PARTNERS MUM INTERFERING AGAIN

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My partner Graham's mum is interfering again, my partner is getting very upset about it.

She made him sort out his tablets yesterday, they are in boxes in the kitchen, she stood over him while he was doing it! She also told him what he had to have for tea! My partner did eventually raise his voice to her as she even had the cheek to say I shouldn't leave any clothes at his flat (it was her who originally suggested the idea rather than carry them backwards and forwards!). My partner said that a lot of people have said we should carry on as we are going backwards and forwards rather than live together! She was hinting I should move in again! We are away from each other at the moment so I could do things at home which I'm relieved about, I want Graham but not his mum!

His mum has said she won't help any more as he doesn't want her, Graham admits now after being told by a friend that he is a mummys boy, he thinks his mum needs counselling as she is a very bitter person. Both me and my partner are having to go due to her attitude, we can't answer back! She seems to be against me.

I am plannning on going back to my partner's next week. I don't mind going to his home, each time he wants to come back with me his mum goes on about I should move in soon! Graham then starts on me too which doesn't help.

One of my sisters isn't much help, she really wants my flat so would like me to move, sometimes I feel my family is against me, not thinking of me at all, I do have nieces and nephews who I am quite close to! I also have friends not too far away. ONe of my friends pointed out that if I moved I wouldn't see friends or family, she suggested I perhaps move nearer Graham but not with him. She said that maybe he could get a transfer near me too, his mum has recently suggested he move to another flat as his has steps up to it! Mine doesn't have steps and its bigger! I wouldn't expect him to move in as I've said previously but he doesn't seem keen on moving nearer me either. He even said that if my sister could afford it she could move in, she does smoke!!! I have breathing problems and all this isn't helping. I feel quite breathless today again.

I look forward to your comments. I am going fora sleep study about my oxygen soon, do I mention this stress to them. I think his mum's Dr should do something about his mum as she is making both of us quite ill, Graham has breathing problems and curviture of the spine too, which is caused in his case by ehlers danlos so he's not that fit!

Thanks for all your help in the past, much appreciated.

Take care

Liz

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