Guest guest Posted June 9, 2006 Report Share Posted June 9, 2006 I'm new here and I know no one can give medical advice, I'm just looking for opinions. I would hate to put my son, 7 through any unnecessary testing. Since he was 3 my son has had funny " little quirks " , like his trains had to go in just the right order, he could tell in 5 seconds if they were moved. He has a system for brushing his teeth, first put toothpaste on, then fill the glass....He collects things like you wouldn't believe, at first I thought it was childs greed to " have them all " but I realzed he just had to have a complete set. When he's building something it has to be just right. I could go on, but I think that gives an idea of what he's like. We don't have any behavioral problems, he's a great kid. He does great in school, all A's in a gifted class, no school issues. If my husband hadn't been recently diagnosed as OCD and depression I wouldn't even worry about it. I would have just laughed at his quirks and feel sorry for his wife when he starts collecting cars. I " know " it's OCD, but if there aren't any behavioral, sleep, dicipline issues does he need therapy, meds? My husbands OCD turned to depression, I don't want him to go through the same thing. one thing he did recently say that got my attention, I told him his dad and I were so proud of him for doing so well in school. He said " I did get 2 g's " - good, not the excellent he usually got. I said " you did great, we don't expect you to be perfect " , he said " Well, I do " Sorry for being long winded, thank you for reading and any responses. Jo- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2006 Report Share Posted June 10, 2006 Jo- I only have a minute to write (very busy today) but just wanted to say WELCOME!!! Some of the things you described about your son (trains in a certain order, etc) can certainly just be a persnickety child. One question you need to address is, if the trains are out of order (or the glass is filed before/after it should be when brushing teeth), does this cause such anxiety that he couldn't continue any other activity or walk away without a complete meltdown? If he were getting ready to head out the door to go to the movies, park, friends house, something exciting that he loves.... would he have close to a tantrum if he wasn't allowed to straighten the trains? If you filled the glass at the wrong time during his teeth brushing process, would he cry or scream or otherwise act out & insist that you " do it correctly " ? One of the differences between OCD and picky/perfectionism/or whatever else you want to call it... or simply OCD " tendencies " is that the anxiety caused by disrupting the OCDers 'ritual' or 'routine' usually renders them incapable of continuing with any other activity. Now, that is just a generalization - just something to think about. Certainly with a dad who has OCD, it's definitely more possible that that's what your child is dealing with as well. From the limited reading I've done, I do know you can have OCD 'tendencies' and not full-blown OCD. My daughter, 15, was what we considered to be an " over-achiever " for years - since about 5th grade. She got straight A's on her report cards ALWAYS... studied for hours & hours - poured over her homework - spent DAYS on special projects (book reports, posters, etc) that most kids would zip out in hours. We always figured that's just how she got straight A's in school -- she was also in the National Jr Honor Society in 8th grade. It wasn't until certain traumatic things happened in our lives between last October & December that we saw full-blown OCD symptoms rear their ugly head -- she has contamination issues (giving germs to others). She was diagnosed (officially) in late December 2005 & put on Prozac in January 2006. Until she was on that drug, we had no idea that our sweet baby girl had been suffering with OCD for YEARS!!! Her obsession with school work was the first thing to disappear. I was so happy, I almost cried - my baby got her life back. It was amazing. She had time to play with friends again - watch TV - do things with the family. I couldn't believe she had been suffering so long & we never had a clue! Sorry - I started rambling. I'm sure you will get lots of good ideas & advice here. Let us know how things work out. Visiting a psychologist to evaluate your son isn't that big of a deal - it's not like physical medical testing. It might help for you to have a consultation with a doctor & discuss your observations with him/her. What about your husbands p-doc? Did you ask an opinion there? LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2006 Report Share Posted June 10, 2006 > > I'm new here and I know no one can give medical advice, I'm just > looking for opinions. I would hate to put my son, 7 through any > unnecessary testing. Hi Jo-Anne and welcome to the group. I have an 11 year old son who has ocd and is on meds because he was depressed, had a terrible time falling asleep and staying asleep (because of the obsessions and compusions) and we haven't found a therapist yet who can treat ocd with CBT and ERP. I also have 8 & 4 year old sons who seem to have some ocd issues. The 4 year old was saying " I love you " about 20 times a day to me and I had to say " I love you " back or he would get very upset. When