Re: More questions about OCD...

[Guest guest]

Dana,

My daughter gets stomachaches constantly too. I

wondered if it was part of the anxiety.

Darletta

--- Dana <pba1221d@...> wrote:

> First I want to thank everybody for all the posts.

> I appreciate it so

> much.

>

> Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be

> extra clingy towards

> me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me

> out of his sight.

> He is like that also with his dad but moreso with

> me. I am the one

> who has been more of the comforter. He really looks

> to me for

> reassurance.

>

> Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It

> all centers around

> the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the

> stomachaches

> normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour

> or so, and then he

> starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of

> this stuff ocd

> related?

>

> Dana

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

I am not sure, but you have described my ocd dd. She is 5 and very clingy. If

she has to be away from me, she cries and says she will miss me. Even if she is

leaving to go somewhere fun. It isnt all the time, though, so I would tend to

think it is just the child, not the ocd. She has always complained her tummy

hurts. That started when she was little and I think it was a way of telling me

her body needed something, she just didnt know what. Could be anything from

needing to go to the bathroom (#1 or #2), being hungry or thirsty, being tired,

nervous or excited about something, being too full, etc, etc. I just think she

knows he body is " off " and cant always tell what it is right away, so she says

her tummy hurts. With her, it isnt every day or every time her body needs

something, so I tend to think it is just her, not ocd. I think she is just very

sensitive to the changes in her body on a daily basis.

Sharon

More questions about OCD...

First I want to thank everybody for all the posts. I appreciate it so

much.

Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be extra clingy towards

me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me out of his sight.

He is like that also with his dad but moreso with me. I am the one

who has been more of the comforter. He really looks to me for

reassurance.

Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It all centers around

the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the stomachaches

normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour or so, and then he

starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of this stuff ocd

related?

Dana

[Guest guest]

Hi Dana and welcome to the group--it has been a wealth of information

for me in this battle with OCD with my daughter.

I don't have much time presently, so I won't go into our background

much, but my daughter, Mikayla had an onset of OCD at age 7 1/2. She is

now 11. When it first started, we didn't know WHAT was going on. It

was terrible! She was terribly clingy, not wanting me to leave her

sight, be upstairs when she was down, etc. I was her comfort, although

I don't know why, I couldnt' make what was happening to her go away.

She was suddenly terrified of vomiting. She avoided people she thought

were ill, jumped if someone coughed wrong and it sounded like they may

be gaggy, ran terrified from the room if someone choked on something,

and couldnt' be around our brand new twins because they spit up and she

couldn't tolerate that.

So, it all sounds so familiar and like you are on the right track

starting the meds and working with your Dr. I can't remember if you are

seeing a psychiatrist or not yet. Mikayla has had ups and downs over

the past 4 years, with med changes in between. She's currently doing

great after a terrible spring. I hope your child gets the relief he

needs. I know what you mean about starting school and being worried.

Mikayla can hardly function at school when her OCD is bad like it was

this spring. School is hard enough without all the worries our kids have.

Dina

[Guest guest]

" I know what you mean about starting school and being worried. "

The weird thing is that my 9 yr old son does BETTER during the

school year. It's like he has something else to concentrate on and

a focus for his attention. I think he likes the structured day

too.

OCD is all about being safe and having a schedule seems to do that

for him to some extent.

He does say that his OCD springs up during math. This is a subject

that he struggles with so maybe it's the stress involved. He loves

reading and writing and stuff like that so maybe that's all it is

there. Who knows?

His OCD started sometime after a car accident that we were in last

September. He was embarrassed and didn't tell me about it until

April.

>

> Hi Dana and welcome to the group--it has been a wealth of

information

> for me in this battle with OCD with my daughter.

>

> I don't have much time presently, so I won't go into our

background

> much, but my daughter, Mikayla had an onset of OCD at age 7 1/2.

She is

> now 11. When it first started, we didn't know WHAT was going on.

