Re: I HAVE A QUESTION ABOUT MY SON WITH ASPERGERS :)

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Sounds like both my autistic daughters AND my adhd daughter. Their response is always tomorrow? tamsexyred34@... wrote: IM STILL READING THE OASIS GUIDE TO ASPERGERS .. MY SON ALEX WHO IS 6 WAS JUST DIAGNOSED THIS LAST MONTH ...I STILL HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS ... SCHOOL IS DOING THE EVALUATION BUT I HAVE A QUESTION ... IS NO SENSE OF TIME, A ASPERGERS DEAL ? FOR EXAMPLE .. WE

BOUGHT PUMPKINS AND PUT UP HALOWEEN DECORATIONS .. AND ALEX FOR DAYS NOW THINKS TONIGHT IS HALOWEEN .. HE HAS NO GRASP OF TIME .. WE MADE A CALANDER FOR HIM BUT HE IS CRYING CUZ IT IS NOT HALOWEEN ...I MEAN HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND TIME .. EVEN WHEN WE TRY TO EXPLAIN HE HAS A FIT CUZ HE CANT GO TRICK OR TREATING .. NOW .. AND RIGHT NOW .. HE WHINES AND CRYS ? WHAT ISTHAT AND WHY ? IM GOING TO REMIND MYSELF NOT TO PUT UP MY CHRISTMAS TREE TOO EARLY .. MY NERVES WILL BE FRAZZLED ENOUGH LOL BUT IM TRYIN TO UNDERSTAND WHERE ALEX IS COMING FROM ... HE IS OBSESSED WITH HALOWEEN RIGHT NOW HE IS CARRYING ARROUND A PUMPKIN THAT YOU PLUG IN AND WONT LEAVE IT ALONE .... THANKS .. GIVE ME ADIVSE GUYS IF YOU HAVE ANY .... THANKS TAMMY DAVIS ... OVERLAND PARK .. SON WITH ASPERGERS A great teacher never strives to explain his vision - he simply invites you to stand beside him and see for yourself.... The Rev. R. Inman Children are likely to live up to

what you believe of them - Lady Bird Treat a child as though he already is the person he's capable of becoming - Haim Gnott

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Hi Tammy;

Time is an abstract concept, something that is extremely difficult

for children on the autism/Asperger's spectrum. Children with

Asperger's have a literal/concrete thinking style. They can

understand that the referent of 1 directly " equates " with a physical

value or single unit. The struggle becomes when they are asked to

understand the situationality of meaning where a context determines

a specific value. Use a big calendar and move a picture of your son

along each day toward the holiday in question, kind of like a advent

calendar. Children with Asperger's Syndrome do well with visual

information but have a heck of a time understanding language because

most language uttered by adults is less than concrete or literal

Good luck!

Kind Regards,

IM

STILL READING THE OASIS GUIDE TO ASPERGERS .. MY SON ALEX WHO IS 6

WAS JUST DIAGNOSED THIS LAST MONTH ...I STILL HAVE SO MANY

QUESTIONS ... SCHOOL IS DOING THE EVALUATION BUT I HAVE A

QUESTION ...

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> IS NO SENSE OF TIME, A ASPERGERS DEAL ? FOR EXAMPLE .. WE

BOUGHT PUMPKINS AND PUT UP HALOWEEN DECORATIONS .. AND ALEX FOR DAYS

NOW THINKS TONIGHT IS HALOWEEN .. HE HAS NO GRASP OF TIME .. WE

MADE A CALANDER FOR HIM BUT HE IS CRYING CUZ IT IS NOT

HALOWEEN ...I MEAN HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND TIME .. EVEN WHEN WE TRY TO

EXPLAIN HE HAS A FIT CUZ HE CANT GO TRICK OR TREATING .. NOW .. AND

RIGHT NOW .. HE WHINES AND CRYS ? WHAT ISTHAT AND WHY ? IM GOING TO

REMIND MYSELF NOT TO PUT UP MY CHRISTMAS TREE TOO EARLY .. MY NERVES

WILL BE FRAZZLED ENOUGH LOL BUT IM TRYIN TO UNDERSTAND WHERE ALEX

IS COMING FROM ... HE IS OBSESSED WITH HALOWEEN RIGHT NOW HE IS

CARRYING ARROUND A PUMPKIN THAT YOU PLUG IN AND WONT LEAVE IT

ALONE .... THANKS .. GIVE ME ADIVSE GUYS IF YOU HAVE ANY ....