I realized what was going on, I told him he could only say it twice to me during a day and would only respond twice. He also was very particular about his socks and shoes being on just right. With this issue I would say " Would you rather be spending your time trying to get your socks perfect or be outside playing with your friends? " . He has really improved with both these issues. He still has other little things that crop up through the day and can be particular about his clothes looking right. But since it hasn't effected his life too much and he's not spending hours trying to get things right, I have not brought him to a doctor for evaluation. I'm hoping that by working on the little issues it may help prevent bigger ones from developing and I will just keep a close eye on how much time he spends on either the o's or c's. The 8 year old tells me he worries alot at night about people and pets dying and says he has to count going up and down stairs. He says it's really bothering him and I will probably take him to a therapist to see what's going on with him. I feel certain that he has some anxiety issues but I'm not sure it's ocd. For me it comes down to how much time they spend on ocd, if it starts taking up more that a couple hours a day, I would look into getting outside help. With my 11 year old, we did not realize how depressed he was. We brought him to a therapist who said he was very depressed and the psychiatrist agreed, so that's when we decided to put him on medication. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:30:59 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, kidsnpets@... writes: My 5 yo OCDer cut my 3 yo dds hair just after Xmas. She HAD really long hair, LOVED her long hair. Then her sister cut it all off, it is like a buzz cut, gone. Sharon - Much of what you described does sound like OCD.... however, be sure you're not trivializing what happened with her hair. I mean - when you think about it, that could be pretty traumatizing. Especially since she was so proud of/loved her hair as much as you say she did. I don't think these are feelings that will go away over night. She's reminded of it every time she looks in a mirror or someone asks her about her hair. I can't imagine that wouldn't emotionally affect a child. You know what I mean? LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 Hi Sharon, I remember feeling that way about my ds(5) also. I thought he was " copying " my dd's behaviors. I knew deep down he had the ocd and bipolar like her. I guess I just really was in denial. After hearing you story, it unfortunately does sound like ocd. My son's doctor said that each child has their own temperament , regardless of the other siblings. I know my older dd, who is only 1 yr older than my dd with the ocd and bipolar never acted in any way shape or form like her sister, even when they were babies. Just remember, they are all different. It doesn't mean your dd's ocd will necessarily be worse or the same type as her sister. Hang in there! Hugs Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:46:51 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, kidsnpets@... writes: She is still very upset about her hair and having a hard time dealing with that. I dont know what to do with her, to help her through it. It was so short on one side, the short hair cut she has still doesnt look even. Sharon The poor little thing. And only 3 years old - a little difficult to " talk " them through it. Sometimes at such a young age, everything seems so permanent. I guess you could keep reminding her that her hair will grow & she'll have long hair again. She might think it'll always look like that now. What about some fancy/pretty hats? LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:54:47 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, cward_ri@... writes: She Saw our garbage disposal overflow into the bathroom sink. She was TRAUMATIZED - that is an understatement. I could SO see this happening. Stuff looks pretty gross (even to an adult) when it comes up out of the drain. UGH. I could imagine how it would scare a little kid to think all that gunk is down there in that hole!!! LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 oh sharon _ I feel so bad for you -I think the positive way to look at this is that this time you know so much - you're prepared and trained to deal - and if that's what you'd tell another parent then go with your gut and start ERP - maybe nip anything in the bud you can - hang in - so sorry eileen Quoting kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...