Guest guest Posted August 6, 2006 Report Share Posted August 6, 2006 My daughter is 8 and she used to constantly have her hands in her pants, we finally wrote a social story for her and every time we would see her doing it we would read to her or have her read the story so she learned that it was innapropriate after awhile she just stopped, not sure if it was the innapropriateness (is that a word?) of it or the fact that she was tired of reading that dang story... Hope that helps. Good luck.rose6072004 <rose6072004@...> wrote: I have a three year old who seems obsessed with rubbing herself on the couch, chairs, etc. It is getting a little embarassing. Has anyone else had to deal with anything like this? Any suggestions?Thanks, See the all-new, redesigned .com. Check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 6, 2006 Report Share Posted August 6, 2006 My youngest daughter constantly touches herself, it is really upsetting I agree. I repeatedly ask her not to do it toorose6072004 <rose6072004@...> wrote: I have a three year old who seems obsessed with rubbing herself on the couch, chairs, etc. It is getting a little embarassing. Has anyone else had to deal with anything like this? Any suggestions?Thanks, If there are no dogs in Heaven, then when I die I want to go where they wentWill There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.Ben A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loveshimself.Josh Billings Talk is cheap. Use Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 6, 2006 Report Share Posted August 6, 2006 Consider having her checked by a physician for an infection (urinary and vaginal). My niece, at the same age, had a yeast infection and needed antibiotics. > > Hi everyone. I have a three year old at home, yes only three, who > seems to be obsessed with rubbing herself. She does it on the > couches, chairs, you name it. It is getting to be quite embarrasing. > Anyone have to deal with this? What can I do? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they want to do it, they have to do it in the bathroom or in private.That seemed to help. However:at your son's age and his being AS...it is most likely a sensory thing. Changing his focus may help...distracting him with something else. Also children who have been sexually molested will act out doing the same thing you have mentioned. I'm not saying he has been. Kernan Biofeedback Therapist My Size Barbie Fashions by Rainysnana can be found at my store at The Doll Pagehttp://www.rainysnana.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 , Thank you for bringing that up, my almost 15yo daughter was molested over a 3+ year period by a family member, and was being very sexual, as with part of it, as I explained to my ex dh being very busty is ok, and being "obessive about them is ok, however, I worry the hypersexuality is an issue with both of my spectrum kids. Molly is obsessed with her breasts, and Hope is constantly touching herself. Kernan <jkernan@...> wrote: Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they want to do it, they have to do it in the bathroom or in private.That seemed to help. However:at your son's age and his being AS...it is most likely a sensory thing. Changing his focus may help...distracting him with something else. Also children who have been sexually molested will act out doing the same thing you have mentioned. I'm not saying he has been. Kernan Biofeedback Therapist My Size Barbie Fashions by Rainysnana can be found at my store at The Doll Pagehttp://www.rainysnana.com If there are no dogs in Heaven, then when I die I want to go where they wentWill There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.Ben A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loveshimself.Josh Billings Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 My son is not rubbing himself, but we have recently began to see a problem with him just walking around and holding it, like it rubs on something or bothers him. He just turned 10, and it is starting to really upset his older brother who is 12. He constantly reminds him that people don't want to see you touching yourself through your clothes. I'm worried he'll get made fun of in middle school. Anyone else had this problem?-- Jen <diegowench@...> wrote: My youngest daughter constantly touches herself, it is really upsetting I agree. I repeatedly ask her not to do it toorose6072004 <rose6072004 > wrote: I have a three year old who seems obsessed with rubbing herself on the couch, chairs, etc. It is getting a little embarassing. Has anyone else had to deal with anything like this? Any suggestions?Thanks, If there are no dogs in Heaven, then when I die I want to go where they wentWill There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.Ben A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loveshimself.Josh Billings Talk is cheap. Use Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. ________________________________________________________________________ Try Juno Platinum for Free! Then, only $9.95/month! Unlimited Internet Access with 1GB of Email Storage. Visit http://www.juno.com/value to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2006 Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 Its a very normal thing for children to do and more often than not is not sexual at all. All they know is that it feels good. But checking for a urinary infection is probably a good idea. It can be disturbing for adults to see that kind of behavior but is not in the least abnormal in most cases.... in Lancaster, Ca in Lancaster, Ca Kernan <jkernan@...