Guest guest Posted January 1, 2007 Report Share Posted January 1, 2007 What do you mean? Can you expand on this subject? There are so many resources available to help those with special needs. Happy New Year -- Jenna Wife to wonderful DH and loving mother to 7 wonderful blessings! ---- imaginatic <imaginatic@...> wrote: ============= Never was able to support myself. Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2007 Report Share Posted January 1, 2007 What do you mean? Are you going to kill yourself? That's the way it seems from your post. As someone who has struggled with wanting to kill herself because of deep depression - I was even hospitalized for it once - I can tell you that the pain it would cause the people around me was not worth doing that to myself. And if I had, I wouldn't get to see my new grandchild today. I wouldn't experience the blessings i have today. I have numerous physical and neurological problems, and was on disability until it ran out. I'm grateful to have a husband with a good job, but things have not always been so peachy between us, and we were separated for a year-and-a-half. I never thought I could survive, and raise two kids, but I did. I didn't die! I didn't collapse! I don't know what you're going through, but can you give us all a chance to help you? Theresa On Dec 31, 2006, at 6:55 PM, imaginatic wrote: > Never was able to support myself. > Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2007 Report Share Posted January 1, 2007 May I ask what you need support for? What and how are things going to end and who is arranging it? May God Bless You and Keep You All ,OKC,OKimaginatic <imaginatic@...> wrote: Never was able to support myself.Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. I love a child with Aspergers Please, read, learn, and love KELLY __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 In a message dated 1/1/2007 1:10:59 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, imaginatic@... writes: Never was able to support myself.Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. What is your name dear one? I was puzzled when I first read your post, and then reading Theresa's, I want to second what she has said, that we are here for You, if You will allow it, please. Love, Francine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 If You are thinking such a thing, the film I recommended to Theresa could be uplifting for You -- the nurse's experience. I could send You that. Love, Francine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 I'll think about seeking help. The websites talk about helping kids tho.. not much for adults. Have a wife to support, she can't get dissability because it isn't easy when it is a combination of things instead of one big thing. Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, weight, OCD etc. Whatever anyone says, I've been around long enough to know America doesn't place much importance on helping people. And in many ways I agree, I've never felt good about getting more than my share of assistance. So with an attitude like that you can see how I may not research things as well as others. Mostly I'm tired, just want it to be over. b > > ============= > Never was able to support myself. > Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 Its a balance sheet approach, how much pain do i cause by staying and how much by going. From my perspective going wins out. America's motto could easily be -If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen. I'm not certain why i posted if I'm closed to advice. Maybe just saying goodbye to the world, or just curious what would happen. i'm sorry if i upset anyone. i'm glad your in a good situation now, and i appreciate your empathy. you do however have more resources than i. Maybe it would be different if there was one place to go for help, quick and easy. After recently receiving the Aspergers diagnosis i finally understood what has been holding me back for close to 50 years. It helps me forgive myself for being a loser, but it doesn't repair the physical damage from mentally chopping myself up. Mostly digestive problems and sleep. The diag came too late, I'm worn out. -b > > > Never was able to support myself. > > Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 Aspergers, diagnosed a few months ago. I have heard from others who know people with it, and they all have good jobs. I look around the web almost everything focuses on children. I assume the gov would view me with skepticism asking for help now. Filling out forms and jumping thru hoops to prove myself has always been torture for me anyway. If nothing else, I'd like to bring to light the fate of certain underachieving Adult aspies, especially those who were undiagnosed for most of their life. From what I see, with Aspergers being a fairly recent discovery the support infrastructure isn't all there for adults. -b > Never was able to support myself. > Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. > > > > > > > I love a child with Aspergers > Please, read, learn, and love > > KELLY > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 Have you tried an advocate? Either a lawyer or someone whose job it is to know 'the system'? That way you wouldn't have to deal with it yourself. If money is an issue just call and tell them so. Some of the advocates I have met are autistic and would understand completely what your needs are and how to get help. A goood place to start is the autism society of america which is also for adults http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer They can help you find what you need. You can look for a local chapter. One phone call...one email...its worth a try if it can change your life and that of your family. Life takes courage and determination. Give the autism society a try. angie > > Never was able to support myself. > > Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all > arranged. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I love a child with Aspergers > > Please, read, learn, and love > > > > KELLY > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 What about your wife? Do you have kids? Please let someone here try and find you some help. We all deal with aspergers one way or another and it is HARD!!, BUT, God doesn't make mistakes and HE made you and my 18 yos the way He did for a reason. I don't know the reason.. There are groups for adults with aspergers that may help..http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/ and / are two that you can go to and talk to ADULTS that have aspergers and the other comorbid issues that come with it! My 30 yo step son died last Nov from an overdose(he had bipolar) and that is a PAIN that never goes away. Please don't do anything to yourself.. We love you and want to help in ANY way we can.. Toni Re: end of the road In a message dated 1/1/2007 1:10:59 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, imaginatic@... writes: Never was able to support myself.Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. What is your name dear one? I was puzzled when I first read your post, and then reading Theresa's, I want to second what she has said, that we are here for You, if You will allow it, please. Love, Francine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 Your friendship is appreciated. All these reply's they are giving me energy to begin exploring resources. I figured it was a little late for anything to help since I've lost the house and the car is next. Can't answer the phone because of bill collectors. I felt it would have been nice to get my as diagnosis a year or two ago and there wasn't time to turn things around. my wife is even more anxious to exit than i am so it wasn't like she would be alone for long. also no kids If nothing else, looking for assistance could be a diversion and the activity could help the depression. Love and thanks to all! Bruce Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 I am a 34-yr-old male with Asperger's, who was only diagnosed in 2003. Believe me, I understand the pain and frustration you are feeling, and there have been times even I have wanted to just throw in the towel and give up....I was harassed and ridiculed throughout my childhood, had difficulty making friends as an adult, and moved from job to job after finishing college, and was railroaded more than once by caniving, vicious supervisors. But after losing a dear friend to suicide last year (she was 28), I can assure you of this: NOTHING is worth taking your life. Your interpretion that people with Asperger's don't " fit in " and are therefore ostracized by society....that is not true. People with Asperger's have CERTAIN types of skills and can accelerate greatly in those areas. I live in Atlanta, and while receiving therapy/counseling at the Emory Univ Autism Center shortly after my diagnosis, I was hooked up with a wonderful job placement company that helps people with mild disabilities find jobs suitable for them. This local, private company is fully subsidized by the government and I've never paid a penny for their services. I am going on 29 months at my current job. You feel that people shun you because you're different. Social skills are tricky and do NOT come naturally to people like us. Counseling/therapy with autism specialists will help you learn basic social skills that will help you tremendously when you interact with people. And working with a job coach who works directly with your superiors is a tremendous help for you and the company you work for. Here's probably the best news of all: when people know you have a disability (even though it is slight) they often tend to lower their expectations a little bit and thus cut you some slack. For example, one time I was deep in thought about something at work and walked right into my boss' office to get a file....right when he was having a private meeting with two executives! Talk about embarrassing. Instead of feeling put out, he simply held up his hand and said " No, not now " and I apologized and left. In a social situation, the people you're with may not hold it against you if you talk a little too much, especially when they know you're trying your best. So many people I meet can't believe it when I tell them I have a mild form of autism. So many times I've heard " Looking at you, I never would have guessed that. " It is challenging to live with Asperger's my friend, but believe me it can be done, and the rewards for doing so are very rewarding. Think about this....ask yourself what is considered " normal " these days...that may make you feel better about being unique. I suggest you contact a local university in your area and ask if they have a program for autistic adults. They can at least point you in the right direction. When you make contact with Asperger's specialists, ask them about job placement companies that may operate in your area. Most importantly, never give up. It's okay to grieve from time to time, but there is so much to live for and you as an special individual have a lot to offer the world. Take care and God Bless, > > > > ============= > > Never was able to support myself. > > Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all arranged. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 I do hear how much pain you are in, but want you to know that many of us have been there (either as parents or as individuals with AS). As many people know, my son was diagnosed with AS at age 18, after struggling for years. He's suffered from depression for years; had a serious medication overdose last year. I can't stress how important it is to find a good therapist who understands AS to help you understand yourself and learn to love your strengths and laugh about your challenges. Although younger than you, my son too felt that it " wasn't fair " that kids get all the support while he went through school in agony through 12th grade (repeating it twice) and not knowing why. He saw his life at an end. He's now 22. With the help of his therapist, he has made tremendous gains this year on both a social and academic level. He has a girlfriend, is learning the word " compromise, " is beginning to experience pride in his achievements and get joke about his AS " challenges. " He's also completed over 27 credits of college work...with a 3.0 GPA (Keep in mind his High School grades averaged slightly greater than a D) You still have a life to lead, and much to offer others. Don't give up....look to others for support and learn all you can about AS. Louise > > > > > Never was able to support myself. > > > Look forward to the end in a few months when things are all > arranged. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 I appreciate the suggestion, would I be able to find it at video rental places? Love, Bruce > > If You are thinking such a thing, the film I recommended to Theresa could be > uplifting for You -- the nurse's experience. I could send You that. > > Love, > Francine > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 Sorry to give the impression things are eminent, I still have a few months to figure things out. I think. I usually don't seek help because advice I receive from normies doesn't fit me. Then I feel bad about letting them down. I'm not beating myself up as much, because I understand what has been happening. The problem is in the form of deep wounds which can't heal overnight, if ever. I have panic attacks, ptsd, all kinds of automatic responses to triggers. I'm in Colorado, Weld county. Not many services here. But just today I called around and set up some appointments, entirely because of the encouragement from people like you in this group. Love, Bruce > > Clearly you ARE looking for help here, and many if not all of us are open to help you. Give us the day to find you an adult support group, they are out there. Obviously you are a very intelligent person. Your present feelings are very valid, but nothing in life is quick and easy and you can't beat yourself up over this. You can't possibly try to help yourself for something that you didn't even know you had. Be grateful that now you can. Let us know where you are so we can try to find some local help. Just like your kitchen motto, things are not as bad as they seem, this too shall pass, I promise. > > ~ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 My wife is worse off than me. Her view of life is the same as mine. She was earning 80K eleven years ago, then fell ill. At that time I inherited a house and enough to last until now. So you see I've dreaded this moment for a long time. If she applied for SSD it would pay next to nothing since she hasn't earned anything in the last 11 years. Decided not to have kids because of doubts about my future. I've always felt like an alien. I figured if there would be one place to accept me it would be the church but it didn't feel right either. So I've lived as a firm agnostic all my adult life. I like to think there is something out there, but not in the form promoted by organised religion. http://www.godisimaginary.com I joined , thank you for that! I haven't lost all hope. Love, Bruce > What about your wife? Do you have kids? Please let someone here try and find you some help. We all deal with aspergers one way or another and it is HARD!!, BUT, God doesn't make mistakes and HE made you and my 18 yos the way He did for a reason. I don't know the reason.. There are groups for adults with aspergers that may help..http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/ and / are two that you can go to and talk to ADULTS that have aspergers and the other comorbid issues that come with it! My 30 yo step son died last Nov from an overdose(he had bipolar) and that is a PAIN that never goes away. Please don't do anything to yourself.. We love you and want to help in ANY way we can.. > Toni > ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 I understand you can relate to my problems, thank you for sharing. Who knows, maybe your suffering more than I. In addition to ADD you have pain which I read can cause or make it worse. Pain is quite a distraction. I have found antidepressants help with pain. What kind of business do you run? > > You're not a loser. You didn't know! We can't begin to know the > struggle you've dealt with all these years, but we can try, and > there's not many people here who would say you're overreacting. It's > so hard. I know. > > Now that you do know, you can explore the resources available. I'm > not saying it's going to be easy. It's probably going to be very > hard. You can vent here. Maybe some of us can point you in the right > direction. Where are you located? Some of us may know of a resource > in your area! We get so involved with advocacy that we may have the > latest scoop on resources in your area. Call the Autism Society. > Maybe they can help. > > I'd like to think I had more resources, but every step has been a > struggle. Clueless doctors. Clueless therapists that I had to train > in my son's and my neurological disorders first. Clueless school > officials. So clueless. My son's neurological and physical disorders. > My own. So much pain. So much pain. I'm 48. I'm tired. A lot of this > I don't want to do anymore, but the pinprick of light at the end of > the tunnel keeps me going. I try to find something to be grateful for > every day, even if it's a roof over my head, as much as I