Re: Guily, guilty, guilty

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

My name is Becky and I have a 12 year old daughter. Guilt is very normal

and I'm sure we all experience it everyday. Are we being too strict, too easy

going, thinking of our own feelings instead of theirs. It goes on and on. OCD

stinks because it takes over everyone in the families lives. Middle school could

have a lot to do with her rituals and anxieties. My daughter has chronic kidney

stones on top of her ocd. She has missed a total of 18 days of school since

Sept. 6! We are doing our best to keep her in school, but it's getting very

difficult. Just like your daughter doesn't want therapy, mine doesn't want to go

to school. It's quite a mess right now. So I find myself snapping at her a lot.

I definately understand guilt. Just keep looking up. This to shall pass. God

bless, Becky

McRobie <ocdisordermom@...> wrote:

I am still fairly new to this group, and grateful for the sense of

community that it provides. Here's what I have been feeling lately:

guilty. I am the mother of a beautiful, smart, funny, high-achieving

11-year-old girl. We've known since she was born that there was something

" different " about her - terrible rages and " tantrums, " inconsolable

behaviors, little adaptability, etc. When she was 7 (?) we took her to a

psychiatrist, who confirmed OCD. A year and a half ago, we tried CBT,

but it didn't really " take. " Then, in January of 2006 it got so bad I

thought I would just have to move out! She seeks reassurance CONTINUALLY

from me (and only me). She got to the point where she would be keeping

me up until 2 a.m. going over and over her rituals. I think others

here understand the extent to which this sounds like co-dependency, but

really, there never seems to be a choice. In February, we saw another

psychiatrist and had her put on Zoloft. Over several months we

increased the dosage to 250 mg, and her symptoms were about 80%

controlled. In August, I switched to generic ... and she started the dreaded

middle school. Two weeks after the switch, we switched back to brand.

It's been five weeks back on 250 mg of Zoloft, the doctor added

Anafranil (ten days ago) and STILL she is ritualizing like crazy. Why do I

feel guilty??? She doesn't seem to care. It's only ME who is being

controlled by her behavior, it seems, not her. When the medication was

working, it was ME who got relief - she wouldn't say one way or another

whether she " felt better, " but I was able to function better and so

enjoyed her laughter and some sense of freedom that she hadn't had before.

So I guess I am seeking reassurance myself ;-) from this group ...

having been kept awake until 1:30 last night with her rituals, I am utterly

exhausted and in the driver's seat where it comes to treatment - do we

switch meds? Give this trial more time? How much time?

Attempt therapy again with a less-than-willing kid? Is this all about

the move into middle school and its attendant stress? Could she

spontaneously experience a remission of symptoms? And can I continue to bear

this? And does anyone else feel that sense of guilt????

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Arrrgghh! I did a response to you and hit " send " and blanked

on me. Don't see it yet.

So, a shorter response, is:

YES I have felt the guilt! Have apologized to more than

once. Had to remind myself that I liked/loved and it was the

OCD driving me batty, not him. Had to remind him of that too! He

kept me up late many, many nights and I complained about it here!

(OK, and to him!)

Occasionally I've seen posts before where a switch in medication to

generic didn't work. I'm curious now and am going to ask in another

group about this and will pass on any good replies I get to you.

was on Celexa for 9th and 10th grades. We weaned him off it

the end of 10th and they were just changing him to the generic that

last month or so. Since we were lowering the dosages anyway, don't

know if the generic worked or not. Technically, as we all know, they

are supposed to work just as well as the brand name. SIGH!

Well, other reply might still show! Hang in there . I can

understand the relief you felt when the demands of OCD were less on

YOU. I sometimes commented in the past that seemed to just

let OCD take him wherever *it* wanted to, just went right along with

it, no bossing back, etc. I imagine our kids can get too tired to

fight it sometimes.

Later!

>

> I am still fairly new to this group, and grateful for the sense

of

> community that it provides. Here's what I have been feeling

lately:

> guilty. I am the mother of a beautiful, smart, funny, high-

[Guest guest]

I cant answer any of the med questions, we havent had to go that route yet.

YES, I would say starting school again, AND changing schools, could definately

be a big part of it. Any change or time of stress is likely to make things

worse.

As for guilt, yes, I have it. I think the first time I felt it was last winter,

when she was at her worst. We had family visiting and dh took her and another

older child to do something and I took our younger dd and another younger child

to the mall. We ate and played at Mcs, then at the play area at the mall.