> wrote: Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they want to do it, they have to do it in the bathroom or in private.That seemed to help. However:at your son's age and his being AS...it is most likely a sensory thing. Changing his focus may help...distracting him with something else. Also children who have been sexually molested will act out doing the same thing you have mentioned. I'm not saying he has been. Kernan Biofeedback Therapist My Size Barbie Fashions by Rainysnana can be found at my store at The Doll Pagehttp://www.rainysnana.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2006 Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 I have a son who is quite fascinated with his penis. He is always holding his hand in his pants, touching it and also constantly talking about it. From older kids at school he has learned words such as "boner" which he came home and asked about. We explained it to him hoping that would be the end of it but once he knows what the words or sayings mean, he uses them all the time. "Humping" is the word of this week and it's driving me nuts!! Fortunately he keeps this behaviour at home for the most part. He is nearly 9 and AS. My NT son never really did this. He's nearly 12. Estevan, Saskatchewan Canada -- Re: Re: Masturbation? , Thank you for bringing that up, my almost 15yo daughter was molested over a 3+ year period by a family member, and was being very sexual, as with part of it, as I explained to my ex dh being very busty is ok, and being "obessive about them is ok, however, I worry the hypersexuality is an issue with both of my spectrum kids. Molly is obsessed with her breasts, and Hope is constantly touching herself. Kernan <jkernanreadytek (DOT) net> wrote: Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2006 Report Share Posted August 9, 2006 -------Original Message------- From: & Godfrey Date: 08/09/06 14:32:02 I have a son who is quite fascinated with his penis. He is always holding his hand in his pants, touching it and also constantly talking about it. From older kids at school he has learned words such as "boner" which he came home and asked about. We explained it to him hoping that would be the end of it but once he knows what the words or sayings mean, he uses them all the time. "Humping" is the word of this week and it's driving me nuts!! Fortunately he keeps this behaviour at home for the most part. He is nearly 9 and AS. My NT son never really did this. He's nearly 12. Estevan, Saskatchewan Canada **************************** Most NT kids pick up the subtle - or not so subtle - cues from their parents that this behaviour is not really acceptable and keep it for when they are with their friends. I had to teach my son that there were some words and subjects that his friends found fascinating but which his mother did not want to hear him using. Usually he remembers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2006 Report Share Posted August 9, 2006 My dd did that for a LONG time. I talked to her ped about it at the time and he told me it was "normal" for kids to do but to explain that she could not do it around others only when she was alone and then not make a big deal of it or she would develop issues about her body and sexuality later. Not sure about the rest of it but I just told her, no, you don't do that here and if she would not quit, sent her to her room until she was ready to come out at that age. Eventually, she quit doing it all the time and did it only when alone in her room. Not sure if that was the "correct" way to handle it but it worked in our case. Good luck and God bless! DeeDeerose6072004 <rose6072004@...> wrote: Hi everyone. I have a three year old at home, yes only three, who seems to be obsessed with rubbing herself. She does it on the couches, chairs, you name it. It is getting to be quite embarrasing. Anyone have to deal with this? What can I do? Talk is cheap. Use Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2006 Report Share Posted August 9, 2006 I can SO relate to that one! My dd who is 13, has been obsessed with "humping" ever since she learned the word. If any child lays down or the little ones grab someones leg to play, (you know how toddlers will grab someones ankle etc to ride on it or stop someone from walking away etc) It is "YUCK, so and so is humpin so and so!" Drives me nuts!!! I have repeatedly explained that that is not what is going on and she knows it but that does not stop it! DeeDee & Godfrey <wmgodfrey@...> wrote: I have a son who is quite fascinated with his penis. He is always holding his hand in his pants, touching it and also constantly talking about it. From older kids at school he has learned words such as "boner" which he came home and asked about. We explained it to him hoping that would be the end of it but once he knows what the words or sayings mean, he uses them all the time. "Humping" is the word of this week and it's driving me nuts!! Fortunately he keeps this behaviour at home for the most part. He is nearly 9 and AS. My NT son never really did this. He's nearly 12. Estevan, Saskatchewan Canada -- Re: Re: Masturbation? , Thank you for bringing that up, my almost 15yo daughter was molested over a 3+ year period by a family member, and was being very sexual, as with part of it, as I explained to my ex dh being very busty is ok, and being "obessive about them is ok, however, I worry the hypersexuality is an issue with both of my spectrum kids. Molly is obsessed with her breasts, and Hope is constantly touching herself. Kernan <jkernanreadytek (DOT) net> wrote: Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Music Unlimited - Access over 1 million songs. Try it free. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2006 Report Share Posted August 9, 2006 I can SO relate to that one! My dd who is 13, has been obsessed with "humping" ever since she learned the word. If any child lays down or the little ones grab someones leg to play, (you know how toddlers will grab someones ankle etc to ride on it or stop someone from walking away etc) It is "YUCK, so and so is humpin so and so!" Drives me nuts!!! I have repeatedly explained that that is not what is going on and she knows it but that does not stop it! DeeDee & Godfrey <wmgodfrey@...> wrote: I have a son who is quite fascinated with his penis. He is always holding his hand in his pants, touching it and also constantly talking about it. From older kids at school he has learned words such as "boner" which he came home and asked about. We explained it to him hoping that would be the end of it but once he knows what the words or sayings mean, he uses them all the time. "Humping" is the word of this week and it's driving me nuts!! Fortunately he keeps this behaviour at home for the most part. He is nearly 9 and AS. My NT son never really did this. He's nearly 12. Estevan, Saskatchewan Canada -- Re: Re: Masturbation? , Thank you for bringing that up, my almost 15yo daughter was molested over a 3+ year period by a family member, and was being very sexual, as with part of it, as I explained to my ex dh being very busty is ok, and being "obessive about them is ok, however, I worry the hypersexuality is an issue with both of my spectrum kids. Molly is obsessed with her breasts, and Hope is constantly touching herself. Kernan <jkernanreadytek (DOT) net> wrote: Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Music Unlimited - Access over 1 million songs. Try it free. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2006 Report Share Posted August 10, 2006 13?! Oh man I am praying this stops soon. > Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they > --------------------------------- > Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Music Unlimited - Access over 1 million songs.Try it free. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2006 Report Share Posted August 11, 2006 Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but..... I generally try to explain what the word or phrase she brings home means and then ignore it when possible because reacting will just make her latch on to it harder. The other kids take advantage of her being so naive and tell her to go and ask her mom what such and such means and of course, being so innocent, she will. Last spring she came home and said "mom, Ethan said to ask you what "popping the cherry" means. Things like that. Many of which are fairly embarassing to deal with! lol I told her it means someone is not a virgin anymore. She learned that one last year I think. (virgin, I mean) It does seem that the less of a deal I make of it, (no matter how amused OR horrified I am), the less I hear it in the future. I often say, I can handle adolescence and AS separately, I am just not sure I can take both together! lol Good luck and God bless! DeeDeerose6072004 <rose6072004@...> wrote: 13?! Oh man I am praying this stops soon. > Yes I have had that experience with not only my AS son, but my other 3 sons as well. Since we are open in our home and masturbation isn't taboo...I've told my boys that although it feels real good, that it is something we do in private and if they > ---------------------------------> Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. > > > > > > > > > > > > ---------------------------------> Music Unlimited - Access over 1 million songs.Try it free.> Stay in the know. Pulse on the new .com. Check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2006 Report Share Posted August 11, 2006 I visited the The Indiana Resource Center for Autism this summer when I was in Bloomington. They have an informative article on the " M " word (mainly about adolescents). It can be read online at: http://www.iidc.indiana.edu/irca/IRCAarticles/fmedicalarticles.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 13, 2006 Report Share Posted August 13, 2006 I don't remember when it started. It was very early on. Before she talked. before 3 yrs. It was just sleeping with lots of covers under her for the pressure. Now she's 7 and she still sleeps like that as well as putting her hands there to add more pressure or if blankets aren't available and she lays on the floor. We've taken her for lots of exams, even once we thought there may have been some abuse.. Luckily no physical evidence. It continues. The way she hugs you or some times she'll even move your hand there. We've tried to get some help with behaviorist. At this point we try to limit it to the bathroom and bedroom only. I guess it never really goes away. Ebb and flow. -- In Autism and Aspergers Treatment , " rose6072004 " <rose6072004@...> wrote: > > I have a three year old who seems obsessed with rubbing herself on the > couch, chairs, etc. It is getting a little embarassing. Has anyone > else had to deal with anything like this? Any suggestions? > > > > Thanks, > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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