Re: Got my son admitted, feel unsettled

October 24, 2006

Hi Bill

I am so happy that your son agreed to get help at the hospital. may

seem big and strong to you but inside he is a frightened child. One of the

problems my son had, who is about the same size, is that his whole life every

one

expected so much more form him because he was always bigger and stronger than

the average boy. I pray that the doctors will be able to help

understand what has happen to him and give him encouragement. I can tell you

that my

son had a very sudden and incredible mind altering onset of OCD. As I told you

he went from a honor student to being unable to put two words together in the

1st month of his sophomore year. He went from a 3 varsity sport athlete to

barely being able to get out of bed for an hour a day. He had never missed a day

of school ( ever) because of an illness, prior to the onset of OCD . When he

started manifesting all sorts of physical problems,I took him to ever kind of

doctor for tests. The stress of OCD had ravaged his nervous system so fast and

his body and mind shut down as a coping defense mechanism--- in short, I

believe OCD caused him to have nervous breakdown. Let me know how is

doing.

Looking back on the last 8 years, I had one huge regret-- I was so worried

about my son, that I totally ignored my other " perfectly fantastic younger son. "

Six years later he told me how miserably lonely; sad, and afraid he felt. He

didn't want to be a burden, so he suffered in silence.

Take care of yourself and the rest of your family. OCD hurts everyone. Let me

know how is doing.

Good night,

Dana

October 24, 2006

Bill,

I really feel for you and your family situation. It breaks my heart

sometimes to read the posts about all the family struggles on here. It

must be so hard for you all right now. Your son will definitely be in

my prayers tonight as will the rest of your family. God bless you all.

Try to get some rest/sleep, the ball is rolling now and I hope you get

some answers soon.

Kim M

October 24, 2006

Bill,

I'm sure it was a very hard thing to do. Keep posting and let us know

about his progress. Prayers for you and your family during this

difficult time.

Dina

October 25, 2006

Sending cyber {{hugs}} from New Zealand - I can only imagine how hard this must

be for you.

Take care Jackie

October 25, 2006

In a message dated 10/25/2006 12:58:53 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

justlivey@... writes:

My little 4 yr old girl grabbed him and cried

her heart out saying she would miss him.

Bill

Isn't it something how sibs can fight like cats & dogs, but when it really

comes down it something like this, their love comes shining through. That

always amazed me with my kids. Your son sounds about the same size as my " baby

boy " , bless his little heart for being so brave during all of this - it

really shows his maturity & commitment to getting better and do what's good for

him - even if it's scary.

I will be saying prayers for you & your family.... your son especially.

LT

October 25, 2006

Bill,

Yes, I will be praying for your son. I know this is soo hard but you have

done the right thing and hopefully these professionals can get him the help

he needs.

Please keep us posted.

Adele

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Sent: Wednesday, October 25, 2006 12:55 AM

Subject: Got my son admitted, feel unsettled

Hi,

I got a phone call today at 3:00pm that NC Baptist had a bed for my

son in the ped. psyc ward. He was scared to death to go. I felt like

dirt leaving him there. Sure looked funny admitting a 210 pound 6'2 "

boy to the ped. ward where he was bigger than any of the staff. He

sure looked puzzeled when a small man came in to do a weapons

search. We answered about 3 hours of questions, told the all we

could remember.He was not allowed to keep a cell phone or a walkman

to listen to music. Nights are hardest for him. I hope he gets to

sleep soon tonight. My little 4 yr old girl grabbed him and cried

her heart out saying she would miss him. We told her he needed to go

and get better. He seemed to be the only older teen in the group. I

told the nurses about his many rounds of sore throats and

antibiotics as a toddler. The seemed more interested in his PTSD and

relationship with his mom. They have a team of doctors and many

interns that will be talking with him tomorrow. I hope he will get

an MRI to rule out a brain tumor. One of our doctors said his

condition worsened way too fast to be OCD alone. I wonder how long

they will keep him. Please pray for my son as I try to pray for your

children & families. Thanks so much for all of your help and input,

Bill

October 25, 2006

Hi Bill,

Remember, you are getting him the help he needs!

Like I said before in an earlier post, hospitalizing my daughter was one of

the hardest things I ever had to do in my life, but it had to be done. I was

basically left with no choice. Leaving her there that first night was like a

nightmare come true.(She was only 6 years old), but my daughter also has bipolar

disorder and was completely out of control and barely able to function.

Try to stay strong!!! I know how hard it is! Do things with your other family

members while he is there. He will be taken care of. Take this time to give

yourself a little break.I know you feel guilty, but try not to. Remember, your

doing what you need to do to make him well. He'll get there!