I couldnt believe how different it was to do those things w/o my OCDer and how

much I enjoyed going! I usually dreaded those things (her biggest compulsion at

the time was handwashing and germ related fears, so think McD and play area and

all the germs there, not to mention public restrooms!). That time I really was

able to enjoy my younger dd and felt guilty that I hadnt been able to enjoy time

with her lately. And of course I felt guilty that I had such a fun and relaxing

time with out my OCDer. But then I thought about her, and how she has to deal

with those things ALL the time. I got a break that night from OCD, but she never

does. I know how stressful OCD was making me, I couldnt imagine what it was

doing to her. She was just starting therapy then and has done amazingly well

since then, but I still have guilt. I think part of it is a mom thing, we all

want our kids to be 100% perfect, normal, happy, and figure it is our fault if

they are not.

Sharon

Guily, guilty, guilty

I am still fairly new to this group, and grateful for the sense of

community that it provides. Here's what I have been feeling lately:

guilty. I am the mother of a beautiful, smart, funny, high-achieving

11-year-old girl. We've known since she was born that there was something

" different " about her - terrible rages and " tantrums, " inconsolable

behaviors, little adaptability, etc. When she was 7 (?) we took her to a

psychiatrist, who confirmed OCD. A year and a half ago, we tried CBT,

but it didn't really " take. " Then, in January of 2006 it got so bad I

thought I would just have to move out! She seeks reassurance CONTINUALLY

from me (and only me). She got to the point where she would be keeping

me up until 2 a.m. going over and over her rituals. I think others

here understand the extent to which this sounds like co-dependency, but

really, there never seems to be a choice. In February, we saw another

psychiatrist and had her put on Zoloft. Over several months we

increased the dosage to 250 mg, and her symptoms were about 80%

controlled. In August, I switched to generic ... and she started the dreaded

middle school. Two weeks after the switch, we switched back to brand.

It's been five weeks back on 250 mg of Zoloft, the doctor added

Anafranil (ten days ago) and STILL she is ritualizing like crazy. Why do I

feel guilty??? She doesn't seem to care. It's only ME who is being

controlled by her behavior, it seems, not her. When the medication was

working, it was ME who got relief - she wouldn't say one way or another

whether she " felt better, " but I was able to function better and so

enjoyed her laughter and some sense of freedom that she hadn't had before.

So I guess I am seeking reassurance myself ;-) from this group ...

having been kept awake until 1:30 last night with her rituals, I am utterly

exhausted and in the driver's seat where it comes to treatment - do we

switch meds? Give this trial more time? How much time?

Attempt therapy again with a less-than-willing kid? Is this all about

the move into middle school and its attendant stress? Could she

spontaneously experience a remission of symptoms? And can I continue to bear

this? And does anyone else feel that sense of guilt????

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

I snap at my dd, too, and then feel so guilty. She cries very easily,

especially when over stimulated or over tired. I know part of it is my fault

when she gets that way, then I yell at her for her crying. I feel so bad. Then

she feels bad and apologizes to me for getting so upset. That makes me feel

even more guilty!

Sharon

Re: Guily, guilty, guilty

Hi ,

My name is Becky and I have a 12 year old daughter. Guilt is very normal and

I'm sure we all experience it everyday. Are we being too strict, too easy going,

thinking of our own feelings instead of theirs. It goes on and on. OCD stinks

because it takes over everyone in the families lives. Middle school could have a

lot to do with her rituals and anxieties. My daughter has chronic kidney stones

on top of her ocd. She has missed a total of 18 days of school since Sept. 6! We

are doing our best to keep her in school, but it's getting very difficult. Just

like your daughter doesn't want therapy, mine doesn't want to go to school. It's

quite a mess right now. So I find myself snapping at her a lot. I definately

understand guilt. Just keep looking up. This to shall pass. God bless, Becky

McRobie <ocdisordermom@...> wrote:

I am still fairly new to this group, and grateful for the sense of

community that it provides. Here's what I have been feeling lately:

guilty. I am the mother of a beautiful, smart, funny, high-achieving

11-year-old girl. We've known since she was born that there was something

" different " about her - terrible rages and " tantrums, " inconsolable

behaviors, little adaptability, etc. When she was 7 (?) we took her to a

psychiatrist, who confirmed OCD. A year and a half ago, we tried CBT,

but it didn't really " take. " Then, in January of 2006 it got so bad I

thought I would just have to move out! She seeks reassurance CONTINUALLY

from me (and only me). She got to the point where she would be keeping

me up until 2 a.m. going over and over her rituals. I think others

here understand the extent to which this sounds like co-dependency, but

really, there never seems to be a choice. In February, we saw another

psychiatrist and had her put on Zoloft. Over several months we

increased the dosage to 250 mg, and her symptoms were about 80%

controlled. In August, I switched to generic ... and she started the dreaded

middle school. Two weeks after the switch, we switched back to brand.