THANKS TAMMY DAVIS ... OVERLAND PARK .. SON WITH ASPERGERS

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> A great teacher never strives to explain his vision - he simply

invites you to stand beside him and see for yourself.... The Rev. R.

Inman

> Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them -

Lady Bird

> Treat a child as though he already is the person he's capable of

becoming - Haim Gnott

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My son is 11 and still has a difficult grasp on the concept of time.. Keep working on the calendar. Have him cross off the days every morning when he gets up and tell him how many "sleeps" he has left until Halloween. Concept of time can be very difficult with these guys. Just keep working on it and it will get better. Plus he is only 6 so even typical kids have difficulty. Good Luck!!!!! in Lancaster, Catamsexyred34@... wrote: IM STILL READING THE OASIS GUIDE TO ASPERGERS .. MY SON ALEX WHO IS 6 WAS JUST DIAGNOSED THIS LAST MONTH ...I STILL HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS ... SCHOOL IS DOING THE EVALUATION BUT I HAVE A QUESTION ... IS NO SENSE OF TIME, A ASPERGERS DEAL ? FOR EXAMPLE .. WE BOUGHT PUMPKINS AND PUT UP HALOWEEN DECORATIONS .. AND ALEX FOR DAYS NOW THINKS TONIGHT IS HALOWEEN .. HE HAS NO GRASP OF TIME .. WE MADE A CALANDER FOR HIM BUT HE IS CRYING CUZ IT IS NOT HALOWEEN ...I MEAN HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND TIME .. EVEN WHEN WE TRY TO EXPLAIN HE HAS A FIT CUZ HE CANT GO TRICK OR TREATING .. NOW .. AND RIGHT NOW .. HE WHINES AND CRYS ? WHAT ISTHAT AND WHY ? IM GOING TO REMIND MYSELF NOT TO PUT UP MY CHRISTMAS TREE TOO EARLY .. MY NERVES WILL BE FRAZZLED ENOUGH LOL BUT IM TRYIN TO UNDERSTAND WHERE ALEX IS COMING FROM ... HE IS OBSESSED WITH HALOWEEN RIGHT NOW HE IS CARRYING ARROUND A PUMPKIN THAT YOU PLUG IN AND

WONT LEAVE IT ALONE .... THANKS .. GIVE ME ADIVSE GUYS IF YOU HAVE ANY .... THANKS TAMMY DAVIS ... OVERLAND PARK .. SON WITH ASPERGERS

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My son is 11 and still has a difficult grasp on the concept of time.. Keep working on the calendar. Have him cross off the days every morning when he gets up and tell him how many "sleeps" he has left until Halloween. Concept of time can be very difficult with these guys. Just keep working on it and it will get better. Plus he is only 6 so even typical kids have difficulty. Good Luck!!!!! in Lancaster, Catamsexyred34@... wrote: IM STILL READING THE OASIS GUIDE TO ASPERGERS .. MY SON ALEX WHO IS 6 WAS JUST DIAGNOSED THIS LAST MONTH ...I STILL HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS ... SCHOOL IS DOING THE EVALUATION BUT I HAVE A QUESTION ... IS NO SENSE OF TIME, A ASPERGERS DEAL ? FOR EXAMPLE .. WE BOUGHT PUMPKINS AND PUT UP HALOWEEN DECORATIONS .. AND ALEX FOR DAYS NOW THINKS TONIGHT IS HALOWEEN .. HE HAS NO GRASP OF TIME .. WE MADE A CALANDER FOR HIM BUT HE IS CRYING CUZ IT IS NOT HALOWEEN ...I MEAN HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND TIME .. EVEN WHEN WE TRY TO EXPLAIN HE HAS A FIT CUZ HE CANT GO TRICK OR TREATING .. NOW .. AND RIGHT NOW .. HE WHINES AND CRYS ? WHAT ISTHAT AND WHY ? IM GOING TO REMIND MYSELF NOT TO PUT UP MY CHRISTMAS TREE TOO EARLY .. MY NERVES WILL BE FRAZZLED ENOUGH LOL BUT IM TRYIN TO UNDERSTAND WHERE ALEX IS COMING FROM ... HE IS OBSESSED WITH HALOWEEN RIGHT NOW HE IS CARRYING ARROUND A PUMPKIN THAT YOU PLUG IN AND