It

> was terrible! She was terribly clingy, not wanting me to leave

her

> sight, be upstairs when she was down, etc. I was her comfort,

although

> I don't know why, I couldnt' make what was happening to her go

away.

> She was suddenly terrified of vomiting. She avoided people she

thought

> were ill, jumped if someone coughed wrong and it sounded like they

may

> be gaggy, ran terrified from the room if someone choked on

something,

> and couldnt' be around our brand new twins because they spit up

and she

> couldn't tolerate that.

>

> So, it all sounds so familiar and like you are on the right track

> starting the meds and working with your Dr. I can't remember if

you are

> seeing a psychiatrist or not yet. Mikayla has had ups and downs

over

> the past 4 years, with med changes in between. She's currently

doing

> great after a terrible spring. I hope your child gets the relief

he

> needs. I know what you mean about starting school and being

worried.

> Mikayla can hardly function at school when her OCD is bad like it

was

> this spring. School is hard enough without all the worries our

kids have.

>

> Dina

>

[Guest guest]

Dana,

My daughter comppained of stomach aches so much that the doctor did tests on

her to rule out G.I. problems. It was only at the beginning of last year when

we realized it was a nervous stomach. She was on Prevacid for a while and other

stomach medicines. We finally have narrowed it down to anxiety causing it. She

has bad stomach aches and sometimes gets sick to her stomach (doesn't throw up

though).

At least now we know what it is from, I give her a mint or something and tell

her it will settle her stomach down and sometimes it works. But we usually have

to talk about what is bothering her and that really helps most of the time!

Good luck,

Angie

Dana <pba1221d@...> wrote:

First I want to thank everybody for all the posts. I appreciate it so

much.

Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be extra clingy towards

me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me out of his sight.

He is like that also with his dad but moreso with me. I am the one

who has been more of the comforter. He really looks to me for

reassurance.

Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It all centers around

the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the stomachaches

normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour or so, and then he

starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of this stuff ocd

related?

Dana

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[Guest guest]

My son turned down a trip to Disney with my parents for the day. They headed out

while I was working at a La Leche League conference. He had a meltdown and they

had to come back, he refused to go and was screaming and crying. He went to the

conference with me instead. That was tough. They really had a hard time with it

and gave me quite a bad time about it. But, it was two years ago, he is seven

now and would go with them now, if he wasn't in the midst of an OCD flare up.

He has always been very clingy. They always blamed it on extended nursing or

overprotectiveness. Ha, they were wrong! I guess that is something. When he

was first diagnosed, they said, " we always knew something was wrong with him. "

Great, I think they just thought it was bad parenting or something we were doing

to screw him up. At least we have a reason for some of the odd and stressful

behaviors now. They have backed way off since then. I guess they can be the

" all knowing " anymore, because they have no clue how to parent an OCD kid.

Sorry, off topic a bit, needed to vent a little.

J

More questions about OCD...

First I want to thank everybody for all the posts. I appreciate it so

much.

Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be extra clingy towards

me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me out of his sight.

He is like that also with his dad but moreso with me. I am the one

who has been more of the comforter. He really looks to me for

reassurance.

Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It all centers around

the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the stomachaches

normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour or so, and then he

starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of this stuff ocd

related?

Dana

[Guest guest]

- I got a chuckle - hey we need some laughs on here - but I too

am a extending breastfeeder who has never left any of my 4 with anyone

- and they all think the kids will have issues because of it - but

guess who cried the first day of school?? me of course - they're secure

due to my always being there etc and any " weird " : things that I was

starting to get blamed for just may have been OCD which I'm sure I

caused too - LOL!

Eileen

> My son turned down a trip to Disney with my parents for the day. They

> headed out while I was working at a La Leche League conference. He

> had a meltdown and they had to come back, he refused to go and was

> screaming and crying. He went to the conference with me instead. That

> was tough. They really had a hard time with it and gave me quite a

> bad time about it. But, it was two years ago, he is seven now and

> would go with them now, if he wasn't in the midst of an OCD flare up.