It's been five weeks back on 250 mg of Zoloft, the doctor added

Anafranil (ten days ago) and STILL she is ritualizing like crazy. Why do I

feel guilty??? She doesn't seem to care. It's only ME who is being

controlled by her behavior, it seems, not her. When the medication was

working, it was ME who got relief - she wouldn't say one way or another

whether she " felt better, " but I was able to function better and so

enjoyed her laughter and some sense of freedom that she hadn't had before.

So I guess I am seeking reassurance myself ;-) from this group ...

having been kept awake until 1:30 last night with her rituals, I am utterly

exhausted and in the driver's seat where it comes to treatment - do we

switch meds? Give this trial more time? How much time?

Attempt therapy again with a less-than-willing kid? Is this all about

the move into middle school and its attendant stress? Could she

spontaneously experience a remission of symptoms? And can I continue to bear

this? And does anyone else feel that sense of guilt????

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

guilty as charged - I feel I've been snapping too much lately too - but

now think we're headed in the right direction - it ain't easy - new

school/more work is adding a lot to our situation too

eileen

Quoting Wood <gladtobegreek@...>:

> Hi ,

>

> My name is Becky and I have a 12 year old daughter. Guilt is very

> normal and I'm sure we all experience it everyday. Are we being too

> strict, too easy going, thinking of our own feelings instead of

> theirs. It goes on and on. OCD stinks because it takes over everyone

> in the families lives. Middle school could have a lot to do with her

> rituals and anxieties. My daughter has chronic kidney stones on top

> of her ocd. She has missed a total of 18 days of school since Sept.

> 6! We are doing our best to keep her in school, but it's getting very

> difficult. Just like your daughter doesn't want therapy, mine doesn't

> want to go to school. It's quite a mess right now. So I find myself

> snapping at her a lot. I definately understand guilt. Just keep

> looking up. This to shall pass. God bless, Becky

>

> McRobie <ocdisordermom@...> wrote:

> I am still fairly new to this group, and grateful for the sense of

> community that it provides. Here's what I have been feeling lately:

> guilty. I am the mother of a beautiful, smart, funny, high-achieving

> 11-year-old girl. We've known since she was born that there was something

> " different " about her - terrible rages and " tantrums, " inconsolable

> behaviors, little adaptability, etc. When she was 7 (?) we took her to a

> psychiatrist, who confirmed OCD. A year and a half ago, we tried CBT,

> but it didn't really " take. " Then, in January of 2006 it got so bad I

> thought I would just have to move out! She seeks reassurance CONTINUALLY

> from me (and only me). She got to the point where she would be keeping

> me up until 2 a.m. going over and over her rituals. I think others

> here understand the extent to which this sounds like co-dependency, but

> really, there never seems to be a choice. In February, we saw another

> psychiatrist and had her put on Zoloft. Over several months we

> increased the dosage to 250 mg, and her symptoms were about 80%

> controlled. In August, I switched to generic ... and she started the dreaded

> middle school. Two weeks after the switch, we switched back to brand.

> It's been five weeks back on 250 mg of Zoloft, the doctor added

> Anafranil (ten days ago) and STILL she is ritualizing like crazy. Why do I

> feel guilty??? She doesn't seem to care. It's only ME who is being

> controlled by her behavior, it seems, not her. When the medication was

> working, it was ME who got relief - she wouldn't say one way or another

> whether she " felt better, " but I was able to function better and so

> enjoyed her laughter and some sense of freedom that she hadn't had before.

> So I guess I am seeking reassurance myself ;-) from this group ...

> having been kept awake until 1:30 last night with her rituals, I am utterly

> exhausted and in the driver's seat where it comes to treatment - do we

> switch meds? Give this trial more time? How much time?

