What should I do?

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Before Mike was diognosed he would live in his bedroom, playing

gameboy or gamecube. The therapists have told us he needs to interact

with others so we told him he could be in his room after his shower

at night, during the day he had to be downstairs. Even if it was just

watching tv, at least he was still with others. After the daycare

kids left for the day we've told him he has to go outside to play,

weather permitting. All of this has caused alot of problems in the

last few months since he's hit 13. My other boys spend alot of time

in their rooms, but they also have an active social life. When we

make Mike go outside, he sits. Nothing else, just sits. Should I just

say the heck with it and let him stay in his room if he wants? I

could limit the use of the gamegear, but he still has the tv. He

shares the third floor with my 15y/o son, we put a wall up to divide

the space so they could each have a room, but it's so stinkin hot up

there in the summer, the air conditioner helps some but not much. I

really don't want him holed up by himself, but I'm also tired of all

the arguing. He says we're to 'restrictive' with him, just this

morning we got into it, he said he did his teeth, I didn't see him do

them. Did the sniff test, didn't smell toothpaste, made him do it

again. He got VERY angry, I told him he was acting like a 1y/o, he

told me to shut up. He's never talked to me like that before, he got

smacked in the mouth for it. He said we never believe him, but when I

try to explain why we don't (his lying) he just tunes me out. This

all happened about an hour ago, he's acting like nothing happened

now. I just don't know what to do anymore, I feel if I let him stay

in his room I'm giving up on him somehow, but if I make him stay

downstairs I feel like I'm being to hard on him somehow. Does that

make any sense? ARGGGG!!!