the diagnosis I didn't recognize it. I was > watching > > Boston Legal last night and there is a man nick-named Hands with > > Aspergers. Is this an accurate depiction of an Asperers adult? I > > realize there is a broad range of characteristics and won't > be > > exactly like him. > > > > Also, I had at age 39. I have it in the back of my head > that my > > age contributed to this. I realize that feeling guilty isn't > > productive and I am forgiven and God planned to the second. > He > > isn't a mistake! I don't regret having so late in life > because > > before this age I wasn't mentally, spiritually or emotionally > capable > > of being a good Mom. But I still think on it every so often and > > wonder. And then we tried to have another and lost her to a molar > > pregnancy and I wonder about that too. > > > > Any insight would be appreciated. Thank you. Jodi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2007 Report Share Posted June 15, 2007 HELLO JODI, Yes I have also wondered how it happened ,did i do soemthing ,eat the wrong things,give him bad food . I know i didnt do anything to cause it intentionally but maybe unintentionally (shots ,food,environmetal).but in it all we are there trying to help our kids and get them well and take care of them that we never give our selves a pat on the back for doing all that we can or trying to do what is right with what we have.regardless of age (there are lots of moms who are young with kids with disorders age may increase the risk but doenst guarantee it will happen)there is no guarantee at any age that a baby will be born healthy.I started having kids at 19 my first son other than minor issuses(some speech and just needing a little xtra time ) was fine .the next 2 are the ones with the pdd,mr and so on and so forth.i was 22 and 24 when i had them . I was young my body healed fast i was more fit for them all but i still had 2 out of 3 kids with special needs.well my next child i had at 31 she was harder on my system (boy you notice the difference with ur age when you go into labor damn it hurt like hell swear worse than the others)well she was born and she has been well ahead of where she is supposed to be .she is 4 now and doing great we (the dr and i) watch for any signs but there are none.but with her i had a lot more patience and understood a lot more that i knew what to look out for .I made sure i had a dr who listened to my worries and help me keep my eyes open .One thing I learned from all of this is, no matter who you are race, creed ,age, etc.... there are no guarantees and there is no such thing as perfect . AND A WORD OF ENCOURAGMENT THERE HAVE BEEN MOTHERS GIVING BIRTH IN THEIR 60S IT IS POSSIBLE.MY SISTER TOOK 10 YEARS TRYING TO GET PREGNANT SHE HAD TO FIANLLY DO ARTIFICLE INSEMINATION.AT 35 SHE GOT PREGNANT AND HAD HER FIRST CHILD .PRETTY MUCH FIGURED THAT WAS IT FOR HER TOOK HER 10 LONG YRS AND TO DO GO TO DR TO DO IT WELL SHE ENDED UP AT 37 HAVING A SON ON HER OWN DIDNT NEED ANY "FERTILITY HELP" TO HAVE IT HAPPENED HER BABY IS FINE NOW I KNOW SHE WAS A BIT YOUNGER BUT ONLY BY 2 YRS .IF YOU DO DECIDE TO HAVE ANOTHER I HOPE YOU ARE BLESSED WITH A BEAUTIFUL CHILD. PS sorry if i rambled or if i seem to be all over the board but i do have trouble with keeping on track anymore.. VICKIE Re: Questioning... Hi Jodi. I think it's natural for any parent to wonder "why" it happened. Why anything happened. I know I've wondered. We've wondered if it's the vaccines. Or the shots we both had to take while in the military. The fact that he was induced with pitocin. The fact that they had to pull him out with tongs. We wondered if it was because we treated him like a "person" and not a baby......always educational toys.......we wondered if we made him "unable" to fit with others. Ugh. I think your age probably did do something... ....it gave you the years of wisdom and morepatience to love your child the best way you could. I didn't see that show you mentioned. Now I want to. You're right - the characteristics are so varied, that there is probably no to kids with aspergers who are the same. Give yourself a break....... ..we all need to do that, I think, at times. Hugs. Robin Jeff and Jodi <jjkgardenier@ sbcglobal. net> wrote: Before my son was diagnosed I had never even heard of Aspergers. If I knew anyone with the diagnosis I didn't recognize it. I was watching Boston Legal last night and there is a man nick-named Hands with Aspergers. Is this an accurate depiction of an Asperers adult? I realize there is a broad range of characteristics and won't be exactly like him.Also, I had at age 39. I have it in the back of my head that my age contributed to this. I realize that feeling guilty isn't productive and I am forgiven and God planned to the second. He isn't a mistake! I don't regret having so late in life because before this age I wasn't mentally, spiritually or emotionally capable of being a good Mom. But I still think on it every so often and wonder. And then we tried to have another and lost her to a molar pregnancy and I wonder about that too.Any insight would be appreciated. Thank you. Jodi Boardwalk for $500? In 2007? Ha! Play Monopoly Here and Now (it's updated for today's economy) at Games. oneSearch: Finally, mobile search that gives answers, not web links. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2007 Report Share Posted June 16, 2007 Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. You have really helped me feel better. I'm afraid that after we lost 's little sister I had to have a hysterectomy. I'm okay though. I am blessed enough with my son and I know that Grace Clara is in God's hands. I've considered adoption but my husband doesn't want to and that is okay too. We have a good life. Maybe one day... I wouldn't want to adopt unless my husband wanted to also and I'm glad he's being honest with me about it. Jodi > Before my son was diagnosed I had never even heard of Aspergers. If I > knew anyone with the diagnosis I didn't recognize it. I was watching > Boston Legal last night and there is a man nick-named Hands with > Aspergers. Is this an accurate depiction of an Asperers adult? I > realize there is a broad range of characteristics and won't be > exactly like him. > > Also, I had at age 39. I have it in the back of my head that my > age contributed to this. I realize that feeling guilty isn't > productive and I am forgiven and God planned to the second. He > isn't a mistake! I don't regret having so late in life because > before this age I wasn't mentally, spiritually or emotionally capable > of being a good Mom. But I still think on it every so often and > wonder. And then we tried to have another and lost her to a molar > pregnancy and I wonder about that too. > > Any insight would be appreciated. Thank you. Jodi > > > > > > > Boardwalk for $500? In 2007? Ha! > Play Monopoly Here and Now (it's updated for today's economy) at Games. > > > > > _____________________________________________________________________ _______________ > Choose the right car based on your needs. Check out Autos new Car Finder tool. > http://autos./carfinder/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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