> Attempt therapy again with a less-than-willing kid? Is this all about

> the move into middle school and its attendant stress? Could she

> spontaneously experience a remission of symptoms? And can I continue to bear

> this? And does anyone else feel that sense of guilt????

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi ,

>

I understand your pain, my son is 15 and a year and half ago we

found out he has OCD. I think he's probably had milder symptons

since he was 10 or so, but full blown rituals a year and half ago.

Medicine never worked for the compulsions, but sure helped the

attitude. I wanted to keep him on it just for that. Like you, the

peace that the medicine brought to the house and to me seemed worth

keeping him on it. Unfortuneatly, our insurance coverage was ending

and my OCD'r didn't want to continue with medicine anymore and he

didn't want to go to therapy either. We let the costs of treatment,

and the that the therapy wasn't working anyway, influence our

decision to stop everything.

This wasn't the answer either because it just got worse at home and

if nothing else, I needed counseling. Long story short, we found

affordable family counseling that helped with the " normal " things,

but it wasn't good for an OCD'r when the therapists weren't trained

for CBT for OCD and inadvertently made things worse. So, we got on

line and found a support group for friends and family of OCD. It was

there that we got names of local therapists who specifically treat

OCD with ERP (a must for any OCD'r).

No, my son doesn't " want " to go, but we beleive he " needs " to go and

that it's the OCD influencing him not to go. We're tired of OCD

making all the decisions and I guess we're trying a bit more sterner

approach.

After the first visit with the therapist, my son actually said some

positive things about therapy. We took him to last weeks OCD support

group (no, he didn't " want to go). After the group was over, we got

in the car and he said he knows it's stupid that he doesn't want to

touch the car stereo knobs. Then he just said, " ya know, I'm just

going to do it and that part is gone forever. " And, he did, he

turned it on, changed the channels, uped the volume, and that was

that. Wether it's gone forever, time will tell, but it was a step in

the right direction. So, I feel like our kids need us to push them

just a bit, even when they don't want to. He still says he doesn't

want to go to therapy or the meetings. That's okay, I think we'll go

anyways.

Hang in there.

Debbie

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I understand how you feel. I have gone through periods where I felt

responsible and overwhelmed by everything going on in my life. This

is especially true when I'm not getting enough sleep.

I literally dragged my son to one therapist because I thought it was

the right thing to do at the time. After that I realized that

therapist did not know ocd and was not right for us. I feel I've made

mistakes in trying to find a therapist and wasted much time.

But, I am doing the best I can with the info I have and I continue to

ask questions of people who have been where I am and learn more.

You are doing the right thing by coming to this group for help. We

are all going to make mistakes. We can use what we learn from our

mistakes to grow (and help others!).

Take care of yourself and remember you're a good parent and you're

doing the best you can!

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon,

just read your message (about 18th Oct) about yelling at dd who cries easily

- that is exactly me at the mo. She is so anxious she cant go into school &

even couldnt go into orthodontist today so she's got metal on her teeth that

needs looking at & i dont know when she will be well enough to be able to

cope with this. Her OCD is worsening, her eating disorder is getting worse &

shes so clingy etc etc So of course it helps if I yell at her for being so

untidy etc while she spends her days at home. Guilt? of course. It would help

her

if I kept calm all time, which would make her better & then I'd be more

relaxed & wouldnt want to yell so much. So I'll try harder I guese.

Take care

Lesley

[Guest guest]

Oh boy, if she needs dental work done, that is a tough one. Not sure what I

would do there. Sounds like she needs to be seen.

Can I ask about her eating disorder? I have read it is common among OCDers. My

dd is only 5, but has some issues with food and her looks that worry me at

times.

Sharon

Re: Guily, guilty, guilty

Hi Sharon,

just read your message (about 18th Oct) about yelling at dd who cries easily

- that is exactly me at the mo. She is so anxious she cant go into school &

even couldnt go into orthodontist today so she's got metal on her teeth that

needs looking at & i dont know when she will be well enough to be able to

cope with this. Her OCD is worsening, her eating disorder is getting worse &

shes so clingy etc etc So of course it helps if I yell at her for being so

untidy etc while she spends her days at home. Guilt? of course. It would help

her

if I kept calm all time, which would make her better & then I'd be more

relaxed & wouldnt want to yell so much. So I'll try harder I guese.

