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Well, that's what they get for being so sensitive about things like

that! I just heard of a sexual harrassment case against a man who

told his coworker her clothes were falling off her! So much for the

poor guy's attempts at a compliment.

>

> You know those sweet nothings non-Aspies sometimes greet people

with?

>

> I witnessed one of those backfiring yesterday.

>

> Usually when my boss (a Vice President of the firm, and the

> Chairman's wife) greets people, she'll say to men in order to

> flatter them:

>

> " Boy are you tall! "

>

> Or to a woman she has met before:

>

> " You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last. "

>

> Well, yesterday I witnessed the following exchange:

>

> My boss: " You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last. "

>

> Client: " Hardly. I've gained ten pounds. It's nice to know you are

> watching my weight for me, but I think it's rude to comment on it

> and I'd rather keep my weight between me and my dietition if you

> don't mind. "

>

> I had to stifle a giggle. Forgive me Lord.

>

> Tom

> Administrator

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My Fav noticeable: When are you expecting.. Reply: I'm not even pregnant. The person then becomes concerned of his or her weight problem or if felt heppy with who they are, deeply insulted or finds it humous themselves. I think comments are made to others to boost the ego of the other, it is a way of forming a relationship whether business or not. Superficiality or psycho-emotal-strategems?environmental1st2003 <no_reply > wrote: You know those sweet nothings non-Aspies sometimes greet people with?I witnessed one of those backfiring yesterday.Usually when my boss (a Vice President of the firm, and the Chairman's wife) greets people, she'll say to men in order to

flatter them:"Boy are you tall!" Or to a woman she has met before:"You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."Well, yesterday I witnessed the following exchange:My boss: "You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."Client: "Hardly. I've gained ten pounds. It's nice to know you are watching my weight for me, but I think it's rude to comment on it and I'd rather keep my weight between me and my dietition if you don't mind."I had to stifle a giggle. Forgive me Lord. TomAdministratorI'm from this planet, the rest of you are not.Please go back to Mars or Venushttp://www.simplecomplexities.org/community/

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My Fav noticeable: When are you expecting.. Reply: I'm not even pregnant. The person then becomes concerned of his or her weight problem or if felt heppy with who they are, deeply insulted or finds it humous themselves. I think comments are made to others to boost the ego of the other, it is a way of forming a relationship whether business or not. Superficiality or psycho-emotal-strategems?environmental1st2003 <no_reply > wrote: You know those sweet nothings non-Aspies sometimes greet people with?I witnessed one of those backfiring yesterday.Usually when my boss (a Vice President of the firm, and the Chairman's wife) greets people, she'll say to men in order to

flatter them:"Boy are you tall!" Or to a woman she has met before:"You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."Well, yesterday I witnessed the following exchange:My boss: "You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."Client: "Hardly. I've gained ten pounds. It's nice to know you are watching my weight for me, but I think it's rude to comment on it and I'd rather keep my weight between me and my dietition if you don't mind."I had to stifle a giggle. Forgive me Lord. TomAdministratorI'm from this planet, the rest of you are not.Please go back to Mars or Venushttp://www.simplecomplexities.org/community/

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I've had people ask me if I'm pregnant because my stomach kind of

protudes. I just laugh and then make lots of efforts trying to make

them feel better because they're embarrassed to death!

> You know those sweet nothings non-Aspies sometimes greet people

with?

>

> I witnessed one of those backfiring yesterday.

>

> Usually when my boss (a Vice President of the firm, and the

> Chairman's wife) greets people, she'll say to men in order to

> flatter them:

>

> " Boy are you tall! "

>

> Or to a woman she has met before:

>

> " You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last. "

>

> Well, yesterday I witnessed the following exchange:

>

> My boss: " You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last. "

>

> Client: " Hardly. I've gained ten pounds. It's nice to know you are

> watching my weight for me, but I think it's rude to comment on it

> and I'd rather keep my weight between me and my dietition if you

> don't mind. "

>

> I had to stifle a giggle. Forgive me Lord.

>

> Tom

> Administrator

>

>

>

>

>

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support and acceptance. Everyone is valued.