> He has always been very clingy. They always blamed it on extended

> nursing or overprotectiveness. Ha, they were wrong! I guess that is

> something. When he was first diagnosed, they said, " we always knew

> something was wrong with him. " Great, I think they just thought it

> was bad parenting or something we were doing to screw him up. At

> least we have a reason for some of the odd and stressful behaviors

> now. They have backed way off since then. I guess they can be the

> " all knowing " anymore, because they have no clue how to parent an OCD

> kid. Sorry, off topic a bit, needed to vent a little.

> J

>

>

> More questions about OCD...

>

> First I want to thank everybody for all the posts. I appreciate it so

> much.

>

> Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be extra clingy towards

> me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me out of his sight.

> He is like that also with his dad but moreso with me. I am the one

> who has been more of the comforter. He really looks to me for

> reassurance.

>

> Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It all centers around

> the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the stomachaches

> normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour or so, and then he

> starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of this stuff ocd

> related?

>

> Dana

>

>

[Guest guest]

One of my co-leaders said that Ben got OCD in spite of attachment parenting,

not because of it. I'm glad we made the decisions we have done including

homeschooling. co-sleeping and all of the other " weird " things. And now, I can't

help but want to protect him even more. I thought the symbol of the turtle was

so right. That is how we feel, but he is getting stronger. He started karate

today and really loved it. I think it will be so good for him. No bad thoughts

all day! Hurray! Tomorrow, we have ice skating. I'm keeping him so busy, that

he doesn't have time for bad thoughts. Next week we start science class, piano,

then gymnastics and our regular school curriculum. He told me that he was just

too busy for " Big Bully " . That is his name for OCD. We let most activities go

last spring when Big Bully made his first appearance. He is anxious to get back

to things.

J

mom to Ben7

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>

> First I want to thank everybody for all the posts. I appreciate it so

> much.

>

> Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be extra clingy towards

> me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me out of his sight.

> He is like that also with his dad but moreso with me. I am the one

> who has been more of the comforter. He really looks to me for

> reassurance.

>

> Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It all centers around

> the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the stomachaches

> normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour or so, and then he

> starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of this stuff ocd

> related?

>

> Dana

>

>

[Guest guest]

laura, sorry your parents havent been more supportive. i extended bfed my

youngest and have always been an overprotective mother, less so now that i have

3 kids, than when i had just one. lol! the one i bfed the longest is the only

one who doesnt get really clingy.

sharon

More questions about OCD...

First I want to thank everybody for all the posts. I appreciate it so

much.

Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be extra clingy towards

me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me out of his sight.

He is like that also with his dad but moreso with me. I am the one

who has been more of the comforter. He really looks to me for

reassurance.

Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It all centers around

the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the stomachaches

normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour or so, and then he

starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of this stuff ocd

related?

Dana

[Guest guest]

Dana, has he seen a therapist? My daughter, 10 yrs, also had many

stomachaches and vomiting, especially in the mornings or during

school. I would end up having to go pick her up. She has Separation

Anxiety disorder, which is a separate diagnosis, but common in kids

with OCD.

Your son sounds exactly like my daugter. I was confused and

baffled as to what was happening until the therapist explained it

and I read a whole bunch about it. He is probably more like that

with you because he is closer to you (or more comfortable with you)

and sees you as an extention of himself.

To keep reassuring actually strengthens the behavior. Learning

new ways of responding will help immensely. Patience is hard to

maintain, but worth it.

>

> First I want to thank everybody for all the posts. I appreciate

it so

> much.

>

> Is it also normal for OCD to cause my son to be extra clingy

towards

> me? He is 12 and really I don't think he wants me out of his

sight.

> He is like that also with his dad but moreso with me. I am the

one

> who has been more of the comforter. He really looks to me for

> reassurance.

>

> Also, he constantly complains of stomachaches. It all centers

around

> the ocd he has regarding the stomach flu. Are the stomachaches

> normal? Sometimes he will seem alright for an hour or so, and

then he

> starts worrying and gets a stomachache. Is all of this stuff ocd

> related?

>

> Dana

>