Take care

Lesley

[Guest guest]

Hi. I have a 12 year old with bipolar disorder, add, ocd, and Asperger's that

takes .25mg of Xanax before dental appointments. It doesn't really knock him

out but it sure does take the edge off and make him a much happier camper. Of

course, when he gets home and it wears off he's not so happy but by then the

dental work is done and it doesn't matter. You might want to check with her doc

or even the orthodontist and see about a small sedative. takes his an hour

before the visit and we " hide " it in a spoonful of chocolate ice cream. He

knows it's there but as long as he can't see it, it's considered " hidden " . Hope

this helps.

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[Guest guest]

Hi. I have a 12 year old with bipolar disorder, add, ocd, and Asperger's that

takes .25mg of Xanax before dental appointments. It doesn't really knock him

out but it sure does take the edge off and make him a much happier camper. Of

course, when he gets home and it wears off he's not so happy but by then the

dental work is done and it doesn't matter. You might want to check with her doc

or even the orthodontist and see about a small sedative. takes his an hour

before the visit and we " hide " it in a spoonful of chocolate ice cream. He

knows it's there but as long as he can't see it, it's considered " hidden " . Hope

this helps.

---------------------------------

Everyone is raving about the all-new .

[Guest guest]

guilt???!!! I've got tons today - dd's OCD anxiety etc has been going

away and then I take a great morning and get anxious myself and send

her off in a horrible way!!! So mad at myself!!! - just what this kid

needs!!! thank God she sees the the social worker and therapist

today!! boy I'm sure they'll get an earful about " horrible meany mom!!!

eileen

Quoting PpsLesley@...:

> Hi Sharon,

> just read your message (about 18th Oct) about yelling at dd who cries easily

> - that is exactly me at the mo. She is so anxious she cant go into school &

> even couldnt go into orthodontist today so she's got metal on her teeth that

> needs looking at & i dont know when she will be well enough to be able to

> cope with this. Her OCD is worsening, her eating disorder is getting worse &

> shes so clingy etc etc So of course it helps if I yell at her for being so

> untidy etc while she spends her days at home. Guilt? of course. It

> would help her

> if I kept calm all time, which would make her better & then I'd be more

> relaxed & wouldnt want to yell so much. So I'll try harder I guese.

> Take care

> Lesley

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

LOL! I think we could be the " perfect " parent and they would still think we are

horrible and mean!

Sharon

Re: Guily, guilty, guilty

guilt???!!! I've got tons today - dd's OCD anxiety etc has been going

away and then I take a great morning and get anxious myself and send

her off in a horrible way!!! So mad at myself!!! - just what this kid

needs!!! thank God she sees the the social worker and therapist

today!! boy I'm sure they'll get an earful about " horrible meany mom!!!

eileen

Quoting PpsLesley@...:

> Hi Sharon,

> just read your message (about 18th Oct) about yelling at dd who cries easily

> - that is exactly me at the mo. She is so anxious she cant go into school &

> even couldnt go into orthodontist today so she's got metal on her teeth that

> needs looking at & i dont know when she will be well enough to be able to

> cope with this. Her OCD is worsening, her eating disorder is getting worse &

> shes so clingy etc etc So of course it helps if I yell at her for being so

> untidy etc while she spends her days at home. Guilt? of course. It

> would help her

> if I kept calm all time, which would make her better & then I'd be more

> relaxed & wouldnt want to yell so much. So I'll try harder I guese.

> Take care

> Lesley

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon,

sorry for delay in replying, Ive been off-line for a while.

DD started by becoming an increasingly fussy eater, & I had concerns about

what & how much she ate for, probably a few years, but there is an

unrecognisable point when this becomes extreme. She apparently has atypical

anorexia as

she doesnt think shes fat or want to be thin. I think on occasions OCD rules

dictate that she cant eat, but she denies this. There are times when she

really wants to eat something but she wont allow herself( even she finds this

frustrating). I guess the eating probs are an issue of control for her. She has

been threatened with hospital admission twice, when her weight just kept

dropping & she was starving herself but she is doing well at the

moment-heaviest

shes ever been,yippee.

I was advised to " let her graze " which I do. She prepares meals for us all,

but eats very little of it, regardless of whos made it. But she eats

biscuits,cakes,chocolate & sweets.I give her high energy drinks but she wont

have

prescribed (highly nutritious 1s).I have learnt that denying her these sweet

things doesnt force her to eat, as you would expect of most kids, she just

STARVES herself instead, & shes currantly gaining weight!