WONT LEAVE IT ALONE .... THANKS .. GIVE ME ADIVSE GUYS IF YOU HAVE ANY .... THANKS TAMMY DAVIS ... OVERLAND PARK .. SON WITH ASPERGERS

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I BOUGHT MY SON HIS COSTUME AND THE INSIDE AND OUTSIDE OF MY HOUSE LOOKS GODY .. WE HAVE MORE SCARY AND HALOWEEN DECORATIONS THEN MOST HAUNTED HOUSES .. WE GOT 3 DIFFRENT KINDS OF LIGHTS ETC.. ALEX IS 6 ALSO .. AND HAS ASPERGERS .. OCD AND ANZIETY ... AND DOC IS STILL WORKING ON HIM .. THIS IS ALL NEW TO US.... AND SO STREEFUL .. LETS TALK SOMETIME .. ID LIKE TO TALK TO A PARENT OF A CHILD SAME AGE AS MINE ... TAMMY IS OVERLAND PARK KANSAS

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I BOUGHT MY SON HIS COSTUME AND THE INSIDE AND OUTSIDE OF MY HOUSE LOOKS GODY .. WE HAVE MORE SCARY AND HALOWEEN DECORATIONS THEN MOST HAUNTED HOUSES .. WE GOT 3 DIFFRENT KINDS OF LIGHTS ETC.. ALEX IS 6 ALSO .. AND HAS ASPERGERS .. OCD AND ANZIETY ... AND DOC IS STILL WORKING ON HIM .. THIS IS ALL NEW TO US.... AND SO STREEFUL .. LETS TALK SOMETIME .. ID LIKE TO TALK TO A PARENT OF A CHILD SAME AGE AS MINE ... TAMMY IS OVERLAND PARK KANSAS

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THANK YOU THIS IS ALL NEW TOO ME ... DIAGNOSIS FOR ASPERGERS HAS ONLY BEEN IN THE LAST MONTH ... AND NOW ... WE JUST FEEL LOST .. WE WANT TO HELP HIM .. BUT HELL THE OTHER NITE HE DIDNT GO TO BED TILL AFTER 4 AND NOW IT IS 11:03 AND HE IS STILL UP SAYING HE WANTS TO GO TRICK OR TREAT ... THANKS TAMMY SON WITH ASPERGERS AGE 6

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THANK YOU THIS IS ALL NEW TOO ME ... DIAGNOSIS FOR ASPERGERS HAS ONLY BEEN IN THE LAST MONTH ... AND NOW ... WE JUST FEEL LOST .. WE WANT TO HELP HIM .. BUT HELL THE OTHER NITE HE DIDNT GO TO BED TILL AFTER 4 AND NOW IT IS 11:03 AND HE IS STILL UP SAYING HE WANTS TO GO TRICK OR TREAT ... THANKS TAMMY SON WITH ASPERGERS AGE 6

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MY SON WE WENT AND GOT COSTUME THINKIN THIS WOULD HELP .. HE IS GETTING UP AT 4 AM TO PUT COSTUME ON CUZ WE WONT ALLOWHIM TO PUT IT ON TO GO TO BED .. THEN HE ISGETTING UP AT 5 AND COMING AND TELLING US HE IS SICK AND CANT GO TO SCHOOL IN THE MORNING CUZ HE CANT WEAR HIS COSTUME LOL WHAT TO DO ? I DONT KNOW:) TAMMY

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My 5 year old daughter counts time by how

many “sleeps” too.