>: > I cant remember if I posted this here, but I dont think I did. My 5 > yo OCDer cut my 3 yo dds hair just after Xmas. She HAD really long > hair, LOVED her long hair. Then her sister cut it all off, it is > like a buzz cut, gone. She is NOT happy about it. 3 yo does not > have a dx, but I have suspected OCD - just havent been sure if some > behaviors are OCD or learned from her 5 yo sister. She has been > seeming depressed since her hair has been cut off, she is very upset > about it, still. She cries about it, is sad about it, talks about > it, misses her hair, etc. She goes on and on. > > So we went to the mall tonight to get some pretty things to help her > feel better about her hair. She picked out 2 new barretttes (she > has BARELY enough hair to hold them!). First she didnt want anyone > to look at her with them in. I told no one to look (we were with a > group of friends). Then she put them back in, but kept checking to > be sure they were there (that was one of 5 yo's worries from the > past). She was worried they would fall out, so she would only wear > one. She continued to check them and be sure no one was looking at > her. We went to the bathroom, she took the one out, was worried it > would fall in the toilet, wanted it in my purse. By this time I was > exhausted over the whole thing and put them away. They are still > in my purse. > > I was concerned about her being depressed about her hair, but now, > after tonight (which SOOOOO felt like an OCD episode!!!!!), I wonder > if OCD could really be breaking through her, thus the changes we > have seen in her. We thought she was depressed due to her hair, her > personality has changed, she isnt the happy, carefree, bubbly girl > she used to be. I wonder if OCD was always there, and the traumatic > event of the hair cutting has really set it off?????? She is > small, and has lost weight. She was 28.5 lbs before Xmas and is > now down to 25 lbs! And she will be 4 in April! > > She has done other things I wondered if were OCD or learned behavior > from her OCD sister. Having to have her hands REALLY dry after > washing them, needing to HOLD the towel when drying her hands, > needing a certain amount of kisses - in a certain way - before bed, > lots of food issues (mostly continuously changing her mind about > foods, what she wants/doesnt want, what I have given her, etc), LOTS > of indecisiveness about everything ALL the time, etc, etc. There > is more. Now that I look at it, these really are NOT the same > issues 5 yo dd has/had, so it really wouldnt be learned, would it?? > > Great. Just when I thought things in life were calming down a bit, > now this. As I sit here typing this, reading what I am typing, it > sounds more and more like she sure does have full blown OCD and the > hair cut probably set it off. If someone else wrote this, I would > be say, YES, OCD. Super. Crap. ...sorry... > Sharon > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 I feel it lurking in the wings here too in my other 3 - one day at a time eileen Quoting kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...>: > I cant remember if I posted this here, but I dont think I did. My 5 > yo OCDer cut my 3 yo dds hair just after Xmas. She HAD really long > hair, LOVED her long hair. Then her sister cut it all off, it is > like a buzz cut, gone. She is NOT happy about it. 3 yo does not > have a dx, but I have suspected OCD - just havent been sure if some > behaviors are OCD or learned from her 5 yo sister. She has been > seeming depressed since her hair has been cut off, she is very upset > about it, still. She cries about it, is sad about it, talks about > it, misses her hair, etc. She goes on and on. > > So we went to the mall tonight to get some pretty things to help her > feel better about her hair. She picked out 2 new barretttes (she > has BARELY enough hair to hold them!). First she didnt want anyone > to look at her with them in. I told no one to look (we were with a > group of friends). Then she put them back in, but kept checking to > be sure they were there (that was one of 5 yo's worries from the > past). She was worried they would fall out, so she would only wear > one. She continued to check them and be sure no one was looking at > her. We went to the bathroom, she took the one out, was worried it > would fall in the toilet, wanted it in my purse. By this time I was > exhausted over the whole thing and put them away. They are still > in my purse. > > I was concerned about her being depressed about her hair, but now, > after tonight (which SOOOOO felt like an OCD episode!!!!!), I wonder > if OCD could really be breaking through her, thus the changes we > have seen in her. We thought she was depressed due to her hair, her > personality has changed, she isnt the happy, carefree, bubbly girl > she used to be. I wonder if OCD was always there, and the traumatic > event of the hair cutting has really set it off?????? She is > small, and has lost weight. She was 28.5 lbs before Xmas and is > now down to 25 lbs! And she will be 4 in April! > > She has done other things I wondered if were OCD or learned behavior > from her OCD sister. Having to have her hands REALLY dry after > washing them, needing to HOLD the towel when drying her hands, > needing a certain amount of kisses - in a certain way - before bed, > lots of food issues (mostly continuously changing her mind about > foods, what she wants/doesnt want, what I have given her, etc), LOTS > of indecisiveness about everything ALL the time, etc, etc. There > is more. Now that I look at it, these really are NOT the same > issues 5 yo dd has/had, so it really wouldnt be learned, would it?? > > Great. Just when I thought things in life were calming down a bit, > now this. As I sit here typing this, reading what I am typing, it > sounds more and more like she sure does have full blown OCD and the > hair cut probably set it off. If someone else wrote this, I would > be say, YES, OCD. Super. Crap. ...sorry... > Sharon > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 Right. I actually