>

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I'd read part of a business book at the bookstore and it had steps in how to talk to a client. I remember strangers that knew my dad's side of the family would tell me I was getting taller. I could have cared less. I guess it's one of those ego-friendly things to say. environmental1st2003 <no_reply > wrote: You know those sweet nothings non-Aspies sometimes greet people with?I witnessed one of those backfiring yesterday.Usually when my boss (a Vice President of the firm, and the Chairman's wife) greets people, she'll say to men in order to flatter them:"Boy are you tall!" Or to a woman she has met before:"You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."Well, yesterday I witnessed the following exchange:My boss: "You seem to have lost weight since I saw you

last."Client: "Hardly. I've gained ten pounds. It's nice to know you are watching my weight for me, but I think it's rude to comment on it and I'd rather keep my weight between me and my dietition if you don't mind."I had to stifle a giggle. Forgive me Lord. TomAdministrator

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Re:

> I could have cared less.

What does that mean, please?

In the same circumstance, I'd have said " I could have cared more. "

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On 2 Mar 2006 Kate Gladstone wrote:

> > I could have cared less.

>

> What does that mean, please?

> In the same circumstance, I'd have said " I could have cared

> more. "

The original expression may have been " I couldn't have cared

less. " I've heard it that way but that could have been someone

" repairing " the expression.

The " could have cared less " could mean something like

" Theoretically I could have cared less, but I don't know how. "

In any case, the expression means the same as " I couldn't have

cared less. " Or it could be the result of people getting lazy

with words.

- s

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Actually, it should be " I could not have cared less. "

Raven

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> > I could have cared less.

>

> What does that mean, please?

> In the same circumstance, I'd have said " I could have cared more. "

>

>

> Yours for better letters,

> Kate Gladstone

> Handwriting Repair and the World Handwriting Contest

> handwritingrepair@...

> http://learn.to/handwrite,

http://www.global2000.net/handwritingrepair

> 325 South Manning Boulevard

> Albany, New York 12208-1731 USA

> telephone 518/482-6763

> AND REMEMBER ...

> you can order books through my site!

> (Amazon.com link -

> I get a 5% - 15% commission on each book sold)

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Its funny, I asked my neighbor how he was the other day, and He said, well I guess Im okay I don't complain cause nobody listens anyway. I said to him Matt I care, thats the only reason I ask, I am one of those weird individuals that when they ask you how your doing actually wants a really answer, to see if there is anything I can do to help if things aren't going right. He was really suprized with that, and laughed, and said well I guess I can't use that line with you. and that things are really okay. I guess the difference between aspies and NTS are if we ask a question its cause we want an answer its not just a platitude. Bethgreebohere <julie.stevenson16@...> wrote: In transactional anylsis - it's called strokes. Asking 'how are you' is a stroke and the supposedly

correct response is 'I'm fine - how are you' which in turn is giving the person a stroke back.I personally dislike it psuedo compliments - I would rather have 1 real compliment than 10 psuedo ones that are just someone trying to butter me up - likely with ulterior motives too.Then again maybe I am just odd for not been very comfortable and not taking compliments very well? I know the correct response to a compliment is 'thanks', but doesn't exactly trip off my tounge. I have a tendency to negate the compliment and put myself down - I am learning and am trying though; but I will not play silly social games.>> My Fav noticeable:> > When are you expecting..> > Reply: I'm not even pregnant. The person then becomes concerned of

his or her weight problem or if felt heppy with who they are, deeply insulted or finds it humous themselves.> > > I think comments are made to others to boost the ego of the other, it is a way of forming a relationship whether business or not. > > Superficiality or psycho-emotal-strategems?>

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> > My Fav noticeable:

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> > When are you expecting..

> >

> > Reply: I'm not even pregnant. The person then becomes

concerned of

> his or her weight problem or if felt heppy with who they are,

deeply

> insulted or finds it humous themselves.

> >

> >

> > I think comments are made to others to boost the ego of the

other,

> it is a way of forming a relationship whether business or not.

> >

> > Superficiality or psycho-emotal-strategems?