It actually drives my AS son (13) crazy

ROFL!

Charlotte

From: Autism and Aspergers Treatment [mailto:Autism and Aspergers Treatment ] On Behalf Of M Strahlendorf

Sent: Wednesday, October 04, 2006

12:38 PM

Autism and Aspergers Treatment

Subject: Re: I

HAVE A QUESTION ABOUT MY SON WITH ASPERGERS

My son is 11 and still has a difficult grasp on the concept of time..

Keep working on the calendar. Have him cross off the days every morning when he

gets up and tell him how many " sleeps " he has left until Halloween.

Concept of time can be very difficult with these guys. Just keep working on it

and it will get better. Plus he is only 6 so even typical kids have difficulty.

Good Luck!!!!!

in Lancaster, Ca

tamsexyred34aol

wrote:

IM STILL READING THE OASIS GUIDE

TO ASPERGERS .. MY SON ALEX WHO IS 6 WAS JUST DIAGNOSED THIS LAST MONTH ...I

STILL HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS ... SCHOOL IS DOING THE EVALUATION BUT I HAVE A

QUESTION ...

IS NO SENSE OF TIME, A

ASPERGERS DEAL ? FOR EXAMPLE .. WE BOUGHT PUMPKINS AND PUT UP HALOWEEN

DECORATIONS .. AND ALEX FOR DAYS NOW THINKS TONIGHT IS HALOWEEN .. HE HAS NO

GRASP OF TIME .. WE MADE A CALANDER FOR HIM BUT HE IS CRYING CUZ IT IS NOT

HALOWEEN ...I MEAN HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND TIME .. EVEN WHEN WE TRY TO EXPLAIN HE

HAS A FIT CUZ HE CANT GO TRICK OR TREATING .. NOW .. AND RIGHT NOW .. HE WHINES

AND CRYS ? WHAT ISTHAT AND WHY ? IM GOING TO REMIND MYSELF NOT TO PUT UP MY

CHRISTMAS TREE TOO EARLY .. MY NERVES WILL BE FRAZZLED ENOUGH LOL BUT IM TRYIN

TO UNDERSTAND WHERE ALEX IS COMING FROM ... HE IS OBSESSED WITH HALOWEEN RIGHT

NOW HE IS CARRYING ARROUND A PUMPKIN THAT YOU PLUG IN AND WONT LEAVE IT ALONE

..... THANKS .. GIVE ME ADIVSE GUYS IF YOU HAVE ANY .... THANKS TAMMY DAVIS ... OVERLAND PARK .. SON WITH ASPERGERS

 

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My son is the same way. I have been working on time for 3 years now. I just keep waiting for the day it will finally " click " . He is slowly making progress. The other day, I told him Halloween was in 29 days. He said, " oh, thats almost a month " My jaw hit the floor! I was so proud of him! That was the first time he demonstrated that he understood what a month was.

On 10/3/06, bushyi <roanpsych@...> wrote:

Hi Tammy;Time is an abstract concept, something that is extremely difficult for children on the autism/Asperger's spectrum. Children with Asperger's have a literal/concrete thinking style. They can

understand that the referent of 1 directly " equates " with a physical value or single unit. The struggle becomes when they are asked to understand the situationality of meaning where a context determines a specific value. Use a big calendar and move a picture of your son along each day toward the holiday in question, kind of like a advent calendar. Children with Asperger's Syndrome do well with visual information but have a heck of a time understanding language because most language uttered by adults is less than concrete or literal Good luck!Kind Regards, IM STILL READING THE OASIS GUIDE TO ASPERGERS .. MY SON ALEX WHO IS 6 WAS JUST DIAGNOSED THIS LAST MONTH ...I STILL HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS ... SCHOOL IS DOING THE EVALUATION BUT I HAVE A QUESTION ... > > > IS NO SENSE OF TIME, A ASPERGERS DEAL ? FOR EXAMPLE .. WE BOUGHT PUMPKINS AND PUT UP HALOWEEN DECORATIONS .. AND ALEX FOR DAYS NOW THINKS TONIGHT IS HALOWEEN .. HE HAS NO GRASP OF TIME .. WE