was thinking she might be depressed, then that happened last night with the barrettes. Since I already had suspicions of OCD, last night's episode seemed to confirm it. Maybe it isnt OCD, that would be great. She is still very upset about her hair and having a hard time dealing with that. I dont know what to do with her, to help her through it. It was so short on one side, the short hair cut she has still doesnt look even. Sharon Re: Is it OCD? In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:30:59 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, kidsnpets@... writes: My 5 yo OCDer cut my 3 yo dds hair just after Xmas. She HAD really long hair, LOVED her long hair. Then her sister cut it all off, it is like a buzz cut, gone. Sharon - Much of what you described does sound like OCD.... however, be sure you're not trivializing what happened with her hair. I mean - when you think about it, that could be pretty traumatizing. Especially since she was so proud of/loved her hair as much as you say she did. I don't think these are feelings that will go away over night. She's reminded of it every time she looks in a mirror or someone asks her about her hair. I can't imagine that wouldn't emotionally affect a child. You know what I mean? LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 Sharon, My daughter, now 7, had an incident when she was four. She Saw our garbage disposal overflow into the bathroom sink. She was TRAUMATIZED - that is an understatement. she had a huge fear of water due to that and we could not run the kitchen sink because she would scream that it was going to back up and overflow. It got so bad she would not use the toilet because she was afraid it would overflow - she stopped taking baths, etc. She would hold in her bathroom duties as long as she could and then I would find toilet paper with " presents " on them behind her bed and in other strange places. She wasn't hoarding -- she was truly afraid. I thought it was ocd. The doctors said post traumatic stress disorder. It was really bad for about 3 months, and then it passed (because we moved out of that house and she only associated it with that house). Although I am sure she does have OCD, that was 3 years ago. She has had some mild symptoms, and I'm sure she will struggle more at some point, but even if your daughter does have OCD, it does not mean it is full blown right now. And knowing she has the tendency for it, you can help her develop coping skills while young. Maybe it will only be very mild and something that doesn't necessarily effect her life too much. What I am saying is, it is wise to be aware but it doesn't necessarily mean a devastating condition. Lots of people have very, very mild ocd that doesn't take over their life. I have found with my children when young, using as much humor as possible with their fears helps. Like blowing it out of proportion to the point it is fully (as in with the barrettes falling out). My daughter for a while was scared of tornados so we would all be tornados and see who could spin the fastest and who could stomp us down. We would cry (my husband and I), but I cannot help it that I am a tornado - I was born that way. Please don't hate me! Anyway, once she would start laughing, it helped her alot. Good luck - and I am not saying not to get help, but it may not be as bad as you think. Would she let you get her a princess wig to wear for a while? kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...> wrote: THanks Judy. I really knewn it, too, but I think just wanted to keep thinking it was just imitating. <sigh> Hopefully it wont be bad and we can deal with it young. I really miss how she used to be. Sharon Re: Is it OCD? Hi Sharon, I remember feeling that way about my ds(5) also. I thought he was " copying " my dd's behaviors. I knew deep down he had the ocd and bipolar like her. I guess I just really was in denial. After hearing you story, it unfortunately does sound like ocd. My son's doctor said that each child has their own temperament , regardless of the other siblings. I know my older dd, who is only 1 yr older than my dd with the ocd and bipolar never acted in any way shape or form like her sister, even when they were babies. Just remember, they are all different. It doesn't mean your dd's ocd will necessarily be worse or the same type as her sister. Hang in there! Hugs Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 Do you have the book 's ponytail by Munch? It is so funny -- my kids LOVE it and I think in the end the girl cuts off all her hair (though we have not read it in a long time!!!) -- if not, check with your library. She may get a kick out of it. kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...