> >

>

Wow, I could have written that. When people compliment my

outfit at church for instance. They'll say that is a beautiful suit.

I won't (or can't) just say thank-you, I'll say oh I got this real

cheap at such and such store. Or my sister gave me this suit, it's a

handmedown.I am very uncomfortable with compliments.I noticed that

if someone asks me how I'm doing and I *really* tell them, they are

kinda shocked and kinda shuffle off quickly.

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> >

> > My Fav noticeable:

> >

> > When are you expecting..

> >

> > Reply: I'm not even pregnant. The person then becomes

concerned of

> his or her weight problem or if felt heppy with who they are,

deeply

> insulted or finds it humous themselves.

> >

> >

> > I think comments are made to others to boost the ego of the

other,

> it is a way of forming a relationship whether business or not.

> >

> > Superficiality or psycho-emotal-strategems?

> >

>

Wow, I could have written that. When people compliment my

outfit at church for instance. They'll say that is a beautiful suit.

I won't (or can't) just say thank-you, I'll say oh I got this real

cheap at such and such store. Or my sister gave me this suit, it's a

handmedown.I am very uncomfortable with compliments.I noticed that

if someone asks me how I'm doing and I *really* tell them, they are

kinda shocked and kinda shuffle off quickly.

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Should be 'couldn't have cared less'. Probably if you heard it spoken

it would have sounded like 'coulda cared less.' and any Brits,

sorry we do this to the language!

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> Re:

>

> > I could have cared less.

>

> What does that mean, please?

> In the same circumstance, I'd have said " I could have cared more. "

>

>

> Yours for better letters,

> Kate Gladstone

> Handwriting Repair and the World Handwriting Contest

> handwritingrepair@...

> http://learn.to/handwrite,

http://www.global2000.net/handwritingrepair

> 325 South Manning Boulevard

> Albany, New York 12208-1731 USA

> telephone 518/482-6763

> AND REMEMBER ...

> you can order books through my site!

> (Amazon.com link -

> I get a 5% - 15% commission on each book sold)

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People are always surprised when I mean it when I ask them how they

are. Conversely, I dislike it when someone asks me how I am and

doesn't even wait for the answer.

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> > My Fav noticeable:

> >

> > When are you expecting..

> >

> > Reply: I'm not even pregnant. The person then becomes concerned

of

> his or her weight problem or if felt heppy with who they are,

deeply

> insulted or finds it humous themselves.

> >

> >

> > I think comments are made to others to boost the ego of the

other,

> it is a way of forming a relationship whether business or not.

> >

> > Superficiality or psycho-emotal-strategems?

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

> FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship,

support and acceptance. Everyone is valued.

>

> Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links page

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>

>

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> >

> Wow, I could have written that. When people compliment my

> outfit at church for instance. They'll say that is a beautiful suit.

> I won't (or can't) just say thank-you, I'll say oh I got this real

> cheap at such and such store. Or my sister gave me this suit, it's a

> handmedown.I am very uncomfortable with compliments.

I always say that I got the suit cheaply here or there to deflect the

compliment, too. Then they look at me with a 'oh for pete's sake, just

take the compliment' look.

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This bothers me also, not so much because what it's all a social

formality, but because it shows that people hold you in high esteem

ONLY if you know the formality.

And it also bother me because it is tacitly understood between the

two people that to be truthful during this formal exchange is WRONG,

socially speaking.

They could care less if you really care about them, and it's as

plain as day that they really don't care how you are, even when they

ask.

So why say anything? I never ask " How are you? " unless I want to

know how they are. If I don;t want to know how they are, I simply

don't ask.

Tom

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People are always surprised when I mean it when I ask them how they

are. Conversely, I dislike it when someone asks me how I am and

doesn't even wait for the answer.

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I may have written this here before but a family friend used to joke

about how you ask people how they are and they always say 'fine' even

if they aren't. He would say the word 'fine' in a certain way and we

children would laugh. He committed suicide a few years later. I felt

like that was a tiny cry for help that no one recognized--if he had

been allowed to answer, " I'm not doing well at all " maybe he would

have gotten the help he needed.