Hugs

Judy

October 25, 2006

Hi Bill, I can only imagine how hard it is with hospitalization but

many other parents here have gone through this and I'm sure they can

be helpful with any insights on what to expect. Like with most

things, I'm sure for your son that the first night would be the

hardest; he'll know what to expect (routines, no walkman...) by the

end of this 2nd day.

They might want to address the PTSD first since, for some people,

that seems to " bring on " the OCD (whatever event/circumstances

brought on the PTSD) so patience might be a " virtue " this first

week, let the staff observe/talk to your son to get an idea of what

all is going on with him (emotionally, physically, etc.). Although

it does seem to me that they don't quite understand how fast OCD

can " appear " , the sudden onset that sometimes happens, like with

PANDAS. And my son isn't PANDAS, so far as I know, but his onset

really seemed overnight/sudden.

(((hugs))) to you and family and to your son, will be thinking of

him! And the rest of you need to take this time to de-stress and

have a bit of fun and relaxation, doing this without any guilt, as

this will help you each physically and emotionally and will help you

all to be better prepared/rested for your son when he returns home!

>

> Hi,

> I got a phone call today at 3:00pm that NC Baptist had a bed for

my

> son in the ped. psyc ward. He was scared to death to go. I felt

like

> dirt leaving him there. Sure looked funny admitting a 210 pound

6'2 "

> boy to the ped. ward where he was bigger than any of the staff. He

October 25, 2006

Bill, (((hugs))).

>

> Hi,

> I got a phone call today at 3:00pm that NC Baptist had a bed for

my

> son in the ped. psyc ward. He was scared to death to go. I felt

like

> dirt leaving him there. Sure looked funny admitting a 210 pound

6'2 "

> boy to the ped. ward where he was bigger than any of the staff. He

> sure looked puzzeled when a small man came in to do a weapons

> search. We answered about 3 hours of questions, told the all we

> could remember.He was not allowed to keep a cell phone or a

walkman

> to listen to music. Nights are hardest for him. I hope he gets to

> sleep soon tonight. My little 4 yr old girl grabbed him and cried

> her heart out saying she would miss him. We told her he needed to

go

> and get better. He seemed to be the only older teen in the group.

I

> told the nurses about his many rounds of sore throats and

> antibiotics as a toddler. The seemed more interested in his PTSD

and

> relationship with his mom. They have a team of doctors and many

> interns that will be talking with him tomorrow. I hope he will get

> an MRI to rule out a brain tumor. One of our doctors said his

> condition worsened way too fast to be OCD alone. I wonder how long

> they will keep him. Please pray for my son as I try to pray for

your

> children & families. Thanks so much for all of your help and

input,

> Bill

>

October 25, 2006

Bill, I wanted to tell you how sorry I am, you and your family are

going through this. It is never easy to leave our children in a

hospital and then have to walk away. I know you know this is the best

thing for him, but it still hurts very much!!

I will also keep you and your family in my prayers. Especially for

peace to cover you all!

Sandy

-- In , " justlivey " <justlivey@...>

wrote:

>

> Hi,

> I got a phone call today at 3:00pm that NC Baptist had a bed for

my

> son in the ped. psyc ward. He was scared to death to go. I felt

like

> dirt leaving him there. Sure looked funny admitting a 210 pound

6'2 "

> boy to the ped. ward where he was bigger than any of the staff. He

> sure looked puzzeled when a small man came in to do a weapons

> search. We answered about 3 hours of questions, told the all we

> could remember.He was not allowed to keep a cell phone or a walkman

> to listen to music. Nights are hardest for him. I hope he gets to

> sleep soon tonight. My little 4 yr old girl grabbed him and cried

> her heart out saying she would miss him. We told her he needed to

go

> and get better. He seemed to be the only older teen in the group. I

> told the nurses about his many rounds of sore throats and

> antibiotics as a toddler. The seemed more interested in his PTSD

and

> relationship with his mom. They have a team of doctors and many

> interns that will be talking with him tomorrow. I hope he will get

> an MRI to rule out a brain tumor. One of our doctors said his

> condition worsened way too fast to be OCD alone. I wonder how long

> they will keep him. Please pray for my son as I try to pray for

your

> children & families. Thanks so much for all of your help and input,

> Bill

>

October 25, 2006

Bill,

I know it is hard to go through, but you are getting him the help he needs right

now. You son knows it too, otherwise he would not have gone willingly.

Please keep us posted on his progress.

Sinead

Got my son admitted, feel unsettled