> wrote: Right. I actually was thinking she might be depressed, then that happened last night with the barrettes. Since I already had suspicions of OCD, last night's episode seemed to confirm it. Maybe it isnt OCD, that would be great. She is still very upset about her hair and having a hard time dealing with that. I dont know what to do with her, to help her through it. It was so short on one side, the short hair cut she has still doesnt look even. Sharon Re: Is it OCD? In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:30:59 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, kidsnpets@... writes: My 5 yo OCDer cut my 3 yo dds hair just after Xmas. She HAD really long hair, LOVED her long hair. Then her sister cut it all off, it is like a buzz cut, gone. Sharon - Much of what you described does sound like OCD.... however, be sure you're not trivializing what happened with her hair. I mean - when you think about it, that could be pretty traumatizing. Especially since she was so proud of/loved her hair as much as you say she did. I don't think these are feelings that will go away over night. She's reminded of it every time she looks in a mirror or someone asks her about her hair. I can't imagine that wouldn't emotionally affect a child. You know what I mean? LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 Sharon, Sorry you're going through this. I have 4 yr. old twin boys that I watch because one of them has some " tendencies " toward OCD. (My 11 yr. old is my official OCD'er). I think if one of them were exhibiting the behaviors you described, I'll take him to a therapist. At that age I would be reluctant to use meds, but it would help to know what she's thinking and maybe a therapist could bring that out and then work on some exposures with the rituals. I would be really concerned with the weight loss since she doesn't have much to lose. Hugs, Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 I am posting this again only because I dont' see it. DO you have the book " 's Ponytail " by Munch? It is so funny and I am sure (though I don't have the book) that in the end she cuts off all her hair and the others follow suit. She may really get a kick out of it and most libraries have it. c ward <cward_ri@...> wrote: --------------------------------- Get your own web address. Have a HUGE year through Small Business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 We have suggested the wig, she looks at us like we are crazy! LOL! Thanks. Good tips, good info. Sharon Re: Is it OCD? Hi Sharon, I remember feeling that way about my ds(5) also. I thought he was " copying " my dd's behaviors. I knew deep down he had the ocd and bipolar like her. I guess I just really was in denial. After hearing you story, it unfortunately does sound like ocd. My son's doctor said that each child has their own temperament , regardless of the other siblings. I know my older dd, who is only 1 yr older than my dd with the ocd and bipolar never acted in any way shape or form like her sister, even when they were babies. Just remember, they are all different. It doesn't mean your dd's ocd will necessarily be worse or the same type as her sister. Hang in there! Hugs Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 No, I will look for it.Someone else mentioned a Veggie Tales episode that is like Sampson and Deliliah (sp??) with him thinking all his power is in his hair. I need to look for that, too. Sharon Re: Is it OCD? In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:30:59 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, kidsnpets@... writes: My 5 yo OCDer cut my 3 yo dds hair just after Xmas. She HAD really long hair, LOVED her long hair. Then her sister cut it all off, it is like a buzz cut, gone. Sharon - Much of what you described does sound like OCD.... however, be sure you're not trivializing what happened with her hair. I mean - when you think about it, that could be pretty traumatizing. Especially since she was so proud of/loved her hair as much as you say she did. I don't think these are feelings that will go away over night. She's reminded of it every time she looks in a mirror or someone asks her about her hair. I can't imagine that wouldn't emotionally affect a child. You know what I mean? LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 Yes, it was quite disgusting. We lived in military housing from WWII time -- though some had been renovated, I do not know how long the garbage disposal had been there and how many people's " gunk " had gone down it. It looked more like vomit than food, KWIM? Obviously the pipes in the kitchen and bathroom were connected. It overflowed out the bathroom sink and over the sink, onto the floor, and under the sink into the cabinets. YUCK!!! But, for the rest of us, we just through " gross " and for Lindsey, it was extremely traumatizing. jtlt@... wrote: In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:54:47 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, cward_ri@... writes: She Saw our garbage disposal overflow into the bathroom sink. She was TRAUMATIZED - that is an understatement. I could SO see this happening. Stuff looks pretty gross (even to an adult) when it comes up out of the drain. UGH. I could imagine how it would scare a little kid to think all that gunk is down there in that hole!!! LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 just did some reading on PTSD and I think it is more likely that her OCD that was always there has just really surfaced, being brrought on by the hair cut. I dont think she qualifies enough criteria for PTSD. Shraon Re: Is it OCD? Sharon, I know how you feel, too. My 11 son has ocd and now my 7 yr old daughter has shown signs since this past summer, but you know what? It really isn't quite as bad the second time around. You are so much better equipped to handle it all and it doesn't disrupt your whole life because your life has already become centered