MADE A CALANDER FOR HIM BUT HE IS CRYING CUZ IT IS NOT HALOWEEN ...I MEAN HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND TIME .. EVEN WHEN WE TRY TO EXPLAIN HE HAS A FIT CUZ HE CANT GO TRICK OR TREATING .. NOW .. AND RIGHT NOW .. HE WHINES AND CRYS ? WHAT ISTHAT AND WHY ? IM GOING TO REMIND MYSELF NOT TO PUT UP MY CHRISTMAS TREE TOO EARLY .. MY NERVES WILL BE FRAZZLED ENOUGH LOL BUT IM TRYIN TO UNDERSTAND WHERE ALEX IS COMING FROM ... HE IS OBSESSED WITH HALOWEEN RIGHT NOW HE IS CARRYING ARROUND A PUMPKIN THAT YOU PLUG IN AND WONT LEAVE IT ALONE .... THANKS .. GIVE ME ADIVSE GUYS IF YOU HAVE ANY .... THANKS TAMMY DAVIS ... OVERLAND PARK .. SON WITH ASPERGERS > > > > > > A great teacher never strives to explain his vision - he simply invites you to stand beside him and see for yourself.... The Rev. R. Inman> Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them - Lady Bird > Treat a child as though he already is the person he's capable of becoming - Haim Gnott> > > > ---------------------------------> How low will we go? Check out Messenger's low PC-to-Phone call rates.>

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I always remind my kids that "if you do not go to school, you cannot go to do something special (trick or treating etc) after school" also try telling him he does not want to wear the costume out before trick or treat because then it will not be "new and special" for Halloween/trick or treat. Tell him it is a special occasion and he should want to keep it just for that! My son wears old costumes around all the time. I have to force him out of them for school etc too but I remind him of what fun he has at school so he is not as mad when I make him change. Those are my best suggestions. Either way, be prepared for fits/meltdowns and attitude. AS kids CAN be redirected, it just takes more effort and dealing with a bit more attitude! lol OH! you could try having him do small things to "lead up to" Halloween, like ok, we have to have you decorate/color a bag/container for your candy before then, can you help us with these decorations tonight (maybe turn them on or plug them

in with supervision each night), before Halloween, etc. Think of things like that to stay in the area of interest but not on the trick or treating to distract him/occupy him until it is time to actually go. Good luck and God bless!DeeDeetamsexyred34@... wrote: MY SON WE WENT AND GOT COSTUME THINKIN THIS WOULD HELP .. HE IS GETTING UP AT 4 AM TO PUT COSTUME ON CUZ WE WONT ALLOWHIM TO PUT IT ON TO GO TO BED .. THEN HE ISGETTING UP AT 5 AND COMING AND TELLING

US HE IS SICK AND CANT GO TO SCHOOL IN THE MORNING CUZ HE CANT WEAR HIS COSTUME LOL WHAT TO DO ? I DONT KNOW:) TAMMY

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I don't think it's a rule though. When my daughter was six, and asked about time, I told her the basics of one o'clock, etc. and that each space between the numbers (which were covered with tape that had dots instead of written integers) was worth 5 minutes. She was then telling time, and began to do incredible math with the clock. We'd say how many minutes between now (say it was 5:37 p.m.) and 10:42 tomorrow morning, and before we finished the word 'morning', she'd have the answer. Correctly. Maybe the numbers are too abstract. Dots are great.

Each one is so individual.

Francine

In a message dated 10/6/2006 2:41:59 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, kbtoni@... writes:

Neither one of my 17 yos can tell time on a clock with hands. I LOVE clocks and have grandfather clocks, mantel, ships clock etc and they will stand in the living room and say MOM, what time is it? I'll say look at the clock, Just tell me they say, so I'll say a quarter til 4. At first they thought that meant 25 min til 4 but now at least they know it means 3;45..

Toni