She eats a bite from eg an individual cake & leaves the rest, I have to

throw it away along with,probably three other nibbled cakes which I find on

shelves, in cupboards etc I just removed 2 cookies from a shelf & both had 1

bite

taken out of it. She has to clean her teeth or use mouthwash after eating &

NOWAY can she eat in public, not a bite.

Whats going on with your daughter?

Sorry this isnt of more help-just keep her eating !

best wishes

Lesley x

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon,

sorry for delay in replying, Ive been off-line for a while.

DD started by becoming an increasingly fussy eater, & I had concerns about

what & how much she ate for, probably a few years, but there is an

unrecognisable point when this becomes extreme. She apparently has atypical

anorexia as

she doesnt think shes fat or want to be thin. I think on occasions OCD rules

dictate that she cant eat, but she denies this. There are times when she

really wants to eat something but she wont allow herself( even she finds this

frustrating). I guess the eating probs are an issue of control for her. She has

been threatened with hospital admission twice, when her weight just kept

dropping & she was starving herself but she is doing well at the

moment-heaviest

shes ever been,yippee.

I was advised to " let her graze " which I do. She prepares meals for us all,

but eats very little of it, regardless of whos made it. But she eats

biscuits,cakes,chocolate & sweets.I give her high energy drinks but she wont

have

prescribed (highly nutritious 1s).I have learnt that denying her these sweet

things doesnt force her to eat, as you would expect of most kids, she just

STARVES herself instead, & shes currantly gaining weight!

She eats a bite from eg an individual cake & leaves the rest, I have to

throw it away along with,probably three other nibbled cakes which I find on

shelves, in cupboards etc I just removed 2 cookies from a shelf & both had 1

bite

taken out of it. She has to clean her teeth or use mouthwash after eating &

NOWAY can she eat in public, not a bite.

Whats going on with your daughter?

Sorry this isnt of more help-just keep her eating !

best wishes

Lesley x

[Guest guest]

She has always been very pickey, particular about her foods - smells, textures,

temperatures, etc. She went through a feeding program just before her OCD

really showed up. It seemed mostly sensory, but I now wonder if it wasnt OCD

related. I guess it doesnt really matter. She does much better now with food,

but some old " quirks " come up from time to time. She still doesnt eat much of a

variety of foods, especially proteins. She is very obsessed about her looks,

hair, clothes, etc. Wants to look " perfect " and like a teenager (she is 5!).

She asks if certain foods are healthy or good for your body, now her 3 yo sister

does the same thing. It is hard to know if they are wanting to learn about food

and nutrition, or if it is OCD. (both myself and my hubby are overweight, so I

have always tried to teach them about proper nutrition.) I have read that

eating disorders are common with OCDers, especially girls, so I worry about what

will happen as she gets older. Plus her 16 yo brother has a SKINNYgirlfriend

and my dd LOVES her.

Sharon

Re: Guily, guilty, guilty

Hi Sharon,

sorry for delay in replying, Ive been off-line for a while.

DD started by becoming an increasingly fussy eater, & I had concerns about

what & how much she ate for, probably a few years, but there is an

unrecognisable point when this becomes extreme. She apparently has atypical

anorexia as

she doesnt think shes fat or want to be thin. I think on occasions OCD rules

dictate that she cant eat, but she denies this. There are times when she

really wants to eat something but she wont allow herself( even she finds this

frustrating). I guess the eating probs are an issue of control for her. She

has

been threatened with hospital admission twice, when her weight just kept

dropping & she was starving herself but she is doing well at the

moment-heaviest

shes ever been,yippee.

I was advised to " let her graze " which I do. She prepares meals for us all,

but eats very little of it, regardless of whos made it. But she eats

biscuits,cakes,chocolate & sweets.I give her high energy drinks but she wont

have

prescribed (highly nutritious 1s).I have learnt that denying her these sweet

things doesnt force her to eat, as you would expect of most kids, she just

STARVES herself instead, & shes currantly gaining weight!

She eats a bite from eg an individual cake & leaves the rest, I have to

throw it away along with,probably three other nibbled cakes which I find on

shelves, in cupboards etc I just removed 2 cookies from a shelf & both had 1

bite

taken out of it. She has to clean her teeth or use mouthwash after eating &

NOWAY can she eat in public, not a bite.

Whats going on with your daughter?

Sorry this isnt of more help-just keep her eating !

best wishes

Lesley x