hate, hate, > hate the roof. I found out when I was 36 that my problems I'd > struggled with all these years were not in my imagination. I still > can't take medication for my ADD, and I'm so distractible!!! The > Tourette's stay's mild most of the time, but I have a rare, very bad > form of it occasionally. My OCD makes my family crazy sometimes. > Fibromyalgia. Arthritis. I'm running a business, and it's so hard. > Every day I'm in pain. Every day. Some days more than others, and the > only solution is to take something that's going to make me feel > wasted, which I hate, so I live with the pain. And I won't give up, > although some days it looks very, very inviting...Yes, it holds me > back, yes, it's exhausting, but I put one foot in front of the other, > every day. > > Unfortunately with disorders like this, nothing is quick and easy. > Wouldn't that be so nice? Wouldn't it be nice to wake up one morning > and all the problems are gone? Wouldn't it be nice to press the > Staples " Easy " button and it would all go away? All of us can tell > you here that it's not quick or easy. I'm sorry for that. > > Don't give up! Life is too dear. > > Theresa > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 No i haven't tried that, figure it would cost to much. I'll try what you suggest now. I contacted the local autism society as well. I'll let ya know what happens. thank you! > Have you tried an advocate? Either a lawyer or someone whose job it is to know 'the > system'? That way you wouldn't have to deal with it yourself. If money is an issue just call > and tell them so. Some of the advocates I have met are autistic and would understand > completely what your needs are and how to get help. > > A goood place to start is the autism society of america which is also for adults > http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer > They can help you find what you need. You can look for a local chapter. One phone > call...one email...its worth a try if it can change your life and that of your family. > Life takes courage and determination. Give the autism society a try. > angie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 Did that, thanks! Yeah exhaustion is a constant battle with me too. Just talking with a friend on the phone can sometimes wipe me out and I have to take a nap. > > There is a group on myspace.com for aspies and it is mostly adults... the moderator is an aspie himself and they have touched on alot of the subjects you have mentioned. There are also resources available there too from people that have been there. I am not sure how to do a link thing but go to myspace.com and sign up..its free and search groups for United Aspies. The moderator is Andy. This group has good information but like I said it was more for adults (yes there are a few parents with kids too) but the post I read were mainly adults that were facing challenges as being newly diagnosed. > > Now granted there are days/weeks when I am at the end too. Dealing with conditions that are not easily explainable can be exhausting. Somedays I wonder if I too do not have some of the problems my son has but my main focus is helping him first so that he is not " outed. " I survived my quirks growing up but todays world is not the same. Plus I am a female and I can just blame everything on the Hormones for now....hehe. > > So please look into other options and know that you arent alone... And from the words of a great woman (my mom) ....This too shall pass > > Trisha > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 I contacted arc today, thanks! i guess you guys lit a fire under me. not sure where it will lead, but feels good for now. i don't hate myself, i just hate what i become when trying (unsuccessfuly) to be like everyone else. > > There are a lot more resources then you think. Have you contacted your local > ARC organization they are a wealth of resources. Or maybe if you don't like > to research tell us what kind of resources your looking for and we can help > you find them. Going out is a permanent solution to temporary problems. I am > not angry or upset with you but there are many people willing to help out. > You shouldn't feel your a loser. I am sure deep down inside you are a > absolutely wonderful person. > > Stacie > > Here is the ARC website you can find a location near you. They are a wealth > of information. > _http://www.thearc.org/_ (http://www.thearc.org/) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 figured it would take months or years, also heard the first application is almost always rejected. i do have a psychiatrist and was first diag with ADD but now Aspergers, the ADD might have been a misdiag, or i might have both. along with numerous other nervous disorders from almost 50 years of pretending to be normal. being diagnosed feels good, no problem there. even tho i dropped out of HS, i was invited to every reunion, signed up and didn't go at the last minute. might go if there is a next time where i could be myself Love, Bruce > > > In a message dated 1/4/2007 12:10:52 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, > crazemome@... writes: > > I assume the gov would > view me with skepticism asking for help now. > > > Dear -b, > > I wouldn't make that assumption. You may be able to get SSD, especially if > You have any other diagnosis, which You would probably need a psychiatrist to > do (whoever diagnosed you with Asperger's?). > > When we're discouraged, it looks like everyone else is more successful, > happier, etc. than we are. That certainly isn't always true. Please don't give > up. You see that we're all interested in being of help to You. > > You know, a diagnosis doesn't mean that You aren't still You, or that You > aren't lovable. It's just a word -- not a sentence on You -- or on any of our > kids. Nor is a job any measure of who anyone is. > > Right where all this discouragement seems to be, hiding You, there is a > wonderful You present. > > Love, > Francine > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 Bruce, I responded to you yesterday but for some reason my post didn't make it onto the website. First off, do you know how many " normal " people are drowning in debt and have credit problems? There is help out there for that as well. You see commercials all the time about companies that " work with your creditors " and help you pay off your debt gradually thru single monthly payments. Debtors do have rights in America and you can legally stop your creditors from harassing you if you are making an honest effort to pay them the money you owe. I am profoundly sorry to hear about your house, but keep in mind that houses can be replaced, YOU can't. After you start receiving the help you need, you will find a steady job (maybe not right away but it WILL come). I am 34-yr-old living in Atlanta who was diagnosed with Asperger's in 2003 (I had never even heard of it!). It finally gave me an answer to all the problems I've had in life processing abstract information (which killed me at jobs and made my college years a living hell) and relating to people socially (which killed me everywhere!). Trust me, there have been times I've wanted to throw in the towel, also! And after what you've gone thru, I can understand why you may think there's no help out there. But trust me, there IS help available and it's only growing as more and more people are becoming aware of Asperger's Through individual and group therapy at the Emory University Autism Center, I learned those tricky social skills which don't come naturally for people like you and me. Oh sure, I still mess up sometimes (like every day) but because the people I interact with the most (my friends, family, and co-workers) are aware of my " loose screw " they are understanding and are willing to overlook my eccentricities. A wonderful job placement company here in Atlanta helped me get a job with a software development company and I'm going on 30 months at it now....the longest I've EVER held a single job! The company assigned me a private job coach who talks with me once every couple weeks and, if/when problems come up at work because I had an " Asperger Moment " , they contact my superiors to see what can be done to correct the problem. This wonderful company is private (and I'm afraid they are only located in Atlanta), but because of the kind of service they provide, are FULLY subsidized by the government. I have never had to pay a penny for their services. Yes, God does provide!! You're going to be fine, Bruce. Be patient and always be content with what you have at the present time. God will always provide for your needs, regardless of the situation you are in. Your Friend, > > Your friendship is appreciated. All these reply's they are giving me > energy to begin exploring resources. I figured it was a little late for > anything to help since I've lost the house and the car is next. Can't > answer the phone because of bill collectors. I felt it would have been > nice to get my as diagnosis a year or two ago and there wasn't time to > turn things around. my wife is even more anxious to exit than i am so > it wasn't like she would be alone for long. also no kids > If nothing else, looking for assistance could be a diversion and the > activity could help the depression. > Love and thanks to all! > Bruce > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2007 Report Share Posted January 7, 2007 College was infinately easier for me than grade/high school. As a kid I earned a handfull of C's, but I couldn't earn a B if my life depended on it. I was a talented artist, but even that wouldn't help my grades in art class. I dropped out of hs and spent entire senior year hiking in woods alone, then get back on bus to go home. The school never reported me, i guess they wanted the head count for funding. At age 20, alone in my room I taught myself everything i missed. Then went to technical college for electronics. It was like a dream. The first quarter I took 5 classes and earned straight A's. It wasn't easy since I never comprehended anything in class, I spent all night studying from the book and notes. Unfortunately real world jobs aren't like that. I couldn't run home and study before doing the assignment. I coudn't take notes while a boss gave me orders. (for fear it would make me look dumb) If i had a different working environment aware of my condition and supportive.. everthing might have turned out different. Without a diagnosis I developed sweat/panic attacks, IBS, memory lapses, loosing my voice, PTSD, etc. I figured I must be the smartest retarded person on the planet. Very confusing for me and those around me, and very very embarrassing. Ultimately I ended up working at 7-11 nights, wasting all that education and a 3.85 GPA. I had my first date at age 25. So it was tough in a lot of ways. bruce > > Louise, your post has ENCOURAGED me. One of my sons is repeating the 11th > grade and I could not possibly see either one making it in college. I have > heard adult aspies say college was easier than high school, but I can't > quite figure out why.. > Toni > Re: end of the road > > > >I do hear how much pain you are in, but want you to know that many of > > us have been there (either as parents or as individuals with AS). As > > many people know, my son was diagnosed with AS at age 18, after > > struggling for years. He's suffered from depression for years; had a > > serious medication overdose last year. I can't stress how important > > it is to find a good therapist who understands AS to help you > > understand yourself and learn to love your strengths and