Admitting to inhouse

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In a message dated 11/20/2006 9:59:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

hippygal@... writes:

but if it goes ahead they will try and get him in the Christmas Holidays

(early Jan). so that I don't need to pull Steph out of school as it is 2 1/2

hours away.

Jaxx

I guess I just couldn't imagine doing something like that over Christmas....

however it truly is a personal decision you have to make yourself. Have you

discussed it with your son? If so, what does he think about the idea?

LT

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Hi all, we have just come back from the psychologist appointment re: Chris's OCD

and they have put a suggestion to me that I consider admitting him to the Child

and Family Unit at Starship Hospital to help him with his OCD.(

http://www.starship.org.nz/index.php/ps_pagename/contentpage/pi_id/168 )

They feel he can get better treatment while he is admitted, I know there a few

of you that have had there child admitted where you live. At the moment it has

only been discussed and I go back in 2 weeks and tell them how I feel about it,

but if it goes ahead they will try and get him in the Christmas Holidays (early

Jan). so that I don't need to pull Steph out of school as it is 2 1/2 hours

away. I/we will stay at Mac House if we can get in. It is such a

hard decision - part of me thinks it is proberly the right thing to do but will

he hate me for doing it..... etc. How did you make that decsision??

Thanks in advance Jaxx (New Zealand)

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I sent this yesterday and has not appeared to come through so will try again....

Admitting to inhouse

Hi all, we have just come back from the psychologist appointment re: Chris's OCD

and they have put a suggestion to me that I consider admitting him to the Child

and Family Unit at Starship Hospital to help him with his OCD.(

http://www.starship.org.nz/index.php/ps_pagename/contentpage/pi_id/168 )

They feel he can get better treatment while he is admitted, I know there a few

of you that have had there child admitted where you live. At the moment it has

only been discussed and I go back in 2 weeks and tell them how I feel about it,

but if it goes ahead they will try and get him in the Christmas Holidays (early

Jan). so that I don't need to pull Steph out of school as it is 2 1/2 hours

away. I/we will stay at Mac House if we can get in. It is such a

hard decision - part of me thinks it is proberly the right thing to do but will

he hate me for doing it..... etc. How did you make that decsision??

Thanks in advance Jaxx (New Zealand)

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The post must have gone through - I never received it... anyway no we have not

discussed it with my son yet as he would freak and panic, and I don't want him

doing that 6 weeks in advance. When I say the Christmas holidays I mean early

new year as the school holidays here are until early feb. so he will still have

a family Christmas etc... We will discuss it with him once I know if I am

heading for the decision to say yes.

Cheers Jaxx (New Zealand)

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Hi Jaxx,

My d was admitted as inpatient 3 hours away b/c she could not gain

weight and suffered steady weight loss due to ocd beleifs. In a way our

decision was made easier simply by the fact that we tried everything we

could locally and tried every type of approach at home to get her to

eat and stop ritualized fasts, but b/c it was becoming a life

threatening medical issue we got her admitted. This was something she

dreaded and threatened to kill herself (and she had run away when we

undertook local hospitalization). We had to pack secretly, spring the

admission on her at the last minute, had sheriff's back up, made a 3

hour drive blocking doors to keep her from jumping out. The upshot is

the anticipation and dread were probably worse for her (and me) than

the actual admission. She settled in pretty quickly and if nothing

else happened theraputically, I knew I would be would be thrilled just

that she was eating.

The caution though, is that places less experienced with ocd might take

more punitive approches (such as dealing with bipolar, drug abuse,

suicidaility etc). I beleive in gentler approaches (even for non ocd

spectrums if possible) but ocd kids are usully pretty gentle and try

to be compliant, it is fear that makes then sometimes agressive and

staff needs to understand this to treat them accordingly. We did have a

bad brief traumatic experience with a more generalized psych ward and

that fueled my dd's dread about inpatient residential or hospitlization.

Can you vist the fcility with your son? Or try to visit without your

son to reassure yourself about the setting and the treatment

philosophy. My d said if she could hve visted that would have made it

esier, but hard to say for sure. If you think your son's ocd is severe

(esp if medically so) and cannot be treated at home, it may be helpful,

esp if your insurance is willing to cover. Best wishes..

nancy grace

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> The post must have gone through - I never received it... anyway no we

have not discussed it with my son yet as he would freak and panic, and

I don't want him doing that 6 weeks in advance. When I say the

Christmas holidays I mean early new year as the school holidays here

are until early feb. so he will still have a family Christmas etc... We

will discuss it with him once I know if I am heading for the decision

to say yes.

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> Cheers Jaxx (New Zealand)

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Hi Jaxx,

I can only imagine how hard this is for parents! When first

had OCD, I really thought he might have to go inpatient but waited it

out. And here/there with other bad episodes I wondered too.

You'll read good/bad experiences so far as inhouse/inpatient

experiences. Some children also get therapy while inpatient and

sometimes it's just to try to get them on the right medication but no

therapy. Sounds like your son's would be to try for a good

medication that will work?

I guess it sometimes comes down to all that has already been tried,

the child's current functioning level with OCD, etc.

That's great that you can try to stay at the Rondal Mc House,

I've always heard parents say how helpful & wonderful that is, hope

you can get in there! Does your son know that you are considering

having him go? If so, how does he feel?

Hate to say this, but even typical kids hate their parents at times.

(or maybe that's just *my* experience!) I know if it was me I would

talk ahead of time with my son about it and all the *benefits* of

going for a short visit (especially if you will be nearby in the

Mc House). And if he goes and presently " hates " you for it,

well, that won't last a lifetime, he'll get past that! (As I said,

there'll be other things for him to " hate " you for later, especially

in the teen years!)

Well, no help for your choice and no actual experience from me! But

do keep us updated on what happens!

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> I sent this yesterday and has not appeared to come through so will

try again....

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> Hi all, we have just come back from the psychologist appointment

re: Chris's OCD and they have put a suggestion to me that I consider

admitting him to the Child and Family Unit at Starship Hospital to

help him with his OCD.(

http://www.starship.org.nz/index.php/ps_pagename/contentpage/pi_id/168

)

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good luck - trust your gut - glad he'll have a family Christmas!!!!

eileen

Quoting Jaxx Brown <hippygal@...>:

> The post must have gone through - I never received it... anyway no

> we have not discussed it with my son yet as he would freak and

> panic, and I don't want him doing that 6 weeks in advance. When I

> say the Christmas holidays I mean early new year as the school

> holidays here are until early feb. so he will still have a family

> Christmas etc... We will discuss it with him once I know if I am

> heading for the decision to say yes.

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> Cheers Jaxx (New Zealand)

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