Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 In a message dated 9/6/2006 8:31:18 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, akdelgado@... writes: But, do any of you worry that your child will never find someone to marry? I mean, WHO would ever put up with this besides their own mothers?! My son is only 7, so this may seem extreme. Kris You're too funny. Your boy is 7 - don't push him down the isle just yet. There are too many more years to enjoy with him at home! Remember, your child has as much chance to improve & learn how to handle his disorder as anyone. Marriage is a LONG, LONG way off!! Besides, when someone loves you - they see past the less desirable traits - they see into the heart. LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 Kris, I do understand. My daughter, 15, had told me for years I would not be getting any grandchildren. I always told her I only need 1. Now that her OCD is under control, she told me the reason she always said she wouldn't have any children was because she had so many bad OCD thoughts about if she had a child, that she didn't think it was a good idea for her to have one. She is actually really good with little kids. Your child's OCD has a lot of years to change. I am not saying my daughter won't have her ups and downs because she has had tons of them, but currently things are looking better. Hopefully, this will be the same for your son. Kim In a message dated 9/6/2006 7:31:24 PM Central Standard Time, akdelgado@... writes: But, do any of you worry that your child will never find someone to marry? I mean, WHO would ever put up with this besides their own mothers?! My son is only 7, so this may seem extreme. But, my son's (girl) cousin now attends the same school and he is SO upset that she often would rather play with a " girl " friend at recess. He is so jealous of her having other friends. Sigh... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 But, do any of you worry that your child will never find someone to marry? I mean, WHO would ever put up with this besides their own mothers?! My son is only 7, so this may seem extreme. But, my son's (girl) cousin now attends the same school and he is SO upset that she often would rather play with a " girl " friend at recess. He is so jealous of her having other friends. Sigh... Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 Yes, but I can't help if it gets a little better as you get older, or at least you learn how to control without leaning on others like our kids do with us. My mother in law is much like my OCD son and I think she has it in similar ways. She has been married for 40 years. She keeps telling me that she was a very difficult child but she got better as she got older. My husband has some of this and I deal with it fine. _____ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of e Sent: Wednesday, September 06, 2006 8:25 PM Subject: Sorry to be downer... But, do any of you worry that your child will never find someone to marry? I mean, WHO would ever put up with this besides their own mothers?! My son is only 7, so this may seem extreme. But, my son's (girl) cousin now attends the same school and he is SO upset that she often would rather play with a " girl " friend at recess. He is so jealous of her having other friends. Sigh... Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 No, my brother in law has pretty bad ocd and he is pretty quirky, and he has the sweetest, most caring, and beautiful wife. She also comes from a family with mental illness, though she does not have any herself, and she says she would take OCD anyday over some of the others she has seen in her family. Why? because my brother in law is kind, supportive, and totally devoted to her. He works hard, helps in anyway he can, and is just a good person. Quirky - yes he is - but she is his biggest fan. e <akdelgado@...> wrote: But, do any of you worry that your child will never find someone to marry? I mean, WHO would ever put up with this besides their own mothers?! My son is only 7, so this may seem extreme. But, my son's (girl) cousin now attends the same school and he is SO upset that she often would rather play with a " girl " friend at recess. He is so jealous of her having other friends. Sigh... Kris --------------------------------- How low will we go? Check out Messenger’s low PC-to-Phone call rates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 Kris, I actually worry about this! My DD is 11 and I was thinking the other day that she may meet someone at a stage in her life when her OCD is fully controlled due to meds and then take a nose dive. He would wonder what in the world??!! Full disclosure has to happen before marriage and I hope she finds a REALLY understanding guy.... Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2006 Report Share Posted September 7, 2006 beautifully said LT - I never thought of that with my 7 y.o.dd but a neighbor's dd 16 ocd since 7 has decided not to date until college Quoting jtlt@...: > > In a message dated 9/6/2006 8:31:18 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > akdelgado@... writes: > > But, do any of you worry that your child will never find someone to > marry? I mean, WHO would ever put up with this besides their own > mothers?! > > My son is only 7, so this may seem extreme. > > > Kris > > You're too funny. Your boy is 7 - don't push him down the isle just yet. > There are too many more years to enjoy with him at home! Remember, > your child > has as much chance to improve & learn how to handle his disorder as anyone. > Marriage is a LONG, LONG way off!! Besides, when someone loves you - they > see past the less desirable traits - they see into the heart. > LT > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2006 Report Share Posted September 7, 2006 It has crossed my mind, but I really do believe there is someone for everyone. People MUCH worse off find their sole mate. Sharon Sorry to be downer... But, do any of you worry that your child will never find someone to marry? I mean, WHO would ever put up with this besides their own mothers?! My son is only 7, so this may seem extreme. But, my son's (girl) cousin now attends the same school and he is SO upset that she often would rather play with a " girl " friend at recess. He is so jealous of her having other friends. Sigh... Kris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2006 Report Share Posted September 7, 2006 I think this really could be a plus for them. They will find a truely loving, caring, understanding, patient person to spend the rest of their lives with. Sharon Re: Sorry to be downer... Kris, I actually worry about this! My DD is 11 and I was thinking the other day that she may meet someone at a stage in her life when her OCD is fully controlled due to meds and then take a nose dive. He would wonder what in the world??!! Full disclosure has to happen before marriage and I hope she finds a REALLY understanding guy.... Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2006 Report Share Posted September 8, 2006 I speak from personal experience when I tell you that there really are understanding people out there for those suffering from OCD. I first found out about my husband's OCD after we had been dating about six months. I didn't know what the heck was going on. He explained it to me and we both cried and he even told me maybe we should break up because it wasn't fair to me to have to put up with all of his obsessions and compulsions. I told him NO WAY! At this point I was already madly in love with him and KNEW with absolute certainty that he was going to be my husband one day. So, anyway, long story short, I married my husband in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad and we have weathered this thing together for 16 years now -- 12 years married. And now we are facing the ordeal together with our son. I have NEVER once regretted marrying my husband because of his OCD. But I understand those who worry about their own children because that same thought has crossed my mind about my son. I'll admit living with someone who has OCD is not easy. But I love him and all of his little quirks. And hopefully all of our children will find that understanding and compassionate partner one day, too. [] - In , " kidsnpets " <sdonovan1@...> wrote: > > I think this really could be a plus for them. They will find a truely loving, caring, understanding, patient person to spend the rest of their lives with. > Sharon > Re: Sorry to be downer... > > > Kris, I actually worry about this! My DD is 11 and I was thinking the > other day that she may meet someone at a stage in her life when her OCD > is fully controlled due to meds and then take a nose dive. He would > wonder what in the world??!! Full disclosure has to happen before > marriage and I hope she finds a REALLY understanding guy.... > > Dina > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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