around ocd and its issues. It's hard to get a 3 yr old into counseling, I would imagine, but my daughter is in play therapy for the most part. She LOVES going. They makes books " all about me " and talk about her feelings and she gets to go to a huge loft playroom that is just filled to the rim with toys. She gets to pick out whatever she wants to play with and then her therapist tells her the animals are having problems, what would she say to help them. She gets alot out of it and she really enjoys going -- and it gets her to talk about her feelings alot. It does sound like some ocd, but it may not be. She may just be traumatized and be showing signs of PTSD. I think of this like most children have issues. Some take drugs in their teenage years, some won't talk to their parents, some flunk out of school, etc. You never know what will come your way with children, though you hope for the best. It seems like ocd children stay very close to their parents and so that part is a blessing. Look how much progress your other daughter has made! With that all said and done, I am sorry. in TN " autumn71A@... " <autumn71A@...> wrote: I feel it lurking in the wings here too in my other 3 - one day at a time eileen Quoting kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...>: > I cant remember if I posted this here, but I dont think I did. My 5 > yo OCDer cut my 3 yo dds hair just after Xmas. She HAD really long > hair, LOVED her long hair. Then her sister cut it all off, it is > like a buzz cut, gone. She is NOT happy about it. 3 yo does not > have a dx, but I have suspected OCD - just havent been sure if some > behaviors are OCD or learned from her 5 yo sister. She has been > seeming depressed since her hair has been cut off, she is very upset > about it, still. She cries about it, is sad about it, talks about > it, misses her hair, etc. She goes on and on. > > So we went to the mall tonight to get some pretty things to help her > feel better about her hair. She picked out 2 new barretttes (she > has BARELY enough hair to hold them!). First she didnt want anyone > to look at her with them in. I told no one to look (we were with a > group of friends). Then she put them back in, but kept checking to > be sure they were there (that was one of 5 yo's worries from the > past). She was worried they would fall out, so she would only wear > one. She continued to check them and be sure no one was looking at > her. We went to the bathroom, she took the one out, was worried it > would fall in the toilet, wanted it in my purse. By this time I was > exhausted over the whole thing and put them away. They are still > in my purse. > > I was concerned about her being depressed about her hair, but now, > after tonight (which SOOOOO felt like an OCD episode!!!!!), I wonder > if OCD could really be breaking through her, thus the changes we > have seen in her. We thought she was depressed due to her hair, her > personality has changed, she isnt the happy, carefree, bubbly girl > she used to be. I wonder if OCD was always there, and the traumatic > event of the hair cutting has really set it off?????? She is > small, and has lost weight. She was 28.5 lbs before Xmas and is > now down to 25 lbs! And she will be 4 in April! > > She has done other things I wondered if were OCD or learned behavior > from her OCD sister. Having to have her hands REALLY dry after > washing them, needing to HOLD the towel when drying her hands, > needing a certain amount of kisses - in a certain way - before bed, > lots of food issues (mostly continuously changing her mind about > foods, what she wants/doesnt want, what I have given her, etc), LOTS > of indecisiveness about everything ALL the time, etc, etc. There > is more. Now that I look at it, these really are NOT the same > issues 5 yo dd has/had, so it really wouldnt be learned, would it?? > > Great. Just when I thought things in life were calming down a bit, > now this. As I sit here typing this, reading what I am typing, it > sounds more and more like she sure does have full blown OCD and the > hair cut probably set it off. If someone else wrote this, I would > be say, YES, OCD. Super. Crap. ...sorry... > Sharon > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 SHe thinks the thought of a wig is crazy! We saved her hair and her sister asked if we could make a wig from it. I have asked her a few times if she wanted to try a wig. NO WAY! LOL! She has sensory issues, so I dont see it working! Sharon Re: Is it OCD? how much are wigs?? would you or her consider it??? the dress-up ones are itchy (from what I hear) LOL - but my dd donated hair to Locks of Love - I know THANK GOD it's not cancer but maybe you could explain the possibility of OCD or actually say OCD mention your other dd too and see if they can't get you one?? just a thought - maybe she'll find it uncomfy and want her hair then??? - just thoughts eileen Quoting jtlt@...: > > In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:46:51 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > kidsnpets@... writes: > > She is still very upset about her hair and having a hard time dealing with > that. I dont know what to do with her, to help her through it. It was so > short on one side, the short hair cut she has still doesnt look even. > > > > Sharon > > The poor little thing. And only 3 years old - a little difficult to " talk " > them through it. Sometimes at such a young age, everything seems so > permanent. I guess you could keep reminding her that her hair will > grow & she'll > have long hair again. She might think it'll always look like that > now. What > about some fancy/pretty hats? > LT > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 the poor thing we'll pray it grows fast -hats scarves princess crowns? think any of those might make her feel better??? eileen Quoting kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...