>

> People are always surprised when I mean it when I ask them how they

> are. Conversely, I dislike it when someone asks me how I am and

> doesn't even wait for the answer.

>

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> : "Then they look at me with a 'oh for pete's sake, just take the compliment' look."Who is 'pete'?  Rainbow

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just an expression"Rainbow ." <rainbow@...> wrote: > : "Then they look at me with a 'oh for pete's sake, just take the compliment' look." Who is 'pete'? Rainbow If you love something, set it free! So it is with books. See what I mean atwww.bookcrossing.com/friend/nheckoblogcritics.orghttp://notesfromnancy.blogspot.com Heckofreelance proofreadernancygailus@...

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Well, let's look up the origin of that saying...I always thought it

must have something to do with the apostle , and yes, it does. It

says that since swearing was wrong, people substituted the phrase 'for

's sake', a kind of fake holiness. It says it's called a 'minced

oath'-- a word or phrase that's a euphenism for swearing. Well, I guess

I just swore. Actually 'they' did, so I guess I'm okay.

>

> > : " Then they look at me with a 'oh for pete's sake, just

> take the compliment' look. "

>

> Who is 'pete'?

>

> Rainbow

>

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Okay, extreme reaction. However, I can see where she would get offended. It could be taken one of two ways: she is losing weight, or she makes her living as a prostitute.mikecarrie01 <mikecarrie01@...> wrote: Well, that's what they get for being so sensitive about things like that! I just heard of a sexual harrassment case against a man who told his coworker her clothes were falling off her! So much for the poor guy's attempts at a compliment.>> You know those sweet nothings non-Aspies sometimes greet people with?> > I witnessed one of those backfiring yesterday.> > Usually when my boss (a Vice President of the firm, and the > Chairman's wife) greets people, she'll say to men

in order to > flatter them:> > "Boy are you tall!" > > Or to a woman she has met before:> > "You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."> > Well, yesterday I witnessed the following exchange:> > My boss: "You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."> > Client: "Hardly. I've gained ten pounds. It's nice to know you are > watching my weight for me, but I think it's rude to comment on it > and I'd rather keep my weight between me and my dietition if you > don't mind."> > I had to stifle a giggle. Forgive me Lord. > > Tom> Administrator>If you love something, set it free! So it is with books. See what I mean atwww.bookcrossing.com/friend/nheckoblogcritics.orghttp://notesfromnancy.blogspot.com Heckofreelance proofreadernancygailus@...

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Okay, extreme reaction. However, I can see where she would get offended. It could be taken one of two ways: she is losing weight, or she makes her living as a prostitute.mikecarrie01 <mikecarrie01@...> wrote: Well, that's what they get for being so sensitive about things like that! I just heard of a sexual harrassment case against a man who told his coworker her clothes were falling off her! So much for the poor guy's attempts at a compliment.>> You know those sweet nothings non-Aspies sometimes greet people with?> > I witnessed one of those backfiring yesterday.> > Usually when my boss (a Vice President of the firm, and the > Chairman's wife) greets people, she'll say to men

in order to > flatter them:> > "Boy are you tall!" > > Or to a woman she has met before:> > "You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."> > Well, yesterday I witnessed the following exchange:> > My boss: "You seem to have lost weight since I saw you last."> > Client: "Hardly. I've gained ten pounds. It's nice to know you are > watching my weight for me, but I think it's rude to comment on it > and I'd rather keep my weight between me and my dietition if you > don't mind."> > I had to stifle a giggle. Forgive me Lord. > > Tom> Administrator>If you love something, set it free! So it is with books. See what I mean atwww.bookcrossing.com/friend/nheckoblogcritics.orghttp://notesfromnancy.blogspot.com Heckofreelance proofreadernancygailus@...

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I get that, but the expression......It must have come from somewhere, and mean something.Anybody have a clue?  Rainbow

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I get that, but the expression......It must have come from somewhere, and mean something.Anybody have a clue?  Rainbow

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Thanks, .  Rainbow

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Thanks, .  Rainbow