laugh about > > your challenges. Although younger than you, my son too felt that > > it " wasn't fair " that kids get all the support while he went through > > school in agony through 12th grade (repeating it twice) and not > > knowing why. He saw his life at an end. He's now 22. With the help > > of his therapist, he has made tremendous gains this year on both a > > social and academic level. He has a girlfriend, is learning the > > word " compromise, " is beginning to experience pride in his > > achievements and get joke about his AS " challenges. " He's also > > completed over 27 credits of college work...with a 3.0 GPA (Keep in > > mind his High School grades averaged slightly greater than a D) You > > still have a life to lead, and much to offer others. Don't give > > up....look to others for support and learn all you can about AS. > > Louise-- > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Glad it helped. For , I think the difference is twofold. As many have said, there is greater independence in terms of choosing coursework and studying, but I also think some of it is that he's finally maturing. I've often read that individuals with AS are developmentally about 2/3 of their chronological age....That would have made him about emotionally about 12 when he was 18. Early adolescents are still rebelling; definitely not ready for the rigor of High School. At this point, he has goals, and is able to complete work that he " doesn't think is important " because he knows it's required. When he was in High School, he woudl just decide not to do the work. I see tremendous changes in him the past couple of years....I'm just hoping it continues! > > Louise, your post has ENCOURAGED me. One of my sons is repeating the 11th > grade and I could not possibly see either one making it in college. I have > heard adult aspies say college was easier than high school, but I can't > quite figure out why.. > Toni > Re: end of the road > > > >I do hear how much pain you are in, but want you to know that many of > > us have been there (either as parents or as individuals with AS). As > > many people know, my son was diagnosed with AS at age 18, after > > struggling for years. He's suffered from depression for years; had a > > serious medication overdose last year. I can't stress how important > > it is to find a good therapist who understands AS to help you > > understand yourself and learn to love your strengths and laugh about > > your challenges. Although younger than you, my son too felt that > > it " wasn't fair " that kids get all the support while he went through > > school in agony through 12th grade (repeating it twice) and not > > knowing why. He saw his life at an end. He's now 22. With the help > > of his therapist, he has made tremendous gains this year on both a > > social and academic level. He has a girlfriend, is learning the > > word " compromise, " is beginning to experience pride in his > > achievements and get joke about his AS " challenges. " He's also > > completed over 27 credits of college work...with a 3.0 GPA (Keep in > > mind his High School grades averaged slightly greater than a D) You > > still have a life to lead, and much to offer others. Don't give > > up....look to others for support and learn all you can about AS. > > Louise-- > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2007 Report Share Posted January 10, 2007 Toni, thanks for the tip, I will look into that. I did try rehab for my voice which helped. I would loose my voice in stressful situations. As a child I had a greater than normal desire for knowledge, but nobody knew this. These days I would be happy living every day at a college. Nobody came remotely close to teaching me in my style of learning. So I daydreamed all day. I suspect if another Asperger person tutored me things might have turned out better. Maybe your psychologist would know someone suitable to experiment with? Who knows. bruce > >> > >> Louise, your post has ENCOURAGED me. One of my sons is repeating > > the 11th > >> grade and I could not possibly see either one making it in college. > > I have > >> heard adult aspies say college was easier than high school, but I > > can't > >> quite figure out why.. > >> Toni > >> Re: end of the road > >> > >> > >> >I do hear how much pain you are in, but want you to know that many > > of > >> > us have been there (either as parents or as individuals with > > AS). As > >> > many people know, my son was diagnosed with AS at age 18, after > >> > struggling for years. He's suffered from depression for years; > > had a > >> > serious medication overdose last year. I can't stress how > > important > >> > it is to find a good therapist who understands AS to help you > >> > understand yourself and learn to love your strengths and laugh > > about > >> > your challenges. Although younger than you, my son too felt that > >> > it " wasn't fair " that kids get all the support while he went > > through > >> > school in agony through 12th grade (repeating it twice) and not > >> > knowing why. He saw his life at an end. He's now 22. With the > > help > >> > of his therapist, he has made tremendous gains this year on both a > >> > social and academic level. He has a girlfriend, is learning the > >> > word " compromise, " is beginning to experience pride in his > >> > achievements and get joke about his AS " challenges. " He's also > >> > completed over 27 credits of college work...with a 3.0 GPA (Keep > > in > >> > mind his High School grades averaged slightly greater than a D) > > You > >> > still have a life to lead, and much to offer others. Don't give > >> > up....look to others for support and learn all you can about AS. > >> > Louise-- > >> > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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