>: > SHe thinks the thought of a wig is crazy! We saved her hair and her > sister asked if we could make a wig from it. I have asked her a > few times if she wanted to try a wig. NO WAY! LOL! She has > sensory issues, so I dont see it working! > Sharon > Re: Is it OCD? > > > how much are wigs?? would you or her consider it??? the dress-up ones > are itchy (from what I hear) LOL - but my dd donated hair to Locks of > Love - I know THANK GOD it's not cancer but maybe you could explain > the possibility of OCD or actually say OCD mention your other dd too > and see if they can't get you one?? just a thought - maybe she'll find > it uncomfy and want her hair then??? - just thoughts > eileen > > Quoting jtlt@...: > > > > > In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:46:51 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > > kidsnpets@... writes: > > > > She is still very upset about her hair and having a hard time > dealing with > > that. I dont know what to do with her, to help her through it. It was so > > short on one side, the short hair cut she has still doesnt look even. > > > > > > > > Sharon > > > > The poor little thing. And only 3 years old - a little difficult > to " talk " > > them through it. Sometimes at such a young age, everything seems so > > permanent. I guess you could keep reminding her that her hair will > > grow & she'll > > have long hair again. She might think it'll always look like that > > now. What > > about some fancy/pretty hats? > > LT > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 I have tried everything. She SAYS she wants some things, we buy them, then she doesnt wear them. I wonder if having something in her hair, or on her head, makes her think that wil draw MORE attention to her hair???? Sharon Re: Is it OCD? > > > how much are wigs?? would you or her consider it??? the dress-up ones > are itchy (from what I hear) LOL - but my dd donated hair to Locks of > Love - I know THANK GOD it's not cancer but maybe you could explain > the possibility of OCD or actually say OCD mention your other dd too > and see if they can't get you one?? just a thought - maybe she'll find > it uncomfy and want her hair then??? - just thoughts > eileen > > Quoting jtlt@...: > > > > > In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:46:51 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > > kidsnpets@... writes: > > > > She is still very upset about her hair and having a hard time > dealing with > > that. I dont know what to do with her, to help her through it. It was so > > short on one side, the short hair cut she has still doesnt look even. > > > > > > > > Sharon > > > > The poor little thing. And only 3 years old - a little difficult > to " talk " > > them through it. Sometimes at such a young age, everything seems so > > permanent. I guess you could keep reminding her that her hair will > > grow & she'll > > have long hair again. She might think it'll always look like that > > now. What > > about some fancy/pretty hats? > > LT > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 could be??? so tough - the poor thing eileen Quoting kidsnpets <kidsnpets@...>: > I have tried everything. She SAYS she wants some things, we buy > them, then she doesnt wear them. I wonder if having something in > her hair, or on her head, makes her think that wil draw MORE > attention to her hair???? > Sharon > Re: Is it OCD? > > > > > > how much are wigs?? would you or her consider it??? the dress-up ones > > are itchy (from what I hear) LOL - but my dd donated hair to Locks of > > Love - I know THANK GOD it's not cancer but maybe you could explain > > the possibility of OCD or actually say OCD mention your other dd too > > and see if they can't get you one?? just a thought - maybe she'll find > > it uncomfy and want her hair then??? - just thoughts > > eileen > > > > Quoting jtlt@...: > > > > > > > > In a message dated 2/6/2007 12:46:51 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > > > kidsnpets@... writes: > > > > > > She is still very upset about her hair and having a hard time > > dealing with > > > that. I dont know what to do with her, to help her through it. > It was so > > > short on one side, the short hair cut she has still doesnt look even. > > > > > > > > > > > > Sharon > > > > > > The poor little thing. And only 3 years old - a little difficult > > to " talk " > > > them through it. Sometimes at such a young age, everything seems so > > > permanent. I guess you could keep reminding her that her hair will > > > grow & she'll > > > have long hair again. She might think it'll always look like that > > > now. What > > > about some fancy/pretty hats? > > > LT > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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